/lit/ - Literature

Society requires a few basic expectations of you in order to function effectively, remain prosperous/competitive and for the benefit of all the individuals who are a part of society.
For example; support yourself when you come of age, be productive, don't be a danger to yourself or others etc
Now being able to deal with bullying is one of them or at least very heavily implied from an early age, so long as they don't severely and permanently physically injure you or genuinely sexually molest you, you should be able to deal with it yourself like everyone else or at least not let it affect you in the long term and remain within a certain fairly obvious standard of mental stability.
So it is therefore the fault of the abused if they can't defend themselves socially against something almost everyone can deal with fine at some point in their lives or settle it themselves and not cause disruption for the many or just not be significantly affected emotionally at all. It is wholly their fault and they deserve whatever reduction their standing suffers in society or how their goals/self schema/aspirations suffer or any sort of hurt feelings or "psychological damage" they suffer for the rest of their lives due to being a part of society and failing in the basic expectations society has for them.
Is this wrong?
What works of literature argue on both sides of this?