BETTERING OURSELVES THREAD

[Anonymous No.7867285]

How the fuck do I look cute/friendly
My crush really likes boys who are cute and shit, like baby faced people. The problem is I have baggy eyes, a rugged face (no I won't post pics) and jet black hair, she likes light brown thing hair, mine is coarse and thick. No i'm not going to dye it that's retarded. I use moose to sweep it black, she likes that flow shit. I don't have the most money in the wear, where boots (they don't wear and tear easy) brown parka and jacket ontop, it's cold here.
Some brown kaki pants. I smoke too do I have to stop that? I would say i'm pretty fit I go to the gym a lot.

I look fucking sketchy is the point. How do I look fun and cutesy? She's always hanging out with those types of boys. Doesn't help i'm awkward and don't talk much with a fucked up sense of humour (thanks 4chan).

Tips? Wear brighter colour clothes? Jordans? Help, I have no idea what i'm talking about, where do these fags shop? How do I into cute style?

[Anonymous No.7867291]

>>7867285
>where boots
sorry i'm retarded today
Also not in USA, Irish fag here

[Anonymous No.7867305]

don't change yourself for her bc you'll just feel fake and shitty anyway

[Anonymous No.7867308]

>>7867305
but I love her

[Anonymous No.7867312]

is joining the ra /fa/

[Anonymous No.7867318]

>>7867308
Lol know you don't. I'm a cute baby faced manlet but I can assure you I'm a worse person than you.

[Anonymous No.7867321]

>>7867308
;~;
if she loves you back then she'll accept you no matter what
does she even date any of these cutesy bootsy boys that you always see her around? she might only like these types as friends and prefers another type of guy for dating

[Anonymous No.7867327]

>>7867318
She would prob be on your dick then
she's probably on someones dick right now
>>7867321
whenever we pass we make solid eye contact. Don't talk. I don't know, she just hangs with them, may be if i'm like them she will talk to me.

[Anonymous No.7867323]

she sounds like a weeb

u dont want that

[Anonymous No.7867331]

>>7867327
maybe ~if~?
just smile and nod when you make eye contact with her next time, start a convo

[DANZIG DON No.7867333]

>>7867285
Don't put the pussy on a pedestal, son. That path leads nowhere good.

[Anonymous No.7867334]

>>7867327
Next time you make eye contact, smile at her

And gauge her reaction

Don't be a faggot changing yourself for her before you even know her

[Anonymous No.7867350]

>>7867331
>>7867334
I'll try
>mfw this one time
>"hey"
>"hey"
>"you have that class again"
>"yeah"
>keep on walking
why. why. why. why. If I can go back, every moment I would change. The things I would say, chances lost in time. Fuck me.
>

[Anonymous No.7867360]

Is 22 years-old too old to make something out of yourself?

I'm turning 22 next month and I've spent the last year trying to get my shit together. But after three aimless years spent in college (just now decided on my major) I'm starting to worry.

[Anonymous No.7867361]

>>7867350
maybe she's just a boring person and that's why she only seems to have one type of guys around her
in my experience, gurls dig the brooding and moody guys

[Anonymous No.7867368]

>>7867361
No, she's great. >>7867360 I'm 18 trying to become an actor.
Plan A
Famous Actor and rich
Plan B
Go into business and rich
Plan C
Suicide

[Earth No.7867383]

>>7867350
Dude you're really sad and pathetic. Try to grow some balls and do something.
Girls want their prince charmings all the time. But that ain't you and this is reality.
If you love her so much, then commit to it. Or you're friendzoned forever.
I've seen too many people fail relationships because they were spineless shy guys.
Girls like action. Boys are made of this stuff. It's called testosterone.

Also pro tip, don't take anyone else's opinion seriously. If it effects you so much either cave in or stay the way you are.
Another thing, you're making it sound like you already lost this relationship. Either break up or do something to rekindle the interest.

Idk I may have been the asshole, but who cares I'm my own man.

[Anonymous No.7867389]

>>7867383
I agree. Yeah i'll go for it.

[Anonymous No.7867393]

>>7867383
pretty much this. you sound kinda pathetic but kinda cool too, so don't worry too much, seriously.

what usually helps me is not giving a fuck, like all of what you are doing now is going to be just memories in a couple of years, so just go for it so you can have nice shit you can remember.

[Anonymous No.7867404]

>>7867383

Don't feed anon this pseudo intellectual bro philosophy.

Just be genuine instead of crafting some contrived identity for yourself. Real life isn't like 4chan. If your genuine self is a miserable, spineless asshole, they do some self-examination and strive towards bettering yourself, for yourself, or you'll spend your entire life living for other people.

[Anonymous No.7867410]

>>7867404
this sounds like an evangelion synopsis

[Earth No.7867465]

>>7867410
Ikr.
>>7867404
Although, yes. Peer pressure is always going to be with everyone and influence us one way or another. What really matters is positive pressure. To insure others for not hurting themselves and to help them live with a positive lifestyle.
To me I may take reviewers and 4chan critique too seriously. But it was by my own will to do that. I strived to get better at things I never realized before. Also it helped me feel better as a person. So I considered it positive. It would only get negative if I took it seriously like politics, science, and religion.

[Anonymous No.7867527]

>>7867410

Is that one of those Chinese cartoons?

>>7867465

I just get the feeling that most people on 4chan were awkward and lonely autists in highschool. They graduate and realize that it's time to better themselves. So they turn to 4chan and soak up all of this "BRO YOU GOTTA CHANNEL YOUR TESTOSTERONE! IT'S SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST, SO STOP BEING A FAGGOT YOU NIGGER" mentality. They may change somewhat, but they're still that insecure autist that they were in highschool. From the sounds of it, OP is willing to go to great lengths to superficially change himself for some girl he likes, which isn't a healthy attitude.

[Anonymous No.7867839]

>Willing to change everything about yourself for a chance with a vapid slut

OP I have no words for how pathetic you are. If she sees you changing your looks and mannerisms and at the same time you start talking to her she'll catch onto it.

A possible chance with a specific girl you barely know is not with the long term investment.

[Anonymous No.7867847]

>>7867839

*worth the long term investment.

Fuck I'm tired

[Anonymous No.7867863]

>>7867839

>vapid slut
>has said nothing about her beyond what kind of guys she thinks are cute

Salty as fuck bruh bruh. Ur dick not getting wet or something?

[Anonymous No.7867872]

>where boots

Have you checked your car?

[Anonymous No.7867884]

Step 1. Kill yourself

You sound like an insufferable faggot, I hope she fucks numerous guys you know and makes out with them in front of you, tearing your heart into more and more pieces as it happens again and again, ut you can't stop orbiting her because you're drawn to her like a magnet regardless of the fact you will never, ever be with her and will always be a minor detail in her life.

[Workwear is cool !!XXjTyJ9illa No.7867899]

Live in the forest

[Anonymous No.7867904]

>>7867863

Okay, perhaps "vapid slut" was a bit of an exaggeration. The rest of the point still stands though. I just hate seeing people make stupid decisions they regret because of infatuation. Been there done that.

[Anonymous No.7867909]

>>7867308
i used to love too, im not doing it never again

[Anonymous No.7867920]

>>7867404
this

when i don't have my false happy face this chick always comes and talks to me, i think she does this just to cheer me up and don't deal with my sad vibes or something

i know ill die alone, miserable and young

[Anonymous No.7867927]

>>7867285
It sounds as if this is hopeless before you even had a chance.

The nest way to obtain a gf is by being the awesome version of your personality that you know you can be and not pretending to be someone else. If she is not attracted to you, move on and try to stop crushing like some high school kid.

[Anonymous No.7867958]

I too have this trouble.
I know this qt3.14 but she has a bf, he is everything I'm not.
He is this mix of swagfag and a dadcore pleb.
I'm fit, I've been told I have a good sense of fashion by many people.
Thing is I have always been a social outcast and not the edgy kind.
I really want to change and be more friendly and get her, I could beat the fuck out of him for no reason but that would be douchey.
Halp effay

[the cosmicbutt experiment !!qblBZSgYzBX No.7867963]

>>7867958

organically socialize and you'll get better in time

[Anonymous No.7867967]

>>7867368
lol

[Anonymous No.7868003]

>>7867285
OP, you sound rather qt as you are right now, and that's from a female perspective. Not even trying to flatter.

Trust me, trying to radically change your entire self just to fit someone's ideal never works. I would know, I've played that farce one too many times and what do I have to show for it? Nothing, aside from the knowledge that shit is a bad, bad idea.

Seriously, if she doesn't like you for who you are (barring the obvious like drug addictions, morbid obesity, abusiveness, poor hygiene, etc), she ain't worth it.

If it's your genuine character, even sketchy is loads better than false cutesy.

[Anonymous No.7868037]

>>7867308
>>>/fit/

[Anonymous No.7868039]

why did u put bettering urself in the thread topic when this is about appealin to some stupid ass hoe LMAO


>My crush really likes boys who are cute and shit, like baby faced people.
holy fuck cringeeee why would u even pursue this