/fa/ - Fashion

>>7116287
this wasnt actually the picture which i posted but whatever i guess...

>tfw i failed really badly today at college
fuck
sultanas
never again

>>7116294
the picture gave it a comedic setting... lol.

sorry I laughed

im obsessed over a girl I want too but not depressed.

im yung, and u prolly r too. u got time 4 other bitches

>>7116300
nice dubs
what did sultanas do about it?

Stop being a pussy and go fuck another bitch
Unless ur ugly then idk son tears for u

we all have those moments op

but you know deep inside that you're eventually gonna move on. being irrationally in love happens to everyone, and everyone (well, almost everyone) gets over it and some point. just be conscious of that and you should be okay

>>7116300

did they make you shit a lot? lel

though I just had a really weird experience.

remember how i've been posting in feels threads about how I meet uninteresting women?

I think i met the most interesting woman in my life so far when I went home from uni for the weekend. She's such a tortured, but gentle introspective soul. Smarter than me (or at least more conscious of the world).

shame we had sex the same day we met. fucked a lot of things up

>>7116327
was practicing for my stuffed pork belly , turned potatoes and glazed veg and we got to experiment and put whatever we wanted in to the stuffing
thought i'd go with a nice sage , rosemary , black pudding , sausage meat , apples and sultana stuffing
put way too many sultanas in and it tasted sooo sweet
im still pissed off about it
>mfw i tried it

>>7116331

and by "fucked a lot of things up", i mean a few things

1) one of my best friends liked her a lot, but never communicated this to me and didn't stop us from having sex (it was obvious it was going to happen)

2) sets a bad precedent for communicating. though tbh i couldn't keep up in the conversation anyway

glad i met her tho. i needed that.

>>7116322
i have been with other girls, kissing and having sex and whatnot, but i still feel depressed afterwards.
i have no emotional ties with these other girls.

its not just me being obsessed, but we actually used to have something.
like, we both at first thought that it was friendship.
i didnt want anything else from her.
like, i just wanted her to be my friend.
but then it went to holding hands, hugging a lot and stuff like that but in my head i always thought that, like, this is what friends do.
that we can do that because we are friends.
but as time went by, i became more attached to her.
at some times i was thinking if it was more than friendship or not, but i always convinced myself that it was just friendship because i knew that nothing else could happen between us.
she was older than me and had a family.
those two were like the main reason.
but... like, i dont fucking know..
now that a lot of time has went by, i feel like it was more than friendship for me.
it seems like she is the only one that i want in my life, but i also know that its impossible for me to get her...

Listen to this and feel better
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HkCRYAA1rOA

guys
am i allowed to wear a scarf
in 64 degree weather
its kind of windy, too

>>7116373

if you need to wear outerwear over a knit, wear a scarf

>>7116345
at one point in my life i felt like i got over of her.
i was truly great, you know, enjoying time with other girls and my friends and stuff.
that was when i told her to get away from me.
things were great.
deep inside i still wanted to be with her, but i convinced myself that it was better that way.
that was until she called me and wanted to talk with me. of course i picked it up and talked with her.
and as usual, we talked for hours, and for many days straight.
that was until she told me to fuck off.

now, i have sent her like a shit ton of e-mails, but the only thing she answered me was this, and she probably only answered to my email because i sent a text, asking her to answer to her phone:

Re:Reply
We agreed that we wont speaking again. If you are in shit, search for help. I don't know how to help You. Please don't message me again.

that was sent to me on august 28
fuck...

>>7116392
i'm planning to wear it on top of an ocbd

i have some things on my neck i'd like to cover up

>>7116398

overkill tbh

but if you want to cover up scars or s/t yeah wear it

>>7116396

oh yeah it's the worst when you start talking again

do you feel like you'll be able to get over her a second time?

>>7116403
fuck

i might just not leave my apartment
but i know i won't get any schoolwork done here

i hate everything

>>7116414

dude it's fine, wear it lol

thats racis

>>7116408
i want to, but thinking back about the times we were together which were so perfect makes me not to...
why the only fucking person that i want to be together with and who cares about me at the same time has to have a fucking family and has to be older than me?
it just seems to be so unfair...
those were like the sweetest times ever.
i have never felt better in my life than i was with her...
i dont really see myself getting over her to be honest...
i have tried so many things to do that but... i dont know anymore...

>>7116422
iktf
the worse thing is that the feelings never really go away but they do evolve in time into fond memories instead of heart wrenching reminders that you once had it good
dw m8
its what makes life worth living
<3

should i send her another letter?
maybe she would respond this time?

>>7116422

consider the fact that if your relationship continued longer, it probably wouldn't have survived; chances are, one of you has a fatal flaw that would not allow you to be together for the rest of your lives.

>>7116428
>its what makes life worth living
fuck
thats exactly what she used to tell...
im fucking crying over here, i seriously am ;_;
i think that i should just fucking finish it

>>7116350
First off, you aren't alone.
So many guys experience this exact same set of feelings, so if you truly think you are unique about this you need to rethink and open your eyes.

It's called "oneitis" which is basically going blind, and elevating a girl far above her realistic place, and even above yourself.

You will NEVER have her back, the problem is you still want her, when you shouldn't.
I don't really know where to start, because i know much it sucks to be in your position and that feeling of hopelessness.

But here is the reality: you are being beyond PATHETIC. Nobody wants to hear this story, especially her.
You can turn yourself around, even possibly make her WANT you again, but you shouldn't and will never get back with her for a million reasons.

You'll probably miss her for a long time, but you aren't missing HER you are missing the feelings you felt with her, which you will most likely never experience with anyone again, including her, even if you did get back with her.

Think of it like this: you woke up from an amazing dream, and you've experienced something great but you know it wasn't real and you'll never have it again.

There are positive things you can do.
I know how hard it can be, but starting RIGHT NOW you are never going to speak to her again. You will delete her from all social media, and no matter what you will resist the urge to "check up" on her.

This is where you need to start.

I know you can't just sleep with more girls to take her away, but you can use this experience to LEARN some truths most men never will learn.

>>7116430
but i liked everything about her, and she liked everything about me.
we told each other about everything.
like, completely everything.
she knew everything about me, i knew everything about her, and we liked each other just like we were.
she even knew everything about my past, and accepted that.
she was the reason why i quit drinking and doing drugs.
just for the fact that she liked when i was clean.
she didnt say to me like "quit doing this shit or i wont talk with you ever again", but she just mentioned that she personally didnt like when i did that shit, but also that i didnt have to quit because of her.
we completely understood each other.

whatup mate
been in pretty much the exact same situation
i know how fucking hard it is sometimes
and i know how it is to fake your happiness in front of everyone
now, after almost one and a half year, i am in a huge ass fucking lie and i cant get out of it
i hope no one ever finds out
u wanna talk on skype? ill be here for you pal

>>7116438
ur gonna have 2 end it and wallow in sorry for a while im afraid to say
but its cool
you'll snap out of it one day and the healing process will begin
you'll b golden again

>>7116452
Something i personally live by is "if you get hurt by a girl, it is YOUR fault, every time."

A few posters will tell me it's a shitty outlook, but it really isn't.
It's based on realistic, rational ideas and expectations about how I treat relationships.
I've been in a similar spot OP, and i was sad, pathetic, angry, bitter, all that shit, but now I know it was my fault for ever allowing myself to put that much into a relationship.
It isn't healthy, and it isn't smart.

that's my situation exactly except she was ex of 14 months and we still talk and we meet up and hu two weeks ago but she doesn't want to go back out

>>7116287
Wow, you need to take magic mushrooms. It will kill your ego and you will get your priorities sorted. You're emotionally unstable as fuck.

>>7116452
no, i dont think that i am unique or whatever, i havent mentioned that not even once, but i just thought and still think that what we had was kind of special.
like, in my way, not compared to others. i have never felt this shit before.

>you are missing the feelings you felt with her, which you will most likely never experience with anyone again, including her, even if you did get back with her
but why? ;_;

>You will delete her from all social media
but she promised to call to me on my birthday...

fuck, sorry, okay, i will try, right now...

>>7116452
sorry for being so pathetic, i will delete this thread in a sec then...
i will just read through a couple of things you guys wrote...

>>7116470
don't stay friends with an ex, especially so soon after dating.

It's typical female behavior to crave staying friends, for a number of reasons, and it's typical make behavior to want to stay close thinking that will cause them to get back together.

But that is NOT what happens.
and you shouldn't want it to happen like that.

So far I haven't talked about how males view relationships VS females, but it's no surprise a ton of us have experienced the same exact shit.
There are many reasons for this.

just deleted 236 emails full of conversations with her, which were merely like 1/5 of the messages which were left...
should i delete her from my phone's call list too?
she's like, under the "favorites" tab under there...

>>7116480

don't delete the thread

>>7116452
Wow, he's right. I have never had butterflys or anything or even a crush after my first gf. But I hated her afterwards.

>>7116495
or maybe there were even more emails in total.
we used to send each other like 10 long ass emails a day. and maybe for like 6 months straight or so

>>7116486
nigga
I read TRP I know all this shit.
I've hooked up with a few girls after leaving her, I'm slowly detaching myself
The thing is I would block her on everything and she'd email me a bunch of times implying she wanted me back, she told me she loves the video of us fucking, etc
I told her that I don't want to be friends until I find a steady hu. I've blocked her for being a deceiving cunt
It's all very hazy and complex

>>7116492
oh, okay

>>7116452
i dont really know about that word "oneitis", but its true that i "elevated her above her realistic place".
at least i think i did.
i mean, she was the most important thing for me.
not even my own mother was as important to me like she was.
i would had died for her.

>>7116480
>sorry for being so pathetic
Look, you are being pathetic. Textbook beta backsliding after dealing with oneitis, but as long as you are ready to STOP and improve, it's cool.

If you are still going to hold on to this dream of getting back together, you should just go fuck yourself.

first off, think about how shitty it would be to get back with her. After she's seen you this low and this pathetic (begging her to talk to you), after you've shown her you can't even function without her...
That is not how you want your GF to see you as. She'lll never respect you, for good reason, and if she doesn't respect you, she'll never love either. You have shown that she is greater than you, therefore proving you aren't worth anything to her. No woman want's to be placed above her man.

>she PROMISED to call
how lame is that shit, man? calling you is now a TASK for her to do. something she has to say "wow i can't believe i have to do this shit..."
why would you even want a conversation from that frame?

she probably won't even do it, but if she does, don't answer.
that's your best course of action for the future, and i can explain why if i need too.

fuck, i cant believe that i actually did it...
i deleted all of the messages...
like, i didnt even do that shit when she asked me to do it...

>>7116287
If it helps, you just got me into Bones. This is really good stuff.

>>7116535

you'll be fine dude, keep it up

>>7116529
dude, i have been fucking trying to get over her, i truly have.
its just that i never had anything more perfect than her...

fuck man i wouldnt know what i would do if she would call..
please, explain.
im too fucking stupid to understand this shit for myself...

>>7116517
that is also really common.
once you stop responding to your ex, it is the best way to get her interested again.
it's so ironic, but there is pretty much simple psychological reasons why she does it.

you can't actually get back with her though, for the reasons i said earlier, and more.
it's a lose/lose.

imo, the best thing to strive for is making her feel like she lost out.
girls have a funny way of rationalizing whatever they do, but one thing they can't cope with is NOT having something.

think about this:
one day you are all affectionate and desperate for her. she hates you.
soon you could care less about her, and she sees you are doing great without her.
damn now she wants to know why. why don't you want her? she'll want you, but she'll never have the privilege again.

>>7116541
yeah, i have started listening his music a lot lately. i really like it. not to sound edgy or pretentious or whatever, i kind of feel like i have something to reflect to when listening to his music. i dont really know either, maybe im just fucking stupid...

>>7116542
thank you.
it actually means a lot to me.
i havent been able to talk about this with anyone, because i really dont have anyone to talk with.
i wouldnt want others to know how fucked up i really was about her.
my mom once walked into my room while i was crying (because of she wanted to stop what we were having), but thats about it to be honest...

>>7116459
hey.
i'm currently using my cousins laptop because i managed to mess up my own pc, and his computer doesnt have skype (it has freshly installed windows), but i'd appreciate it if you would contribute, too.
that's of course if you want to contribute...

>>7116561
you listen to much witch-housey stuff?

>>7116544
>its just that i never had anything more perfect than her...
but she isn't even CLOSE to perfect. not even close.
that is the disease of "oneitis." i'll find an article and make some pasta, because if you are still stuck thinking she's perfect you are goddman retarded.

"you see a hot girl, i think about the guy who is tired of dealing with her shit."

>>7116562
>that image
>sour grapes.jpg

Not that Marilyn was perfect, but goodness.

>>7116590
yea it is funny though when you think about how that is probably the most quoted tumblr phrase but the pic shows the reality behind it.

that's pretty much oneitis in summary.
all the shit you ignore due to thinking she's so perfect.

people need to understand that i did not handle oneitis well at all. i was they guy going through her email and facebook, texts, etc.

but i saw first hand the truth and ever since then it's been exactly the same with every girl i've gotten with.

>>7116581
i listen to all types of music to be honest.
i used to be that dude who thought that rap was the best genre but as i grew older i started listening to all types of music, because i also liked them too.
i dont really know much about witch-house.
there are a couple of songs that i like but i havent really found a lot of that type of music.
i guess i just dont know how to search for them.
two of the songs what i think that you could call witch-house and what i also really liked were:
∑r▲ - Breeding is a crime
and
CVL† SH‡† - ßƟD¥ ßΔGƵ
i dont really know anything else to be honest.
this video also had some great songs but i dont know if its the same genre:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BoDO-VF9hLE

>>7116544
>>7116586
>ok this is a lot to read, but if you are SERIOUS about this, you'll read it and i promise you it will make you think. it may not make you feel good, but you start to get a grasp on the situation.

Oneitis is a disease of the amygdala that presents as a total incapacitation of the man’s logic, reason and interest in hobbies, hygiene and restful sleep. Oneitis exists in two forms, a precoital and postcoital expression of the virus. The precoital, or “#1 crush”, form occurs when two conditions are met: A girl possesses a precise beauty of the face that closely matches the beauty template the man carries in his head for the perfect woman, and this girl is within the man’s visual and aural field. The postcoital, or “no girl will ever be as good as her”, form occurs when the same conditions are met, with the additional factor that the man has boffed the girl and is now not boffing her.

More simply:

Beauty + proximity = acute oneitis

Beauty + former proximity + memories = malignant oneitis

Malignant oneitis is much more damaging to a man’s health and self-esteem because it tends to be resistant to therapeutic intervention. Acute oneitis is often solved rather simply by administering an alpha-pak of anti-obsessives, which are slutty women almost as good looking as the infectious agent but more enzymatically compatible. Side effects include drowsiness after finally busting a nut in a flesh and blood sex partner.

Once the oneitis is triggered, it assumes a life of its own, burdening the victim with crippling flights of fancy and obsessive-complusive daydreaming when the object of lust is not around. Oneitis can also blind the victim to alternative sexual opportunities in his midst, and this will later present as extreme, possibly suicidal, regret in forty years.

>cont

okay, i just deleted all of her mails and i also deleted her from the contacts list on my hotmail.
should i also delete her number and all of her texts?

>>7116621
yes but the IMPORTANT part is deleting HER from facebook, tumblr and all that shit.
the messages are the past, and now the rest of her needs to be too.

if you aren't going to do that, don't even bother trying to get help.

btw keep her number. just give it a different name. you won't be responding to anything she sends you, and that includes "who is this"

>>7116622
The reader/patient is diagnosed with a case of malignant oneitis, a particularly aggressive seven year strain. Testing revealed a subcutaneous betaness in an advanced stage of metastasization. The patient was admitted to mindfucking surgery immediately in an effort to excise the betaness and help him “move past it”. Treatment included a review of his intervening girlfriends and flings and an accurate, third party reviewed self-assessment, followed by a slap upside the head. Contraindications include memory- and photo-assisted masturbation and drinking alone. Conclusions follow.

The patient says his first girlfriend — they have been broken up for seven years — was his greatest emotional investment. If his description of her is to be believed, she is a high ranking member of the League of Extraordinary Cunts. Yet we are left to wonder why such a low down dirty blast force bitch would earn so much of his efforts? Our team of medical specialists decided she must have been one hot little minx with a golden vagina.

The patient arrived distressed, and was quick to claim he has no problem attracting women, and that he has dated 20+ women since the breakup. Each subsequent relationship ended in a flameout, because his oneitis had ruined his ability to build and maintain an emotional connection with them. (Somewhere, a lonely beta gently caresses his flaccid member, crying on the inside for a fuckbuddy with whom he can fail to emotionally connect.)

The patient also claims to have left the runner-up girls better than he found them. (Please, it is to laugh. If you are an alpha, no girl is going to feel better when you leave her. If she does, you’re doing it wrong.)

Most tellingly, the patient admitted that each new fucktoy only served to remind him of what he no longer has.

Let’s cut to the chase. There are two primary causes for malignant oneitis.

>cont

>>7116632
she doesnt have facebook or anything like that.
only thing which i have left from her are her text and her number...

oh, just remembered one thing...
she also knitted me a warm hat for cold days which i wear pretty often...
what should i do with that?
i really like the hat to be honest...

she also drew me few cards and such for valentine's day which i still have with me.
i wouldn't want to throw them away but, FUCK this is fucking hard...
all of those memories and fucking shit, fuck!
fuck her!
fucking cunt

>>7116640
Let’s cut to the chase. There are two primary causes for malignant oneitis.

>Investment raises the value of a girl.
You are naturally going to value that which you spent much effort winning over. We value what we think is worth more, and what is worth more is what we worked hardest to get and keep. You poured your blood and guts into a chick who stole your money, nearly gave you AIDS, got you in trouble with the law, and, most damning of all, fucked your best friends. In the end, she dumped you. In your mind’s value abacus, you rationalize your needy behavior, and her careless behavior, by assigning a much higher value to her than to yourself.

>should i continue?
to be honest, i disagree with point 2 but, there is still good info in it.

>>7116651
i would want you to continue.
i have read all of what there has been to read for now...
there were most things which i could agree on, yeah

>>7116648
if you like the hat, keep it.
if you wear it just because it reminds you of her, put it with the letters and put them somewhere in storage.
if you have a place where you keep "memories" or whatever, put them there.

it's better than throwing them away, for a couple reasons which i'm not sure i could explain.
basically, you have the control and in the future you'll look at them and they won't mean shit.

>>7116668
okay, i will keep the hat.
but should i delete all of the texts too?
i think that i should but then again, they have some meaningful stuff in them which is sweet to read...

jesus christ, I can't report this shit hard enough.
You're a loser, kill yourself. The narcissist trying to "help" him, kill yourself too pls.

>>7116679
idk, it doesn't really matter either way.
like i said, that is the past. what she said no longer applies.

>>7116687
you could just hide the thread, you know

>>7116690
oh, okay.
so i deleted all of the emails we had sent to each other, deleted her from the email contact list, and changed her name in the contacts list on my phone.
i kind of feel better now.
i think that it may have been because of the letters which i had kept

Listen up fuccboi. You're a fucking man, you're superior to the species of human known as females. Pull yourself together and become a dominant person. You don't need woman in life, you only need yourself, love for the things you do and happiness. It will take some time but that really depends on how much time you think it'll take to get her out of your mind completely. I was also in the same "boat" as you OP but a couple of weeks have passed and I no longer have feelings for that girl.

>>7116741
thanks for the motivation.
like, really!
i'm not really good at saying "thanks" and shit, but i really mean it to be honest.
i feel better already, and thats thanks to you guys.
i really appreciate it.
thanks.

>>7116741
yea this.

the expression "man up" is probably the most fitting in this situation.

and yea, you don't need women in your life.
once you figure that out, you'll be a lot happier.
girls should be background noise with a bed to sleep in when youre horny. it may grow into something else, but you need to let it happen over time.

>>7116760
im kind of starting to agree now, too.
thank you!
you truly made me feel better today

>>7116287
>im just daily waiting for her to call, or send me a message.
jesus FUCKING christ

>>>/r9k/

>>7116706
when people are making these shitty threads every single day, hiding isn't enough

this shit is unacceptable and requires an actual discussion rather than just sweeping it under the rug like we've been doing

the stupid faggots of this board need a kick in the ass to let them know that their feelshit doesn't belong here

>>7116773
okay, whatever man, i said im sorry.
sorry that i actually wanted to talk with someone about this shit what seems so pointless to you (and probably to many others)
i just-.. fuck it, whatever man..
sorry.

hi im borrowing ur thread its the worst one on fa anyway

this is um valentino 14 ss

OP I was browsing 4chan at my school when I saw your thread

We're the same right now. I know how you feel, I know how it feels to crave somebody like a fucking meth addict would crave the next high.

It hurts so bad when you realize that you fucked up and theres not shit that you can do to fix it because it happened and theres no going back. When you let somebody inside you, inside your fucking veins to the point where you literally have a chemical dependency on that person

and without them you're a mess, every day you wake up and they're the first thought in your mind, every night you cling to your phone hoping for some small shred of evidence that they're thinking about you too, that they still have some love in their heart for you.

But you know they don't, they can't. They'll never love you the way you love them. And theres other women, theres always going to be other women.

But they won't be her, they won't feel they way she feels, act the way she acts, smell the way she smells

It hurts so bad, you'd give anything just to have her in your arms for just a little while longer, just to have some fucking solace. But she's gone and she's probably fucking some taller, more muscular, more light skinned version of you.

What hurts the most is that while you're here crying and feeling like your chest just caved in...shes having the time of her fucking life.

People can tell you whatever it is they want to tell you, that you're better than her, that she doesn't deserve you...my favorite is "just move on bro"

REALLY MOTHERFUCKER? YOU THINK IF IT WAS THAT EASY FOR ME TO JUST GET OVER HER I WOULD BE SITTING HERE CRYING OVER SOME RANDOM ASS BITCH. WHY THE FUCK DID SHE EVEN HAVE TO COME IN MY LIFE, WHY THE FUCK DID SHE HAVE TO HURT ME SO BAD, WHY THE FUCK WAS I THERE TO MEET HER. I WOULD HAVE BEEN FINE IF IT WASNT FOR HER. I CANT FUCKING MOVE ON

>>7116787
theres like a million boards made just for that

i was too lazy to go pick up my shit at the dry cleaner
3 weeks after i dropped my stuff off is today.

asshole shop chink dry cleaner donated all of my shirts (6 of them, bbgf, zegna, zegna, canali, dior, turnbull)

that was well over $2000 in shirting and $400 in aleterations becuase short and fat.....

i...i give up im just goig to replace them with merona t-shirts

>>7116787
yo don't let the uber-douche get you down feel happy and try not to get bogged down with anyone but yourself for the moment :D

>>7116804
also like the three posts I did read you niggas stupid af

>>7116811
I dated a girl whose parents own a dry cleaning place so I get my stuff done for free ~_~

>>7116796
yeah dude, i TOTALLY fucking agree with you!
but the fucking thing is, that i really want to move on
i know that i miss her so fucking much and this probably sounds gay as fuck to other people reading this, but she actually was like me fucking drug
i would do anything to be with her, but at the same time i just know that that's impossible...
i used to say shit like "yeah, your girl left you. so what? just move on, you have a lot to live for", but now that im in the same position it seems fucking impossible.
dude i swear to fucking god i cried like the first two months when she told me to fuck off

the only thing which i could do was that i came to a realization that she wont be answering any of the fucking long ass emails which i spent hours on writing, and putting my emotion in.
it was just that she was gone
she is gone
i mean, i still would want her back but who am i to force someone?
i just, like, fuck man..
i dont even know

like, one part of me wants her back but the other part of me knows the shit that i went through with her just to have her
i dont even know myself whats right.
i used to think that wanting her was right.
now im just relying on what most people wrote on here, because i dont want to be hurt every day when i think about her...

>>7116816
thank you :)

>>7116796

I don't even know what I was talking about in that last post

that's the first time I posted my picture on 4chan, i just wanted you to see my face. maybe you'll see yourself in me. I dunno man.

Obviously neither of us are "right" right now. nothing is gonna change that, no matter how many people respond to your thread on /fa/ no matter how many people give you good sounding advice, no matter how many girls want to hop on your dick after this.

It's not gonna help because it's not coming from her.

Honestly I don't think we're ever gonna fully heal. But killing yourself is hopeless too. That's still not gonna bring her back.

Maybe there are lessons we needed to learn, maybe we shouldn't give our hearts out so easily.

It hurts like shit now, It's gonna hurt like shit for a while. Eventually we'll both get to a point where we can push the memories to the back of our head and move on with our lives and date other women and have new great experiences.

But that's not gonna make it disappear, it's always gonna be there. and no one is ever gonna hurt us the way she did ever again.

maybe thats a good thing. I don't know.

But if listening to our sad sappy ass music (Burial for me) keeps us from jumping off the highest building then so be it.

Guess I'll play untrue one more time

>>7116787
it's not that it seems pointless to me
it's that you're shitting up the board with it

stop letting /adv/ go to waste

>>7116835
there we go

you aren't sorry
you're continuing to do it

shitposters: not even once

dat pic
2far, I just prefer muh le happy merchant face guy :^(
I mean j00s are spooky but that shit is p damn spooky :^( :^(
Please bring back le happy merchant man :^\

>>7116796
>>7116842
>r9k is literally invading us.
Get the fuck out, what is your problem? Did even r9k get tired of your shit?

>>7116835

you gotta force yourself not to contact her. You'll be weak at times but you have to just rationalize if she isn't contacting you by now then whatever you're doing isn't working.

So yeah, its hard but whenever you get the urge to contact her you have to literally turn your phone or computer off and go watch tv, run, play a videogame, something to take your mind off her a little

>>7116819
even down comforters?

they wanted like $75 to do mine
pff fucking buy a new one at ikea

>>7116835
you love yourself, you love feeling sad or entitled, you love feeling sorry for yourself. this girl probably could've been anyone

>>7116852
Their profits are pretty huge considering their costs are super low so family friends always get a great deal or free

>disconnect from girl for a few months
>stop masturbating to the thought of her
>pretty much over her by now, don't think of her at all except occasionally

just separate yourself OP, do what you love and let that be your true love
music and technology are that for me; fitness and fashion are helping with my self conscious
fuck wimmin, the Romans were right

>>7116842
i totally fucking agree with you.
i think that if it wasnt for the music that i am listening to, which i like, i would had hanged myself by now.
i guess it influences me much.

>>7116844
get out then

>>7116848
:)

>>7116854
yeah dude, thats exactly what i've been doing. i have been trying to keep myself occupied so that i wouldnt think of her.
there was this kind of pause when i didnt think of her at all, but i dont know what happened lately...
i wish that i could say something smart to you, too, but i can't even properly handle myself so who am i to give any information...
fuck, i have thought about ending myself over some fucking woman!
but now, thinking about th-.. no fuck that, fuck her, fuck that cunt, fuck bitches.
she was a fucking cunt, i fucking hate her.
ending shit with hate seems to be easier for me.
maybe it would be for you too, i dont know...
maybe convince yourself that you actually want to end this shit.
i did it once, and it worked pretty well until she contacted me again and i fucking lost it.
i guess that im going to try that out again or something like that...
on another note, you seem to be a pretty cool dude :)

>>7116896
except if you werent an immature fuck you could probably stay friends with someone you potentially got along really well with

>>7116902
>those legs

>>7116903
>but now, thinking about th-.. no fuck that, fuck her, fuck that cunt, fuck bitches.
>she was a fucking cunt, i fucking hate her.
>ending shit with hate seems to be easier for me.
grow up

>>7116932
models scare me dupe

>>7116941
whatever man
i just want to be emotionally stable
i want to be happy, not sad because of something what i really wanted but what could never really happen

man the fuck up

>>7116953
get professional help if you're suicidal there are hotlines and free programs 4chan aint that esp not fa

responsible adults grieve, then stay friends because they aren't emotional fuck ups and move on to the next relationship, and this happens idk 4-10+ times in life

>>7116972
>responsible adults grieve, then stay friends
how am i supposed to "stay friends" with someone who completely wants me out from her life?
i think that you are missing the point over here

>>7116987
you don't need to stay friends, and i would recommend against it, especially right now.
commit to no contact.
when she hits you up in a few months, don't give her much attention, if any.

in the future, who knows?

>>7116987
nah its you missing shit cuz u stupid af
you would've been able to stay friends if you werent an emotional fuck up, maybe next time tho if you dont kill urself

>>7116995
yeah, okay
thanks

>>7116996
that was actually before i fucked up.

>>7117003
nah u r the one whos fucked
im friends with all my exes because im not fucked and i even date crazy fucking bitches sometimes

>>7116914
Not really, I know who I am and who she is, being around her is only going to perpetuate the problem and make autistic story #2343255501 come true.

>>7117019
whatever
if it makes you feel so much superior or so much better when you look down on others who fucked up and makes you feel so alpha that you have to brag about it over here then whatever man.
keep on thinking that you are so much better than others then.

Does this look retarded? Does it work?

Just a fuccboi trying to do something cool with what he's got

>>7117034
>nah u r the one whos fucked
>get professional help

>>7117019
>clinging on the past
>a good thing
toplel, the fact you're "friends" with the crazies show that you're not in it for the friendship

>>7117043
>>nah u r the one whos fucked
>>get professional help
What?

>>7117039
naw I just told you or whoever the right thing(s) to do but you just wanna feel sorry for urself
>>7117040
looks like any dude off the street? idk I wouldn't look twice I mean what did you expect?

>>7117045
I dated them because they were unpredictable and exciting, that doesnt change when I stop dating them except now I'm not subject to their mood swings

>>7117074
Riiight, I'm sure pal.
Enjoy living in the past I suppose.

Anyways yeah, you should should grow up and caring about someone you probably know nothing about. There are plenty of interesting people in the world, probably way more than your middle school crush, just let go of them.
Don't entrap yourself with them, it's pointless and will only keep you in this immature state.

>>7117062
what are you even talking about?
im just saying that deep inside i still miss her, but i want to get over her.
what were the so called right things that you told?
that you are friends with all of your ex's?
like, how in the fuck is that even a right thing?
its just some shit that you think is right.
you are just like christians are.
you see, they think that what they think is absolutely right, and that others are wrong.
like with god.
that some gray bearded man lives in the sky and decides what the fuck happens.
they dont accept it when someone tells that they think that there is no such thing.
they (and including you) will just keep on talking their stupid ass bullshit, which they think is true.

i dont even give a fuck anymore, you are probably going to reply with that same "HURR DUR IM SUPERIUR AND SMARTER THAN U R BECUZ IM FRIENDS W MUH EXS" bullshit.

>>7117098
was the last part meant to me (op)?

if it was then that was not completely true to be honest.
i knew almost everything about her, as i already said.
and she wasnt really a middle school crush.
i mean, she wasnt exactly the same age as me.
she was like, pretty old compared to me.
she already had a husband and children to be honest.

>>7116953
>i just want to be emotionally stable
>i want to be happy, not sad because of something what i really wanted but what could never really happen
throwing pity parties over what happened on /fa/ isn't the first step to achieving emotional stability

just go

>>7117121
>was the last part meant to me (op)?
yea

>she already had a husband and children to be honest.
Yeah she's probably 100% irrelevant to you and you should feel the same, maybe when you're able to get over it and look back at it feeling silly of the whole thing maybe you can be friendly.
Until then, just disconnect yourself, she has a husband m8.
There ARE more interesting people out there worth knowing about, and things worth investing your time in.
Maybe one day you don't need to endure the whole isolate-yourself-from-crushes and can just brush it off and see it for what it is.

Dew it.

>>7117125
Also this, don't feel sorry for yourself. Start following your dreams and know what it feels like to have self-pride.
It can be anything, just as long as you want it and you try.

>>7117098
I'm living in the past because I have friends I've had sex with? the fuck?

>>7117100
because having a girlfriend is like having a best friend and why should that end just because you decide you don't want to live together or have that close a future no matter the reason
I got to stay friends with them because I'm not a mess, like I don't do petty shit during or after a relationship just because I feel bad
if you love her so much why dont you cherish those memories instead of spinning around feeling sad in them, like its the same shit

>>7117125
i just wanted someone to talk to.

>>7117141
but, i mean, we hold hands like every time we were together, hugged each other every time we said good bye, spent hours talking with each other over the phone, spent even more time emailing each other like every day.
i mean, i dont think that i was completely irrelevant to her...
like, she even hid most of the things that we did together from her husband.
like, why would she do that if i was completely irrelevant?
anyway, i guess it doesnt matter anymore...

>>7117154
>if you love her so much why dont you cherish those memories
i do, but at the same time i miss them.
i guess you wouldnt understand.
i dont even understand why i still give a fuck about her.

>>7117169
>like, why would she do that if i was completely irrelevant?
ugh, you've managed to get a serious response out of me

i doubt you were completely irrelevant, but "were" is the keyword here
she had a moment of passion, and you were probably more important to her at that moment than her husband
however, it's scary how quickly passion can dry up

i mean, think about it
if she had a husband while this happened, then that means she's left at least 1 other man in this state

are you scared and confused because you don't understand how her feelings could just disappear like that?
it scared me the first time it happened, but i can't say it happened like this because i was the one who stopped feeling first
i wanted to feel that way again so badly, not for myself, but for the sake of my partner
it just wouldn't happen, and i'd beat myself up over it because i didn't understand how or why
with that said, i don't really understand it, but i've come to accept it

the passion you had for her will dry up, too, and it will happen so fast and inexplicably that you'll wonder why you ever got so worked up

>>7117267
fuck man sorry i dont know anymore...
she is like 20 years older than me, im a fucking kid.
i would probably get banned for a couple of days if i said how old i was
i dont know whats wrong or whats right
all that i know is that i liked the time we got to be together, and now im hurt because all of this shit
i dont know man, im fucking stupid for even doing this shit in the first place...
i still dont even know if she was feeling ANYTHING towards me.
maybe i was just a friend to her, maybe i wasn't, i dont know...
she did get kind of nervous and panicked a little bit when i mentioned anything about "love" or such, but i dont fucking know man...

>the passion you had for her will dry up, too
i really hope so, yeah...

>>7116842
I love you man

Sounds like you're in the exact same situation as me, and it hurts like nothing i've ever felt before. It's just really nice to know i'm not the only one because i feel like i'm losing my sanity over this.

>>7117309

i love you too

im at school right now but my skype is: mastershadrian (or MasterSha2 i cant remember)

if you want to talk about this some more.

we're gonna make it bro. i promise

>>7116648
toss away the hat
when you find another girl ask her for a hat

repeat until you have the perfect hat