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>>11284340
>i’ve been given enough fake numbers after what was obviously flirtations gave false hope. its not unreasonable to just stop caring. tinder is really fucked up, facilitates sociopathic narcissism.
I agree with a lot of this. Something I've learned after a few wholesome relationships: women grow to expect intimidation from the men that approach. I had no idea how often women are harassed. A lot of ugly or socially undesirable guys simply bully women into the possibility of sex. Pick-up-artist sexual behavior recognizes that this is an option for guys who can't get any. On top of this, some guys are purely psychotic or very cruel. A woman is uneasy when advanced on by men she isn't attracted to because she is in a tight balancing act: if she is frank, she risks enraging a pest who will harass her; if she is too receptive, she risks further advances and more tight-rope walking. Girls I go out with are frequently preyed, threatened, or mistreated. On one occasion, some boring douche thought my friend was ignoring him and he stood behind her with an angry brow, just to menace. Feminists are often poor at articulating these realities, but there is reason for women to be on guard. Attractive guys basically let women take the lead on initiating flirtation. Actually, flirtation happens spontaneously. If it was like a chess game, it wouldn't be very playful.