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Confess your sins and be set free!

>> No.10637412

If my crush lives in a different country now should I still tell them how I feel

>> No.10637413

>>10637412
I ended up marrying my initially long distance partner, so yes

>> No.10637419

I want to say that so many lolitas are fucking batshit insane and ruthlessly judgemental to feed their superiority complexes but then again I routinely want to choke the majority of gulls here and see them suffer for their rudeness so I can't be much better can I

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>>10637419
Sometimes I feel the same, but you need to remember that online =/= real life. There are batshit people out there but for the most part everyone is civil IRL. Never forget that the internet can exaggerate things a lot. Don't take it all so seriously.

>> No.10637433

>>10637430
True, it just reminds me that people are actually this way but they only show it on the internet because they don't want to face irl consequences.

>> No.10637437

I'm still upset that the girl who started Lor's likegate faced zero repercussions.

>> No.10637439

>>10637419
No, you are.

>> No.10637441

>>10637407
Insensitive to First Nations folx today, eh?

>> No.10637447 [DELETED] 

>>10637419
This entire board is cancer. Somehow 4chan managed to get a board full of femcels that spend all their money on overpriced brand name merc just like hypebeasts. If this board replaced the words scrote and roastie with jew it would be just as awful if not worse than /pol/

>> No.10637457

>>10637412
yes. absolutely.
if you truly love one another you'll find a way.

>> No.10637459

>>10637441
Good lord shut the fuck up

>> No.10637463

>>10637447
KEK comparing it to /pol/ is going a tad far friend

>> No.10637464

>>10637437
I know right? I'm not even the biggest fan of Lor but it is so dumb that this person managed to get that big of a mob riled up over a like. People take social media wayyyy too seriously.

>> No.10637465

I have a fungal nail infection that hasn’t responded to treatment and I sold my secondhand socks on LaceMarket.

>> No.10637469

>>10637464
The person who started the whole thing was a shit stirrer herself. Her circle of friends were the itas in EGL Wall of Shame and loud Twitter SJWs. And it's as if she knew she was trying to get Lor cancelled because her friends made it clear they didn't like Lor.

Then she deleted her social media to avoid backlash and no one batted an eye. I don't fucking understand.

>> No.10637477

>>10637465
This has to be bait there's always one person saying this occasionally in threads

>> No.10637479

it's dumb to post outfits on the ita thread that are clearly not even attempting to be lolita, even if it shows up in a lolita or lolita-adjacent tag

your random ethot or goth kid who tagged their shit #lolitafashion and a bunch of other high-engagement tags does not belong in the ita thread

also whoever keeps going through the brand tags to find non-lolita outfits to post to the ita thread needs to cool their jets

>> No.10637485

>>10637437
Who is it?

>> No.10637490

>>10637485
Fuck off newfag

>> No.10637492

>>10637477
Same person same fungus that just won't quit.

>> No.10637506

>>10637490
I don't know what started it, all I saw was Lor apologising fifty times for accidentally liking a stupid post.

>> No.10637508

my comm leader wears the pink dress proudly

>> No.10637513

>>10637447
>cgl lolitas are hypebeasts

You're right and I will never be able to forget this comparison.

>> No.10637521

>>10637447
>buying things at full price
kek

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I think he’s gross, I hate his fetish shit and it being associated with jp brands BUT I genuinely like Trevor Brown’s artstyle. He has pretty good skill and some of his art is stunning. I even own some postcards of his sfw art. I love collecting art in general but I can separate art from artist. Some people can’t though.

>> No.10637532

>>10637441
Pope mana?

>> No.10637533

>>10637524
>I can separate art from artist. Some people can’t though.
Because the artist gets paid for the art.

>> No.10637534

>>10637533
This. I like Picasso and he was a pedo creep too but he’s dead so he doesn’t benefit when I buy prints at museums.

>> No.10637535

>>10637533
Not if you buy it second hand or are an art thief. It’s easy to screw over artists these days.

>> No.10637554

>>10637463
Literally compare how people hate men/women to how pol hates jews. You will see it. In another 5 years this board can easily become pol 2.0.

>> No.10637557

>>10637447
Cry somewhere else you whiney man-child.

>> No.10637559

>>10637508
I want to believe in my heart of hearts that she does it ironically.

>> No.10637565

>>10637554
Pol hates jews, blacks, women, gays and everyone else who isn't them lmao. You're comparison is pure autsim please neck yourself

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>>10637565
>Please neck yourself autsim.

>> No.10637594

>>10637567
>wojack meme
Like I said.

>> No.10637597

>>10637559
having seen her fashion sense outside of lolita, i dont think its ironic bro

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anybody else accidentally clicked on this board and now think lolitas have this haunting kind of beauty to them?

i think we share a few things in common:
1. we're both autistic
2 im a degenerate gambler who's lost thousands of dollars to shitcoins, and them on overpriced shit.

>> No.10637603

>>10637441
Uhhh... what? Get lost faggot.

>> No.10637611

>>10637437
Same. I can't stand Lor. But that whole mess was completely retarded. I hope the woke mob goes after that girl. I hope she has a public meltdown. I can't stand these SJWs with their fake outrage... no one was hurt by a stupid accidental like. No one is that weak. No one actually cared. She was just an opportunist looking to score woke points... I hate that entire situation more than anything.

>> No.10637614

>>10637565
This sounds nice :)

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>>10637447
/pol/ here. We heard that. This place is way worse, and I’m never coming back.

>> No.10637642

Sometimes I like buying stained dresses so I can fix them.

Fuck fading though.

>> No.10637644

>>10637642
I do this but with kumyas and other accessories. I know accidents can happen but at the same time I have no idea how some people can spend so much money on and item and not take care of it.

>> No.10637645

>>10637642
I do this too but with stretched out dresses. I'm very petite anyway so it's a good excuse for me to alter dresses without someone screaming that I'm committing a sin by altering brand since they're already "ruined"

>> No.10637656

>>10637642
I do this as well! It makes me feel so happy to restore something. I have bought so many cheap things and restored them and given them new life.

>> No.10637659

>>10637656
Ayrt and I think I get a sort of "high" from restoring value to something that someone else might have trashed.

>> No.10637715

>>10637659
I think I understand that. For me I just feel an overwhelming happiness. A have bought quite a few beautiful pieces that people just didn't know how to clean, or didn't even try to clean, I guess. And most of the time it has taken very little effort to restore the items... but even when it takes a while, I am always so happy to wear the items!

>> No.10637719

>>10637656
I would love some advice on restoring if anyone has any really good blog posts or anything?

>> No.10637750

>>10637719
I don't know anything like that. I literally just use what I know about cleaning clothing in general... So really any webpage about caring for stained or damaged clothing works.

>> No.10637779

>>10637477
>>10637492
You think its just bait but it isn’t. What’s wrong with coming to the confession thread to try and get absolution for my sins?

>> No.10637781

>>10637779
because it's retarded. people worrying about fungus on socks are retarded anyway, just wash them, it won't even survive in the mail.

>> No.10637787

>>10637642
Fading is no problem on one color items if you know how to use fabric dye! On that note, I have an AP jsk to get some black dye for...
Also yeah, it’s never a deterrent for me if an item has a sash that needs resewing or other small alterations. Basic mending feels like an essential skill to have if you want to make your items last longer.

>> No.10637832

>>10637787
larper piece of shit.

>> No.10637833

>>10637832
NTA but this is not uncommon in the community at all. Calm your tits.

>> No.10637837

>>10637832
Sorry you don't have basic mending skills anon.

>> No.10637858

>>10637781
Why then do they suggest people struggling with fungal foot infections replace their socks then? Tell me that anon.

>> No.10637863

>>10637832
Why…would you look down upon someone for fixing things?

>> No.10637886

>>10637781
Fungus can live for nearly a year on socks.

>>10637779
Y'know I thought it was bait because who would be so classless and disgusting to sell their infected socks for what? $10-20 to some poor unsuspecting gull but I guess you're really that repugnant.
May you catch syphilis from someone equally as uncaring about spreading sickness as you.

>> No.10637926

>>10637465
Fuck you, I think I got ringworm from secondhand socks. I hit them with laundry sanitizer but I can't think of how else I could have got it.

>> No.10637967

So I haven’t worn lolita is about 2.5 years and I think it was about 3 years before that. However I haven’t sold a single piece in that time. I still find myself buying items and adding to my collection. I love lolita and though I don’t have the time to wear it I still want to collect pieces and preserve them. It hurts me when I see people post picture of their items for sell and they are in horrible conditions. Stained, altered, missing pieces, it just hurts me. I feel like every item I have I can protect. Side note I do take cord picture and post them.

>> No.10638003

>>10637926
why wouldnt you just wash them like a normal person

>> No.10638006

>>10637967
>stained, altered, missing pieces
this is what happens naturally to clothes that are actually worn, collector-chan. some of us actually wear the things we buy and leave the house instead of letting them sit in a closet for 3 years unworn

>> No.10638008

>>10638006
Wash your clothes you dirty bitch

>> No.10638021

>>10638008
Alterations and missing items have nothing to do with washing your clothes, and some stains can’t be removed.

>> No.10638025

>>10638003
I did wash them, a few times, with laundry sanitizer added to the rinse cycle.

>> No.10638026

>>10638008
you want me to wash the alternations away? dumbass

>> No.10638028

>>10638021
>>10638026
>stained

>> No.10638030

>>10638028
washing only fixes one of the problems and that's only a maybe, but i'd rather wear my clothes out and deal with the possibility of them getting irreversibly stained than putting together floordinates and thinking that counts

>> No.10638035

>>10638030
I would never put my items on the floor. I sew so I have a dress form. I also have a special cover I put over it for extra protection. I’m an older lolita, started wearing in around 2008, and am
Not in my mid 30’s. I used to be a life style lolita so a lot of my older pieces did see a lot of wear but I took very good care of them. I wore lolita through the prime of my life and these dresses have a lot of sentimental value to them which is why I can’t seem to let them go.

>> No.10638036

>>10638035
Now in my mid 30’s*

>> No.10638040

>>10638035
Anon, mid-thirties is still in the prime of your life. You’re not 70 or something.

>> No.10638056

>>10638006
Sure if you don't take care of them

>> No.10638218

>>10638040
NTAYRT but I am currently 30 and predict I will no longer be able to pull off lolita past the age of 35.

>> No.10638247

My janny application got accepted, but a month after the acceptance was supposed to be sent out, and I saw it after 2 more months. Sorry gulls..

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>>10637656
>>10637642
How do you deal with the bleeding? Almost everytime I buy something old and dirty from japanese websites, especially when it's black or red, it massively bleeds everytime despite cold handwashing, which is a big problem if it has white lace. Color catchers only catch like 1/10 no matter how many I throw in.

>> No.10638253

I wish I was Asian

>> No.10638256

>>10637967
>I love the alternative fashion lolita
>man it hurts me when people actually wear it, cannot relate, better cage them in my closet for years
Sounds more like you like the feeling of owning instead the fashion.

>> No.10638260

My confession is that if you're posting people to the ita thread, I think you're a shit person, same for if you're looking at the ita thread and responding to the shit outfits. Same for vendettas. I don't care how fat, ugly, annoying or ita you think the person is, have the balls to say it to their face or not at all.
>inb4 sorry you got posted.
I have never been posted to the ita thread.

This does not apply to sissies, however. They do not deserve a lick of respect.

>> No.10638261

>>10637601
We have nothing in common. You think we 'lose' our money on dresses when we're indulging in a hobby and fashion we love. Your comparison shows you'd never understand.

>> No.10638262

>>10638260
Wdyt about people who go to the COF threads and talk shit then? Seems like the thread really exists to be catty rather than actually appreciate the cords anyway.

>> No.10638263

>>10638262
Same thing really. If you have concrit to give, don't be a pussy, give it to them on their post.
If they specifically say 'no concrit', then what is anyone bitching for? They're not going to take advice anyway. Anyone posting "concrit" on ceeg is a big loser.

If the coords on CoF are that bad that no one can say anything positive, why are we bothering with the thread?

>> No.10638266

>>10638260
>have the balls to say it to their face or not at all
I don't even know these people nor do I care enough to find out where they live, travel to them and tell them face to face that their coord looks awful.

>> No.10638270

>>10638266
She obviously meant replying to them in their cof post on fb not irl you dumbass

>> No.10638272

>>10638260
>I think you're a shit person if you're looking at the ita thread
>I have never been posted to the ita thread
Not that I don't agree but how do you know then?

>> No.10638274

>>10638260
Get the fuck off this board and cry about it on Twitter.

>> No.10638279

>>10638263
You're the ita that won the Bay Area's coordinate contest aren't you? You and all of your outfits belong in that thread. Go make more whiny tiktoks showing how unbothered you are.

>> No.10638282

>>10638263
nayrt but I do put concrit on coords on the CoF threads because I don't use CoF to even reply there desu and some of them religiously stalk here anyway

>> No.10638297

>>10638272
They said looking AND posting replies to shit on people's outfits/posting their outfits. Not just looking.

>> No.10638372

>>10638274
Nayrt but ooh you're offended. I'm guessing you sit on the ita thread all day posting newbs. I have to agree with OP, ita threads are long since cringe and if you post people you're probably boring. The ita threads and to a lesser extent the CoF thread are what makes people balk against using cgl as an actual resource.

>> No.10638382

>>10638372
>hurr durr I trolled you why you so mad
>procedes to make headcanons about posters to cope
Not even any of those anons but they're right. You twitterfags are parasites in the purest form.

>> No.10638420

>>10638035
sorry, *putting together coordinates on your dressform and thinking that's good enough
also there's nothing wrong with putting clothes on the floor as long as the floor is clean, which considering how anal you are about your clothes, shouldn't be a big deal right?

they're clothes. clothes are made to be worn. you're just a coward that's jealous that other people have the courage to actually wear their clothes outside and you don't, and that's why you're so upset when you see them damaged

t. also 30 that is still wearing OTT sweet

>>10638056
shit happens. you can trip and accidentally stain your dress, you could accidentally drop or misplace something and lose it. clothes incurring damage is a completely normal process of wearing the fashion, something stay-at-home covidlitas will never understand

>> No.10638447

>>10638372
I'm offended at how stupid you are. You sound unnecessarily mad about threads that have been on this board for the longest time. Keep seething about no one liking your shitty space bear dumpster fire coord.

>> No.10638452

>>10638251
Step 1: get a freshly cleaned bathtub, fill with cold water.
Step 2: add a gallon of white vinegar and as much ice as you can get your hands on. Adding color catchers can't hurt. Also hand washing laundry detergent.
Step 3: things tend to bleed when fabric makes contact with itself for a long period of time, so detach all bows and superfluous things that don't really need to be cleaned. You can sew them back on later. Throw the dress in the cold water and hand wash. Rinse in cold water as well
Step 5: roll up the garment in a towel and roll it tightly to pull out as much moisture as you can.
Step 6: lay out on a garment rack or anything with good airflow. Stuff paper towels into every nook and cranny to stop the fabric from touching itself and making a contact bleed. Blot dry with towels every suspected bleed area. Let it dry in a room with a fan running, rotating it every hour.

Overkill? Maybe, but it works.

T. Washed milky berry with no bleeds.

>> No.10638459

>>10638420
Oh please I've dropped plenty of food on my clothes, accidentally dipped princess sleeves in who knows what, smudged sunscreen/makeup, etc. And I still don't have any stains (yes even on my whites) because I know how to launder. Same goes for mending. I don't lose my waist ties either because I actually cherish my wardrobe.
Also, I'm a daily lolita so inb4
>I bet you don't even wear your lolita much!!!
It's not very difficult to take care of your things.

>> No.10638461

I value and think more highly of classic and gothic lolitas. I don't care how expensive your pastel vomit dress was, it's still a basic ass print on poly. Meanwhile, actual EGL have wardrobes of high quality fabrics, subtle and mature prints, and tailoring techniques that far exceed whatever sack dress AP is putting out this week.

>> No.10638462

>>10638461
BASED

>> No.10638473

>>10638218
Sounds like you’re just ugly desu

>> No.10638510

>>10638420
Based.

>>10638459
You're either larping or only a daily lolita for 1 or 2 years.

>> No.10638512

>>10638420
>clothes incurring damage is a completely normal process of wearing the fashion
You sound like someone who completely ruins their normie clothes too. I don't know what kind of klutz you are, but I still wear clothes I wore in high-school, they're all in great condition, and I'm 30.

>> No.10638520

>>10638459
The vast majority of the things that I have that are stained are damage from someone else because I bought it secondhand. I don't know how it was stained, how it was first treated, how old the stain is, and attempts to get out mystery stains aren't always fruitful. Stain remover pens work best when the stain is new, and oxiclean has a chance of ruining clothes too in a different way (fading prints, brightening entire garments etc). But I don't throw a fucking fit and keep my entire closet in plastic wrap for 3 years and cry about it, I accept it's part of the experience of buying secondhand clothing.

>>10638512
I, too, still have clothes from high school and am around the same age. You're missing the point. Shoes getting scuffed, pleather purses peeling, chiffon dresses having a run, a tea stain on the lace of your dress from 4 years ago you're just now noticing, this is what I'm talking about as normal things that happen when you wear clothes outside of your house instead of clingwrapped to a dressform. They are battle scars of happy clothes that live their purpose. I would rather wear a hole in the toe of my favorite pair of brand socks than put them in a glass box on display BNWT. Because again the point of clothes is to wear them.

>> No.10638544

>>10638510
Nayrt but why are you implying seasoned lolitas can't take care of their shit?

>> No.10638548

>>10638459
I’m a daily lolita and I really don’t understand how you have kept everything absolutely pristine, especially socks/leg wear. I take good care of my clothes but it’s inevitable for things to happen to them since I’m wearing them often. What are you suggesting I do to keep my AP tights pristine and without any signs of wear? Or my cardigans and cutsews without any pilling?

>> No.10638555

>>10638548
NTA but I think they're referring to stains and not general wear and tear.

>> No.10638561

>>10638548
For pilling use detergents with cellulase, don't use bleach or other harsh chemicals, I personally hand wash all my brand to prevent pilling and other damage, hang dry only, and buy a fuzz remover if you already have pilled clothing.

I don't own AP tights as I don't like AP so can't really say for that specific brand. I would suggest learning how to darn, though, since if you get good enough you can make any holes that appear completely disappear like they never happened. Mind you, I almost never wear print socks other than striped. Never wash in hot water. Ever. Always wash inside out. Once again, hang dry and gently wash. Always put all your clothes away promptly after wear and never bunch up your socks but lay them flat. Learn to stain remove and upkeep with whites/colors/blacks without using harsh chemicals.

I don't expect your clothes to be 100% perfect but if you take especially good care of them wear and tear shouldn't be very noticeable at all unless you've worn the same item for years upon years.

>> No.10638562

>>10638555
But yes, I was mostly referring to stains and losing items like waist ties. Simple mending helps a lot but nothing will be able to prevent the eventual wearing down of fabric that wear creates in time.

>> No.10638574

>>10638561
>unless you've worn the same item for years upon years.


Do you not do this? Wtf. I’ve had items in my wardrobe since 2006.

>> No.10638596

lolita has completely fucked me when it comes to shopping for normie and work clothes. i can't just go shopping at normal places, and i can't just buy something because it's "cute." i grew up lower middle class so that was my habit, to buy because it was cheap and looked okay on. now instead i autistically inspect its quality and end up putting everything back after trying it on because i'd rather spend a few thousand bucks on a really nice designer item. (inb4 modern lolita is shit quality, i know but it's better than popular trend-hopping places like idk.... forever 21 or papaya or whatever the hell).

i guess that's probably a good thing because it means i'm no longer a fast fashion consoomer, there was a really fucking cute cropped pleather jacket for $300 and it looked amazing on me but i had to put it back because i know i could probably get an YSL leather one that'll last me forever even if it's 10x the price. i don't even know what this feel or confession is. i wish i had shit taste i guess? it would make things a whole lot easier.

>> No.10638597

>>10638596
Just think about it this way, spending more money on actual quality items (I am not talking about designer stuff as I do not wear or care about it, just general nice quality clothing) may cost more, but it also lasts longer. So you could buy some "cute" thing from f21 for 25 bucks, or a nice quality linen dress for 150+ dollars, but the f21 dress will pill and feel uncomfortable or stretch or fall apart, any number of things that happens to cheap shitty clothing, whereas the linen dress will withstand washing for many many many years to come. Especially if you take care of it and mend it and wash it properly. In 5 years, you might have to buy 5+ 25$ f21 dresses whereas your initial 150+ linen dress is still chugging on.

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When I see fat people in lolita I have the impulse to tell them that they probably should start caring for their bodies before calling brands fatphobic.

If you're not fitting in a fully shirred dress there is something wrong with you and I wish it was socially acceptable to say that to their faces without getting publicly ostracized.

>> No.10638605

>>10638599
Then say it. No one is stopping you

Just admit you're a shitty subhuman being, obsessed with fat people already. Everyone else already knows it

>> No.10638615

>>10638605
Found the upset fatty

>> No.10638616

>>10638574
No? I do do this. It's just a fact that your clothes won't wear down if you don't wear them all the time.
>Wtf. I’ve had items in my wardrobe since 2006.
Good for you I guess. I have many items in my wardrobe that are 2-4x my age and things I've had since the 90s--2000s that are still in good condition. It's still a simple obvious fact that clothes will wear down over time if you wear them.

>> No.10638618

>>10638599
Getting this fat is a drain on society. I don't care if someone is kind of chunky or has some rolls, but being 2 or 3 times the recommended weight you're supposed to be is just negligence.
I seriously wish healthy weight people got a tax break or something for not plaguing the healthcare system with preventable diseases.

>> No.10638703

>>10637603
It's obviously a joke autist-chan

>> No.10638711

>>10638599
Every time I see her replicas I wonder if I can somehow still contact Oojia to buy scrap fabric so I could make kumya dresses or pillowcases and stuff for decor.

>> No.10638716

>>10637407
Not sure if anyone else feels like this, but it annoys me so much when my comm leader chooses group pictures for our public comm sites where they're the only one who looks good while everyone else looks awkward/unfortunate. I know for a fact that they have shots where all of us look acceptable but they're just too insecure about potentially not being the prettiest lolita of the comm.

>> No.10638717

fuuuuuck i am so happy just got one of my favorite prints in my favorite colorway for a damn good price!!!

>> No.10638718

used to be close friends with someone who had a reputation in their local comm, who had been posted before, but i wanted to give them a chance because, hey, why not? my friend who I already trusted the judgement of had introduced me, they were nice to me and I thought maybe it's all rumors and hearsay.

learned 5 years later the only reason why they were so afraid of /cgl/ and the local comm, why their friendships are brief and end with the other party being slandered as highly ABUSIVE!!! was that what was being said wasn't in any way an exaggeration, they'd witnessed them behaving psychopathically and inappropriately in public and had not enabled that. The supposedly physically abusive boyfriend? I want to take all cases of abuse seriously but it's fucking testing my patience when it turns out the so-called abuser is the one actually being physically hit, screamed at and having violent threats directed at them on soc media.

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>>10638718
dropped my pic

>> No.10638720

>>10638717
Which one anon? I'm still searching for mine but I'm happy for you!

>> No.10638726

>>10638718
I wish people like this a very good suffer. A good (male) friend of mine broke up with his gf recently because she refused to put up healthy sexual boundaries with other people, hardly ever made time to see him opting to hang out with her friends constantly instead, and ran away from every single convo he tried to have with her about their relationship problems.

She then promptly started telling everyone who would listen how abusive he was for being "controlling"

Women like this are the reason why so many men won't believe when we've been abused and assaulted for real because they know assholes like this who try to ruin men by calling them abusive since they know few people will actually try to look at both sides.

>> No.10638736

still laughing at the loser who bought my (already overpriced) taobao dress and tried scalping it on eBay for 4 times the price using my listing photos… it’s still there. GET FUCKED

>> No.10638742

>>10637407
i have concerns for a certain lolita right now. i am not an orbiter nor an enabler, but i care about them because i know them (distantly). i guess i can be overly forgiving because despite her snark and her horrible choices throughout this whole ordeal, i honestly think she's just not very smart and pretty naive. doesn't excuse a thing ofc, but she was a kind person so i don't know how this could've happened. i am concerned for her relapsing. but i suspected from the very beginning that this would happen and kept my mouth shut hoping it would all blow over and she'd give up.

i don't look forward to future meets and having to face the awkwardness that is half or more of the comm feeling uncomfortable as all fuck because she's there (if she isn't leaving the fashion). she's told me she doesn't read these boards but girl if you're reading this just maybe consider apologizing. some people on will hold a grudge forever and you can't undo what you've done but you can still enjoy your hobby and hope to earn back the trust of those around you, be mature about this.

>> No.10638744

>>10638742
Is this about that fat ita who tried to make a lolita 101 book for a hundred dollars?

>> No.10638827

>>10638720
baked sweets parade in pink! i love it so much i have it in another colorway but the pink is the one I've always wanted..what are you looking for? i hope it finds you soon!!

>> No.10638855

>>10637437
I can’t decide what I hate more. That loser chan started the whole debacle, or that Lor took to her knees to suck that sjw boner. Haters gonna hate and trolls gonna troll but don’t feed into it or give them legitimacy. Wondercunt is a literal who, and the only people who know her, hate her. Lor should never have given her the time of day.

>> No.10638857

>>10638855
actually finchy is probably jealous. during her egl mod days there was nothing like influencing to get e-fame, and she was power and e-fame hungry from the get go. she's too old and busy being a sad lawyer to get any real e-fame now.

>> No.10638860

>>10638857
NTA but E-infamous? Does that count lmao. I’ve never liked lor, and always found her self serving but also weirdly self flagellating persona to be really off putting, but I imagine that whole fiasco was so stressful and damaging for Lor, and then this bih basically walks off unscathed like nothing even happened. I guess that’s an occupational hazard of being a so called influencer but that’s fucked up.

>> No.10638862

>>10638726
Most rape/abuse are true and men dont give a fuck. A woman lying wont change shit. Scrotes dont care and they never will. Also people in general dont even believe women when they call a man abusive so kek

>> No.10638868

>>10638855
The only explanation I could come up with for why Lor would stoop to her level is that if you looked up “white guilt” in the dictionary you’d see her saggy moon face. And this is coming from a person of color. Lors response was also soooo uncomfortable. Like someone who’s only ever eaten mayonnaise trying to Mayo-splain Sriracha to the rest of world. Awkward as hell.

>> No.10638886

I actually, genuinely like Lors videos. What actually killed it for me was her shilling her weird dance wear brand as lolita.

>> No.10638889

>>10638886
I’m sorry about your low IQ nonny

>> No.10638896

I stole $20,000 from my ex and bought tons of lolita and settled out of court to pay $2,000 of it back that the bank didn't cover. I post online pretty often so some of you may know me and a few people have theories that I was sugaring or have daddy's money, but I don't, I took it.

>> No.10638898

>>10638896
Shut up k8

>> No.10638900

>>10638896
This is dreamy_pastel_princess

>> No.10638923

>>10638868
She radiates white guilt. Finchy, kaiser, neorococo, berrymelt and the Twitter SJWs wanted her cancelled so any apology wouldn't have sufficed. I think that's why she made the obscene amount of apologies she did.

>> No.10638932

>>10638900
>>10638896

No anon this is lacefuratu

>> No.10638935

>>10638896
I'll post something in 20 minutes that references this post.

>> No.10638937

>>10638896
Wow fuck you anon. Money don’t grow on trees and you may as well have set it on fire. Could a put that towards a down payment on a decent house but by all means feed your shopping addiction you literal giant baby.

>> No.10638940

>>10638896
Imagine stealing 18k and not going to fucking prison over it. Sounds about white… I swear white women can get away with just about anything.

>> No.10638943

>>10638940
U jelly, shitskin?

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>>10638896

>> No.10638950

>>10638943
Nah I’m just pointing out shit like this is why we’ve always got scrotes shrieking about men’s rights. Who tf would brag about something like that anyways? Idk her, but way to broadcast to the world that you’re a crazy, dishonest bitch. I have to wonder if that settlement didn’t include some kind of non-disclosure clause….

>> No.10638952

>>10638950
NDA was my first thought anon. Most settlements include them and if you violate the NDA you might find yourself liable for the full amount. Hope somebody’s just blowing smoke.

>> No.10638954

>>10638862
are you really so stupid to believe that liars don't embolden men who won't believe and also make men who otherwise would try to be better believe there's no point

>> No.10638958

>>10638742
this is either kyra or zoe

>> No.10638969

>>10638896
Good to know you put that money towards stinky brand instead of getting yourself out of that crack den you live in, k8. Way to flex on us.

>> No.10638970

>>10638896
I want this to be true

>> No.10638978

>>10638969
It’s obvs not k8. Her money was inheritance that she didn’t pay taxes on, like she ever get somebody with that much disposable income to take an interest in her stanky ass. Besides she’s not active anymore anyways

>> No.10639067

>>10638736
I've sold BL for it's normal (new) price and then watched people try to resell it on Mercari for more than double.

>> No.10639068

>>10638886
Her videos are poorly edited. She talks too long about one subject and elaborates too much. They need to be edited down. Her opinions are also shit.

>> No.10639105

>>10638978
there's been someone on here across multiple threads the last week or two who is desperately trying to get people talking about k8 again, even though she isn't active in lolita anymore and is no longer relevant

>> No.10639107

>>10639105
It's weird, she just posts memes and the occasional non lolita coord in an AP dress, if she posts at all, why do people still care about her?

>> No.10639125 [DELETED] 

I gave up on lolita because of manhating on this board

>> No.10639133

>>10639125
Good.

>> No.10639137

>>10639107
Because this entire board is autistic about bringing up/stalking/harassing anyone who has ever spent any time in the fashion no matter how long it’s been since they’ve been active or even remotely involved. Milky fawn, for example.

>> No.10639152

>>10639137
Some gulls will harrass or try to shit talk nobodies just bc they're angry poorfags who got outbid on something honestly. And the attitudes of newfags lately suggests that people are just going to continue to act more deranged and obsessed over time.

>> No.10639160

>>10639152
Actually I gotta say on the whole that newfags seem less deranged on average than pique Lolita psychos around 2012. If you think about it, most of the genuinely obnoxious nuisances who are actually in the community (not around or adjacent) are oldfags.

>> No.10639162

>>10639160
Hard agree. As a mod of a pretty big comm, I’d say a solid 95% of the conflicts I deal with involve exclusively members who are 30+ and/or have been in the fashion for quite awhile.

>> No.10639167

>>10639160
I really don’t know that one is any better than the other. They’re just different types of deranged. Sjw newfags are every bit as toxic as obsessed personal attack centered oldfags, it’s just a different medium and social climate to be toxic in. Some oldfags have even just evolved into sjw bullies, ie:wondercunt.

>> No.10639181

>>10639152
Or because they’re bored/want to victimize themselves

>> No.10639184

>>10639167
At least oldfags didn’t pretend their bullying was changing the world and helping everyone live in a perfect utopia

>> No.10639216

>>10639184

Uh I've seen a late 30s woman do something similar, saw herself as a mentor figure but really just shit stirred all the fucking time.

There's drama at every level of life unfortunately, 30 year olds aren't any less prone to it and I'm saying this as someone in my 30s

>> No.10639217

Saw a post covid meetup and the first thing I thought was "wow sounds tiring." Anyone else feeling this? I've met up with my own lolita friends but a large group meetup sounds exhausting desu.

>> No.10639218

>>10639217
I think that's all human interaction after covid. We all got used to staying inside our bubbles.

>> No.10639251

>>10639216
age doesn't necessarily mean someone has been in the fashion for a long time.

>> No.10639260

no

>> No.10639262

>>10639251

But being in the fashion for a long time usually means you're older. Lolita at heart roleplayers don't count.

>> No.10639284

>>10639262
most of the oldfags causing dramu are permaitas like finchy.

>> No.10639498

>>10639137
Milky fawn didn't leave because gulls talking about her but because someone in her comm.

>>10639152
Sounds weirdly specific

>> No.10639499

Taking drama from cgl was a mistake.

>> No.10639554

>>10638978
Her ex husband seemed to have money but he definitely seems broke and broken now.

>> No.10639557

>>10638932
That’s what I thought too ngl especially with what her ex friend said about her and how she treated her ex boyfriend.

>> No.10639558

>>10638896
Can you give us a hint? Do you wear sweet or gothic Lolita?

>> No.10639563

>>10638596
Same thing happened to me, but I came from a really low low income class. Worked my way to getting a lot of money and now thanks to Lolita, I can’t help but not want the cheap clothing I grew up with.

>> No.10639582

>>10639557
Are you seriously going to believe that psychopath who cried over losing a Moitie coordinate contest and made a hundred fucking page Google document over her ex friend?

>> No.10640336

>>10637407
I'm about to buy a bunch of comfortable design replicas to wear when I'm not with other lolitas.

>> No.10640347

I don't really understand the culture of concrit. Those in cof who know they aren't going to get any enthuasiastically say, "Concrit is of course always welcome!!" Then the real trainwrecks say NO CON CRIT. I don't think either will ever listen to criticism, but atleast the latter is honest about it.

Lately, I have an urge to go to mcdonalds in lolita. Those lolitas in the wild pics are damaging my already fragmented brain chemistry even further.

Everytime I see someone on the used market storing their btssb babydoll jsks in a way that stretches the shoulder straps I wish their mothers took that clothes hanger before they were born and used it correctly.

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>>10638461
imma just keep wearing both

>> No.10640372

>>10640356
No one gives a shit sweetfag

>> No.10640387

>>10640347
Also lately have the urge to go do mundane things desu, wish I had a local lolita friend to just go get ice cream or something without having to interact with my local comm at all
>>10638896
based if true

>> No.10640391

>>10640336
I just found an old replica of mine in storage, and it's super cute from like 10 years ago that i plan to wear around the house. I just wish i could post it online without worrying about backlash.

>> No.10640400

>>10638461
seethe

>> No.10640402

I'm a daily lolita and view anyone who doesn't wear it at the very least 2-3x a month while telling others they're a lolita as a larper

>> No.10640403

>>10640402
Ex. The sweet who wears AP to a con and tells anyone who will listen that they're a lolita but never wears anything outside of occasional anime events.

You may own lolita but if you break it out like a costume you're not a lolita.

>> No.10640404

I wish I had a lolita friend to smoke weed and drink beer with

>> No.10640405

>>10640403
This is so dumb. If you're wearing lolita, you are a lolita.

>> No.10640407

>>10640405
Keep telling yourself that larper

>> No.10640408

>>10640402
Tbh as someone who’s been a daily lolita for years if you don’t wear it every week you aren’t really a lolita.

>> No.10640409

>>10640408
based

>> No.10640413

>>10640402
>>10640408
No one cares

>> No.10640414

>>10640413
Kek, sure seems like you do since you’re seething

>> No.10640415

>>10640405
Aw it's okay. Your a lolita at heart sweetie

>> No.10640418

>>10640402

Honestly, to a lower level, this. I had to work long hours in my essential job during covid lockdowns and i still found time to wear lolita on the weekends. The covid litas whining from their work at home job that they haven't worn it for 6 months sound either depressed and need therapy, or they just cosplay it at meetups.

Honestly, cosplay litas really show themselves at meetups too because they don't know how to style themselves and all the handmade cosplay accessories keep falling off of them. It's pretty easy to tell.

>> No.10640423

>>10640413
Based on the amount of interaction this comment got, it's pretty obvious people care including you lmao

>> No.10640427

>>10640418
Seconding this it's super obvious they wear lolita as a costume by the fact that they refuse to wear it at home or god forbid to just go for a walk or do anything that isn't socializing.
Then they bitch about there being no events because they only wear Lolita to attention whore making cons and meets the only places they wear their wardrobe to.

>> No.10640428

>>10637535
Literally getting it second hand doesn’t benefit the artist in any way. These people are reaching.

>> No.10640451

>>10640402
honestly i agree but only because 2-3 times a month is barely anything. there are 365 days a year and if you can’t even wear it 24 times then i dunno what to tell you

>> No.10640488

I love stupid questions from strangers, because I can have a shared experience with other lolitas

>> No.10640506

>>10640408
people can wear their clothes when they want, anon. if you didn't buy it you're not entitled to an opinion :)

>> No.10640507

>>10640506
And just because you wear a lolita dress once a month, does not make you a lolita.

>> No.10640512

>>10640414
>3 words
>seething

>> No.10640515

>>10640506
>if you didn't buy it you're not entitled to an opinion :)
Kek spoken like a true ita

>> No.10640522

>>10640507
why do you care so much what other people do lmao too much free time dude.

>> No.10640523

>>10640515
imagine thinking you have rights over other peoples clothes baka couldn't be me.

>> No.10640524

>>10640507
do people really not know the difference between wearing lolita fashion and being a lifestyle lolita? baka

>> No.10640525

>>10637532
The only true pope

>> No.10640526

>>10640524
Just because you wear something from a gothic or punk or prep brad doesn't make you a goth/punk/prep. Just like wearing something from a lolita brand doesn't make you a lolita.

>> No.10640530

>>10640526
Based but tacking prep on made this comment seem a bit middle school desu

>>10640515
Lmao watch out anon if you didn't pay for an outfit you're not allowed to call anyone out for their ita behavior/wardrobe now!!

>> No.10640547

>>10640391
I'm planning on posting without giving a detailed description of the outfit. (Only social media, not cof or any of those) Since it's a non-printed replica most people won't be able to tell. And if they do, I'll say it was a gift. I think you can post it if you explain that it's been unworn in your wardrobe for so long... But lolitas are weird, and I don't really care much about the community anyways.

>> No.10640556

>>10640402
desu as long as someones coord is good, who cares?

>> No.10640576

>>10640402
holy shit this. In my school were this one ita who wore lolita only to cons and this one time to schools halloween event (this was some ass taobao op). the bitch then complained that she got weird looks (and she went to a halloween costume competition),and got the wrong kind of attention and few boys in the school were not impressed so she later complained to the teacher for sexual harrasment. It's clown world we live in.
the most insufferable person I've ever met.

>> No.10640589

>>10640556
A lot of people care, anon. If I wear lolita every week, keep up with new releases, regularly purchase lolita and overall am immersed in the hobby, I'm not going to have anything in common with someone who wears it once to a con.

Doesn't matter if their coord is good or not, it's about how different people engage with the hobby. Someone who keeps up with all the new animes isn't going to have much in common with someone who watched Naruto one time.

>> No.10640591

>>10640589
Just because someone can’t wear the fashion often doesn’t mean they don’t keep up with releases or community drama. I wear lolita less in the summer because it’s hot and miserable, doesn’t take away from my spending habits or keeping up with lolita related news.

>> No.10640593

>>10640589
>I'm not going to have anything in common with someone who wears it once to a con.
how new are you? cons often have lolita content and vendors. con lolitas often don't even like anime.

>> No.10640619

>>10640593
ntayrt, but I think we who feel like con lolitas are just people who treat lolita as a costume. talking here with personal experience with few con lolitas. I know there can content in cons for lolitas but we talk about lolitas who only wear the fashion in these costume events.

>> No.10640620 [DELETED] 

https://youtu.be/1p3PcoYTcCA

>> No.10640623

>>10640593
ayrt and you clearly can't read. I'm perfectly aware cons have lolita content, and I realize many Lolitas go for that content.

I am specifically referring to people who wear lolita ONLY to cons.

>> No.10640624

>>10640591
This. I wear lolita less often than I want to, and less often then a bunch of covidlitas, but the collective knowledge and experience I have is a lot greater than theirs. I rather associate with someone who wears lolita six times a year and has been in the fashion for ten years, than someone who wears it every day and has only been in the fashion for a couple months.

>>10640402
I honestly don't care. Wearing lolita a lot does not correspond to actually doing it well or being knowledgeable. it is possible to do something poorly, even while actively participating in it. The fact that you feel like the only thing that justifies being called a lolita is how many times, specially, someone wears the fashion, is alarming. Yes, it's required that you wear the fashion to actually be called a lolita, but keeping score like this is dumb.

>> No.10640638

I’ve been in this fashion for 10 years, but I’m scared to share pics under lolita hashtags because im a sexworker (obviously I don’t do anything work related in lolita)

>> No.10640639

>>10640638
As you should be. Fuck off, whore.

>> No.10640641

>>10640638
You could use a face sticker if you're paranoid.

>> No.10640644

>>10640623
no, i can read, but you're assuming conlitas are weebs, when in reality wearing lolita at cons is easier than even in comm meets because there are no normies around. not everyone can wear lolita alone and not everyone is interested in meets. i've known a few lolitas who have cosplay friends or simply prefer not to go to meetups. and you only know if a lolita is a conlita if they say so. my city had a few lifestylers who didn't like comms, but one went to cons and you wouldn't know if she was a conlita or what if you didn't ask.

>> No.10640672

>>10640638
Would you share your pics if you weren't a sex worker?

>> No.10640676

>>10640644
Larper. Wearing lolita to a con and anywhere else are not mutually exclusive. Maybe stop wearing costume tier coords or just don't wear the fashion if the opinion of strangers means that much to you.

>> No.10640680

>>10640672
Yes, totally
I did when i was younger before I’ve become one, these days i rarely upload pics of me in lolita, but still go to meet ups, just don’t use hashtags

>> No.10640682

>>10640644
literally when did I say colitas are weebs? where did I say that?

if you're referring to what I said about anime/naruto, that was just a comparison to illustrate my point. next time just say you're an idiot.

>> No.10640752

>>10638461
>actual EGL have wardrobes of high quality fabrics, subtle and mature prints, and tailoring techniques that far exceed whatever sack dress AP is putting out this week.
I'm not an AP fag but this is delusional

>> No.10640754

>>10640589
ayrt, I agree but desu I think why a lot of people right now are not wearing lolita as much as they should be is because they're working on building their closet. When I first started out with one or two complete coords, I'll admit it felt weird to try and wear the same coord each week until more stuff for more coords came in. I wouldn't be so hard about it honestly, but I see your point. I mean tbf I have friends who aren't going out in lolita atm just bc its so fckn hot in our area, and they have a much bigger and invested closet than i do lol.

>> No.10640760

>>10640624
If you show me you're knowledgeable about brands, rereleases, genres, hell if you just know how to use xianyu, that's good enough for me. It shows me I'm not dealing with some cringe ass ita/newbie that doesn't take this fashion seriously like the rest of us. I'm more okay with you not wearing the fashion on a weekly basis in that case.

>> No.10640761

>>10640752
It's obvious that you're delusional

>> No.10640769

>>10640752
u really think AP's prints on poly are high quality? yikes nonnie

>> No.10640777

>>10640752
AP fag, here. I just started buying EGL clothes and it becomes hard to bat an eyelash the same way at AP, after. AP's been going downhill, recently as well.

>> No.10640782

>>10640769
They were literally ragging on APs shit quality tho

>> No.10640787

>>10640777

What the actual fuck are you trying to say? Do you need me to call 911 for your IP address?

>> No.10640792

My bf wanted sexy pics of me in my egl because he doesn’t know any better but i said no obviously.
Now i am thinking of and looking at bodyline to take sexy pics in for him…i don’t consider bodyline to be egl but it probably looks similar enough for him, am i going to lolita hell?

>> No.10640797

>>10640760
Related confession: I don't know how to use Xianyu because I was living in Japan for a while and would just buy from Closet Child and other second hand shops.

>> No.10640808

>>10638461
old AP blows most old classic brands out of the water. new AP is a trash fire though

>> No.10640817

>>10640808
Nothing AP made after 2005 is worth mentioning in the same breath as classic lolita in terms of design.

>> No.10640936

>>10640792
No, you are not.
Live your fantasies, don’t post about them online, be happy, you only live once.

>> No.10640952

>>10640792
he prob thinks u are sexy in anything and asked for egl because he knows that's what you're into so that's what you're most likely to participate in. u could take a pic wearing nothing at all, and he'd still be just as pleased, i bet.

>> No.10640955

>>10639582
This, I couldn't side with that behavior even if the doc had an ounce of truth to it. Where did she run off to after flouncing anyhow?

>> No.10641034

I actually own more anime maid dresses than lolita and I have sex in them.

>> No.10641057

>>10640372
I own more gothic peices then sweet but aight

>> No.10641058

>>10638605
As an ex-fatty chan I really wish someone had bluntly told me to my face I had a problem rather then pretending I wasnt almost 300 lbs. If I brought up weightloss myself I would get a barage of "what?? You're not fat! You're curvy!" Or "you're not even that big, you don't need to." That kind of reassuring baby talk from friends and family kept me sick and unhealthy for a long time. Not saying you should harrass fat people or anything but I also hate the coddling and not being able to say anything out of concern or your "a shitty subhuman"

>> No.10641059

>>10638461
>my niche interest is more special then your niche interest even though they are technically the same niche interest!!!

>> No.10641061

>>10641058
as an ex fatty also, I agree 10000%.

>> No.10641063

>>10641061
>>10641058
I don't think anyone is shitty like friends and family being concerned about weight but 1. People can comment and support their health without being a douche and 2. Y'all must have been dumb or blind to be almost 300lbs and not know you're fat.

Idk I had body dysmorphia and thought I was fat and an awful narc parent who told me I was and pushed disordered behaviors on me like making me run laps around the house and count calories even at 97 lbs when I was a size small, but really she was overweight and insecure. I don't like people being brutal about weight because it helps no one and if you really care about someone's health and aren't just shallow and grossed out by their size then you'd do more to support them changing or give alternative advice that suits them, not just go "well you're fat now do something about it".

Just support fat peoole doing better or give polite advice. Most people don't improve in response to shittiness.

>> No.10641066

>>10641058
I don't understand, why did you need someone to tell you that? They probably thought you knew you're fat and there's no point in saying so.

>> No.10641067

>>10641063
Well yea of course I knew I was fat, but having everyone tell me all the time I was fine was comforting. When you are comfortable you are less likely to change. Neither post is advocating for people to get "brutal" about weightloss, all Im saying most people will assume the worst about anyone who even tries to discuss it with them. You're situation was clearly very different and of course I wouldnt support that. Severe under eating and severe over eating are BOTH eating disorders.

>> No.10641068

>>10641066
No everyone acted like I was normal and then acted like I was hurting/hating myself when I started to lose weight. In America at least, it is now very normal to be fat.

>> No.10641082

>>10641067
>When you are comfortable you are less likely to change.
this. why else is that HAES and all that acceptance crap is the way it is? body acceptance movements have turned into denial movements really. not everyone is beautiful, not every size is healthy and just because reality makes your feels hurt doesn't mean to just close your ears. some people need a wakeup call. not everyone should be stick thin, but i'd rather the people who care from me express concern, or even just acknowledgement instead of just pretending it's fine.

>> No.10641086

>>10641068
Wow that's insane. Are you in the American south by chance? I've noticed people there normalize obesity.

>> No.10641092

>>10641082

Wait until you see the now widespread acceptance that healthcare professionals can't even call obese people obese and that being obese doesn't lead to any adverse health effects at all. It's ridiculously toxic. This trend of screaming in your own circlejerk and not listening to literally anyone else is literally going to kill all of us in fifty years.

>> No.10641107

>>10641092
There is a movement pushing back against this though. The healthy at every size movement is sort of like that weird sjw phase a lot of folks go through before they grow up, have to pay taxes and see how the world is outside of the college bubble. Tons of people have spoken out against them, and how genuinely dangerous it is to tell people that carrying an extra 200 pounds isn’t something to be worried about.

>> No.10641146

>>10641107
Shhh, anon, if you tell them no one actually believes in HAES they'll get mad you took away their excuse to make fun of fat people.

>> No.10641165

>>10640404
same nonny

>> No.10641182

>>10641107
>>10641146

There are, but the movement is gaining "legitimacy" to the point where medical leaders are at least paying lip service to it which even then that's extremely dangerous. I've seen nutritionists spout absolute bullshit about obesity and spread misinformation. In this age I don't think ignoring it and hoping people "grow out of it" is really the right approach or philosophy. After all this was the approach taken with antivaxxers and look where that got us.

>> No.10641191

>>10637601
>1. we're both autistic
I'm not autistic.
>2 im a degenerate gambler who's lost thousands of dollars to shitcoins
That shows that you're a retard who can't properly learn when to stop, I wear lolita because I love everything about it and people always seem to love when I wear it judging by the amount compliments I get, no one's going to compliment you for having a gambling addiction.

>> No.10641225

>>10641182
>After all this was the approach taken with antivaxxers and look where that got us.
This. The ability for someone to find at least one person with their stupid or insane views is incredibly easy. One of my friends started believing in ancient aliens tier crap and even though everyone told him how stupid he was he still does because he has an echo chamber backing him up. He's 30. These people will find eachother eventually.

>> No.10641228

I really like solids and when looking at brand pieces that I like I can’t help but to think I could make myself something as nice as that for a fraction of the price. Sometimes I feel as if I weren’t a real lolita for I don’t get that hyped with brand.
Except MM, it’s construction is absolutely impeccable and I love the few pieces I do own from them, wish it wasn’t dead.

>> No.10641232

>>10641225
In America at least, fatties being fat doesn't hurt anyone but themselves and they'll just die, so you can ignore them until they die off, or if they are fat people you know and care for, encourage them positively to change. Of course they'll be defensive at first but fat shaming never really helps the vast majority of fat people, considering that is the default even with fat acceptance gaining steam, so you may as well try to help with a different approach, not neccesarily ignore it.

Antivaxxers are usually vaccinated and hurting their own or other children and everyone else who benefits from herd immunity by spreading their ideology, and I think they need to be treated firmly and not given a platform to spread lies, but still kindly enough to make them receptive to the truth since they are just brainwashed essentially.

>> No.10641234

>>10640797
thats probably better honestly, i mean people over here in the West only use it because prices there arent as scalped as LM and theres more of a selection but the risk of getting a replica is high as ive heard

>> No.10641237

>>10641232
Idk why its everyone else's responsibility to keep you safe. Sorry you have aids.

>> No.10641240

>>10641228
As long as you are actually making amazing solid dresses and wearing them... I have a couple of friends who are always complaining about the same thing. "I could do something like this in a day" But they haven't made a single decent dress that I know of.

Not following up with brands doesn't make you less of a lolita though.

>> No.10641453

>>10638954
also if you lie about being assaulted/abused you are just a garbage person. it really shouldn't take much to acknowledge that.

i swear the bare minimum of human decency is low and some people just dig below it.

>> No.10641473

I want to dress my boyfriend in lolita. I want to go to a meetup and have people think we're girlfriends or sisters. I feel cringe at myself for feeling this way so I've never said anything about it to him.

>> No.10641474

>>10641473
dress him up coward

>> No.10641476

>>10641474
There's no good way to ask him to, this is too much to ask

>> No.10641477

>>10641476
>Hey bb this might sound weird but i kinda want to dress you up in egl, would you be down to let me?

And if he says no just tell him no problem bb and kiss him and move on from it nbd

>> No.10641480

>>10641232
> in america fatties being fat doesn't hurt anyone but themslelves

Objectively not true. Morbidly obese patients put a tremendous strain on our health care and makes taxes and insurance premiums more expensive for everyone else.

>> No.10641508

>>10640760
What if you are an old fan who doesn't know how to use xianyu

>> No.10641539

>>10637601
>2 im a degenerate gambler who's lost thousands of dollars to shitcoins, and them on overpriced shit.
at least we get physical items in return for the money we spent. can you wear your shitcoins?

>> No.10641546

>>10641508
>>10640797
Stop looking for approval from some rando on the internet, fellow gulls! Don't let imposter syndrome + that comment confuse you. You know (and I know, if you are honest in your replies) that you are experienced lolitas. Don't overthink it.

>> No.10641574

>>10641508

nayrt but i'm just looking for people who are comfortable in lolita and don't treat it like some oc cosplay. people who tend to wear it once a year or just for meets really exude that aura.

>> No.10641616

>>10641546
YOU'RE RIGHT get it together

>> No.10641662

>>10641574
I agree and it sucks. Wigs, ridiculous makeup, shit falling from their heads, terrible shiny fabrics... Wearing lolita casually and often teaches you simple stuff like this. I wish there were more lifestylers out there. I wish I had lifestyler friends.

>> No.10641674

>>10640769
Didn’t say that at all but believe whatever you want to believe kek

>> No.10641678

This board makes me glad I’m a lonelita. Some of you are batshit and giant shit stirrers.

>> No.10641687

>>10640402
>>10640408
Same.

>>10640506
Everyone is entitled to form an opinion and there's nothing you can do about it.

>> No.10641689

>>10640423
Idk about you but I don't care if some rando on the Internet thinks I'm a real lolita or not

>> No.10641730

I wish my best friend of 4 years would stop making comments about my looks all the time. It makes me want to quit lolita. Every time I wear it she wont stop bringing up how awful/frumpy it looks on me and calling me fat. I was skinny when I met her but her remarks have only encouraged me to eat my feelings, which in turn makes her tease me more.
I blame myself for not having the confidence to tell her off. We're in the same comm and always go to meets together so I can't avoid her. And she will likely spread rumors about me if I stand up to her.

>> No.10641736

>>10641730
That girl is not your friend if she continually puts you down. Ask her seriously to stop, and if she still does it, fuck her. Seriously.

>> No.10641737

>>10638896
good for you, anon

>> No.10641738

>>10641730
become friends with sjws and then introduce them to her and see what happens when she starts saying that kind of stuff.

>> No.10641772

>>10641738
Our whole comm is full of fake sjw who say the exact same stuff at private meets, they'd side with her for their own protection.

>> No.10641778

>>10639498
>but because someone in her comm.
Deets? I thought it was because she wanted to go minimalist.

>> No.10641836

>>10641730
look up "stonewalling" it's a psychological tactic to get people to leave you alone without offending them

>> No.10641881

>>10641730
She doesnt sound like a friend, nonny. Hope it works out. She sounds like a bitch

>> No.10641983

I am here to just confess one of my sins. I am right now in my early 20s and slowly building up a lolita wardrobe. But as I got into the fashion I have remembered some sins I have committed in the past. In particular: as a teenager I used to LOVE tea. And was more then a little bit cringy. So at my local convention I tried to join the 'Lolita tea party' thinking it was a normal tea party. Then I remember vaguely being really confused and not understanding what lolita was, and also got at the time frustrated there wasn't even anything to rent. I... don't remember all that happened but it makes me scared to show up IRL to my local community. Like... I am still in my Ita phase and I don't want to add onto that from back when I was a cringy tea obsessed kid. For now... I just wear my few beginner coords to the grocery store.

>> No.10642096

i am a lazy lolita and i don't like buying a bunch of separate blouses and stuff to mix around and match, just give me my one piece dresses

>> No.10642631

>>10641983
i'll bet you they won't even remember unless you bring it up. but if someone does i'll bet it'd be in a lighthearted manner. very few don't have an ita phase, or even just a cringey teen phase. go to a meet you'll be fine anon!

>> No.10642883

>>10641983
Don't worry so much about this, you were young and dumb and they probably don't remember anymore. Lolita can also make a huge change in appearance so I think they wouldn't recognize you either.
Good luck meeting your comm!

>> No.10642914

I have to laugh when cgl gets posted about to other sites and pinned as a bully website. Literally who gives a shit about what randoms on an image board have to say kek How does it affect your this much? Anons on here can be so detached and insane I don’t know how anyone can take them seriously.

>> No.10642960

Is it bad optics for someone to sell handmade lolita goods when they don't wear the fashion anymore?

>> No.10642983

>>10642960
No

>> No.10642984

>>10642960
No i think its fine

Do you expect the people who make running shoes to all be track stars? Its a product and if you understand what the customers want, more power to you

>> No.10642988

>>10642960
i haven't worn lolita for years but i am selling lolita nail sets.

>> No.10642997

>>10642960
you dont have to associate your actual identity with your store and no one checks for it

>> No.10643058

I always send out freebies with secondhand purchases but it's ugly shit I don't think I can sell. I have a bin of freebies by the foot of my bed and I pick randomly from it

>> No.10643062

>>10642096
same but I’m an old schooler so I only need one black and one white blouse with detachable sleeves and I’m good

>> No.10643066

>>10643062
The new trend of having to color match blouses looks so stupid to me, especially since most girls just buy cheap taobao blouses with crappy necklines just to be able to match one stupid ugly dress. Bring back black/white/ivory being the only blouse colors

>> No.10643091

>>10641772
just start calling her a racist lmao

>> No.10643096

>>10643066
>most girls just buy cheap taobao blouses with crappy necklines
God, I'm so sick of seeing those cheap chiffon crop top nightmares in lolita. They never look good, especially with a cotton mainpiece.

>> No.10643103
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>>10643066
I agree so much with your point about the cheap blouses with crappy necklines.

In addition, one of my biggest pet peeves is when lolitas start collecting expensive main pieces and don't own a single high-quality blouse. Like why bother with high quality basics like blouses and pettis when you could just get a $400 main piece and call it a day?

It really doesn't matter how expensive or rare your AP ott dress is, if you wear it with a trashbag blouse like picrel or a flimsy wish petti, it WILL bring your coord down. Never forget about the importance of good basics and their ability to make or ruin your coord.

>> No.10643118

>>10643103
Back when I was first starting, I focused on getting all of my basics as brand pieces, and then got some nicer bodyline main pieces. I really think it made the cheaper pieces feel higher quality than they were until I could start affording $300 dresses. It wasn't expensive, either, and this was before the secondhand market was so booming, so I bought it all firsthand. Newbies are really doing themselves a disservice looking for hype pieces, they would look so much better if they just had the opposite priorities

>> No.10643312

>>10643096
I hate chiffon and non-opaque blouses so much. They're way too risqué for lolita

>> No.10643395

>>10643312
me too anon
maybe I'm old, stuck in tradition or simply don't get trends set by chinese lolitas but I'd take an opaque cotton blouse over >>10643103 anytime

>> No.10643415

>>10640415
*You're

>> No.10643416

>>10640526
Fuck outta here retard and take that dumbass princess shit with you

>> No.10643417

>>10640676
Stop larping this princess shit, no one cares how many times you wear lolita. Cry more

>> No.10643425

>>10642914
What's the point visiting and posting in these threads if you totally don't care what they say?

>> No.10644015

I cancelled some plans just to buy more lolita (a dress, a kumakumya, a small gothic lolita bible collection and a gorgeous baby coat).
I lied and told my friends I didn't feel like it even though i wanted to go to the amusement park but brand was more important.

>> No.10644034

>>10637601
back to >>>/biz/

>> No.10644035

>>10641539
actually yes
https://blog.bancor.network/introducing-bntees-eb5d5558a1b5

>> No.10647440

I have a huge crush on another girl in my com. We've become really close friends very fast since I joined the com (moved recently). She broke up with her boyfriend a little bit ago, I want to make my move but I want to give her time to get over her ex first. She's openly bi, we would make a cute goth and sweet lolita couple...

>> No.10648782

>>10647440
Godspeed anon, I hope it works out with you two <3

>> No.10648807

I should start posting FDS propaganda in these threads too.

>> No.10648957

>>10637407
I used to frequent BTB/Horror stories threads and just make shit up.

>> No.10649722

>>10647440
>we would make a cute goth and sweet lolita couple...
>goth and sweet lolita couple...
>cute

Literally kys