/fa/ - Fashion

>>14737586
Another one because I just remembered
>inlaws are visiting
>MIL puts my hamper through the washer, dries it, folds it
>she washed and dried my raws I've been breaking in over 9 months
>sad but I know she meant no ill will

>>14737586
Please refer to it as OCBD to not confuse it with oxford shoes. You are not dressed nice with sneakers, though.
>give shirts to seamstress
>she shortens the sleeves too much
>give her suits
>she does not shorten the sleeves enough
>says that the 1cm peep-through sleeves makes one look like a confirmation boy
Sad thing is; the only other people in that field are Turks (Germany).

>>14738583
That's the point. I was wearing a casual outfit but some normie bitch thinks anything besides jeans and a tshirts is "dressed up"

>>14738623
You have to live through that. The plebs will always be plebs.

>>14737586
>buy pair of boots for $600 (or worse)
>immediately crave that other pair of boots for $800

>>14737586
>Wear simple black leather boots
>get called a "fashion victim" by an obese 50 years old

>dont like many stuff from h&m
>every item I happen to like on their online shop is not available in store
>no free shipping
fuck you h&m. no wonder your sales are going back

>>14739132
>being too cheap to pay for shipping on items that are already so cheap they're disposable
it's a downward spiral, anon

>>14737586
>get my wool blanket I used for German ww2 reenactment cut and tailored into high waisted slim trousers
>shows a tasteful dick print
>unique and well fitting
>can't stop getting girls at college from hitting on me
>my wife loves to rub her hands down my wooly thighs before she blows me

Feels good lads.

>>14739157
Any picture? Sounds comfy!

>>14739162
Maybe a fit Pic later

>>14739190
Oh, that looks really good. Reminds my of a Bavarian Lodenhose (a thick material for the coldest of days). Those always come in a pepper and salt colour. Very effay.

I’m an ugly incel and have never had a gf in my life. I want to hate myself and sometimes want kill my self :(

>>14739157
>>shows a tasteful dick print
your pants don't fit retard

>>14737586
>casual friday at work requires a sports team shirt
>everyone notices my fit and compliments it
>anon you're the "GOAT"
>(anon) only you could pull that off!
>nice boots anon!
>you look really cool anon!
we were let out early at work today too.

>>14739142
I dont pay shipping two ways for items that dont fit.

>>14740022
That sucks bro

>>14740022
same, except im not ugly and just lack the social skills needed to get a gf

>>14737586
I HAVE LITERALLY NO IDEA HOW TO BUY NICE SHORTS SO I WEAR PANTS EVEN THOUGH IT'S HOT AS FUCK EVERY DAY

>>14740468
lol same
I think I'll buy some cholo shorts
wear long socks
got a dirt old pair of cortezs outside

>>14737586
How in the hot n' ready fuck do I find a good coat

>>14740022
>>14740381
If you're suffering from depression, the book 'Feeling Good' by MD David Burns can help.
It's about cognitive-behavioral therapy, a successful treatment for depression, dealing with negative thinking patterns.
Link to PDF:
http://www.mediafire.com/file/sdydy3n2mdpueck/%2528harper._health%2529_burns_david_d_-feeling_good__the_new_mood_therapy_revised_and_updated-avon_books_harper_%25282009%2529.pdf/file
(if you don't want to use Mediafire, look for it on libgen.is - it's a good site for PDFs in general - browse/download at your own discretion).

Also listen to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qmDwl2-IZEk
It's an audiobook of 'Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway' by Susan Jeffers, a self-help book on overcoming anxiety.

You can also try some St. John's Wort (it's a plant) tea for immediate relief (I mix mine with Melissa for the calming effect).

It might also be nice to learn to meditate, as it can relieve your mind of negative thoughts. nperov.com for learning materials.

Or maybe you just have a vitamin D defficiency, see >>/sci/thread/S10221251 Go get some sun.

>>14739190
I meant pics of the bj

>>14740616
i don't know much but here:
make sure it's about a size up, in order to account for layering

>>14737600
Nine months is too long to sit on washing denim.

>mfw slipping into a buttery soft pair of chinos that I wore yesterday

A list of things I've worn that have made people ask "why are you dressed so nice?"

>jeans
>solid color v-neck
>desert boots

>short shorts (bearbottom brand, I have big quads and they fit nice)
>birkenstocks
>random solid color v-neck

>Anything with buttons tucked in

I've basically come to the realization that these are the few things you need to do for normies to think you look "overdressed"
>shirts without any graphics or words on them
>any pants that aren't sweatpants or gym pants
>any kind of mostly leather shoe

>>14740734
Damn I was going for a year. My fades were gonna be so sick

>wake up half drunk
>look around my room for anything I can wear
>throw blank lavender color hoodie on with the adidas sweatpants I slept in
>slip on my shitty ultraboosts from 2 years ago
>throw on pic related
>"Anon I love your fit"
Why do I even try

>friend gets broken up with by the art hoe I warned him about
>Still get drunk with him and play smash Bros all night
I hate women desu

>>14742614
I feel you my brother.

>>14740653
thank you :)

>>14737586
>wearing chinos oxfords and sneakers

this is an imageboard for fashion not flyover states

>>14745346
Except if those sneakers are New balance or common projects. Nike is flyover af

>>14745346
Heh kek this made me smile, you just might have improved my day lad

>>14737586
>went to a local butcher to try something new from standard grocery store
>buy fresh ground beef
>cook it and pair it with some pasta to meal prep for the week
>eat a little now just to test how it tastes
>start chewing and feel something hard
>take the bit out and find a bone fragment
this is what i get for trying to support local

>>14746515
There are good and bad butchers. I found mine and buy in bulk, saving mad dosh.

>start responding to some idiot on /fa/
>realize that it's not worth it
>go to the feels thread and bitch instead

>>14737586
>button top button of shirt
>see young men notice and tuck their t shirts in

>>14737586
I see people openly laugh at me when sitting in their car at the cross walk, especially women.

>>14745068
No problem. Take care, Anon.
>>14748135
Post fit, shouldn't be that bad.

>tfw you want an m65 but everything you try on is super big on the arms and makes you look like a 7 year old playing dressup with his dad's clothes

>>14748241
Size down on a Real McCoy's model.

>>14748241
why not just get something tailored?

im in the zone rn and it scares me
i get compliments like every day when i go outside and even on waywt threads majority of ppl like my outfits
its probably all down hill from here.

>18+ months of serious reclusive borderline hikki depression due to shitty living arrangements and low drive
>move out and find a new place to live
>life feels good for the first time in so long
>gain confidence to leave room again
>meet a girl and talk with her constantly
>connect really well with her
>meet with her twice
>she finds me funny and we can just sit and chat for hours
>keeps touching me and holding my arm
>she has an anxiety attack a few days afterwards
>ask if we can do something again on sunday
>says she'd love to, then sunday morning tells me she can't because she has midterms to study for
>she slowly starts responding more and more infrequently
>social anxiety starts giving me palpitations
>open up to her about how i feel
>tells me that it's just not the right time for her
>i ask if we can be friends at least
>she says no
>relapse into depression and start uncovering tons of lifelong trauma
>been reliving every single abandonment i've had in my life these past four weeks
When will it get better? Am I just destined to never have any real escape from loneliness?

>wash piece of clothing as stated on the clothing label
>it still shrinks
wtf man

>>14750125
stop going after loser girls

>>14743176
>want to smoke weed
>go to halloween party and ask around
>smoke too much
>become unable to move, lie on couch with raging hard-on for everyone to see
why do i sperg every time?

>>14750014
i know that feel

>lose a ton of weight, become peak facial aesthetics
>cobbled together shoplifted clothing actually looks good and get compliments/hit on
>get in a relationship and gain the weight back

fuck everything

>>14750125
you went on two dates, shits hard but chill man, theres more chill girls out there,

>>14750268
>lie on couch with raging hard-on for everyone to see
Did anyone actually see it?
Or were you just paranoid because dude weed lmao?

>>14750296
i don't think anyone saw it, as it was going up into my waistband rather than making a tent, but it still felt really fucking weird

wish i could find a strain that doesn't make me vomit or unable to move

>>14750272
ditch the bitch and make the switch

>>14750304
try Jack Harrer - Sativa

>>14750304
>up into my waistband
heavy breathing

>>14750125
This might be tough to swallow, but in two weeks you'll feel better. And consider this: she doesn't even have the courtesy to explain why she suddenly began acting avoidant.
Or at least, that's how it seems from what you've told us.
>start uncovering tons of lifelong trauma
>reliving every single abandonment
These parts are telling. I can't accuse you of anything, but do you think your trauma influenced how you acted around her? I mean, from what it sounds, she was your only source of meaningful, face to face, human interaction. "Constantly" talking with her. Desperately trying to keep her around. To avoid feeling that abandonment again. But paradoxically, this makes her feel claustrophobic, so she gets out. I don't know how you acted around her, or what kind of things you said, but if this is the case, maybe she doesn't even owe you an explanation. She knows your type, so it's better to make a clean cut, for both of you.

>>14741498
why are you still wearing desert boots you incel

>>14737586
>was in love with a girl
>spent every day together going thrifting and shit, friend group assumes we are dating/about to date
>she loses interest and eventually starts dating one of my friends
>shit gets rubbed in my face everyday as he is my roommate
>become robot and depressed for a bit, but able to realize that i don't need this
>goes to friend's party and she is there with him
>just drink in corner and talk to friends
>after a while she asks to speak to me in private
>she asks me why we don't hang out anymore and that we used to be friends that hung out all the time and she misses that
>i tell her that deep down inside of her she knows why we don't talk anymore and she's just playing stupid
>she says she doesn't know what i'm talking about
>just walk away and join the rest of the people at the party
>last time i talked to her directly for over a year
>ffw to today
>posted a vid of me just fucking around on my synth on snap
>she messages me saying that that was cool or some sort of compliment
>i say thanks and just leave it at that
>she sends another message and I don't open it
>i have a feeling it's going to be about talking about the past or wanting to hang out
I want to leave this shit in the past but I also don't want to be a dick about it since we still have mutual friends. what do

>>14750522
I don't know anon. I just feel like my confidence has been destroyed again and now all the feelings and trauma that I repressed is unearthed, it feels like it can't improve. My sleep is ruined and I just have this intense feeling of being through this. This is incoherent but I thought about this in the shower ten minutes ago, but I'm struggling to put it into words. I just wanted to feel accepted, wanted, understood for who I am, feelings I have never honestly felt before. I felt like I was getting that from her and it's crushed me that nothing ever changes. Maybe I am demanding too much from people but I also don't think I deserve to be alone.
>>14750293
Wish it were that simple. I struggle to truly relate and connect with people and superficial relationships always collapse on me.

>have hydrocele for years
>makes bulge in trousers
>known as the guy with a big dick
>never capitalised on it really
>had surgery for removal yesterday

People are probably going to ask if I put socks down there this whole time

>>14750751
Theres definitely a cimplicated greyzone there. A greyzone between you being left behind as a guy who lost out, and you being left behind as a friend. Each has its own fitting apology. Maybe she isnt sure of which one to choose. Maybe she didnt think that far. Maybe you didnt. Maybe if you told her that youre actually hurt as a friend, she'll have something of an epiphany. Itll probably seem a little untrustworthy, though. Because if you just considered yourselves as friends, then maybe you wouldve been comfortable about tesaing her about being too busy to see you, abd maybe she wouldve felt comfortable enough to tell you that of course she'd want to spend a lot of time with her new flirt but she'd still like to find time to see you and then you could hear all about it.
If that seems off, its because youre mostly just jealous and you should admit that.

>>14751089
>never capitalised on it really
cliffordpacker?
you fixed the giant ball?

>>14751140
Fuck is Cliffordpacker

>>14739157
Nothing about what you just typed is tasteful

Goodness, why are yanks so crass?

>>14750943
To me it seems like you articulated what you're feeling well enough. You know what you want from your relationships: acceptance, being understood, all this on a very personal level. However, not everyone wants those same things from their relationships with you. You seem empathetic, so I trust you can understand this, or will come to understand this and accept it. The things that have happened to you in the past were painful -- at this point they might even be a part of your identity -- but you can't let them ruin your relationships and your happiness now. Take small steps. Don't isolate yourself. Get to know a few people. But don't rely on a single person to bring you happiness: like you just realized, it's like walking a tight rope. This might sound frivolous, but if someone knows your favourite band or your favourite music genre and remembers it, even if it's someone you don't consider you have a very strong bond with, isn't that feeling kind of nice? What I mean is: you don't need deep, extremely personal relationships to be happy. You can move past that. "Superficial" relationships are a part of life, and even then, I believe there's always some sort of meaning behind them. Anyways, just take it slowly. In the end, it's all up to you to figure out what you want, and how to get it. Good luck, anon.

>>14750751
Do you want to be friends with her? If you do, I don't see any harm in it. The whole thing with her happened a year ago. You can leave it in the past and still be friends, from what I can tell. If you were to hang out again, what would worry you the most?

>>14751152
he's a guy with hydrocele and a big dick, just like you anon

>tfw gf gets me to go from /doomer/ to /prep/
>no money to buy all the clothes I now want

Seriously considering buying shit from all the replica sellers I get on IG ads

>>14752123
ll bean and gap are good budget prep desu

I feel weird wearing shirts with buttons other than flannels. Even weirder if I tuck them in. What do I do?

>>14752252
get over it

>>14752252
You probably just grew up lower class

>>14752269
Yep, biggest marker of a pleb is they think any shirt with buttons is dressy

>tfw don’t really go out and talk to a bunch of people
>tfw kinda sad and depersonalize
>post selfie
>gets 110+ reacts
>still ain’t shit compared to other people

when i do go out it seems like people enjoy my company though.. there’s another girl who wants to be a cuddle buddy but i’m hesitant? and this preppy guy took me out for tacos awhile ago and wanted to take me out to festivals etc but i don’t wanna give the impression i wanna smash in this hookup culture so i just became a hermit. i miss relationships but i’m a little scared. i wanna go to a gun range. ngl in the future i’d love to be a house wife that paints on the side and has a nice food garden. i need to visit /diy/, /ck/ and /ic/ more.

on the bright side i did go thrifting the other day and got some silky chocolate colored bedsheets with a pretty pillow with vines/flowers to match, some dark brown bamboo placemats for food and burnt orange colored cloth napkins, wood handled silverware and deep green bowls. i’ve been scoring lately with thrifting imo, i got boots that fit(like a US size 5-6) and a cute dress, sweater and scarf this month.

Going on a date tomorrow but pretty sure the girl is disinterested

>>14752269
>>14752283
Yes, grew up lower middle class with a slob single dad

>>14752290
So cancel?
>>14752295
It's not too late to dress yourself nicely anon.

>>14752072
Thanks anon.

>>14737586
just fat enough that the Yohji store attendants aren't excited to see me.

>>14752123
Prep is designed for people living in dorms with little closet space. The pieces are all interchangeable so you don't have to have that many but can still look presentable with nearly any combination

>>14753354
Fukkkkk u just activated my almonds

>>14740022
If unironic immediately start working out, stop mouthbreathing, and see a professional hairstylist

I'm fucking lonely

>>14753356
???
>>14753845
4chan probably just makes it worse. reach out somewhere else. do reach out.

I JUST FUCKING CRACHES MY CAR!!!!!!!
I guess its time to go full drain gang

>>14753848
It's literally the only place where I can talk about my hobbies though

Next week i have an interview, my first one, after years of neeting. It's for some kind of paid volunteering so it's not as serious as it would be for a normal job, but still the anxiety is eating me alive
Oh fuck

>>14737600
holy shit you are gay

>haven't had sex in a week
>balls are swollen
>Mfw

>>14754057
stop using that as an insult
it isn't 1987

>>14754091
This is 4chan what are you expecting

>>14737586

>bought my dream shoes
>one size smaller
>but they're sandals
>they're arriving on monday

please please please shoe gods I need all your help, please make them fit me anyway

>>14754057
T. 2 month raws

>>14753891
Hey good on you for seeking out an opportunity like that. I'm basically neet mode rn due mostly to anxiety ruining my life but I find even getting outside and having regular, small interactions with people helps to build confidence, even if it's just temporary. Try to be as social as you can be before going to your interview. I tend to think I'm totally autistic and can't talk to people for shit but I've seen the opposite lately after going out of my comfort zone. Also keep in mind that when an interaction feels awkward or uncomfortable, it isn't always your fault. If the interview is for paid volunteer work, I think it's safe to assume the interviewer will be a decent person. They're going to be critical since it's an interview but you don't have to worry about getting examined by some cutthroat sociopath (some jobs you do). I think you'll do fine. If it goes to shit, then it's a learning experience. I know it's not fair that we have to take so many losses and file them away as "learning experiences" but that's only way to improve, and I think the rewards for improvement are worth it. Good luck man.

Reminder that everyone on this board is a goddamn KING. I will always be rooting for my Kings from the sidelines. Even if you can't hear me I'm cheering for you

>>14750304
ur tolerance is probably just low

>>14754091
ok faggot

>Cute girl who dresses well like she's in an 80s indie pop band
>Can't stop thinking about her
>Have had about 5 chances to talk to her
>Never take them

how can i get over feeling like i just don't deserve anything?

this board is so fucking dead holy shit. the catalog is actually embarrassing.

God fucking dammit bros
Grandma has leukemia

>Love fall and winter fashion,have a shit on ton of boots and jackets I want to get
>Live in a country that has high temperatures 10 months a year
NOOOO am fucking tired of short and tees and only wearing summer frags.UK here I come,baby

>>14756136
I lost a dear relative this year. Haven't gotten quite over it yet. Good luck to your grandma.

>>14754143
Thanks king :')

>>14748241
They're supposed to be oversized so that soldiers can carry their gear beneath them, retard.

>>14737600
>2010+9
>wearing raw denim

you are a fag

>>14752072
hey man i really like your posts, you seem really educated and have a great way of sharing your positive perspective.
thanks

>>14754656
You don't deserve anything. Nothing will be handed to you and there isn't a girl out there waiting for you because you've earned it through good living and making the right decisions. With everything in life you're going to have to step forward and fend for yourself. You have to be a little bit selfish to get ahead in life so take a chance and ask her out or just get to know her. Just get used to the fact that no one owes you anything and put that aside. She might reject you but you already know that going in that you don't deserve it but the most important thing is to give it a shot and work for it.

>poorfag
>find a lovely corduroy jacket while thrifting that would be beyond expensive if new
>its 6 sizes too big
>i buy it and wear it anyway regardless of the fact that i now look like a fancy sack of potatoes

>still no license at 18
>still no job at 18
>all I do in my free time is get pissed off at For Honor, shitpost on /fa/, and work out

Honest to god I'm trying anons but I'm just too fuckin lazy to get my life in order

The vast majority of this board doesn't care about high fashion, or fashion outside of trying to fuck some cheap slut on campus.

>Fat
>5'7
>Too fat to wear size S
>Too short and small to wear size M

>>14757136
>still no job at 18
Fucking disgusting. Stop living off good boy points. Get a job retard

Dating a girl but already know it isnt going to work out because im 19 and shes 26

>>14750751
Just tell her how it is, anon. Communication is key.

>>14750943
Seeking emotional salvation from a romantic relationship is a very easy, and sometimes intoxicating way to cope with depression, but I don't believe it to be the healthiest. A relationship isn't everything, the most important part of your life should be YOU. Personally, what got me out of my depression was trying to changing my MINDSET. I know it sounds easier said than done, but when I went through my days moping and thinking negative thoughts, it would put me further and further down. Try not to make everything so hard on yourself, and work towards self love. Focus on the things you like, explore them, and feel yourself grow as a person. Make yourself feel accepted. It was a very tough journey, but I managed to make it out after 6 years. For me, listening to Ted talks on self-motivation and learning about Buddhist philosophy put me in the right place to change my mindset. You just got to find what uplifts you, and don't let the little things in life get you down. Hope that helped.

>>14759413
Thanks anon, I don't think a relationship will fix me and my problems but I do feel like I was crushed by the weight of having another personal connection dissipating in my hands. And I can't help but think I am at fault of it. I try my best to fix mindset but it really is hard to come to terms. It would be so easy to just wish for something effective to happen instantly but it doesn't. I'm striving towards getting better but I can't help feel apprehensive due to past experiences, so I am cautious in my approach.
>>14756996
I agree. Feel threads are usually some of the best on this site.

popular on dating sites but they want me to pretend to be someone else for the conversations to go anywhere

>tfw getting jacked from lifting
:)
>tfw my favorite sweaters don’t fit anymore
Also
>tfw no gf
:’(

>tfw getting jacked from lifting...
:)
>...so my favorite sweaters don’t fit anymore
:’(

Bonus round:
>tfw no gf
:’(

>>14759713
What do you mean? Despite how you may feel about it, dating sites are just for hookups. Yeah people can meet their wives on tinder, but that's when a one night stand turns out well or they happen to click instantly. People may be willing to have something more but no one goes into thinking that anyone they talk to could be relationship material, especially not women who can literally have tens/hundreds of matches daily.
I don't get what you're saying. You're a guy and don't have a Chad personality so need to dumb it down to get laid? Girls don't want to invest in a more complex personality when you try to get to know someone in one conversation? You're a chick and need to dumb yourself down for guys to be attracted to you? Fuck off if it's the latter