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/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL


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Feels thread

>> No.10440188

Sometimes I do regret for buying my lolita stuff, but I feel bad for letting it go either.

>> No.10440189

Lolita makes me so happy.

>> No.10440196

lost my dream dress recently, seller said i'd have first pick of it if the other buyer falls through. fingers crossed gulls

>> No.10440200

I'm at the point where my love has become obsession. I feel like I need doubles (same color/cut) of all my brand in order to wear it.

>> No.10440201

Just realized how I haven't cried/had a meltdown in the past couple years except once. Not sure if its become life improved and I'm happier or if I'm secretly depressed and now my feelings are on mute. Or I was secretly really depressed from 23-27 and didn't do anything about it (I would cry regularly and generally feel miserable in big peaks and valleys). Do you just kind of "level out" once you're exiting your 20s?

>> No.10440202

>>10440187

For some reason OP pic is such a mood/vibe for me right now

>> No.10440205

I’m trying to learn Japanese in order to navigate Japanese secondhand stores more easily/read GLBs. Watching Ainori on Netflix has actually been super helpful in addition to being extremely addictive, but I’ve watched both Asian journey and African journey and I can’t find the 90’s/00’s episodes anywhere. I just want more Ainori dag nabbit

>> No.10440235

I'm torn between buying more accessories for my dresses and buying more decor for my mancave. Woman cave? Not only that, I want to start a hobby of sewing so I want to buy supplies.

>> No.10440256

I bought a friend's dream dress by accident
we are not super close so I honestly didnt know it was their dream dress and I found it on mercari and bought it because it was cute, I only found out it was her dream dress cause she shared the link after I had send my request to purchase
now I feel bad and feel weird posting about it

>> No.10440266

>>10440205
I love ainori. Idk how terrace house took off on Netflix when it’s so boring, but nobody is watching ainori which has all the friendships and romance plus learning about other countries!

I haven’t looked for the old series' but I hope you find them. Ainori withdrawal is tough

>> No.10440284

I had sex with my boyfriend again this morning. I'm so happy I'm demisexual and not asexual like I thought. Sex is the only way two souls can truly be close to one another. I'm so happy I don't have to miss out like if I were asexual.

>> No.10440291

>>10440284
(You)

>> No.10440303

>>10440256
It's your dress, don't be ashamed of it. But if you feel awkward about it you could always tell her she's first in line to buy it if you ever sell?

>> No.10440305

>>10440256
Could you tell her a white lie about already owning the dress? Then maybe wait a couple of months to post about it on social media. You didn't know, and you don't owe her the dress.

>> No.10440315

>>10440256
That sucks anon. I would just tell them what happened up front since if you post yourself in the dress and she sees it, that could make you look bad.

>> No.10440329

>>10440284
t. man

>> No.10440352

>>10440201
This gives me hope. Currently 24 and I've been in this constant wild rollercoaster of emotions since I turned 20. I'm either completely high on life or I'm an uncontrollable anxious crying mess. It's like a 20/80% ratio. Sounds like it leveled out for you anon!

>> No.10440353

>tfw covid has killed real cosplay
>no more cons anymore
>the only people cosplaying right now are e-thots
>cosplay will now just be a form of thottery

>> No.10440364

>>10440256
Just tell her you bought it and you had no idea

>> No.10440371
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10440371

went out to pick up a food order today, saw a lolita that looked like a generic 2010 ita

>wrinkled white floral cheap dress and sad wrinkled bow
>no petticoat
>giant platform demonia boots
>holding a floppy teddy bear for whatever reason

I wasn't even disgusted with how they were dressed, I'm just impressed and curious as to how they might have come to dress that bad. there are so many helpful resources, yet they look like they clearly used none and just tried to wing it based on how anime lolitas look

>> No.10440387

>>10440256
Yeah, I'd just tell them, "Funny story."

If you just think it's cute, maybe offer to sell it to her or trade for another cute dress you like? In no way should you feel any obligation to do that, but if you wanted to make her day sometime, it's a possibility.

>> No.10440389

>>10440187
Can someone explain to me why bust mannequins need nipples? I understand breasts as that would affect the curve of the blouse... but nipples? That seems like an indulgence by the guy who made the mold.

>> No.10440392

>>10440201
I think so depending on where you are in life. Turning 34 this year and my 30s have been better than my 20s where I felt the most angsty and depressed for little to no reason. I guess it helps that i've learned to make myself happy instead of thinking I needed to be in a relationship to be happy. I'm much more fit now too, wouldn't have been able to fit dresses when I was 25. My life isn't perfect per say but when things go wrong, I handle it a lot better now and am more in control.

>> No.10440393

>>10440389
A lot of flat chested women go without a bra, and even women with more of a bust might go without depending on the cut of the garment or whether or not it has padding/underwire like a shaped bodice.

If there's nipples on the bust, it can show you whether or not the fabric is too thin to wear without something under it.

>> No.10440394

>>10440389
The only reason I could think of would be for bra maniquins to show how it covers or doesn't cover nipples.

>> No.10440395

>>10440201
I've been told by college professors that the brain is still maturing until an average of 24 years old. That's an average so some people might take longer, some people might be less. Until that age, you technically don't have an adult's brain, and are still sort of in a chaotic state forming the habits and ideas that carry most the rest of your life.

>> No.10440454

>>10440395
Well that is comforting, I was worried something was wrong but its possibly because I've never been better lmao

>> No.10440490

>>10440395
So if I’m 20 I only have 4 years to get my shit together otherwise my brain will end it’s formation with bad habits?

>> No.10440493

>>10440490
Nah, it's just going to be harder to get rid of them. Very young childhood is the best time to develop good habits and skills because your brain is the most elastic but up until around 24 your brain is still developing and easily changeable. Of course even when you're old you can still change and learn new things, it's just less efficient.

>> No.10440503

>>10440493
>>10440490
I'd recommend learning how to learn so that in older age you'll have an easier time adapting to new things and picking new skills.

>> No.10440506

Been eating healthier for the past 7 weeks and have been losing weight and also my PMS has essentially disappeared. I’m so excited for the transformation I will have undergone when all this COVID shit is over, I really cant wait to wear lolita to a meet again, it’ll be like a butterfly emerging from her chrysalis.

>> No.10440524

Since COVID I’ve had less time and energy to do anything, not more, and seeing others post about how productive they’re being is really taking a toll on me. It doesn’t help that people I know keep asking what I’ve made since I last saw them and the answer is always “nothing, I haven’t had the time”. But they keep asking, even though they know about my situation. I barely have time to do my ACNH dailies let alone sew.

>> No.10440525

>>10440352
Anon that sounds like bipolar... You really should get that checked out. Not to shame on you or anything since I have it too (type II).

>> No.10440530

Why is life so damn difficult? Why can't everyone just follow the rules and be fair to each other?

I constantly feel massive pressure to work harder and harder because I need an advantage of those people who use unethical means to get further in life or just got it all handed to them. But I'm really reaching the end of how hard I can push. Every waking moment is spent working, studying, extracurriculars, networking and volunteering.

I'm so tired, I never have money because things keep getting more expensive and they've cut my pay. I am stressed over money constantly, I am stressed my grades aren't going to be good, I'm stressed that I won't have enough resume padding for a good company to even look at me.

Everything is so stressful.

>> No.10440532

I think I have add, Corona has hit me hard and I'm suddenly just so aware of everything and it's always been a problem but now I'm bored enough to literally tear holes in my skin in a matter of seconds so I think I need to just stop being a pussy and get an appointment for it.

I also have dysphoria but I'm not going to transition because it's just self hatred for being a dyke and i know i can get over it eventually, but it's (among other things) making it so hard to actually buy anything because I don't know if I want to try and pass and go for a masculine fit or go with what actually fits me and look like a decently attractive girl even though it's less comfortable right now.

>> No.10440535

>>10440532
>I also have dysphoria but I'm not going to transition because it's just self hatred for being a dyke

I understand the desire not to transiton, trans dudes are treated like shit, absolutely. here's some things you can do while not transitioning:
do crossplay, wear kodona/ouji fashion. Play male characters in games, change your discord username to somthing gender neutral. people who would normally creep on you tend to fuck off. Think of what you want the ideal you to look like, sound like, friends to be like. At the end of the day, who gives a fuck as long as the end result brings you happiness. Whether you are happier being a woman, a more masculine being woman, or hell, even a trans dude. Its probably not self hate anon. no sane person goes "maybe I just hate the fact I am gay so I'd like to be a dickless man that society hates perhaps that's easier than being gay" lol Either way, play around with your gender expression and see how you feel.

>> No.10440540

>>10440535
I really appreciate your reply, thank you.
I'm not transitioning mostly because of the shitty side effects of hormones (cancer, strokes, cardiac events when I already have a heart condition) I would 100% take getting treated like shit if I could look like a man lmao. I really, really want to try ouji, dansou is really my ultimate dream, but trying really hard to look male and still failing is pretty rough and I'm really not going to have an easy time passing, being 5'8", 115lbs with 35" hips. I'm trying to accept being a masculine woman, and it's definitely helping.
The reason I say it's just self hatred is because everything that really bothers me about being a woman is related to being a lesbian. I always felt excluded from girlhood and alienated because I always knew I didn't fit in, and the straight girls I was firends with never helped with that. I ended up anxious over creeping on women and feeling like I can't even imagine kissing a cute girl unless I know for sure she's into me, constantly feeling so predatory even though I've done nothing would be fixed if I looked like a man because then women would expect it. And if I actually was male, I'd be able to avoid the whole issue altogether because then I could just fuck men instead, which is a bit gross but it doesn't make me want to panic, and it feels less selfish than wanting to fuck a woman. But obviously, I can't fuck a man and it still be gay, so that's not going to help. I apreciate the sentiment, and with how trans issues are treated nowadays I can see why you wouldn't think it, but I literally do hate being feale because I'm so alienated from it because I don't want to be a lesbian. I'll defintiely try and dress more butch at least, but a lot of that really just highlights how I'm really not a man and never will be, and I also have a long way to go with accepting being gnc.
Wow that was an essay lmao I do feel a bit better though, thanks anon

>> No.10440547

>>10440540
I'm glad you feel a bit better. honestly I reccomend making butch lesbian and trans dude friends. They wont pressure you to transition if they have half a braincell, and from what I've learned the lesbians and trans women seem to look down on those who want to become masculine unhealthy amounts, while butches, trans dudes, and women on hormones to look more masculine "trans masculine women" will help you out with healthy ways to express your masculinity without trying to shove you in a little box. that helped me personally. I felt the same as you, from feeling like a predator, feeling like I never fit in because I was masculine, digging my heels in at wanting to label myself as lesbian, and (honestly mainly trans women) fucking yelled at me for wanting to be masculine, and it just led me to hating myself more until I found a pretty chill group of masculine bio female (afab) friends who assured me wanting to be a masculine woman is totally fine. I started dressing masculine too and to me at first it felt like shit because it highlighted how I'm not a man, but it felt better than wearing dresses and girly stuff, so now I'm used to it. as I've become more confident in myself I started wearing more mens clothes and I'm pretty happy now. I appreciate the essay, and glad I could talk to you

>> No.10440550

>>10440532
>>10440540
Take up rugby

>> No.10440554

>>10440187
this is a blue board (sfw(safe for work)) you can't post lewds(like naked pictures) here OP(original poster)

>> No.10440581

>>10440547
>Masculinity is just wearing men's clothes

You sound worse than the trannies.

>> No.10440587

>>10440266
Right? I tried terrace house to ease the pain since a lot of people seem to like both, but it was just unbearably boring

>> No.10440593

>>10440581
If that's what you got from that im sorry you have brain damage and like to place negative assumptions on strangers whenever possible. Seek help.

>> No.10440596

>>10440256

Gift it.

>> No.10440599

>>10440581
you're right, masculinity is about having the uncontrollable urge to rape and commit violent crime.

>> No.10440602

>>10440599
That's mainly blacks.

>> No.10440608

>>10440602
Men. Don't see any black women raping and murding as much as white men do.

>> No.10440617

>>10440608
Women do rape people though just not at the rates that men do. And white men don't rape at the rates black men do.

>> No.10440621

>>10440617

And white men are not falsely convicted and later found not guilty at the rates black men are.

>> No.10440624
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10440624

>>10440602
Go back to /pol/, scrote

>> No.10440625

>trans, race and gender bickering
Oh god, here we go again.

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>>10440547
Thank you, that's really nice of you. I wish I could find more butches to make friends with, there's pretty much none where I live, and the LGBT stuff here is all straight girls with hair dye and trans women. If you wanted to be friends though, my discord is Pisha#7209 . I also did take your advice and get dressed up, it's not out but it's pretty much as close as I can get rn (I did tighten my belt before I went outside too, lmao)

>> No.10440631
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10440631

>tfw you find out New Zealand is free to hold cons

>> No.10440633

>>10440626
cute outfit

>> No.10440636

>>10440626
Thats a very spiffy jacket

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10440641

most of my friends are going to a comic con today in my state. I don't think its a good idea..

>> No.10440644

>>10440626
Dunno what you're talking about nor care to read the thread up just wanted to say looking handsome in this pic.

>> No.10440652

>>10440525
Thanks for your reply, anon. I've been thinking about it too but all the weird nonsense about people self diagnosing for the tiniest reasons made me think I was exaggerating. I want to get it checked but I'm kind of scared of what will happen next. I've been in therapy/on medication before and it went nowhere. Sorry for the random rant anon just needed to get it out there somewhere.

>> No.10440675

>>10440554
kindly throw yourself off a cliff soup

>> No.10440679

>>10440625
You know what to do.