/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

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Anonymous Sun Nov 6 06:14:36 2016 No.9246674 [Reply] [Original]

How do I make friends at a con without coming off as as creepy or desperate?

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 6 06:19:27 2016 No.9246680 >>9246674 You don't.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 6 06:51:41 2016 No.9246705 >>9246674 Be attractive. Failing that, be well-groomed but not formal to the point where you're wearing a suit and fedora without it being cosplay.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 6 06:56:12 2016 No.9246708 >>9246674 Post in the forum before the con, volunteer, go to anything interactive. Take photos and post them afterwards on the con FB, asking people to tag themselves. It's a process.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 6 07:05:39 2016 No.9246713 File: 51 KB, 899x692, ingress_SkipAway_dangerous.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] Ingress's SkipAway 'PIG-MAN'.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 6 07:42:31 2016 No.9246747 Don't be creepy or desperate

Anonymous Sun Nov 6 11:55:04 2016 No.9246956

Cons are a great place to meet people. Don't go in with the intention of meeting a "friend" or even worse a "girlfriend" or "boyfriend." You're just there to spend a weekend with other people who share a similar interest. A good cosplay is a great conversation starter. Figure out if there are local communities or meetup groups in your area and start hanging out more often. People often don't become friends on their first meeting.

Anonymous Sun Nov 6 17:57:13 2016 No.9247279
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Talk to someone. If they don't show much interest back, immediately stop talking to them, you're wasting your time.

I've known women who get extremely upset when a man just says "I like your earings". Honestly, its not you, its them.

Anonymous Sun Nov 6 20:17:44 2016 No.9247465

>>9246674
Start up a conversation with people that seem to have the same interests as you, and if they give off signals that they are uncomfortable or busy or whatever, say you hope they have a good time, it was nice talking to them, and then walk away and try with someone else. Don't force small talk on people that aren't interested, its annoying and comes off badly.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 6 21:40:01 2016 No.9247528 >>9246674 >>9246705 >>9246747 >>9246956 It is impossible. Usually it happens on its own, like this guy who was such a bro and I shared with him some Pockys and played Smash Bros. Never saw him again.

>>	Anonymous Mon Nov 7 00:31:25 2016 No.9247657 Try not to let your psychopathic tendency get to you and don't steal anyone's hands

>>	Anonymous Mon Nov 7 00:33:50 2016 No.9247660 >>9246680 fpbp

>>	Anonymous Mon Nov 7 03:11:08 2016 No.9247760 File: 9 KB, 186x270, 2016-10-08-19-59-55-1394748137.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>9247657 Yeah this is good advice

>>	Anonymous Mon Nov 7 15:00:40 2016 No.9248226 Talking from experience, DO NOT EVER TRY TO GET TO KNOW TO A GIRL BY MISTAKING HER WITH A FRIEND OF YOURS.

>>	Anonymous Tue Nov 8 12:58:59 2016 No.9249400 >>9248226 Who the hell thinks that's a better way to approach someone than just saying hi?

Anonymous Tue Nov 8 15:27:21 2016 No.9249569

It's all about experience and you don't sound like you have much. Everyone is a little awkward before they become a ~social butterfly~. Just keep practising on people, start little conversations with people while waiting in line or in the elevator or whatever. Lots of super awkward people talk to me at cons but I'm always nice to them back out of politeness. I think cons are one of the best places to talk to people because there are so many conversation starters.

"Hey I love your cosplay! Did you see last week's episode?"
"I'm so excited for this panel. I can't wait to hear what they have to say about blah blah..."
"What is that prop made from? How long did that take you? Are you entering the masquerade this year?"
"Wow it's hot today, I'd hate to be a furry."

Whatever you say, just be genuine about it. The worst thing that could happen is that someone thinks you're a little weird and you don't speak again. The best thing that could happen is you start a really cool conversation, realise this person has the same interests and you have a friend to meet up with at future cons!

I met my boyfriend at a con and he was a complete dork haha. I'm sure I came across as one too.

Anonymous Wed Nov 9 16:37:33 2016 No.9250465

>>9249400
She really looked like a friend, so I thought it was a good idea.

Whatever, my advice it's to manage to get into cosplay groups, or groups of friends, just being friendly with one it's easy to get to know the others and maybe find someone who rathers being called friend

>>	Anonymous Wed Nov 9 20:50:24 2016 No.9250667 Meet ups are great. Just go, talk about your fandoms with people who are equally interested. Ask if they have cosplay pages or a twitter or IG you can follow, boom, you made a friend.

>>	Anonymous Thu Nov 10 02:20:08 2016 No.9250918 waiting in line (for badges, panels, merch lines, anything) is a great place to make friends since you both have nowhere else to be, are interested in the same event, and would both love to pass the time more quickly

>>	Anonymous Fri Nov 11 08:52:24 2016 No.9251867 >>9250667 This. I've made some really lasting friends this way. You literally already have a conversation topic (the fandom you're both interested in) so it's much easier.

Anonymous Fri Nov 11 23:15:24 2016 No.9252368

>>9247279
>Talk to someone. If they don't show much interest back, immediately stop talking to them, you're wasting your time.

this is terrible advice. all you're going to end up doing that way is throwing away all introverts, most middle-of-the-roaders, and basically anyone who isn't mental illness-tier extroverted who "loves" strangers they've literally just met and will drop just as fast.

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 13 01:23:02 2016 No.9253418 >>9252368 I guess the better advice would be to try to learn the difference between someone who is awkward or bored of you.

Anonymous Sun Nov 13 01:56:24 2016 No.9253446

I think the best place to try to make friends is the game room. Especially with tabletop games, just try and find some people who wanna play the same game as you or join in on a game that needs more people. The game itself can be used as a great icebreaker and then you can ask "So what panels have you been to?" "Is this your first time at X con?" "Oh my gosh, did you see X cosplay?" etc, etc

>>	Anonymous Sun Nov 13 02:32:19 2016 No.9253466 >>9246956 This. Just talk to people. Biggest thing about making a friend proper is simple follow-up and meeting with them outside of the con, no one is going to become real friends over a single weekend.

Anonymous Sun Nov 13 12:14:27 2016 No.9253811

Haven't made any long-lasting friends but I will say its a super ego-boosting and gratifying experience to ask a qt girl to dance at a con ball. I frequent Sakura-Con and while the masquerade ball is hit-or-miss, it's a low-stress way to make a girl's night.

The music they play often works for some east coast swing, foxtrot, or a slow waltz. With the confidence behind my mask it's easy to approach a lonely-looking girl and ask if she knows how to waltz. Usually they don't, so I make small talk and teach her a few steps so we can dance for a song or two before thanking her and moving on. Seeing a doe-eyed girl stutter out her thank-yous makes my feel like some sort of suave alpha-lesbian that I know I'm not outside of the dance floor.

Anonymous Mon Nov 14 03:19:19 2016 No.9254732

>>9253811
>Haven't made any long-lasting friends but I will say its a super ego-boosting and gratifying experience to ask a qt girl to dance at a con ball. I frequent Sakura-Con and while the masquerade ball is hit-or-miss, it's a low-stress way to make a girl's night.
>The music they play often works for some east coast swing, foxtrot, or a slow waltz. With the confidence behind my mask it's easy to approach a lonely-looking girl and ask if she knows how to waltz. Usually they don't, so I make small talk and teach her a few steps so we can dance for a song or two before thanking her and moving on. Seeing a doe-eyed girl stutter out her thank-yous makes my feel like some sort of suave alpha-lesbian that I know I'm not outside of the dance floor.

This, even though half of the girls I waltzed and swinged with are taken, it is a hell lot more easier to socialize than raves

>>	Anonymous Mon Nov 14 03:48:55 2016 No.9254782 >>9254732 People go to raves to socialize? Wuht?

>>	Anonymous Mon Nov 14 03:49:54 2016 No.9254784 File: 20 KB, 480x360, mlady.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>9253811 >>9254732 >>"Excuse me m'lady, would you like to waltz?"

>>	Anonymous Mon Nov 14 14:24:25 2016 No.9255235 >>9254784 It's about having a prime social spot to meet new people. It's what your parents told you when you were younger

>>	Anonymous Tue Nov 15 01:48:12 2016 No.9256054 >>9254782 Generally if I stick around until the end of the rave I get a couple invites to some room parties. Of course you can't socialize AT the rave, it's way too loud!

>>	Anonymous Tue Nov 15 01:56:16 2016 No.9256064 1: Be attractive 2: Don't be unattractive

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