Stupid questions thread

[Anonymous No.10636940]

Previous thread >>10628093

[Anonymous No.10636947]

Earlier today I sent a mail order for a sold out dress on Baby's jp online shop. But then I found the dress later on Xianyu and now I want to cancel my special order inquiry. I haven't even been confirmed by Baby whether they have the dress or not but if they email me back saying they do, will Baby cut off my head if I say I want to cancel it?

[Anonymous No.10636988]

Does anyone know of any good classic YouTubers? For some reason they all seem to be sweet. I only really know of Sapphira and Embroidered Doll.

[Anonymous No.10636992]

>>10636947
Yes and they should. It’s rude to cancel after they go to the trouble of finding it especially for you.

[Anonymous No.10637002]

What the hell are you supposed to do with your hands in coord shots?

[Anonymous No.10637004]

>>10637002
Do it to em

[Anonymous No.10637012]

>>10636375
Lab de Merveilles makes pretty similar bonnets, if you're looking to buy one! I ordered a custom one from her a while ago and it turned out perfect.

[Anonymous No.10637017]

>>10637002
guess you could look at brand model photos and try to replicate their poses

[Anonymous No.10637076]

Where do I get plus size cutsews for gothic dailywear? It feels like most cutsewsare sweet

[Anonymous No.10637146]

How do you say hoodie in Japanese? How would a Japanese person call this garment?

Especially any older words for it from the Showa or early Heisei. I saw a character in an old manga wearing one and I want to find vintage Japanese ones similar to it.

[Anonymous No.10637173]

>>10637146
parka
パーカー

[Anonymous No.10637178]

I'm looking for somewhere online that I can buy these two headbands or something similar to them for this girl as a gaff but I don't know where to look after amazon let me down. Was wondering if somebody here could help me as I am a fish out of water here.

[Anonymous No.10637186]

>>10637178
t. karl prepping for this year's cgl secret santa kek

[Anonymous No.10637191]

>>10637186
i dont know what that means
i am a stinky grown man who works labor
i never go clothes shopping, all my clothes are covered in paint or adhesive
pls help...

[Anonymous No.10637211]

>>10637191
Everything will work out, stinky man, I believe in you!
Both of these can be found on Aliexpress, if you're not trolling, don't mind waiting and can't find a local Party City that stocks them.

[Anonymous No.10637228]

Anyone knows how often does Baby restocks their items? Like socks, shoes and bags. They post when a restock is happening?

[Anonymous No.10637236]

>>10637211
I'd prefer it to be an online retailer because I have to mail them to her
I'll see if I can find them on aliexpress, thanks for the help

[Anonymous No.10637241]

>>10637236
Let us know if you need help. Try using "oversized" or "jumbo" with the words bow! Happy hunting

[Anonymous No.10637308]

>>10637228
watching their twitter is your best bet

[Anonymous No.10637315]

>>10637241
I can't find either and I think I'm going to give up, thank you for your help though. I really appreciate it.

[Anonymous No.10637326]

>>10637315
Image search is your best friend. Granted, I could only find the exact same color of the second headband being sold in sets of 20. You could just give her 20 headbands, or maybe settle on a different color.
https://a.aliexpress.com/_mMJqKMD
https://a.aliexpress.com/_mPB1RvB

[Anonymous No.10637330]

>>10637326
You're amazing, thanks again magician

[Anonymous No.10637449]

I know that people hate white with ivory, but is ivory with beige generally ok in classic?

[Anonymous No.10637515]

>>10637449
It’s fine when done well but if you have to ask you probably shouldn’t

[Anonymous No.10637528]

I have BTSSB bag being shipped from the UK to US. Package was shipped out on Monday, how long do you think it’ll take to arrive?

[Anonymous No.10637530]

>>10637449
The important thing is relative contrast. A cord that is just ivory and white can look cute because the main contrast is between the ivory and white (picrel), but a cord that is ivory, white and red will look weird because the main contrast is between the red and white/ivory and the white/ivory just looks mismatched because it’s overshadowed by the red.

A warm ivory could possibly go with beige but a yellow/cool ivory probably wont.

[Anonymous No.10637550]

Didn't the SF branch of BABY used to give free shipping with $300 or did I hallucinate that?

[Anonymous No.10637577]

>>10637550
I believe i used to see that banner in their website too for free shipping. Now they just give you a special gift for over $300 (a makeup pouch in my case, for in store shopping) as of 2 months ago

[Anonymous No.10637581]

>>10637577
I spent $800 last month and got nothing lmao

[Anonymous No.10637663]

>>10637577
Is Baby's SF store completely open for in store shopping? I know a few months ago it was by appointment only

[Anonymous No.10637713]

>>10637550
It used to.

[Anonymous No.10637743]

>>10637550
It’s 400 now

[Anonymous No.10637774]

>>10637663
Nah, visited the area last week and the sign still said by appointments only

[Anonymous No.10637936]

how do I take a break from lolita and move on to other jfashion styles

[Anonymous No.10637952]

>>10637936
Grow a spine and learn self-discipline

[Anonymous No.10637956]

>>10637936
open your wallet and your heart

[Anonymous No.10638079]

What material is a bunny suit supposed to be made of? Or, what would a good quality one be made of?

[Anonymous No.10638228]

Does anyone know where I can watch Kamikaze Girls online

[Anonymous No.10638233]

>>10638228
https://www.filmdoo.com/films/kamikaze-girls/
You can watch it here for £2.99, idk if it works if you’re not in the UK

[Anonymous No.10638242]

>>10638079
I guess you could really make them out of anything. I have seen them in vinyl, latex, lycra, satin. My favorite are the ones made of satin or silk, something that looks like a higher class bombshell look rather than a cheapo thing. I like the structure that shapes rather than a stretchy thing that conforms to the body.

Plus, it usually looks a bit more high quality if you do it right.

[Anonymous No.10638244]

>>10638228
Someone uploaded it to YouTube. Just watched it 2 days ago.

[Anonymous No.10638245]

>>10638244
https://youtu.be/zzaC9S0861Q

[Anonymous No.10638246]

How do white people cope with not being Asian?

[Anonymous No.10638264]

>>10638246
are you the same anon who said she wishes she was asian in the lolita confessions thread lol

[Anonymous No.10638265]

>>10638246
How do you cope with thinking this is the end all be all of beauty?
Oh right. Delusion.

[Anonymous No.10638268]

>>10638246
You do know that not all Asians fit your fetishized beauty standard right? God I fucking hate weebs

[Anonymous No.10638291]

What's the sizing on AP/BTSSB shoes for small? Would they be big for 21.5cm feet?

[Anonymous No.10638303]

>>10638264
Most likely. Probably someone who doesn't look good by conventional standards thinking that being asian would somehow make them attractive.

Anon doesn't realize there's ugly people everywhere.

[Anonymous No.10638312]

>>10638242
>I have seen them in vinyl, latex, lycra, satin, etc.
Yeah, this is why the question was driving me nuts. I appreciate the rec for satin. Thanks, anon.

[Anonymous No.10638320]

>>10638312
you are welcome!

[Anonymous No.10638322]

Anyone know of any GLB or OnS volumes with patterns similar to this piece?

[Anonymous No.10638323]

>>10638322
Weird, pic didn't attach

[Anonymous No.10638352]

>>10638322
>>10638323
ONS volume 3 has an OP with a 3-tiered skirt and a button-down front (pic related). You would have to edit the bodice to make it a JSK and add the gathered bust, but you can find tutorials by searching "milkmaid top pattern."
Alternatively, Gosu Rori volume 3 has a couple OP patterns with a similar bodice.

[Anonymous No.10638368]

how do we feel about self aware cringe/edgy social media usernames? i want to use one but i think most people will assume i’m being sincere instead of tongue in cheek.

[Anonymous No.10638439]

>>10638303
I just think it's funny how jealous yt people on this board get over not being asian when they are still the beauty standard in almost everything else. I mean just look at the colorism with wasians and light-skinned asians lmao.

[Anonymous No.10638440]

>>10637936
just do it wtf

[Anonymous No.10638458]

How do you tie your bows? My waist ties are removable, should I take them off to make a perfect bow before putting them back on? Am I even meant to leave the waist ties on their buttons, or is that a faux paus? What about my halter neck bow? I hadn't considered these issues before I had the dress in hand...

[Anonymous No.10638490]

>>10638458
>My waist ties are removable, should I take them off to make a perfect bow before putting them back on?
You can absolutely do that, but if you're going to meets, at nearly every meetup with my comm there is a someone with a janky bow and like three other lolitas tripping over each other offering to help tie it properly. So if you can't tie it yourself, it's not all hopeless.

[Anonymous No.10638503]

i am aware this is a really stupid question but what does CoF stand for? i don't interact w internet comms much and i've just never figured out what it stands for.

[Anonymous No.10638505]

>>10638503
closet of frills, its a FB group

[Anonymous No.10638509]

>>10638505
thank you!!

[Anonymous No.10638517]

Couldn't find a hair/makeup thread so I'll ask here. Suggestions for lolita-appropriate updos that can be done quickly and that work well for long hair? It's been really windy and I'd like to learn more fast styles that I can do if I'm just running an errand

[Anonymous No.10638525]

>>10638517

I'm classic, so this may not be for other substyles. But I find Bernadette Banner's YouTube tutorial for an Edwardian inspired hairstyle to be extremely useful when I can't be assed to curl my hair. You simply twist your hair on both sides, then braid the rest of your hair and roll it into a bun, or figure 8, or whatever you want in the back of your head. If I want to be fancy I pull some hair out below my ears and curl them.

[Anonymous No.10638589]

is it ita to not wear earrings with my coords? i figure most lolitas don't give a shit about that sort of thing. i just can't wear earrings for medical reasons and don't feel like getting surgery on my earlobes just to avoid a faux pas lmao

[Anonymous No.10638590]

>>10638589
Earrings aren't even part of a coord. They're just optional accessories. I've never heard of anyone caring about them in particular.

[Anonymous No.10638594]

How do I actually convince my boyfriend to let me put him in lolita?

[Anonymous No.10638619]

>>10638594
That's weird. Don't make him do shit he doesn't want to do.

[Anonymous No.10638620]

>>10638589
Nobody cares about lack of earrings. Half of millennial have fucked up ears from stretching them when we were 16. Some people don't even have pierced ears. If anything it's just a nice bonus when someone has cute earrings.

[Anonymous No.10638707]

>>10638589
Japan literally has so many options for pierce less earrings. Remember most of their teenage population has school rules about no piercings. Even older women don't have piercings and shops have tons of varieties and types, more so than pierced options.

[Anonymous No.10638710]

>>10638707
This but if they can't get piercings due to medical reasons they likely have growths or some type of earlobe that clip ons would be uncomfortable too. If you have a hime cut with thicker side pieces or wear your hair all or partially down your ears are less visible or noticable anyway. No one is going to complain and if they do they're probably the type of person to demand people wear contacts instead of matching glasses with lolita or get out of their wheelchair or hide their cane for photos. Tbh not wearing earrings is even less noticable than those other thingsm

[Anonymous No.10638713]

>>10638710
>clip ons would be uncomfortable too
That's what I'm saying though. There are more options as in NOT clip ons.

[Anonymous No.10638714]

I've been out of the lolita game for a bit and I just saw the Elizabeth all back reservation... Does that stuff usually go to shop when its released too? Or am I just doomed?

[Anonymous No.10638722]

>>10638713
The other option is to just not wear earrings though. Which is a valid option. Other than ear cuffs, I can't think of options that don't squeeze your earlobe to a degree in order to secure the earring besides pierced earrings. It's far easier to just choose other jewelry. Earrings are rarely noticed anyway unless your hair is really short in that area like a pixie cut or up all the time.

[Anonymous No.10638763]

>>10638722
Yes, it's not ita or a faux pas, but there's literally so many options. It looks better with them.
Just because you can't think of examples doesn't mean the options aren't there. I'm guessing you have pierced ears or haven't ever shopped for earrings in Japan.
There's non-hole pierce, ear hooks, ear cuffs, not too mention the multiple options of clip ons (with screw back being the most comfortable lever back earrings I've ever worn).

[Anonymous No.10638764]

>>10638714
It was an MTO, orders closed weeks ago. Just wait for it secondhand, there's definitely gonna be people selling it off because it won't fit

[Anonymous No.10638767]

>>10638763
I have pierced ears AND have shopped for earrings in Japan multiple times. The screw back still "squish" your ear as all clip ons/non pierce earrings like that do which if they have some issue with their earlobe that surgery is needed for can't be comfortable. I mentioned cuffs as well; but those go on a different part of your ear than regular eareings anyway and are a different look. All clip ons like screw backs and clamp types rely on the friction of two things pressing on either side of the earlobe and while that's fine for normal people with unpierced ears, anon specifically mentioned they have a special circumstance. I also find all types of clip ons I tried in Japan far less comfortable than pierced earrings except cuffs. Sometimes the clip on types have cuter options so I have bought and worn them too. I can't name each type specifically but the issue of your earlobe being squeezed to a degree is probably a factor and unless anon shows us their specific ears or gives more detail, there's no guarantee they'd be able to wear them. Also unless you mean a specific type I'm not aware of the name of, earring hooks are for pierced ears too. Or do you mean a type that hooks not through a hole but over or around different part of the ear? Basically a cuff but more loose?
So I'd just reccomend not wearing them if the comfort is an issue.

[Anonymous No.10638768]

does anyone have a list of all the brands the former swimmer artists started?

[Anonymous No.10638770]

>>10636940
Why isn't cosplay allowed indoors in Comiket?

[Anonymous No.10638798]

>>10638770
Probably space issues.

[Anonymous No.10638809]

>>10638242
>I like the structure that shapes rather than a stretchy thing that conforms to the body.
I agree. The strechy lycra ones end up needing straps to stay up and just look like a one-piece swimsuit rather than the classic bunny suit look anyway, so satin/silk all the way.

[Anonymous No.10638810]

>>10638368
I think it's a case by case basis honestly. If you're second guessing it, then choose a different one.

[Anonymous No.10638814]

>>10638589
I mean, hime bangs are so popular in lolita that you don't see peoples ears for the most part. So I'd argue that earrings are rare in lolita, there's just no point in wearing them if you're not going to see them

[Anonymous No.10638818]

Which colorway of Hawase Doll is superior?

[Anonymous No.10638824]

>>10638246
We stretch our eyes to the side and tape them on

[Anonymous No.10638903]

>>10638767
No, they don't. You're wearing it wrong if they do. It doesn't need to be that tight unless your earrings are really heavy. But at that point I'd switch it to a cuff or hook to carry the weight.

I don't have pierced ears at all so I really don't see why you're arguing this if you have to wear it so tight. Picrel for ear hooks. They can be worn in multiple positions on the ear and this isn't the only type.

[Anonymous No.10638908]

>>10638818
whatever one you like the best

[Anonymous No.10638968]

>>10638903
If someone has earlobes with enough issues to require surgery to fix/get piercings, even the amount of pressure you need to hold on a clip on might cause them pain.

I'm not saying those things aren't an option, I literally said they would need to be more specific to know what is right for them, and earrings aren't required in lolita plus brand/specific motifs in earrings may not be available in other non pierced styles, the hook and cuff combo example in your picrel could work for them, but if we don't know the location and type of the problem with their ears the easiest solution is to just...not spend money on earrings because they aren't a requirement in the fashion.

[Anonymous No.10638975]

>>10638968
How is "just don't" helpful? We already agreed it's not required. But as I already mentioned, options are available. They haven't even spoken up to say anything, so you're just making assumptions that nothing will work.

Also who cares what's available. It's literally a jump ring that you switch to whatever is comfortable.

[Anonymous No.10639075]

Is EMS or DHL faster now for shipping from Japan to the US? Both are about the same price for my items.

[Anonymous No.10639094]

Is there a way to see the bidding history of an active LM listing?

[Anonymous No.10639098]

>>10638975
I didn't make assumptions, all I said was we don't know for sure since anon only really mentioned they would need surgery to get their ears pierced or whatever, and we would need to know more if we wanted to make specific recommendations beyond assuring them they're not ita for skipping the earrings and don't need to force themselves.

You're the one assuming they CAN wear all these other types without any information. If it was really about just hooking the jump ring on another attachment method and what's available doesn't matter, then just tell them to do that with brand earrings and buy their own attachment method, not look for other Japanese nonpierced earrings. The issue remains that we don't know what their ears are like. Have a good day though cause I'm not trying to argue just wanted help anon.

[Anonymous No.10639099]

>>10639094
Be a mod/site dev?

[Anonymous No.10639111]

Is it a general rule to wear cotton blouses only with cotton dresses and poly only with poly or did I make this up in my head? I kind of want to try mixing it for color coordination

[Anonymous No.10639129]

>>10639111
That isn’t a rule, you made it up!

[Anonymous No.10639131]

>>10639075
DHL has been faster this entire time since they do their own flights. But even without covid, in my experience DHL has always been 3-5 business days while EMS is 5-7 (or 7-10). I just got a DHL package from cdjapan that took 3 days to ship. In fact it told me that expected delivery would be Thursday but I got it on Tuesday, two days earlier.

[Anonymous No.10639132]

>>10639111
Only really a rule for cotton old school - poly blouses don’t tend to look good with cotton solids. I also wouldn’t wear thick cotton under thin poly or you might get some weird shapes!

[Anonymous No.10639163]

Anyone know exactly what op/skirt this is?

I am sure its dolly heart but i can’t find this on lolibrary and i almost wonder if its photoshopped since it doesn’t have a petti

[Anonymous No.10639171]

>>10639111
I feel like it's an okay general guideline, but it's definitely not like it always looks bad if you mix and match. If you generally have decent taste, go with your heart.

[Anonymous No.10639177]

>>10639163
It's a blouse + skirt
http://www.angelicpretty.com/newarrival/dolly_heart/index.htm

[Anonymous No.10639249]

Does anyone have any advice on how to get over the fear of cosplaying? It's a terrifying yet exciting thing for me. I'm quite introverted but I just wanna join in the fun and make some friends.

[Anonymous No.10639261]

>>10639249
Don’t miss out just because of anxiety anon! Do it in a environment you feel comfortable with like with friends or some place you know maybe not far from home. I’m sure it’s gonna be super fun!

[Anonymous No.10639270]

>>10639249
for me, i was part of an anime club in highschool and that's when i did my first cosplaying. so it helped that i was with people who were already familiar with the hobby. do you have any friends that cosplay? that could help!! good luck anon!

[Anonymous No.10639287]

Are rereleases of old dresses (like the many versions of Baby's Millefeuille, Lace Frill, Babydoll etc) still considered suitable for oldschool or do I really need to have a pre-2005 version for it to be proper?

[Anonymous No.10639307]

>>10639287
just pose like they do in the mags if you want to look proper old school but no it does not matter, the new dresses are probably better quality anyway and anything from more than 15 years ago is probably withered by now depending on its material

[Anonymous No.10639356]

>>10639287
No, and if anyone tells you otherwise they're retarded. It's all about styling.

[Anonymous No.10639375]

Does anyone know where I can buy a nice Office Lady outfit? Trying to cosplay as Igarashi as my first cosplay

[Anonymous No.10639376]

>>10639307
This just isn't true lmao

[Anonymous No.10639386]

>>10639098
I wasn't either, you're the one contradicting my advice for no apparent reason. Considering anon didn't say they had no ears, I was also just trying to be helpful.

[Anonymous No.10639393]

Japanese shopping service recommendations? I used zenmarket to try and buy something recently, and the tl;dr is that it sucked. Never using them again.

[Anonymous No.10639402]

Did anyone ever purchase priscila wigs from this taobao store? Is it good?
http://fintamavel.world.taobao.com/

[Anonymous No.10639536]

>>10639375
If you're looking for the whole set together (blazer, blouse, and skirt), you'd probably need to look at a cosplay website. If you want to be a little more picky with your purchase, then look to the same stores you would get any office formal wear or even Amazon.

[Anonymous No.10639538]

>>10639393
https://www.buyfags.moe/Full_guide#Proxy_and_forwarding_services

[Anonymous No.10639539]

Anyone know how long EMS usually takes from buyee shipping to the U.S.? It said 3 days but it's been 4 and I'm getting nervous since I'll be moving on Friday to another state. Tracking hasn't updated since the initial "accepted" on the 24th either.

[Anonymous No.10639543]

Why do Japanese second hand sellers refuse to sell to gaijin even through proxy sometimes?

[Anonymous No.10639545]

>>10639539
Coincidentally, I ordered a package from them just last week with EMS. It shipped the 19th and arrived on the 24th.
>Tracking hasn't updated since the initial "accepted" on the 24th either.
Hm, I'm not sure what that means, but here's what my shipping record looked like if it's any help. I nearly shat myself when I saw "Item returned from import Customs" -- I thought it meant it got returned to Japan at first. Apparently it just means that it was OK'd by customs and given back to the shipping service to be delivered.

[Anonymous No.10639548]

>>10639539
EMS is experiencing delays, you should have waited until you moved to ship the package. There is a chance it might show before Friday, but you should consider signing up for a mail forwarding service just in case.

[Anonymous No.10639549]

>>10639545
Thanks so much nonnie this makes me feel a little better!
This is what I meant though (its been stuck like this on both usps and jpost)

[Anonymous No.10639550]

>>10639543
I wish I knew. Just hating gaijin too much to take their money doesn't make sense to me.

[Anonymous No.10639552]

>>10639548
That's all well in good to say in hindsight but I actually wasn't supposed to move until a few weeks from now and shit happens. Doesn't really matter since the situation is what it is. Luckily I'm moving out of a house with roommates who will claim it for me and ship it if it shows after.

[Anonymous No.10639553]

>>10639539
I live on the east coast and a recent order took 7 days. Hope you live further west. Don't worry about the tracking not updating though, I didn't get any updates for the first 4 days either.

[Anonymous No.10639559]

What's the affordable, but decent-looking fabric option for making the "skin" of an human character plush? A friend of mine is commissioning me to make her the plushes from Maid-Sama and I've never made a plush of a human character before, so I'm not sure what to use. I made a mockup using fleece because it's what I had on hand, but it seems like it would be better suited for the hair. I was testing out a different pattern using cotton which seemed.... skin-like (?), but I was planning on making the clothing out of cotton so I didn't know if that would look weird? Am I just overthinking this or..? Any help would be appreciated.

[Anonymous No.10639560]

>>10639549
EMS is slow right now because there still aren't a lot of planes going from Japan-US.

[Anonymous No.10639564]

>>10639549
Ah, I'm glad it was some help to you! I wish I could tell you definitively what "acceptance" means in your circumstance, but I'm still new to importing myself. The package I mentioned was actually my first. I would hope for your sake that it means it's been approved by customs in our country though. Good luck!

[Anonymous No.10639576]

>>10639559
>decent-looking fabric option for making the "skin" of an human character plush
Maybe faux-suede? It is usually used for skin like textures for plushies. It is soft but not fuzzy like fleece.

[Anonymous No.10639577]

>>10639559
https://www.follylolly.com/blog/tips-fabric-shopping-for-plushies

[Anonymous No.10639655]

>>10639549
>>10639545
This was from China and not Japan, but I shipped a taobao package via EMS back in April and tracking literally said "shipment accepted/creating origin post" for two months and then in the span of like three days it progressed through the rest of the steps and was safely delivered. Wack. I think it probably sat in a warehouse somewhere until it got put on a plane, lol.

[Anonymous No.10639666]

How long does it usually take Baby SF to respond to emails? I sent them one and haven't gotten a response yet, starting to get worried since there are deadlines

[Anonymous No.10639709]

>>10639559
I recommend soft knit with a super short pile length for making plush. Something like these would be closest to your example pic:
https://www.amazon.co.jp/gp/aw/d/B01MY9GAV5/
https://m.aliexpress.com/item/1005002714833198.html
https://m.aliexpress.com/item/32909551665.html
Also, it's fine to use the same fabric for the skin, clothes, and hair if you want. It doesn't look weird, and that's how most Japanese plush are made.

[Anonymous No.10639717]

>>10639666
They still never responded to my email about appointments I sent 5 months ago. I suggest calling them, they have always picked up

[Anonymous No.10639724]

Is there a "wa lolita" version of ouji? I mean, east Asian-inspired ouji, or east Asian-inspired boystyle?

[Anonymous No.10639735]

>>10639724
I believe so but it would be taobao brands only and it’s not popular, you could definitely get a coord going but it would take effort and questionable quality. You might like male hanful style though which is more accessible/popular

[Anonymous No.10639754]

>>10639538
Thank you, anon!

[Anonymous No.10639777]

Do items posted to AatP's insta eventually get stocked on the website, or will they only remain in stock at the physical Harajuku store?

[Anonymous No.10639793]

>>10639724
maybe some Ozz Oneste would be of interest to you? I believe they have a mens section

[Anonymous No.10639797]

>>10639717
I don't think that's an option for me sadly, since I don't live in the states. My best bet would be to wait a bit and send them another email. I'm surprised they're encouraging contacting them with any questions regarding orders if they don't respond, mine is regarding a pretty major fuckup too

[Anonymous No.10639823]

What are the farms? I’ve been lurking for years and still not figured that one out

[Anonymous No.10639825]

>>10639823
lolcow dot farm

[Anonymous No.10639851]

Who is Wondercunt and what did she do?

[Anonymous No.10639853]

>>10639851
Wonderfinch

[Anonymous No.10639854]

Are there hairstyle appropriate for classic lolita that I could do with my natural hair? I have wavy 2a hair and I don't want to damage my hair by ironing it

[Anonymous No.10639864]

>>10639854
Put it in a neat bun or braid.

[Anonymous No.10639869]

>>10639851
Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but I think she was the one that led the crusade against Lor over the accidental like? She's super performative woke. Also, she owned Die Walkure as a dream dress of hers, which is the Nazi-inspired Meta dress, which most people rightfully pointed out makes her pretty fake. I think she has since denounced it and sold it, but yeah lol

[Anonymous No.10639883]

>>10639869
Huh, I remember hearing her name thrown around before the whole Lor incident. If she did do anything else, I need a history lesson.

[Anonymous No.10639943]

>>10639576
>>10639709
>>10639709
Thank you all! Your answers have been super helpful.

>it's fine to use the same fabric for the skin, clothes, and hair if you want
I had a feeling that I was being a worry wart about it. Thank you for the assurance!

[Anonymous No.10639954]

>>10639854
scrunch with some oil then use ribbon clips to pin back the front bits of your hair. Or use a clip at the back of your hair to do the same and smooth it down with some leave in

[Anonymous No.10639983]

Is Dwarvesshoes a reputable brand/store? I can't find any reviews but their shoes look so cute... I'm wondering if they are just new so they don't have much of a following yet.
https://dwarvesshoes.com/collections/mary-jane/products/handmade-retro-waxing-leather-flat-mary-jane-shoes-for-womens-round-toe-brown-black-coffee-1

[Anonymous No.10640000]

>>10639793
this looks good, more like this?

[Anonymous No.10640099]

>>10639983
They're new, I think - my fakespot browser extension freaked out when I opened the site.

[Anonymous No.10640102]

>>10639983
oh, it's not Dwarvess Hoes...

[Anonymous No.10640111]

If you buy Kumya hair elastics straight from the btssb website, do you actually get a set of 2 like most second hand sellers have? Or do you just get 1?

[Anonymous No.10640115]

>>10640111
No, it's just the one.

[Anonymous No.10640117]

If i get an ap sack dress can i wear it without petti like casual style, or will it look fucked up

[Anonymous No.10640119]

>>10640117
I do this sometimes. It doesn't really look lolita but it's comfy and good for very hot days.

[Anonymous No.10640120]

>>10640117
Nta but are dresses like this only for really skinny girls? I want one as well because i think the cut looks adorable but I’m scared i look like honey boo boo

[Anonymous No.10640131]

>>10640120
In my opinion, sack dresses do only look good on skinny girls with good torso-leg proportions. If you're round or stumpy, a sack dress will make you look rounder and stumpier. Also, sack dresses are reminiscent of nighties and literal children's clothes, so I feel that they really require a good fit and careful coordination to look fashionable.

[Anonymous No.10640138]

>>10640119
if you are fat or have big breasts it will look like a muumuu on you.

[Anonymous No.10640146]

>>10639851
formerly wonderfinch currently purestmaiden, obnoxious sjw perma ita who sends her followers after anyone who makes a mistake

[Anonymous No.10640148]

>>10639854
half up half down type stuff looks cute with wavy hair. embrace your natural texture anon, I love seeing lolitas with natural curls and waves

[Anonymous No.10640304]

What does (cut group) and (full reservation) on taobao listings mean? Are these in stock?

[Anonymous No.10640338]

>>10639983
They look like a Taobao reseller. Their shoes seem very familiar.

[Anonymous No.10640344]

>>10640338
Agreed. The pose of the feet look taobao to me somehow, if that even makes sense.
Also the background of the photos being different all the time and not consistent is a giveaway.

[Anonymous No.10640373]

>>10640120
They look bad on everyone desu

[Anonymous No.10640486]

Where can I buy a Milklim clothes online

[Anonymous No.10640538]

Does anyone have any experience using Buyee’s “Buyee Air Delivery” shipping? Is there a reason to avoid it?

I need to ship a package of items that literally should be no heavier than 8lbs and I have to choose between $175(???) EMS shipping, slow sea mail or “”””””Buyee Air Delivery”””” which is only about $50

I don’t expect shipping from Japan to be cheap but I’ve never been quoted $175 for such a small package hhh

[Anonymous No.10640539]

>>10639793
Not going to lie, I think this image is near single-handedly going to get me into ouji. I'm neutral on ouji otherwise but this looks so good.

[Anonymous No.10640679]

how long is suspiciously long for a package to be delivered via ems from China? it's been almost a month now, but it said online it'd take 5-20 days

[Anonymous No.10640701]

>>10640679
Well covid is still a thing, so maybe don’t freak out yet.

[Anonymous No.10640703]

What amount can AP’s cutsews stretch to? Say if it’s 84cm at rest. At what bust point does it appear too stretched?

[Anonymous No.10640704]

>>10640703
They look bad when stretched at all

[Anonymous No.10640707]

Asking here because if a board would know how to sew, I'd imagine it'd be the cosplay board.
I'd like to learn to sew, and I'd be doing this by hand. Aside from needles, what should I really be looking for in a sewing kit? Alternatively, are sewing kits largely a sham and I need nothing/little more than just needles, thread, and safety pins?

[Anonymous No.10640709]

>>10640704
Thanks anon, that makes me feel better about a listing I was outbid on. I wish it weren’t so impossible to find a good replacement though.

[Anonymous No.10640711]

>>10640707
I only make hand sewn alterations, but I highly recommend some high quality basics:
1. Sewing scissors that you only use for fabric and thread cutting.
2. Strong thick cotton thread and pure silk thread if you have silk items to sew. Usually you match the thread type to the fabric you are sewing - the mini sewing kit threads are garbage quality imo.
3. A multi-pack of needles will do.
4. Pack of pins and a pincushion (I have a cute strawberry one)
5. A loose measuring tape

(Feel free to add on other anons if I’m missing anything, but I get by just fine with this setup)

[Anonymous No.10640724]

I couldn't find the thread for this, which is why I am posting here. Does anyone know what brand this cardigan is from? I'm looking to sell it and bought it second hand at a market years ago.

[Anonymous No.10640729]

>>10640724
Its probably axes femme/fint along those lines. Def not brand and i’d be surprised if you got more than $20 for it

[Anonymous No.10640730]

Is shiro masume work in manga overrated? Is there better plot line and drawing style out there? Aesthetically speaking

[Anonymous No.10640732]

>>10640538
Their air delivery isn't fast. They quoted me saying it would arrive in 3-4 days and it's been over a week and my package still hasn't moved from the post office it started at in Japan.

[Anonymous No.10640766]

I've been out of lolita for two years now. Is the fashion dying? I know it's been a meme for a while but my old comm is dead, hardly anyone I follow for lolita posts anymore, I even joined a random weeb discord and hardly anyone knew what lolita even was.

[Anonymous No.10640770]

>>10640766
I think because of quarantine there has been less content created as far as coord shots and event photos. People have been laying low and spending their stimmy checks. I'm expecting a surge back to prepandemic levels soon.

[Anonymous No.10640771]

>>10640766
The brands (ap, baby, meta, IW etc) have all survived the pandemic and are doing quite well with things selling out. AP website still crashes with new release. New brands are rising that are doing quite well also.
Egl itself is changing from what it used to be. but it’s still going strong. It’s never gonna be mainstream but it’ll stick around

[Anonymous No.10640772]

>>10640766
my comm is dead too, but im trying to keep the fashion alive just for myself. i even made some local friends through this board, who I infinitely respect more than my bodyline/replica comm lol.

[Anonymous No.10640793]

I’m going to Florida in less than two weeks but I am not equipped for the heat at all. I wear mostly old school and classic but my arms are covered in scars that I don’t want the people I’m going with to see. Do I just have to cope with the heat in long sleeves or are there any alternatives that won’t make me look frumpy? These can’t be covered with makeup

[Anonymous No.10640801]

>>10640793
Other than wearing sheer long sleeves best I can think of are those stupid detachable sleeve things that girl wears in Final Fantasy. Ya dun goofed fucking up your arms anon.

[Anonymous No.10640805]

>>10638770
issues with photographer crowds blocking the ways in the past

[Anonymous No.10640813]

>>10640793
I don't know what part of Florida you are visiting, but it is so hot and humid here, anon, you better be planning on staying inside completely if you are going to wear long sleeves.

[Anonymous No.10640854]

>>10639543
Maybe they're afraid that it would get lost on the way and they would be hold accountable

[Anonymous No.10640871]

Where do I get socks?
I don't have the budget for brand, the patience for taobao/overseas shipping, or the stomach to order off amazon.

[Anonymous No.10640872]

>>10640871
Then knit some you cheapskate

[Anonymous No.10640878]

>>10640871
you simply don't. or go secondhand and get foot fungus from that one anon

[Anonymous No.10640879]

Can someone help me ID this ring?

I'm cataloguing old purchases and I lost the real name of this ring. I asked in a thread months ago, but I don't remember what the name was. Wunderwelt has it as " ラメリボンリング " but Glitter/Ribbon/Ring don't bring up the right results in lolibrary. I've been through every page of rings.

Thank you in advance.

[Anonymous No.10640881]

>>10640871
Suck it up and order from ali or something. Waiting a month isn't that bad.

[Anonymous No.10640884]

>>10640871
normie fishnets

[Anonymous No.10640890]

>>10640732
Hmm thanks for the intel anon. I already ended up biting the bullet and going with it after seeing that other folks’ packages weren’t moving fast with EMS either. I’d just like it in less than a month desu.

This is a big incentive to stay away from Buyee though. Apparently “Buyee Air Delivery” is Buyee choosing between FedEx & DHL instead of just allowing the customer to choose.

Id been using White Rabbit Express for a while because their customer service is great but their fees are pretty high and they’re slow to make purchases. I might try FromJapan or something idk.

[Anonymous No.10640900]

>>10640538
I'm this >>10639545 anon, and oddly enough I originally purchased Buyee Air Delivery too because it was cheaper, but when I got the shipping confirmation it showed as "EMS". I didn't complain because from what I know it's (possibly) better and I just wanted my package at the end of the day. I was worried they would update the pending charge, but they never did. From what I hear, all shipments are pretty slow right now so if you have the chance, it might be better to let it sit in the warehouse and check back in a week to see if the estimates are any better.

[Anonymous No.10640901]

>>10640707
> Alternatively, are sewing kits largely a sham
No, they're actually perfect for beginner's because you save money on buying all the little knick-knacks which you can upgrade later on. That being said, they're not going to be the best quality for that price obviously. Use it as a stepping stone for getting into the hobby and making the investment of real tools worth it. To build on what the other anon said, I'd say buy the sewing kit, a pair of good scissors, and a spool of good black/white thread (unless the kit comes with a good brand like Coats & Clark, Gutterman, etc) -- everything else in the kit will work just fine.

[Anonymous No.10640903]

>>10640879
I'm stupid. I found my post from November. It's the Twinkle Ribbon Ring, however it's not on lolibrary anymore, so that's why I couldn't find it. The barrette and headband show up, but the ring is missing.

[Anonymous No.10640904]

um, sorry if this question is TOO dumb, but.. where do you get petticoats these days? I feel like the common recommendation was once Classical Puppets but idk if there are now better options out there

[Anonymous No.10640906]

>>10640904
aurora and ariel

[Anonymous No.10640938]

>>10640679
China EMS is fucked - check the taobao thread/archived threads, anons have been reporting a wait of 2 months, possibly even longer. There are limited flights leaving China which means shipping is slowed down. My package, which I shipped mid April, took until June to arrive.

[Anonymous No.10640941]

>>10640793
Depending on the design, maybe delicate long lace gloves could work for some coords? Something that has a pattern that distracts from scars but is "open" enough that it stays breathable. That being said I don't know how easily you can get something like this in a good material and I can't say how effective it'll be in a place like Florida, but it's an idea.

[Anonymous No.10640944]

>>10640711
Second this all this, but I'm gonna add on items that are sort of optioaln but I use very frequently:

>seam gauge
You can get by with a measuring tape or a small ruler, but being able to set a specific measurement on the seam gauge and then just check multiple spots really quickly is so convenient for me.
>something to mark fabric
Chalk, fabric pencil, fabric marker, transfer paper and rolling wheel, those Frixion pens - your choice but I find it important to be able to reliably mark fabric when sewing.

Especially seconding the thread. Sewing kits have shitty quality thread, it falls apart and if you put it in a sewing machine, it'll shred and leave lint behind which can fuck with your tension and how well your machine sewing in general. Get good thread.

[Lilme No.10640945]

Omg, i luv this. Call me 4102008112

[Anonymous No.10641006]

>>10640904
MeLikesTea

[Anonymous No.10641011]

How the hell do you get followers on instagram? I wouldn't call myself efame thirsty but it would be nice to consistently get 100 likes on my coords. I've been around for years and I don't think my coords are bad or that I'm ugly, I never show up in the ita thread at least. Other girls get 1000 likes easily and I can barely get 50...I guess don't get me wrong I don't wear lolita for the attention, but I am just human, I still want to be validated.

[Anonymous No.10641014]

>>10641011
Most people spam tags and shit

[Anonymous No.10641032]

What is the name of this type of jewellery AP does? I'm keen to see if aliexpress/etsy has something similar but I don't know what keywords to use

[Anonymous No.10641033]

>>10641032
resin jewelry

[Anonymous No.10641035]

Bought a jsk on xianyu that turned out to be a rep. It looks nice from a distance but it's clearly not the real thing. What should I do with it???

[Anonymous No.10641070]

>>10641035
Burn it. Be careful with the fumes though, I heard plastic fumes are bad for you.

[Anonymous No.10641112]

I am a tall-lita. Does anyone know of any pettis that add two layers of frill to the bottom of a skirt or jsk? I've seen it done before, but I've not been able to find these underskirts so my knees can be covered.

[Anonymous No.10641134]

>>10641112
Fellow tall-lita here, the Lady Sloth medium underskirt is good

[Anonymous No.10641148]

>>10641112
peacockalorum underskirts are nice. but also - knees are cute!!! underskirts look weird with a lot of stuff, embrace your knees nonny

[Anonymous No.10641150]

>>10641134
I've heard mixed reviews about pieces from LS but never thought to look for those basics, ty!!
>>10641148
Peacockalorum is super nice, but all things considered I feel like not worth the time and price for something I could (painstakingly) sew myself. As for the knees they don't look bad, but I am attempting to look more elegant than cute, and knees showing seems improper.

[Anonymous No.10641163]

>>10640904
Wunderwelt also has a petti that seems to be getting good reviews. The Black Ribbon has a chiffon netting petti that is the closest to the old famous victoriangirldress petti (although not as cheap), Both of those are a-line.

[Anonymous No.10641200]

>>10641150
ah that's fair desu, for elegance an underskirt is definitely the right move.

also re LS, her basics are pretty alright, it's the dresses that are garbage. she's starting to come out with some cotton blouses and lace topped socks that look nice.

[Anonymous No.10641243]

>>10638458
I've seen a lot of different methods for tying waist ties, I personally do my ties from the front in front of my mirror and then reattach them on the back. The pieces with neck ties I own have thin straps so I don't think too hard about those. I just tie them like I would a pair of shoes since my hair covers them anyways.

[Anonymous No.10641244]

I bought some really cute Baby shoes but they are too big. They're probably like 2 sizes too big - what's the best way for me to pad them to get them to fit better? Do you use any special products?

[Anonymous No.10641245]

>>10641035
If it's good, I suggest wearing it at home or whenever you're not with other lolitas. Why throw it away if it's a decent replica?

[Anonymous No.10641354]

Anyone know what type of velveteen Antique beast uses? I want to buy this dress and alter it a little.

[Anonymous No.10641460]

>>10641354
Why do you need to alter it if they do custom sizing?

[Anonymous No.10641465]

Is it possible to alter AP tights into OTKs in some way that won't make them run or destroy them?

[soup No.10641466]

this thread should be renamed “question thread”. my mom told me that there’s no such thing as stupid questions only stupid people

[Anonymous No.10641467]

>>10641243
This is so dumb of me, but - nayrt - I have never thought to do this and it seems like such a simple and smart idea??? Doesn't work for some of the dresses/skirts I have because unremovable waist ties, but thank you for the idea!

[Anonymous No.10641468]

>>10641460
Ntayrt but maybe they want to add longer length or change the sleeves

>>10641465
Wouldn’t you just cut them into otk length, sew/burn the top closed and add some lace and elastic at the top?
It’d still destroy them if you wanted to resell. but it would look fine if you had good lace

[Anonymous No.10641469]

>>10641468
Sewing seems a bit iffy because I'd need the right machine stitch to allow the thread to accommodate the stretch of the tights, right?
I thought about sealing the ends with a lighter, but I'm honestly scared. I have a pair of AP tights I don't mind ruining for test purposes, but it would still suck to do it massively wrong.
Also I rarely sell, so that's not really a problem.

[Anonymous No.10641475]

>>10641469
Hmm how about get a bunch of cheap tights and practice on those first?
They also have a special tights glue to fix runs and it also works to seal edges, if you don’t want to use a lighter. You could also use superglue. And then sew lace on top but add a ribbon onto the lace to be able to tie it tight to your thighs. may be a bit janky but would work to keep them up

[Anonymous No.10641487]

>>10641460
I thought they only added or took away 5 cm?

[Anonymous No.10641514]

Sorry for bad image quality.

How can I safely "straighten" out the top part of this double-stranded AP necklace?
The part with the small beads has a plastic thread that's out of shape after being stored for years by the seller. Is it okay to use a steamer to mold the plastic thread so it lays correctly again? I don't want to melt anything.

[Anonymous No.10641523]

>>10641469
I would use a surger sewing machine to attach to ruffled lace.

[Anonymous No.10641525]

>>10641514
You could try hot water. I've done it with waxed nylon thread before to straighten it, but I'm not positive it'll work for the plastic transparent thread. You can gently step up the heat though with less risk of melting from steam.

[Anonymous No.10641536]

>>10641487
The website says that, but if you ask them, they're flexible (though I imagine not insanely so).

[Anonymous No.10641562]

Is there a guide on how taobao preorders work? Or if anyone is willing to explain. I just want to make sure I understand them before attempting.

[Anonymous No.10641567]

are facial piercings ita?

[Anonymous No.10641571]

>>10641567
yes and anyone trying to convince you otherwise is not someone you should take crit from

[Anonymous No.10641633]

Any tips on relieving pressure on the waist when wearing lolita?

A bit of background, I just got a skirt and it's the first one in my wardrobe. I never experienced discomfort wearing lolita - but having the waistbands from the petticoat, the tights, the bloomers, and the skirt, was a bit too much! Would appreciate any tips or tricks, thank you in advance :)

[Anonymous No.10641654]

ok, this is absolute beginner, i'm looking to buy my first blouse (brand, secondhand, probably mercari/ fril), how do you know if japanese 'free size' will fit? is there somewhere i could find measurements of what 'free size' is in blouses maybe?

[Anonymous No.10641668]

>>10641654
Free size is the average japanese woman size. No global sort of measurements. If you are a us size 0-2 you won’t have any trouble. If you are bigger than that or have large breasts, i would say to stick to t shirts

[Anonymous No.10641669]

>>10641633
a corset would bulk you up a little bit but then all this waist bands will sit on top of it and you won't feel them.

[Anonymous No.10641672]

>>10641654
If it’s from a lolita brand you can look up the measurements at lolibrary

[Anonymous No.10641675]

>>10641633
roll the waistband of your petti so it sits slightly lower than your waist/at your hips. This depends on the aesthetic you're going for (for example, not possible with peeking bloomers) but you can replace bloomers with gym shorts in or something similarly comfortable. They're not supposed to be seen, anyway. And "smaller" cut bloomers that are supposed to be worn on the hip exist too. Swap tights for OTKs/ankle socks when possible. Any combination of these will help provide a tiny bit of relief.

I've also heard of some people wearing a corset underneath their clothing and placing the waistbands of the petti and skirt on top. The stiffness of the corset means the elastic waistband won't feel like it's squeezing you. Ymmv on that one.

>>10641567
Opinions are split and range anywhere from "it doesn't matter" through "it looks OK with some coords, like with gothic" to "it's always ita." Use your best judgement. Is your huge septum ring going to clash with your OTT sweet coord? idk maybe. Is someone even going to notice a tiny stone on the side of your nose? idk probably not.

[Anonymous No.10641692]

>>10641675
All of these tips are fucking terrible.

[Anonymous No.10641783]

Anyone know where i can buy resin jewelry that are a little glittery and cute like AP ones, but LESS ‘extra’? I want some for casual wear. for example, i like this necklace a lot but the bear is too big for my taste

[Anonymous No.10641826]

>>10641672
thank you! i don't know why i didn't think of that before.

[Anonymous No.10641922]

>>10640117
I usually wear a really casual small petti or a low poof a-line for sack dresses

[Anonymous No.10641924]

>>10640120
I don't think you have to be a twig to look good in them. If they are too short on you, or you have a really big bust I've noticed they look kinda awkward. I like them because you can wear them multiple ways with layering cardigans, corset belts, aprons, and sheer over dresses etc. that change the shape a little bit.

[Anonymous No.10641962]

Are replicas still thrown upon if
you're not wearing them to events/meet other lolitas? I took some pictures and want to post them to social media without a coord rundown. I think it's unnoticeable. It's a solid replica.

[Anonymous No.10641965]

>>10641962
If anything I think they're MORE frowned upon now than they used to be. Back in the day you could hide behind 'I didn't knooooow it was a replica?!' and it was harder to get brand items. Now there's literally no excuse for wearing a replica when brand is so cheap and ubiquitous.

[aipacchi joshi No.10641979]

does anyone know where the find cute medical white eyepatches like these? all the shitty cosplay eyepatches i find online literally take up a quarter of your face and are way too big, its rly annoying.

[Anonymous No.10641984]

>>10641354
can I say something controversial, they remind me of that goth brand sinister, I think it's the way the bodice is constructed

[Anonymous No.10641992]

>>10641962
if by "solid replica" you mean non printed (and not "solid" as in "pretty alright", that's not as bad as a print deploy, so I'd say you're fine.

[Anonymous No.10641995]

>>10641979
although we know these as the kawaii uguu anime eyepatches, these are standard eyepatches for everyone in japan, so any department/drug store should have them. Think like daiso or donki instead of places like cosplay shops

[Anonymous No.10642000]

>>10641992
I meant non-printed, yes.

>>10641965
Around half my wardrobe is brand and the other half is taobao, but I'm in need of pieces I can lounge in... and I happen to own a couple replicas, which are gathering dust.

[Anonymous No.10642003]

>>10642000
It’s so easy to just not post pictures then? You don't need to show the internet everything you ever wear

[aipacchi joshi No.10642011]

>>10641995
arigatou

[Anonymous No.10642019]

>>10641692
Yeah, otks and socks are so ita instead of tights

[Anonymous No.10642040]

hello ! i am sorry if this is a common question.
i am new to the fashion, is it okay to buy dresses from ebay and mercari ? i already have a few from ebay but i want to know if this is a bad habit to drop right away !

unfortunately, i cannot afford the nice brands like AP yet because i am a college student

[Anonymous No.10642071]

>>10642040
I’ll bite, you can buy some secondhand brand from those sites just dont buy cheap chinese shit

[Anonymous No.10642081]

>>10642071
Mercari maybe, but newbies should not buy off ebay. Even US mercari is dicey, which I'm assuming is what they mean.

[Anonymous No.10642099]

How legit is DevilInspired? Anyone have any stories from it?

[Anonymous No.10642100]

>>10642099
This question is genuinely too stupid for the stupid questions thread

[Anonymous No.10642101]

>>10642100
Please I am just a braindead ita.

[Anonymous No.10642104]

>>10642099
Don't think it's that stupid of a question. It's overpriced and shipping can be slow depending on availability of products. If you know how to buy from taobao either directly or with SS, I would recommend that over DI.

On the other hand, yes, they're legit. Never had a problem with them. Sometimes I buy from them when they have free shipping events because shipping to my country from China can be like 70 bucks.

[Anonymous No.10642105]

>>10642101
They are just a taobao reseller with issues. so if you like to pay overpriced and wait 8 months for ita things without any updates…then go do devil inspired

[Anonymous No.10642108]

>>10642105
Ita as in just lolita or do you think they have some ugly stuff?

>>10642104
I see I see. Really should learn how to use taobao.

[Anonymous No.10642122]

>>10642108
They do carry some ugly and/or costumey stuff, but that's just cause they're a reseller and there is a huge quality range on taobao, so you gotta pick and choose and try to go for better brands. Typically the rule of thumb I try to follow is, if it looks costumey on the model, it'll look even worse on me, and then if the price sounds too good to be true then it probably is.

[Anonymous No.10642124]

I've never cosplayed before in my life, but my girlfriend and I are going to a convention in a month. Are prices for shipping always fucked? Am I not looking in the right place? A $4 product on Amazon instantly goes up to $32 for quick shipping. It's insane to me.

[Anonymous No.10642130]

>>10641669
>>10641675
Thanks for the suggestion! I've been looking into buying a corset, so will do that :)

Also, what would be the rule of thumb for buying corsets? I found a store that ships locally for "every day wear" corsets, but the shop also seem to carry some costumey ones. Would that be a bad sign of getting quality corsets?

[Anonymous No.10642140]

Is there a term for an older woman that still carries the lolita aesthetic? Like, not delusionally still trying to be young again, but just carrying the aesthetic into their old age. Toned down or not. Cuz lolita has loli in to state it's youthful. Is there a similar term for older women?
And is that even a common style for older older women?
Not asking as one, but just because the thought came to mind. Not sure if I explained it well enough though.

[Anonymous No.10642141]

>>10642130
hard to tell without knowing anything about their sizing or construction. mystic city corsets are alright from what I understand. waist training groups on Facebook would probably be able to give more suggestions.

[Anonymous No.10642142]

>>10642140
"loli" is just part of the word "lolita", it's not meant to indicate youthfulness. lolita is the word for anyone who wears lolita, of any age. no special term for older women. it is not as popular for older women but it's not insanely uncommon.

[Anonymous No.10642145]

>>10642142
I see, thank you for humoring my dumb little question. It's much appreciated!

[Anonymous No.10642147]

>>10642140
Lolita is a nickname from the Spanish name Dolores; it doesn't come from lolicon. And there's lolitas in their 40s, 50s, 60s, etc. still wearing every style, yes.

[Anonymous No.10642149]

>>10642147
Thank you!
I think my question wasn't really a "older women can't wear lolita" but more a "what similar fashion trend (not necessarily by looks) is there that's mostly seen for older women"
But I don't really know how to word it? I don't think it makes sense... Because of course there are plenty of fashion trends to choose from... Yeah... No idea how to word it. But hey, still appreciated to have a reply. It's actually reassuring to hear. I'm not that age yet, but I'll be damned if I cant enjoy wearing lolita when I'm older

[Anonymous No.10642150]

>>10642149
Misako is almost 40 and is still a lolita fashion icon Just wear whatever you want as long as it brings you joy. We all grow old. We all die too. Wouldn't you rather spend the most time wearing clothes that made you happy?

[Anonymous No.10642151]

>>10642150
True facts. Honestly, I gotta lose some weight before I can really enjoy wearing the clothes I want to... But as soon as I can, trust me, nothing will be stopping me. Thank you, this was actually pretty uplifting.

[Anonymous No.10642154]

>>10642108
Honestly i think all of taobao is ita looking as hell unless you’re only looking for socks or teaparty shoes. Like… I have never seen anything taobao and thought “yes that looks nice i want it”

[Anonymous No.10642269]

>>10642124
>Are prices for shipping always fucked?
depends on where you buy from. If its overseas, then yes but especially right now because of covid.

[Anonymous No.10642351]

>>10640900
Oh interesting… thanks for the info anon. I actually am now in the same boat, where I chose Buyee air delivery and am now getting the same EMS shipping that was supposed to cost $100 more.

[Anonymous No.10642354]

>>10641567
nah not inherently but if you’re doing any kind of sweet or classic style it is easy for any very large piercing to clash with the rest of your coord’s vibe. ultimately depends on what you have though. I feel like you can say the same of large tattoos.

[Anonymous No.10642356]

How long does it take to get verified on lacemarket these days? I emailed them my ID weeks ago and haven’t heard back.

[Anonymous No.10642358]

>>10642356
Try messaging them on Facebook.

[Anonymous No.10642384]

I have a blouse that's tight around the shoulders and back. How would I go about altering it? Would it cost a lot?

[Anonymous No.10642399]

>>10641567
I remember shopping in Angelic Pretty Shinjuku store and the shop girl there had a huge labret (lower lip) piercing. She was super cute and complimented me on my piercings! I think it is down to personal taste.

[Anonymous No.10642402]

>>10642384
Just sell it and get a bigger size of the blouse and get the waist taken in.
If you are asking how to alter it you wouldn’t be able to do it yourself.

[Anonymous No.10642429]

>>10642140
I like the term EGL more because it’s easier to interpret it across many fashion types instead of solely lolita and its quintessential features (knee length poofy skirt, bows, etc). So I’m a bit older and I will mix certain features up per outfit using classic lolita inspiration for jewelry, makeup, hair, and piece combination. I’m overall trying to be more elegant classic, and if I do go sweet it’s for spring/summer formal OTT coords. Uhh…short answer it’s hard to differentiate between lolita and an “older form” but I think it is possible to adapt for individual needs.

[Anonymous No.10642430]

Does anyone know if the girl with very light blonde hair in the AP Paris tiktoks has any other social media? Her coords are adorable

[Anonymous No.10642434]

>>10642430
it's Mila
@miladeblois

[Anonymous No.10642438]

>>10642429
Thank you very much!! This is very helpful and makes sense and it's definitely a bit closer to what I was trying to ask. Thank you!

[Anonymous No.10642441]

>>10642429
fuck off larper. egl literally means elegant gothic lolita. it's not an umbrella term.

[Anonymous No.10642442]

>>10642140
>>10642429
Why are you samefagging?

[Anonymous No.10642443]

>>10642434
Thank you anon!

[Anonymous No.10642444]

>>10642351
Oh nice! I'm glad you didn't have to pay more.

[Anonymous No.10642452]

Any recommendations for good lemon accessories off of taobao? Bonus if the lemon slices are heart shaped.
I'm mostly looking for a necklace and a ring

[Anonymous No.10642465]

Where have you guys found lolita-appropriate handheld fans?

[Anonymous No.10642467]

>>10642465
Dropped pic. Meant something like this but less cheap looking

[Anonymous No.10642473]

>>10642467
There are for sure a lot of nice options on Etsy.

[Anonymous No.10642516]

>>10642429
EGL is a very strict and well defined fashion and does not "interperet across many fashion types". Yes there are different sub-styles with different themes but they all follow the same fashion rules "ie: modesty, silhouette, volume, victorian/rococo inspiration etc..."
Just wear the clothes you want to wear nobody actually gives a shit if you are a teen or a middle aged woman.

[Anonymous No.10642546]

>>10642473
Nta but you're the worst kind of person.
Etsy is a platform known for conmen claiming aliexpress stuff was handmade.
Not only that but the profit margins are thin for creators that are legit so prices have to be inflated.
Why would you comment something so substanceless?
That's like a newbie asking on a vegan forum for an egg substitute and you telling them to try going to the grocery store.
You aren't helping.

If you want them to go to creators that painstakingly hotglue feathers go ahead and link actual stores that you know and can vouch for.

If you don't know artisans then don't tell people to check Etsy because its usually mixed with cheap lowgrade garbage marked at a premium in hopes someone will buy into it not knowing the market.

Fuck off with the generic "Try Etsy" shit. You've contributed nothing but here is your (you)

[Anonymous No.10642556]

to anyone who's ordered from WW in the last couple months - about how long has it taken for you to get your shipping quote? i know they said they were backlogged with EMS, but it's been two weeks and i've gotten radio silence... makes me a little nervous so i just wanted to know if anyone has an estimate for how long i should expect to wait desu

[Anonymous No.10642561]

>>10642556
Last I knew, WW is ONLY shipping certain orders right now. A few weeks ago they said they were only shipping EMS orders up to August 2020. If you just ordered, and specifically selected EMS, you'll be waiting until all the orders from the past year of backlog have been shipped.

On the other hand, if you choose e-packet, they won't automatically ship to you/send an invoice, since that has not resumed. You have to email them and request Yamato. Not sure how long that shipping invoice currently takes, because they stated it will also take longer due to EMS orders being shipped. But I don't think you'd have to wait in line behind all the EMS orders.

[Anonymous No.10642607]

I have a sweat stain on a 100% cotton blouse I need to get out but the washing instructions don't say anything other than handwash and do not bleach. At what temperature should I wash it? Should I airdry it or put it in the dryer?

[Anonymous No.10642610]

>>10642607
As cold as possible, hand wash or delicates setting and always air dry 100% cotton or it will shrink. Try to wash it in a delicates mesh bag so it will be jostled around less

[Anonymous No.10642615]

>>10642610
Thank you!

[Anonymous No.10642621]

Would you recommend a new lolita starting with just OPs until they feel comfortable or jumping immediately into full on blouse/jsk/etc coords?

[Anonymous No.10642624]

>>10642621
Tbh if you really want to get into lolita, I would recommend just getting a blouse anyway because you may see a dress you really like but its only available as a jsk.

[Anonymous No.10642625]

>>10642607
you need to use warm water for sweat stains not cold.

[Anonymous No.10642629]

>>10642621
nah, get a blouse and jsk. both are more versatile in future coords, especially when youre just starting out and need as much versatility as you can get.

[Anonymous No.10642630]

>>10642625
Maybe spot treat with warm water but do not wash the entire blouse in warm water

[Anonymous No.10642636]

>>10642630
desu its just one small spot that is so faded now dry that im not even able to find it anymore, ig that's a good thing but i should still wash it

[Anonymous No.10642658]

get ready for the most retarded question you've all heard for a while
how do you tie your jsk/dress bows from behind neatly or if you're too short to reach and don't want to ask someone for help?

[Anonymous No.10642668]

>>10642658
well i mean do you not have literally anyone who could help you tie it? most people at meetups will happily fix it for you anyway if it looks messy

[Anonymous No.10642670]

Could anyone tell me the name of this BTSSB OP? I haven't been able to track it down. Immensely grateful to anyone who can help.

[Anonymous No.10642677]

>>10642658
Just put the skirt on backwards or the ties on backward, tie it, then put it back on correctly or turn your skirt around

[Anonymous No.10642682]

>>10642670
https://lolibrary.org/items/btssb-jewel-tree-bouquet-print-op
Took me 5 seconds to find it. Learn2filter

[Anonymous No.10642687]

Hello again! I'm the anon who was making the Maid-Sama plushies on commission for my friend. I bought the fabric with all of your help (thank you for that!) and now I'm working on the clothing. The ML's clothing is pretty straight forward because it's just a collared shirt and pants, but the MC..... lord. I have no idea where to begin with this one. I'm trying to figure out what the pieces are and if I can possibly use a base pattern since I don't trust my meager skills in drafting them. There's some anime clothing logic going on here so, any guidance is appreciated! Just a reminder that I am making this for a plush and not a human body, so I can stand to chibify it a bit.

[Anonymous No.10642699]

>>10642561
arigatou - i'll email for yamato instead, hopefully i'll get my stuff soon

[Anonymous No.10642745]

Am i stupid or did LM do something because I can’t edit the description or title of my listing. I had already edited it once. But now the only thing i can see to do is the ‘promote’ button and the actions/edit button is gone

[Anonymous No.10642751]

>>10642745
Just checked and mine is doing this too.

[Anonymous No.10642760]

>>10642751
Damn! well i’ll wait until tmrw to see if it gets fixed. Otherwise i gotta tell my auction person that i can’t accept or add her a BiN. because i can’t even change the title of the auction to ‘don’t bid’. Literally the only thing i can do is comment on my listing ;_;

[Anonymous No.10642787]

I know the obi are different but are mens kimono and yukata cut any different from womens? Is the masculine color or pattern the only difference between mens and womens?

[Anonymous No.10642840]

>>10642760
Yeah you can't change a listing after people start bidding on it

[Anonymous No.10642879]

Where can I find a rectangle headdress attached to a headband? Solid black would be nice, but black and white or sax would also do. No gingham please.

[Anonymous No.10642903]

How long does it take atm for Bodyline orders? I ordered a month ago and it says shipped but delivery date not specified and i also have no tracking

[Anonymous No.10643178]

anyone know where to get a blouse similar to the summer's tale nostalgia collection one? with the 'segmented' arms? i know i could find a way to sew something like that myself but i'm a sewing noob so

[Anonymous No.10643367]

someone on lacemarket is selling a dress for more than what she bought it for (found an old link to the same dress with her name as the buyer). She's currently selling it for $20 more, even with missing items and wear-tear.

Do I bring it up? Do I just casually mention "let me match it for the original price and then I'll buy"

[Anonymous No.10643370]

>>10643367
No harm asking her to lower the price. I do sometimes and it's always worked. As long as it's not more than a 20% reduction, it's not rude. I usually phrase it "I saw the JSK usually sells for about x, would you be willing to take y?" I wouldn't mention the past sale you saw her name on.

[Anonymous No.10643404]

>>10642879
I would say Meta but they're sold out, so that might be why you're asking in the first place...

[Anonymous No.10643406]

>>10643367
Contrary to what the other anon said, asking people to lower a BIN price is pretty bad taste. Don't get me wrong, I kind of hate it when I see someone buy something, then sell it a few months later for more, but they are most likely aware of what they are doing.
Telling them that you want it for the price they bought it for is just calling them out, and get most likely they will not take kindly to it. In the end, $20 isn't really something to haggle about. They might have paid that much for shipping and want it back.

[Anonymous No.10643450]

>>10642787
I believe so, I think the sleeves are slightly different. Now I forget if this is for kimono specifically or also applies to yukata, but women's sleeves are left open/unsewn near underarm, and men's are sewn all the way closed. Also, men's yukata and kimono are worn without ohashori, the little fold at the waist.

When you purchase a women's yukata, the correct length is about your height +/- 10 cm. You adjust the width of the ohashori to get the bottom hem at the correct height, so you have some leeway. But, also be aware that as of recently it's been fashionable to wear kimono with the hem higher up, and with wacky patterned socks or interesting shoes (like bright coloured pumps). Google kimono bijin for examples. So if you find a piece that measures just a tad short on you not all hope is lost. Most yukata listings will list the length of the yukata they're selling.

Men's yukata don't have the fold, so there's less leeway there, and you should make sure you're buying the correct length. If you're a woman, it's trendy to wear men's yukata (or just men's obi). It's called otoko-poi. Idk if this trend runs the other way, though. If you're a woman and you're interested in more masculine colours and patterns but you want to buy a women's yukata, they do exist! I've seen some recently on ebay in colours like grey and blue, with bamboo leaves. Way more subdued than a pink yukata with blue blossoms or the like (but they're all so nice looking, anyway).

[Anonymous No.10643625]

What's MARBLE's quality like? Their lace looks kind of scratchy on screen

[Anonymous No.10643692]

where can i get red (preferably brand) UTKs or OTKs right now? black detailing is ok as long as there's no print on it ig.

i swear i'm an idiot i can't find any

[Anonymous No.10643711]

I'm looking to make a gobelin skirt with box pleats as my first big sewing project. Can anyone guide me towards an OnS volume that might have a pattern for one?

[Anonymous No.10643723]

can anyone give brand recommendations for dresses that are affordable, well made and not ita? I was thinking something along the lines of And Romeo, any others?

[Anonymous No.10643733]

>>10643723
Buy secondhand stuff off general secondhand sites (lm, cc, ww, auctions etc). If you're really desperate to crank out a coord, get a main brand piece you really like and particular filler pieces from certain taobao shops (Surface Spell, Infanta) or Bodyline. I really don't like the look of And Romeo main pieces, and desu even Bodylinr filler pieces look better.
But seriously. Shell out for a second hand brand main piece.

[Anonymous No.10643749]

>>10643692
solid red socks are so hard to find.

[Anonymous No.10643874]

>>10643733
thanks for the suggestions, I wanted something decently priced that wasn't totally awful quality to see if gothic looks good on me before I go buying brand though I guess I could shell out for brand and if it doesn't look good on me just resell it

[Anonymous No.10644028]

is tear bag makeup asian fishing?

[Anonymous No.10644080]

What are good simple old school style OTKs for tall/long legs? Do baby's OTKs work for longer legs?

[Anonymous No.10644104]

>>10644080
my baby OTKs aren't long enough for my legs (5'8"), my meta raschel lace ones are perfect though.

[Anonymous No.10644581]

i haven't bought any main pieces yet but am trying to build up a small base-wardrobe of good quality basics (blouses, accessories, etc), but don't know where to start with pettis? what's a good petti to buy that will work with a lot of pieces? (i've heard people say the wunderwelt ones are good but do these work with a lot of pieces?) or should i just go for a main piece and work backwards by buying a petti that will work with it?
ugh wtf is this captcha

[Anonymous No.10644729]

>>10644581
aurora & ariel pettis are cheap and good. they say they're a line but they're more like a hybrid shape, so they work for everything. I'd get an 8m for low poof and a 16m for regular poof. if you haven't already learn to order them through 42agent.

[Anonymous No.10644730]

>>10643692
They're selling socks like that here, hopefully the off white lace on top is alright with you
https://chocochip-cookie.ocnk.net/product/165

[Anonymous No.10644731]

>>10644581
Wunderwelt is my go-to petticoat. I would highly recommend it. It works for bell and a-line.

[Anonymous No.10644860]

Is cosplaying an very tall character a bad idea if you're a manlet?

[Anonymous No.10645042]

>>10644860
everything is a bad idea if you're a manlet

[Anonymous No.10645262]

How much room in cm do you need in a blouse's cuff area for a comfortable fit? Also if it’s elasticized, would it work if your arm is the exact same measurement as the blouse’s cuff?

[Anonymous No.10646171]

>>10637002
twist fingers