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Does anyone ever get sick and tired of cooking for everyone and being the only only who cooks in the house?
I cook 2 separate meals because his 19 year old son is picky.

>how to encourage boyfriend to learn cooking

>inb4 whore roastie.

>> No.16401700

>>16401693
Making 2 separate meals is retarded. If his faggot kid won’t eat what you make let him make his own dinner

>> No.16401706

>>16401693
Make the 19 year old cook his own shit if he doesn't like yours. He's fucking 19, not 9.

>> No.16401708

stop letting people walk over you. this world is filled with lazy wasteoids and giving them fuel enables it further, kind of like food stamps. don't be food stamps

>> No.16401719

>>16401693
>2 separate meals
why would you ever subject yourself to that?

>> No.16401720

>>16401693
At 19 that boy should be grateful to have a place to stay, let alone someone else preparing food. Make him pay rent if he's gonna be a cunt

>> No.16401725

>>16401720
This is part of the reason USA is failing. Their elites support their children until establishment while convincing the underclass that children need to be tossed out of the nest and make it on their own. It's an impressive deception.

>> No.16401731

>>16401693
He's 19! Fuck sake, I am so tired of this infantilizing of fucking adults! People can vote at 18, people can have sex at 18, people are responsible for their own decisions at 18, and they can cook their own goddamn food at 18!

And yes, women are mostly to blame for this coddling bullshit so knock it off!

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16401737

>>16401700
>>16401706
>>16401708

He has tried to cook but he makes a huge mess, takes him 3 hours to make the simplest foods like pasta and doesn't clean up after himself. It's easier on me if I just cook for him because I can clean up straight away.

I sometimes fantasise about him saying "I've got dinner covered tonight so don't worry about cooking after work"
Is this unrealistic?
I'm always asking thinking about their meals each day, they would just get burgers or pizza if I don't cook.
I was raised in a gender roles based home so I'm not sure if I'm being too feminist or whatever.

>> No.16401741

>>16401737
You can't force them to cook. If they dont want to cook and you dont want them to cook let them get fat on burgers

>> No.16401746

>>16401693
Tits or gtfo whore roastie

>> No.16401747

>>16401737
It is sadly unrealistic, though not impossible. Do a value check - is the father of this 19 year old your husband or husband to be? If so, cooking should be a joy for your family, not one where you secretly dream of reciprocity. In that world, your partner and his son will help you in other ways (if they don't, that's another matter entirely) and this can be a sacrifice you make for them.

If these are just roommates? I'd learn to set boundaries even if its harder on you at first. I'd learn to set them anyway, but you do you.

>> No.16401753

>>16401737
Is it a compromise you are willing to put up with in exchange for other things the father provides? Can you get the father to do something about it, even by using your women's power by withholding sex? If not, dump them and move on. A fucking adult you have no relationship with should not be your responsibility.

>> No.16401776

>>16401693
talk it over and either all 3 agree compromise (otherwise it'd be concession) or all 3 agree stop playing the 1 guy serves all game

>> No.16401788

>>16401737
>>16401693
he can't learn if he doesnt get any practice
you babying him is the absolute worst you could do
either
a. let him figure out how to cook, tell him to clean up after himself
b. actually put in the time and effort and TEACH him how to cook and clean up after himself
c. tell him to stop being a little bitch and eat whatever slop you serve

DESU I can't even blame you that much in this situation because it seems the dad failed at raising his son if he's like this at 19, on the other hand most kids are like this nowadays so maybe my expectations are just off.

>> No.16401792

>>16401693
I’m also a housewife and no, I’m not sick of cooking because its one of the few things I do that gives me any sort of positive response from people. However I’m cooking for my own children and not some other whore’s child so the dynamic is different.

>> No.16401984

>>16401792

I'm not a housewife. I work full time and also run a business so my plate is already full so to speak. They both work too, it's just the bulk of cooking and cleaning is on me.

I guess I can teach him cooking.

I do coddle him because he's such a good boy otherwise. Maybe asking for a few nights off cooking will help give me that break.

>> No.16401990

>>16401693
>Does anyone ever get sick and tired of cooking for everyone and being the only only who cooks in the house?
No. I live alone. I don't think at this point in my life I could tolerate living with another person either.

>> No.16401992

>>16401693
>Whore living with a man that has an adult son.
You've got bigger issues than cooking, you adulterous jezebel.

>> No.16401997

>>16401992
You sound jealous femon.

>> No.16402003

>>16401997
I'm a man, you dolt.

>> No.16402012

>>16401984
Hold up, you work full time and do the housework? What have the jews done to your country? I used to work full time as a nurse before I had kids, but you can’t expect to raise functional human beings without having someone at home full time.

>> No.16402013

>>16401792
Based.

>> No.16402034

>>16401737
you're not "too feminist" about it, the situation just sucks for you.

Convincing people to learn something they have no interest in is incredibly hard already and even you somehow manage to convince them to try to cook, the results will be so fucking bad you'll be doing the cooking on your own again within a week.

It's probably best to just accept that you're the chef in the house and negotiate with your boyfriend and his son to take over some other duty like cleaning or whatever, so at least you won't have to do that.

>> No.16402050
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16402050

why are women so lazy?
why are their middle-aged women here?
why do they say they can't do the dishes or vacuum while they post here?

>> No.16402303

>>16401693
This thread has provided me with a lot of great filters.

As your your situation OP, maybe consider asking for a bit of help? Then step it up gradually.

>> No.16402305

>>16401693
MOMMY plz just 1 gibs them milkszor

>> No.16402312

>>16401792
Holy fucking based i think I love you

>> No.16402557

>>16401737
it's normal for a household to have a dedicated cook, doesn't have to be male or female. if the dedicated cook role is getting stuck on your shoulders, you can either do it or not.

>> No.16402566

>>16402012
I don't have children. He has one child from a previous marriage.

>>16402034
I had a talk to them and they are happy to take care of dinner 2 nights a week, I'm happy with the arrangement :)

>>16402050
I'm sorry. I'm probably too old to be visiting 4chan every now and then. I'll be 30 this year and here I am.. posting on this site still.

>> No.16402621

My dad would tell me that “I don’t care that you don’t like it, you’re going to eat it because it’s infront of you”

Tell your picky eater to get a sack for godsake.

>> No.16403119

any females in this thread pls be in usa

>> No.16403125

>>16402566
>Cohabitating with a man at least 10 years your senior.
>His son is probably closer in age to you.
>Acting like you're "too mature" to be posting here.
Gosh, you're a dumb whore.

>> No.16403160

>>16401693
most males who can't cook worth a damn are pretty insufferable, but most who can are as well. it's a topsy turvy world we livy inny

>> No.16403209

>>16401693
Drop that dude and be my gf instead. Sure I'm 27 and still trying to finish college despite being shit at it. I'm also an alcoholic, but I can cook. When not drunk, feeling too stressed about school, and not depressed. But at least I don't have a 19 year old son.

>> No.16403222

>>16401737
You can think of simple, easy to do meals that he can eat.
I am a picky eater and I can eat the same thing every day as long as I like the dish. I cook about half of my own meals and the other half I’m too lazy to make them myself, but I prefer my own because I make them to my personal taste.

>> No.16403307

>>16401737
He's a fucking adult he should be able to properly cook unless he's retarded like his picky son, he's propably just pretending to suck at it to force you to cook, just refuse to cook until he gets his shit together, or just cook for yourself and let him figure it out. If they just eat pizza then they're the ones who're are gonna get diabetes, not you. You have nothing to lose from letting him fend for himself like the god damn adult he is. By the way making a separate meal for a picky kid is retarded as fuck, how the hell is he gonna learn to apreciate other food if you feed him chicken nuggies all the time, he's 19 if he refuses to eat then just make fun of him for being an autist, that worked on my brother
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kwLDOOze7Uk

>> No.16403330

>>16401693
pussy embargo until boyfriend will do dishes

>> No.16403348

>>16401693
>>how to encourage boyfriend to learn cooking
One recipe at a time, really, then they have the experience. Ask for help while you're working in a non-obvious way.
Start easy mode
Would you open that bagged salad and toss with the dressing packet for me, tongs in the 2nd drawer, then hit it with some cracked pepper? Doable tasks.
Open the wine bottle for us, let me show you hot to keep your eye
Watch these items under the broiler while I set the table.
Check the grill while I finish the sides. Here's a bowl of chimmichurri sauce to baste with. Flip over those mushrooms while you're out there.
Little stuff, and eventually he has recipes under his belt. Be positive. If he doesn't enjoy it because you're grateful, pleased and complimentary, don't even bother making it just another chore for him. Eventually, this person can clean and prick potatoes to microwave, pinching them for doneness and adding time.

Alternately, teach his son, and get him to like real food as a consequence.

>> No.16403494

>>16403119
Sorry I'm a married housewife :/
East coast tho if that helps

>> No.16403518

>>16401984
How much rent is the 19 year old man paying to justify you going to that much work?

>> No.16403522

>>16403494
Are you implying that you want to have an affair?

>> No.16403540

>>16402566
lol based 19 year old tricking a 30 year old whore retard with a daddy complex into cooking 2 meals.
I wonder how fucking fat you are?

>> No.16403544

>>16403522
Nah, just like cooking and entertaining guests I guess

>> No.16403545

>>16401693
>his 19 year old son is picky
Stop cooking special meals for a picky autist. Also, tell him to stop being a lazy fuck. Some people are terminally unable to cook but most people can at least help. Make him your sous chef and tell him he can either contribute or fuck off. Be a man, silly female.

>> No.16403547

>>16403544
>entertaining guests I guess
I bet you do. ;)

>> No.16403569

>>16403547
I've been told I make a pretty good rack o' ribs

>> No.16403575

>>16403569
Yeah, I bet your rack is pretty good.

>> No.16403579

>>16403569
You saucy little wench. ;)

>> No.16403580

>>16401693
Why couldn’t you just pretend to be gay? Why do feel it’s important to specify being a femoid?

>> No.16403586

>>16403580
Gotta man up otherwise

>> No.16403674

>>16403494
do you have any single likeminded friends or sisters that you could set me up with?

>> No.16403703

>>16403674
Most women can be taught if you go about it the right way. Just have to learn to stop looking in all the wrong places.

>> No.16403715

>>16403674
>>16403703
Or I guess I should rather say, most women like to be taken care of, but you have to make them think it was at least partially their idea. Don't settle for slackers though. No need in having a wife who doesn't at least pull her share. Don't want to come home from work to unkept house and Top Ramen

>> No.16403727

>>16403715
Women are absolutely fucked in the head and vacillate wildly between a neurotic compulsion for being needed (I.e. mothering instinct) or wanting to be completely independent because “they aren’t appreciated enough” - meanwhile they’re usually trying to go about being appreciated by acting like total cunts - as if that would help at all. Top it all off they get their knickers wet when someone “acts manly”, while they try to justify this as being some pseudo-evolutionary compulsion that doesn’t go against their strong-willed compulsion for independence from the penis.

You may as well talk to a schizo on /x/ for a crash course on dealing with women. It’s fucking malarkey.

>> No.16403783

>>16403727
You experiences with women aren’t normal. Most women do not act like that. Are you from a ghetto perhaps?

>> No.16403791

>>16403783
I live in Southern California, I think that qualifies as the ghetto of California.

>> No.16403797

I wonder how many of the people ITT claiming to be housewives are actually trans.
It's my all-time fetish to rail a mature trans housewife in the kitchen.

>> No.16403798

>>16403791
My condolences. However you live in northern Mexico, a poverty stricken POC country. The behavior you described doesn’t happen frequently in white chrisitan america.

>> No.16403812

>>16403798
They’re coming for you, one batch of high schoolers at a time, they’re coming lad…

>> No.16403818

>>16401737
>"I've got dinner covered tonight so don't worry about cooking after work"
>Is this unrealistic?
Incredibly unless you start giving him handjobs on the sly, your his dads girlfriend not his mother, he doesn't have to do shit for you

>> No.16403820

>>16403703
>>16403715
Where do I find women. How do I do what you said
I have autism, I'd love to one day have a family, but it seems more and more unlikely

>> No.16403825

>>16401693
um
Post tits or gtfo
is everyone ITT a newfag or what?

>> No.16403832

>>16403820
Mental illness is trendy now.

>> No.16403841
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16403841

>>16401693
>undescribably based NEET makes stepmommy make tendies for him after already making dinner
whore BTFO

>> No.16403883

>>16401725
its a debt scam.
kick your kids out at 18 with no support so they have to turn to loans and debt slavery.

>> No.16403922

>>16401720
>>16401725
>>16403883
Kek, get a load of these NEETs. That’s not why your parents kicked you out, it’s because you were a good for nothing retard that didn’t want to get off his ass.

The reality is most parents are caught completely off guard by the concept of actually having to use mental power to raise and teach another human being. Thus, instead of doing any form of research or personal growth in order to be a good parent, they fall back directly into the parenting methods of their parents. The result is that the evolution of parenting is falling far behind the evolution of the world economy; I.e. parents who were in the 60’s-80’s kicked out of home and made it in life without too much trouble believe this will be the only way to teach your child.
The worlds economy is much harsher now. Escaping the poverty cycle is closer to how it was 120 years ago than it was 40 years ago. Drug use is rampant and sexual predators are profusely invading the spaces of normal young people to find the vulnerable.

Just consider that 60 years ago, your grandparents were lucky if they were even taught enough chemistry to grasp the concept of H2O in high school. These people raised your parents, and you will raise your children. It’s a cycle and the only way to change it is through personal growth and a deep understanding of the meaning behind having a child. Most people fall extremely short of this, and in one way or another abuse/neglect their children.

>> No.16403948

>>16401737
Start a big cooking project like a week's meal prep and get him to assist? Pretend you need a man to handle something like a barbecue? Some people don't cook because they 'don't know how' and just need to see that they can do it. But others don't cook because they don't care.
The male answer is to unask the question. You're not going to change or fix your partner. Just don't cook for people if they don't appreciate the favor.

>> No.16404120

>>16403841
>19 year old NEET
>29 whore stepmommy

Oh yeah, you just know what comes next

>> No.16404132

>>16403922
This is sadly true. The only silver lining is that with abortion, unplanned pregnancies will go down so these NEETs who were aborted at 18 years old won’t pass on their lack of parenting to the next gen

>> No.16404203

>>16401693
It gets old. My wife's nights to cook she just orders something. I don't care if what she makes is mediocre, I just appreciate the effort.

>> No.16405133

>>16403922
didn't read that wall of text
whore still hasn't shown tits so this thread is shit

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>>16401737
>and doesn't clean up after himself.

Make him. At the very least, YOU don't clean it. Ever. And if you're told to, get the fuck out of the relationship. You're a partner, not a slave. Stand the fuck up for yourself. Your not this cunt's mother, you're not dealing with a child.

Frankly, your partner's failure to raise his child to be a fucking responsible adult is a red flag.

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>>16405141
>Make him. At the very least, YOU don't clean it. Ever. And if you're told to, get the fuck out of the relationship. You're a partner, not a slave. Stand the fuck up for yourself. Your not this cunt's mother, you're not dealing with a child.
>Frankly, your partner's failure to raise his child to be a fucking responsible adult is a red flag.

>> No.16405159

>>16405147
Are you the 19 year old son?

>> No.16405167

>>16405159
i fucking wish

>> No.16405180

>>16401693
While not entirely on topic for this board, I'll humor you OP.
Growing up, I learned to love cooking with my mother, who was very happy to have my company and assistance. Now, I don't like cooking alone, I always get my wife to at least chill in the kitchen with me if she doesn't feel like helping.
I recommend trying to get them to help you in the kitchen, or at least hang out and watch. I'm sure your BF will probably enjoy it and you'd likely manage to get his son interested as well. Start out with simple tasks for them, like having them do prep work such as cutting vegetables. Explain what you're doing and how to do it properly and they'll catch on.
With your BF's son though, what with how he doesn't clean up after himself, you're just going to have to talk to both of them about it. Cleaning up after you cook is ridiculously quick and easy. I myself clean before I even sit down to eat, takes 5 minutes max.

>> No.16405211

I'll say three things. If you really like cooking and feel the need to make a home cooked meal every night, that's on you, not them.

Two, people should be responsible for their own food. You make yours, your boyfriend feeds himself. and doesn't need to "learn cooking," burgers and pizza are fine if he wants that.

Three. The 19 year old needs to learn some self sufficiency. Stop cooking for him if you're going to make something. My parents stopped cooking large family meals before I was 10 years old. They'd buy me things or heat up a quick meal, but we never ate together, and your food was your responsibility. It's the way it should be.

>> No.16405223

>>16405180
I feel bad for your wife. And it's absurd to believe that OP's boyfriend and son will be interested in busy work putting together a meal. Ridiculous.

>> No.16405237

>>16405223
Almost sounds like you don't enjoy cooking or something, Anon.

>> No.16405246

>>16405237
Nope, I sure don't. It's tedious. Food is good, though.

>> No.16405330

>>16405180
Lmao

>> No.16405345

>>16405211
The absolute state of wagie-class families lol. Everything you said is wrong.

>> No.16405430

>>16401693
You people are sick. A young man and his father should not share a woman like that.
degenerates.

>> No.16405436

>>16401693
Do you work? If not, it’s your duty to prepare the family meal. If you do work, are you the primary breadwinner of the house? If not, it is still your duty to prepare the family meal.

>> No.16405510

>>16402003
Dick or gtfo

>> No.16405608

>>16401737
>"I don't like this!"
>lie down and take it instead of acting like a fucking parent
Yeah, you deserve what you get.

>> No.16405610

>my boyfriend's 19 year old son
this is a troll thread

>> No.16405684

>>16401693
>cooking 2 dishes just because someone is a picky eater
I sincerely hope one of those dishes is an empty plate. Seriously, have some self respect, he's 19 years old ffs. Tell him to cram some KFC into his cakehole paid for by his own money or whatever

>> No.16405690

>>16401792
Based and womanpilled

>> No.16405707

>>16401693
Make him do the prep work, and just do the cooking. Slowly he'll get the skills to fend for himself. 6 months in tell him to cook for himself.

>> No.16405792

>>16402566
How the FUCK can a 30yo woman date a man who is old enough to have a 19yo son? You should be dating the son.

>> No.16405794

>>16401693
W
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R O A S T I E
E

>> No.16405946

>>16403832
no, saying you have mental illness is trendy
nobody wants an actual retard or a schizo

>> No.16406009

>>16405147
You know if they made that post on any site it wouldn't change the value of what they said.
If doesn't seem like you have any opinion about it yourself, or would've done more than greentext and post some image.

>> No.16406019

>>16403818
They live in the same house together. Yes, he should do something. Your take is stupid.

>> No.16406157

>>16406019
That doesnt make her in charge. Mans house, mans rules. Both the son, who shouldn't even be there at 19, and the mans wife should listen to the man.

>> No.16406630

>>16406157
>who shouldn't even be there at 19
Tell me how I know you’re a lower class american

>> No.16406638

>>16401737
Are you a boomer? If not you know the rules...

>tits or gtfo

>> No.16406643

>>16401693
ywnbaw

>> No.16406680

>>16402050

Shut the fuck up zoomer the oldfags are in their 30s and 40s now. Get the fuck off my website. We were here first.

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16407022

>>16405794
/thread
>>16406009
yeah, culture impacts what you say where you say it
around here, tits or gtfo
you want to spend 20 minutes giving shitty advice to a whore then you know where you belong

>> No.16408739

since this is /ck/ atleast you can cover your tits with an apron and a timestamp.
You are all fags for entertaining some LARP, the rules are here to be followed.

>> No.16410272

>>16401693
19-year-old son should have left home, and shouldn't have been allowed special snowflake meals in the first place. Stop making them.

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>his son

>> No.16410477

>>16401693
I've cooked almost every meal since I was 15. Eventually you should build a repoitoir of fast dishes and then its no issue. The issue for me is I really can't deal with imperfection when I cook, so I have no choice but to be nice when people cook for me.

>> No.16410679

>>16401737
He can't be this bad, have you tried his raw sausage?

>> No.16410728

>>16401693
Reward him with a blowjob or something

>> No.16412320

>>16402050
>why are their middle-aged women here
I'm a dude in my late 30's that started coming here as a teenager

>> No.16412353

>>16403715
Let me give you some personal insight on the matter.

I've been with my wife for 10 years now. We met in high school, and I got her pregnant.
She is and always has been a lazy person and a shit cook. I wouldn't even mind eating shit food if she at least made it on time. But she rarely did.

We'd get into screaming arguments constantly about how lazy and worthless she was. I felt like an asshole for it, but goddamn she was a real piece of work. The only reason I dealt with all this was for the kids, and also because the sex is great.

But one night, I got fed up. Not only did she get drunk, neglect the kids, and made me top Ramen for dinner, but she decided to give me attitude too. She was being real fucking bitchy. So I told my grandparents to keep an eye on the kids and told my wife we were going to go out and have dinner together. I drove maybe 3 blocks to a quiet area (we live in Oregon, it's not hard to find a quiet field) and I got out of the car, went around like I was going to open her door for her and let her out, and I just beat the shit out of her while she was still seatbelted. After a few punches, I asked her if she wanted to go back to her parents. She started screaming and yelling and said yes, so I beat the shit out of her again. Then I asked her what she wanted to do. She finally got smart and said she wanted to go home. So I took her home and dared her to start trouble. I even handed her my cellphone and dialed her mom's number on the drive home. I made her talk to her mom, while daring her to fucking say something.

Before that incident, I had never laid a hand on her. But I had always threatened it. I told her "one of these days, if you don't straighten up, I'm going to lay hands on you."

All my meals have been on time, and she just recently tried to make a meatloaf. It was mediocre, but I was just thrilled that she tried.

Do with this information what you will.

>> No.16412374

>>16405792
You really think a 19 year old dude dating a 30 year old woman is less strange than a 30 year old women dating a 40 year old man? Women tend to date older men dude even if it's just by a few years. I don't know many that date radically younger men.

>> No.16412386

>>16402050
I'm a dude in my mid 30s. You've been posting with manchildren this entire time, dude. This might come as a shock to you if you emigrated from /v/.

>> No.16413339

>>16412353
Nice pasta.

>> No.16413398

>>16401693
I have to cook maybe 5 times a week because my mum cant cook for shit
legit is making me want to leave the house

>> No.16413458

>>16401737
Dump him. He raised his son to be pathetic because he is pathetic. How much must you hate yourself to be with him?

>> No.16413592

>>16412374
Most older women i know date young toyboys.

>> No.16413646

>>16401737
Feed him apples every day.
If he has the cooking skills of an animal he can eat like one. Being a frugivore is trendy.