/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Obligatory post about farting at a tea party.

Im overloading myself with characters I wanna cosplay.
>Arkham Knight Scarecrow
>Arkham Knight DLC Red Hood
>Member of the Nights Watch
And now, because I just finished it, Zero from ZTD.

>doing super casual, comfy gijinka cosplay with my son for fun
>altered shorts and t-shirt tier
>not willing to make it fancy or overcomplicate it in any way
>slightly worried I'll end up in bad cosplay thread
>doing it anyway

Luckily, the characters are too simple to really screw up, I think.

>I've been cosplaying for 4 years come January

Where does the time go?

>get to know a potential boyfriend
>he is Chinese and speaks fluent Chinese
>heart races because I can use him as my Taobao translator
>today, casually ask him that I've been looking for something on a "Chinese website" and ask for help
>tfw "oh sorry anon, I can speak fluent Chinese, but I can't read it sadly."
I was so close... well, back to using Google Translate and Petrovna's dictionary I suppose.

>>9125143
Almost all second gen immigrants can't read chinese, mostly because they were schooled in a western country not China. Hence they never spent years learning the 8000 or so characters required to read or write.

I'm sure you could look into an online pinyin converter or something though

>my friends keep complaining about how fat they look in their cosplays/bad they look
>I don't say anything because I'm the thinnest one in the group
>have to listen to them go on and on for at least thirty minutes
>don't know how to feel because I love them but goddamn either lose weight or stop talking about it

>>9125152
gawd this post brings me back to highschool. they're fishing for sympathy, don't give in anon.

I've been posting in a few of these threads about my dad having cancer, boyfriend cheating on me, and having no motivation to do anything. Ignored the overwhelming response of "dump him lol" because (didn't include in the original post) I mentioned maybe having us be open if he moved, but we never actually talked about it so he figured I'd be okay with it. Well, I'm not, and after discussing it at therapy today I decided to be honest with him and say "please dont see this girl exclusively, it makes me think she's your gf, etc" and he's ducking out of the conversation because he's stressed about his continuous dumb mistakes and shit. "I'm going through a rough time, my mom's cutting me off if I don't attend classes I just wanna make my video game!" Buddy, I have a dying dad, no idea when my new job starts and can barely afford tuition for community college since I still have to claim under my parents and they count my unemployed dad's 401k as income so I can't get financial aid. Top it all off, my dad is disappointed in me for staying with him. Me too, dad. Me too.

>>9125136
>been cosplaying 9 years next April
Why do my cosplays still suck then?

>>9125163
>letting your BF fuck another girl

I don't even have a reaction image to portray how stupid you are. I hope you realize you are human garbage.

>>9125163
You obviously have low self-esteem. Love yourself, anon

>>9125163
DUMP HIM
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I have this dress that's been sitting in my closet for almost a year now, and I haven't worn it once. I still like it and fawn over it when I pull it out. But I haven't had the *perfect* opportunity to wear it yet. I'm wondering if I should just sell it because it's not really fair of me to have it and not wear it, when I know it's people's dream dress. But at the same time, I don't want to let go of it because it's so difficult to find second hand. I feel so selfish but at the same time it was my dream dress too.

>inb4 humblebrag, I know. Just wanted to get it off my chest since I know if I posted this anywhere else, my friends would start intimidating me to sell to them

>>9125173
not that anon, but plenty actually pull of the open thing. plenty also fuck up because they don't decide on boundaries first. sounds like >>9125163 fucked up by suggesting they be open in order to try to draw him back to her, which he's taking advantage of to not have to break up with her.

>>9125163 you deserve much better. it sounds more like he's not even trying, in which case it's pointless.

>>9125182
She isn't giving him any consequences, and she's letting him get away with it. She is trash. He clearly doesn't respect her no matter how much she loves him and she's enabling his behavior.

I'm not really looking forward to starting uni in two weeks because I'm probably not passionate enough about the subject I'll be studying, but I'd rather kill me than get stuck in the labour job I currently have...

>>9125186
which subject?

>>9125163
my dad died last year, and my gf of two years broke up with me a few months after (she moved back home to Korea, soon started ignoring me).

it sucked a hell of a lot, but it gets easier with time. It's just the way life works; people die and relationships fail. Just got to come to terms with it, enjoy the time with your dad while you still can.

Although cancer sucks you can still say goodbye, a lot of people don't even get that chance.

My friend's lolita sister just turned 18, and I wanna gf her so bad, you guys. But we've been platonic friends for five years now.

>>9124765
Oh, good. I was hoping this would show up.

>>9125187
Civil engineering mixed with economy and entrepreneurship.

>>9125199
Keep on top of your studies and the engineering will be much less work. I've noticed returning students seem more interested in the startup world, so that side of your course might interest you, who knows. When it gets tough though, just remember that whatever about anything else, you're actually going somewhere now, and you'll in a better place once you have that degree.

>>9125202
Thank you for the encouragement anon, it means a lot.

>>9125209
np. I finished engineering a few years back, trust me when I say it's one of the worst courses for throwing you in the deep end, but ganbatte and when you hit the labour market again you'll be glad for it!

My boyfriend of 2.5 years told me he wants to have an open relationship, after being told a few weeks ago that that kind of thing would be too much of a hassle to him. He's been chatting with a girl online for around a month and his behaviour seemed to change. I had the feeling that something was up but didn't want to admit it/thought I was being paranoid. Apparently he still loves me, he thinks we have a fulfilling relationship yadda yadda yadda but he has feelings for her. I know I should just break up with him, I can't bear the thought of him being with another person than myself, but I'm going through a hard patch and he's my best friend, I don't think I can afford to lose him now. I feel pathetic.

>>9125243
you are right to feel pathetic. dump him you dumb cunt.

>>9125243
be really honest and tell him exactly this

>>9125163
Anon you will get through this. My dad died two years ago next month from cancer and I had a similar situation with a shitty boyfriend. Dump this piece of shit and get more help for yourself, and please please please take care of yourself. This is incredibly difficult and this waste of cum is taking advantage of you. Be with your dad and treat yourself to something nice. Where do you live anon?

I have realized that the reason of not being able to finish any cosplay, is because I hate so much being alive.
I have been struggling with depression my whole life and the only reason of being alive it's because I don't want to hurt anybody but it's getting harder everyday because I obligate myself to do stuff everyday to keep me occupied, but i'm stressed 24/7.
University has been insanely difficult because it drains me emotionally, so is my work, even tho I get compliments everyday because of my good work. But I give a fuck about everything.
I want to see, but I can't feel the joy that used to give me.
I can't find happiness in anything anymore.

>>9125243
D U M P H I M

I don't know why you people stay with these shitbags. I know he's probably been your best friend for a long time, but would you rather find out this behavior later or now? 2.5 years is nothing in the long run, and you can chalk this up to experience. It's going to hurt to leave him, but better to hurt now and find someone who deserves you and won't treat you like trash. You have to start respecting yourself.

>>9125243
>Apparently he still loves me, he thinks we have a fulfilling relationship

Yeah...no.

What he is saying is that he wants to fuck other girls and have you as a back up plan for fucking if the others girls reject him.
He might care for you, but he doesn't love you if he is doing this shit. You just don't drop casually 'oh hey I want to fuck other people. U okay??? Cool!!!'.

It might hurt a lot being by yourself, but you won't feel like shit because of him.
Hugs anon!

>mfw a girl from our comm died in 2012 and one chick still posts a picture of her to the Fb group every day
>it's the same picture every time

>>9125181
Just keep it anon. Build some coordinates with it and buy similar stuff bit by bit till you have everything you need, then just wear it.
>'bu-bu-but I feel bad it's someone else's dream dress'
If you don't want it anymore, you don't have to make lame excuses, doybly so if you just want a dragon horde of pretties.

>>9125248
This.
Also, girl, this is not the place for advice. You can only go so far with help from others that are just as broken people as you are, if not worse.

>>9125243
I went through a somewhat similar situation, anon.
It is in your best interest to move on and not hurt yourself anymore. There are always other people to date, which probably doesn't sound good to you right now, but you can find another guy who loves you and only you.
I wish you luck through this rough patch.

>>9125247
>>9125248
>>9125257
>>9125264
>>9125293
Thanks, even for the harsh words. I WILL dump him, I just wanted to vent to be honest. I feel completely empty because he was such an important part of my life, and it came down so sudden, as in, we HAD a fulfilling, loving relationship. I'm really taken aback is all. Thanks for your words again, anons.

>>9125163
>Community college

Lol

>>9125322
That's what I mean by taking it as a learning experience. He was and will be an important part of your life, but you can grow and figure yourself out without someone like him pulling you down. Spoil yourself rotten and remember you deserve better.

>>9125283
Does this girl have a particularly strong attachment to the deceased?

> going to my first meetup in months
> conflicted because the host is a pretty notorious lolita who's visiting from out of state
> it's in a really nice venue though with opportunity to wear a really nice coord
> mfw

>>9125339
Best friend. Sad, but it's been four years.

>want to make an LED cube as practice for an upcoming project
>local electronics stores either don't have or only have very over priced blue LEDs
I'm not making it all out of the same color, I want variety so it looks pretty but god damn I am not over paying that much for this shit

>friend will not stop constantly messaging me and commenting on everything I post since we hung out at a con
>talked about not being cool with constant contact after getting woken up at night repeatedly but barely anything has changed.
>pic related, me staring at my phone after posting anything and outing myself as online

>At work there's this beautiful guy
>I'm shy as fuck so I never really talked to him
>"Friend" tries to set us up
>Ends up pulling a Regina George and dating him
>Whatever it's not like I talk to him anyways
>We actually strike up a conversation
>Turns out he's a nerd
>Want to be his friend and dress him up
>Regina George starts spreading rumors at work saying I'm trying to steal her man
>Barely even talk to him still

>Fast forward a couple weeks
>He calls himself single to a coworker
>????
>End up drunk messaging him one night, didn't think too much about it. I was texting a bunch of people.
>Friend says he was flirting with me
>????
>Him and Regina George break up
>This is my chance!
>Realize that he's too cool for me and probably won't want to go to cons
>Probably wouldn't let me dress him up as the other half of my OTPs
>Realize I'm moving away anyways
>Realize I really like him and should have actually grown some balls to begin with.

He's definitely out of my league. I'll just stare from afar for the next three weeks.

A while back I posted about the issues my SO and I were having disagreements about my lolita closet and shit. Today while at work, I decided I had to just leave so I quit my job and moved back home. It sucks now, but I can finally do what makes me happy and go back to college. All while having time to wear my dresses once again, work on new cosplays, and not hear his bitching!

>almost done with cosplay
>"I'll finish it tomorrow."
>this was in 2011

>>9125411
anon pls if someone said he was flirting with you then I'm pretty sure you're a lot better than you think

>>9125411
>start a job where sexual tension is inevitable
>none of my coworkers are attractive

>>9125243
Too much hassle? Anon.... Others are saying dump him but look what hes done. Hes been flirting with a girl online and since something may come of it hes changed his mind and hes trying to do shit under the umbrella of oh lets have an open relationship now. It seems to me hes crossed the line while being in a relationship that wasnt open and now he wants to feel the special feels of being persued by a new girl. Dump him for that reason. He was a scumbag before and now hes showing his true colors you are better off with a guy that will be honest weather or not he has a chance with someone else at the time.

>>9125322
It's okay, one of my friends wasted nearly 3 years of her life on some moron who was on Tinder behind her back for the last year of their relationship. They were living together, talking about getting married and everything...

> ordered two items two weeks ago
> ordered a JSK this past Friday
> the JSK may be coming in the mail for me way sooner than expected
> meanwhile, the two items I ordered haven't even shipped yet
> one friend ordered one of the same exact items as me on the same day two weeks ago yet already got it in the mail
> why

> Whenever I see someone in public wearing a jfashion piece I want, I immediately turn my hate glare on
> Hate myself for being a salty poorfag
> cry

>>9124778
>Arkham Knight Scarecrow
>Arkham Knight DLC Red Hood

Please do both of those things. :)

I made a bulky outfit to wear at a con this weekend, didn't think it would be a problem, but oh boy
>car broke down this week
>repair costs are way too high to justify, age of car considered
>no other vehicle owned

The convention is not that hard to get to with public transport, but I'm stressing out that the suitcases I have at home won't be big enough to fit the pieces. Neither of the pieces are foldable/bendable, too. Fuck. I'm so used to having my car for storage.

>>9125388
Buy from Farnell

>been perpetually tired lately, no matter how much sleep I get
>afraid my fat ass has caught up with me and I finally got diabetes since it runs in the family
>get blood work done
>iron deficiency

Well guys, I think this was the scare I needed to truly get my ass into gear, lose weight, and start looking good in cosplay.

>vigorously praying that the accessories I've got in the mail will match what I already have
last time I ordered a headdress in what I thought would be bordeaux it turned out to be a dark magenta

>>9124762
>try to dance with moderately attractive girl at metro rave
>she bails after like 30 seconds
>feelsbadman
>later that night check fb and some super attractive rando complimented me
>this week been asked out on 2 separate dates
>feelsgoodman

When you want to go to a con, but your friends all wuss out at the last minute.

> I've got a hot cosplay date tonight! (buzz)
> A date. (buzz)
> Cosplay with friends. (buzz)
> Cosplay alone. (buzz)
> Watching panels alone! (buzz)
> Alright! I'm just going to mooch around the con and home that I can gather up the courage to talk to somebody. (buzz)
> Just mooching silently. (ding)
> Now, would you unhook this already, please?! I don't deserve this kind of shabby treatment! (buzz)

I did cosplay in the end and I did get loads of pics taken, buuut... then I get the post-con blues, thinking I didn't do enough to talk to people and I'm just a ghooost of a person.

>>9125255
Please see a therapist, even one of those free ones in your uni. It's either that or try to find a way to pull yourself out of it.

>>9125243
Maybe you should talk to your therapist about finding self-worth and self-respect. You're not gonna dump this guy until he does because you think that you're trash and you think you deserve to be treated like this. Hopefully you can find a way to reverse that thinking

>>9125143
Seriously? Just make more Chinese friends, find the ones that came across around age 7 or so. They will have had enough school to read particularly if they had parents who took them back in the summer holidays and put them back into Chinese school.

>>9125155
I know. It's really difficult because I always end up being the one trying to make them all feel better. I can't really sympathize because I've never been big and I drastically changed my diet two/three years ago and feel better than I ever have (I've always been thin but not healthy,ate a lot of crap). I'm not ~omg gorgeous~ but I know I don't look bad in my cosplays and I always worry about them looking at me a certain way because of it.

My best friend in particular has gained a whole bunch of weight since college and has the hardest time out of all of them. Like she bases everything off of how many people ask for her photo/compliment her which honestly isn't the best idea. This is the first year that we're not doing a partner cosplay too and I'm kinda worried about dealing with a crying fit if not enough people say anything to her.

>>9125411
Are you sure that you think he is too cool for you? Just talk to him and see where it goes

>>9125795
The last thing she really needs is coddling thoigh. If you had enough of it then you should snap her back into reality. If it were a boyfriend treating her horribly, you'd tell her to dump him in a heartbeat. This is her relationship with food

>had my eye on a dress in the Baby online store for a while
>can't buy it, have to save up
>get paid this thursday
>check the site today
> dress is sold out, all colorways gone
>can't buy the other cuts
> RIP
>regrets not buying it at the release

Will have to hunt the secondhand market now.

tfw someone that cosplays in your area is trying to use Patreon to raise money to attend AWA. Their cosplays aren't even decent and they constantly complain about being out of work for months. Maybe you should be trying to look for a job instead of trying to get people to give you free money for con/cosplay expenses.

I typically ignore crap like this because it happens all the time but it baffles me that so many people think it's okay to do.

>used to be mega fatty
>finally lose weight
>I don't own a scale but by the way clothes are fitting it has been a drastic change
>everyone says I look good
>even someone who is a massive bitch to me about my appearance says I look good
>I still feel ultra fat no matter how many days in a row I do 10 miles
>eating only 400-600 calories a day
>constantly tapping my leg when I'm at my desk for extra movement
>every time I look in the mirror I see the same mega fatty staring back at me


I think I may actually have dysmorphia. To me it doesn't look like I've lost a single pound. What the fuck brain?

>>9125899
You could ask an in-store SS to look for it for you if you really want it, it might still be in stock in one of the brick and mortar stores. It'll cost more obviously but it's an option to consider.

>>9125411
He's not too cool for you unless you decide he is. Talk to him.

>>9125738
>>>/fit/
The sticky awaits. Good luck, anon. You've got this.

>>9125978
Thanks anon, by this time next year I'm going to look bitching in cosplay instead of trying to hide myself

>>9125951
I have a similar issue. I've lost twenty pounds in the past few months, but the more weight I lose, the fatter I look in the mirror. I swear to god I look fatter now than I did at 140 lbs. I'm desperately trying to reach a weight where I'll be happy and this stops.

>>9125984
I know lately a lot of people have been making light of this as an issue but it honestly feels like I'm living a nightmare.

I hope you can find a way to see that you've lost weight anon. It's a terrible feeling.

>grandfather has a plethora of illnesses and his health is declining at an alarming rate
>he's getting in home hospice care
>i live almost 3 hours away and have only been able to visit once due to busy work schedule
>the shock of seeing him sends me to tears
>grandmother told me there's really no telling how long he will be here
>I have a con next weekend that's literally on the other side of the country that I've dropped $1k on already

I'm so scared he's going to pass while I'm there and unable to do anything. I know it's ultimately out of my hands but I can't help worrying. It'll be my first immediate family member passing and I'm his only granddaughter.

>>9126021
it will be a shock because it's your first exposure to death

He's old so it's natural, nothing to worry about. Just grieve when the time comes and cry your eyes out

what do you do when you can feel yourself turning into vendetta-chan real fast.
why does someone so fake have to do all the same cosplays i do, down to buying the commercial shit, but look totally perfect every time. having a couple of really close friends praise/whiteknight them like crazy doesn't help.
and i know it doesn't matter at all and that i'm just being a horrible high-sodium shitface. but my self esteem is so low and i hated my face enough before this started creeping up, i want to quit going outside altogether. it looks so... wrong.

are these feels okay to post. i know how fucking pathetic they are. but they're still feels.

>>9126021
If it's anything like my most recent experience, it's hard to decide what to do. I'm personally very glad I got to be there in the final moments, but my sister and brother for example didn't visit in the final week and I don't know if they're beating themselves up over it or not. It's true what your grandmother says, though; sometimes there really is no telling how long it'll be.
Personally:
>try to visit as close as you can before leaving for con
>hopefully gauge how bad his state is at that time

Just know that no matter what you do, there'll always be that feeling that you could have done things better or different or...
Hang in there anon, rough times a comin'.

>>9126032
Distance yourself, you're literally just hanging on to hate. Much like threads on 4chan that get you rustled, hide and ignore.

>>9125243
>My boyfriend of 2.5 years told me he wants to have an open relationship
He wants to cheat on you and not feel bad about it. He also wants the benefits of having a steady girlfriend whilst he sees another on the side.

Into the trash he goes

>>9125951
Why don't post a photo to read objective opinions? Why don't catch a random guy somewhere and ask about him about your body? I think it's the bast way to deal with these kind of situations. (I've done it myself years ago, it really help me out)

>>9126032
You gotta hide that shit however you can. Looking at it only makes you saltier.

>>9126144
>post myself on /cgl/
no.

>ask a random guy

But I don't care what a random guy thinks, I care what I think. My friends, family, and a really bitchy girl all told me I look good but I still don't think so.

>>9126165
Then you can only get subjective opinions conditioned by your relationship with the person you are asking for an opinion. The only one option left is to think objectively yourself, and it's a very hard thing to do. (but also the most safe and comfortable option)

Good luck, because our mind is the most dangereous enemy we can face in life.

>>9126021
Lost both my grandparents this year. I was at work giving a guided tour when grandad passed- but managed to arrive in time to see him before the undertaker came and I'd been there every evening all week. When nana passed away I was right there, holding her hand. I wanted to be there, and felt like I had let grandad down by not being there, but a lot of the family couldn't bear it. And I don't think they were wrong to want to leave their memories of happier times untainted. It's partly an age thing too- no one let my younger second cousins in the room in the last few days- and my aunt was super against me being there even though I'm 26, because I'm forever the youngest of the grandkids...

Grief is fucking horrible either way, but no one can tell you how you'll feel about being there/not being there. It's very personal.

Sorry that you have to go through this *hugs*

>community is full of thirsty guys who bother a lot of the women

Kind of makes me feel like if I ever have feelings for any qt cosplayer girl here I'll just be one of those thirsty guys. It'll always be in the back of my mind, "what if I'm just annoying and thirsty like those guys?"

>>9126213
Same here, but the odds of meeting a girl who lives in my country/region are so low that makes it not worth trying. I would love to talk with cosplayer girl, yeah, but I don't want to become one of those desperate guys just to find someone near me.

>>9125152
Had this for ages, then i finally snapped when she asked "Do you think i have a muffin top?" and i just said "Yeah I guess". Instantly felt like such a bitch, and she didnt talk to me for a few days, but after that she stopped going on about it (in front of me at least)

>>9125509
What job do you have where sexual tension is inevitable?

>been building lolita wardrobe for the past few years
>about to graduate uni, have a nice part-time job lined up
>enough money coming in to live off and buy the occasional burando, plus enough free time to do stuff I want to do
>sewing, other crafts, getting more involved with my local comm, try and get myself an instagram following because why not it seems fun
>wake up with pressure/pain in my jaw
>feel with my finger, one of my wisdom teeth is coming in
>flashback to a year ago when my dentist told me that all my wisdom teeth were partially impacted and to contact him ASAP as soon as I felt any discomfort at all because surgery would need to happen
>fuck fuckity fuck fuck no this is not happening this year was supposed to end well

>be reformed fatty-chan
>stay less than five pounds overweight since 2014

>go to the mall in lolita
>pizza shop guy gives me five stale personal pizzas for free, "for being such a cute little dolly"

>put them in my trunk for later
>jk
>eat them in the parking lot like a pig

>have diagnosed aspergers
>will probably get diagnosed with ADHD soon too

I feel like such a broken piece of shit human.

>>9126479
I'm bipolar with psychosis, anxiety, and paranoia, ADD, OCD, and have neurological issues. A prior therapist thought I have aspberger's, but I never got a diagnosis.

If I can love myself despite all of that shit, I have confidence that you can love yourself, too. Hang in there.

>>9125288
I think that's the main reason why I haven't worn it yet. It's my dream dress, and I have a very specific idea on how I want to coord it. Perhaps if I stop putting those on the back burner, I'll want to wear the dress lol. Thanks anon!

>>9126487
I hope you never have kids anon, you would fuck them over big time. Please remove yourself from the gene pool for the future of the human race.

>>9126487
Thanks anon, I guess I'm just having a bad moment. All my life, especially as a kid I tried so hard to be normal and fit in, that when I got essentially told my brain will not allow me to, it kind of hit me hard.

I'm happy to hear you're able to love yourself though, that's so important.

>>9126489
Already have one. Apparently, even though the antibiotics bottle says you can have sex again after one week, you should really wait a full month for BC to be effective. I waited three weeks.

I'm fighting to get my tubes tied, but the doctors refuse to do it because I'm young and my conditions are manageable through medication. It's super hard to find a doctor to sterilize you if you're a young woman.

>>9126490
Don't try so hard. I'm not going to say "be yourself" or any of that shit, but I found a long time ago that it's not worth the effort to try and fit in oerfectly. It usually won't work, and if you appear fake, you'll put people off more than if you're just weird. Just be polite and take care of yourself.

>>9126475
I'm sorry, but imagining a loli shoveling down stale pizza in a parking lot is killing me.

>>9126497
I'm so sorry about what you have to go through with the doctor refusing to sterilize you. It's such a pain, but there are doctors out there who will do it. I'm a young woman who has never wanted children and I am sure I never will, but these doctors are so worried about you suing them for "ruining your life" they won't do it. It's sad.

>>9126497
Put them up for adoption at least. They're fucked genetics wise but you can give them a better environment.

>>9126507
No, I'm actually a surprisingly good mom. My conditions are well-managed, and I'm very self-aware. I've historically been able to warn people when I'm getting out of control and get help before things get too bad. I have a very good support network to handle him if I ever am in a position where I can't. So far, that hasn't happened.

Plus, my boy is absolutely perfect, and not being there for him would completely destroy me. He's beautiful, funny, active, and smart. Turns a year old in a week, and it's been a wonderful year.

If he does end up with any of my disorders (and he might not, his father is mentally fit), I have enough experience under my belt to help him cope.

>>9126503
Yeah, I just need to look harder. It really is a shame that it's so difficult. I know a woman who's in her thirties, has five children, and her doctor still refuses to sterilize.

>>9126262
urologist

>>9126525
hot, all those UTIs are bound to get ones engine revving.

>the only things that interest me are engineering fields, literally not good at anything nor connections for easy jobs
>start learning math so I can go to uni and make some dosh for lolita
>I'm retarded so I have to start from the very beginning
>everyone is so much smarter than me I get discouraged easily
>teachers realize this and charge me more
>if I don't go to university my parents will go apeshit
just kill me senpai

>>9126551
>tfw same but with programming

And then I dropped out. No point in feeling like wanting to jump off a bridge during each exam period when everyone around me will always be better anyway.

>>9124778
Zero or no balls! Just finished VLR and waiting for ztd to arrive

I'm so peeved right now.
>go out in lolita
>i look younger than my age
>sweet lolita doesn't help but suits my features without being "too" cute
>and fuck it, i like it, it's nice
And i felt good, it was great, i felt confident and happy, i was going to the bakery and then the bookstore, things were going to be cool right?
>gets called creepy because i got big blue eye (and genetic dark circles, thanks dad) and apparently my face is creepy
>get called a ghost by other douchebags in car because pale
>two high school girls (you know the type, giggling like fucking idiots) come and try to talk to me and asking me if i'm into child roleplay
>i'm not even wearing some ott shit or huge peter pan collars and headbows
>manage to make them leave
>an old man winks at me and tells me "i wish i had the same as you at home"
>dude no
>on my way home in the train, pretty pissed at this point
>gets taken a picture of,with the fucking flash and sound and the guy acts like nothing happened and he was texting
>confront him nicely since we're nearly alone
>"yeah well you shouldn't dress like that if you don't want your picture taken, and anyway, that kind of fetish should stay in the bedroom"
>it's my stop so i'm stepping down before i can explain anything, fuck it anyway, fuck him.
>gets home
>try to calm down, go on my social media to check things out
>added by a dude on fb
>ok he's shady, but let's ask why he would want to add me
>"because we are both into loli and shota"
>dude what? i hate these things
>'btw i love your loli look ^-^'
>keyboard flip
>cry out of anger because of my whole day and just yell into my rilakkuma pillow

>>9126622
Also adding, why can't people understand that liking kawaii shit doesn't make you a fucking ageplayer, child, or "little"?
I'm so mad right now

> have a popular job that everyone in my area wants
> salary is enough to live by myself and buy some dresses from time to time
> only super cools young adults working in the company
> still, feel that the job is draining up soul and life
> doesnt feel like doing anything after work
> 3h of driving + 9hours of work, have only 4h left of my day for myself

I wanted to leave my super boring job for something that I really enjoy doing (like drawing, sewing, writing etc.) but I feel insecure because everyone says how I'm lucky to work at that place.

>>9126632
Anon. You will learn very quickly that sometimes even though it pays well it is not worth sacrificing your mental health for. I had a job like that and quit, especially awful commutes. There are other more reasonable jobs where you can have a life and enjoy it. Don't make yourself depressed over this. Lucky for you it's easier to get a job when you are employed. Don't quit but start looking elsewhere.

>>9126262
I started work as the only white guy in a taco truck.

>>9126622
Jesus. I know people can be shitty but that takes the cake. Sorry your day took a turn for the worse, anon, I'm sure you looked really cute despite it all.

Got sunburned af at a meet today.

In too much pain to find a relevant reaction image.

>>9126648
Thanks a lot for this answer, anon. It really conforted me. I'll start searching for something better and maybe print your advice so I don't lose track of it.

>have a really nice lolita friend
>she's nice and cute
>stop hanging out with her because her boyfriend is everything wrong with otakus
>out of all the times we hang out he's always with

If you're willing to date someone like that long term, there has to be something wrong with you too, and I don't want to stick around to find out what that is.

I cant willingly hang out with someone who's boyfriend talks about clopping in front of me

>>9126677
Thanks anon, that was comforting.
But damn on days like these i just regret my lolita choices sometimes. The fact that people can't understand that liking cute things/=/ being a child/roleplaying a child makes me platinum mad

>>9126691
Oh boy i had this happening, except it was her new friend.
>talking about clopping
Holy fuck.

>>9126570
What do you do now anon? I'm scared of finally getting into college just to end up dropping out. I wish I had other plans in case this doesn't work out.

>tfw con in a couple weeks and just want to lose that last bit of water weight on my stomach
>dont claim to be fit but im thin and will wake up with a flat tummy sometimes and just want it to stay that way
>next day looks completely different despite that i drink a lot and avoid salt
ok i know i should get into a proper exercise routine but how can i have it sometimes then immediately lose it. most of the losing weight things are targeted at people with a lot of fat, this isnt really fat i think or it wouldnt disappear so quickly

>>9126664
Oh yeah, you're gonna get serious ass.

>>9126622
Is she eating panties?

Anyhoozle, you sound nice. I'd lolita with you anytime.

>>9125181
Don't worry about it your dress is another person's dream dress. If you like it, keep it. There's nothing selfish about keeping something you like that you bought yourself.

>tfw you pay for parking, then realize you didn't have to

>tfw check item over carefully and see no damage
> go to post it and notice strange discolourations on it
>post it anyway and pray that buyer doesn't notice

I feel like an ass now.

>>9126924
you are

>>9126924
Wow honestly fuck you.

>>9125498
>>9125799
>>9125971

You guys are right! I'll try my best on Thursday if our shifts overlap. I mean, what's the worst that can happen, right? Granted, if I can make eye contact when he says hi, that's still a step up.

>mfw somehow I started a conversation with him once while sober.

>>9126262
I wish that there was none at my job. It's a lot easier.

>>9126622
>>9126701
>"And anyways, that kind of fetish should stay in the bedroom"

That just made my week

>>9126955
>>9126940
Eh you're right, I'm messaging her and giving her a refund.

>>9126924
Fuck you, this is why we can't have nice things.

>tfw your boyfriend never wants to fug at cons
>everyone else around you is hooking up
>all the single people are hooking up
>all the couples are sneaking off to their rooms to bone
>bf just wants to party and drink with his friends
It's really getting me down. It's not like I've gained weight or let myself go or anything, I'm always looking my best at cons, but he's just not interested. It upsets me that I should have basically guaranteed dick access at any cons we go to, but I don't, even my single friends get more dick. And he acts like it's unreasonable for me to want some time alone over the weekend because blah blah blah I only get to see these people a few times a year. It's not like I'm asking for his whole weekend, just half an hour here and there, and it leaves me bitter that he's not interested when I'm surrounded by guys who would give their left arm to fuck me. If I were a less moral person, I'd cheat on him and get my con dick that way.

>post question about sizing problem (height, not weight)
>get response
>'well *I* don't have that problem!'
Good for you man.

Also
>post question asking for advice
>get a hundred half-assed generic answers I've already considered before
>elaborate why none of them will work
>'Well what do you even want, we're giving you advice and you're shutting everything down!!111'
Maybe don't give shit advice then, it's not like you said anything I hadn't thought of myself. If it were that fucking simple I wouldn't be asking for advice.

>>9127093
anon why is it that you can't just wait for after the con or fuck a bunch right before

>tfw uggo
I don't feel confident in Lolita because I'm so ugly. The clothes are so beautiful but now whenever I look at my closet I want to cry because I feel like I'm "ruining" them with my ugliness or whatever. I know it's a really stupid thing to worry about and I should just wear it anyway, but feels are irrational

>>9127093
You sound so childish. He probably doesn't want to because you're annoying

Trying to commission people can be awful

>put a want to commission an outfit design out
>1 year later, still 0 responses
>contact a couple artists
>1st artist hasn't responded in over two months
>second artist hasn't responded in three weeks

I didn't even name my budget just asked the artists what they'd think was a fair price- and I'd probably pay it.

Cosplay commission

>everyone who makes kigus overprices the hell out of them
>find someone to make a simple kigu for a decent price ($160)
>They say it'll be done by May
>good because I need it by June
>July runs around, ask wtf is going on
>they don't respond to my emails, tumblr messages, and yet I see them posting their own personal projects on /cgl/
>they finally get back and tell me they were busy and blame me for never saying the need by date
>get refund

>try to commission a moving toy key back accessory
>have an instructional on how to make it with materials at about $50
>willing to pay around $300 for this
>even though I have a damn how to guide everyone who was going to make this for me either dropped contact or changed their mind
>been looking for two years


why wont people let me give them money holy shit

If anyone knows of anyone who's willing to take kigu commissions let me know

>>9127172
>moving toy key tutorial
please share a link or something anon I'm begging you

>>9126593
Its pretty good anon, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. Once you finish the game, make sure to check for the dank memes.

>>9125610
Haha I plan too. Even if it takes a couple of years.

>>9126983
Better than "Anon... I'm a little disappointed..."

>>9127138
There is a difference between "Help me with this" vs "Help me with this. I've tried x and y happened, x and y happened and x and y happened. "

Ask for generic advice, you get generic half-assed answers

>>9127228
http://yourheadcanon.tumblr.com/post/93934476422/the-parts-of-my-nano-shinonome-key
my boyfriend's brother simplified this even further but I'd have to call him up about it.

>tfw no cosplay/lolita gf

>>9126750
Studying something in economics, not flashy but I've always been good at it, and not wanting to kill myself is a good enough payoff for me desu.

>>9125778
I was so confused what you were talking about until I saw the image.

>Me and girlfriend are pretty unhappy
>Most likely gonna break up soon, the feeling seems to be mutual
>Keep delaying the inevitable
>Oh, there is a con coming and we're rooming together, can't break up now.
>Oh, we still have couple's cosplays planned, can't break up yet.
>Oh, here's this and this excuse, can't break up now.
>It seems that we will slowly continue to kill each other until the end of time

>>9127239
this looks good, thanks!

>>9127149
Anon I know how you feel. I want to get into lolita so badly but I have a disease making it difficult to lose weight. I'm not hamplanet size but becausw of it I ended up with massive tits on a tiny frame. I'm considering a breast reduction just so I can wear these damn dresses.

>visit hometown anime con since being stationed over seas for a couple of years
>had an amazing time as usual
>cosplay with my sister and cousin, get all giddy for the next convention and make plans for upcoming cosplays
>come to the horrible realization I'll be deployed for next years con.

I just want to get out but I'm 9 years in. i miss home, my family, and lost so many friends since I move around so often.
and don't even get me started on my continuous relationship failures.

I hope I'm the only one that has to deal with this feel in the thread.

>>9127273
Pretty much happens with just about any relationship. If you want to get out of it, stop planning things with her in mind so that you don't have excuses for it anymore.

>>9127284
How long does service usually last? I thought 9 years was plenty of time and you would be able to get out by then?

>>9127273
just dump her. if the feeling's mutual, then doing all this shit together is gonna suck just as much as it would if you already broke up.

>>9127273
it's like an ugly bandage you have to rip off, it's gonna be painful and shitty but the sooner you do it the sooner things can be better for the both of you

>go to con/meetup/hang out with friends
>have awesome time
>come home and cry about how insufferable and annoying everyone surely thinks I am

Is this anxiety? Does anyone know how I can stop doing this?

Woke up this morning, just feeling regret for things that I didn't do. I don't really feel like I'm upset with where I am right now. I am happy but I guess watching shit like Orange and Relife make me wish I can do back to fix things or wonder how different would it be. Fucking hate it since I can't change anything anyway. Just wish I knew how to fix it

>>9127291

I'm staying in for 20. after that I'll get 50% of my basic pay until I die. plus medical benefits for myself and my family, if I ever get one.

I could get out but I legit like what I do (IT on submarines).

>>9127300
That does sound a lot like anxiety. Is therapy an option for you?

I used to have the same problem, and I think for me it was actually a kind of social fatigue. I really enjoyed hanging out with people, but it would also completely drain my energy so that when I got home I’d just want to throw myself on the floor and cry like a toddler who’s been up too long. Combine that with terrible insecurity and social awkwardness, and my mind was basically going “I’m sad but I don’t know why. Oh wait, it must be because I suck and everyone hates me!”
If this sounds familiar (it might be totally different for you), maybe try to figure out a way to relax as soon as you get home from a social outing. Make yourself some hot chocolate, wrap yourself into a cuddly blanket and go play your favourite video game, or something. Try to recharge. This helped me a lot, both for lolita meetups and busy days at work.
Whatever you do though, don’t start avoiding socialization like I did. This may stave off the crying fits in the short term but in the long term you’ll just make things worse.

>>9127308
Why don't change yourself to avoid this feeling from now on? Every human makes decisions based of his own conditions. It's useless to regret something you did in the past, because in the same situation, same conditions, same personality, you would have done the same.

>>9127146
Because we don't live together and I only see him at weekends, so I don't see him until the con and I don't see him for a week after he leaves the con. Again... I don't see what's so unreasonable about wanting to have sex with my partner at some point over the weekend.

Unemployed friends have no concept of how expensive it is to let them come with you to cons and events and it is do draining to tell them no every time they want to go with you places.

>>9127357
Did you try to speak with him about this? The absence of sex is the reason why I dumped my gf months ago. Wanting to have sex with her and don't being able to is very painful.

/cgl/ I'm afraid to wear Lolita in public. I haven't worn the fashion for a long while and I don't dare to go out in it anymore, basically because I'm afraid of situations like this >>9126622
When I was younger I didn't mind wearing it in public at all but right now it sticks to dressing up in my room, having doubts and deciding not to wear it to go somewhere. Any tips on how I can get over this?

>>9127381
by not being such a little bitch. Lolita is not the fashion for you if you care that much a bout what strangers think that you are afraid to wear it.

>>9127381
For a start, try toning down your coords and just wear them. Wear black instead of pink, a hair clip instead of a large headbow, etc. and just go for it. I wouldn't use >>9127384's wording but they're right, you shouldn't care so much about what people think if you want to wear this fashion. Ignoring people who are hellbent on bothering you because of what you're wearing is not easy, and sometimes people are insufferable shits like in >>9126622's case, these things can happen unfortunately and it's perfectly understandable if you're upset when and if they do, but if you love wearing lolita then you'll find the strength to tough through it.
Best way to go on about it in my opinion is to just not make a big deal out of the frilly dress you're wearing - honestly, it really isn't, and if someone is bothering you because of it then they're the ones who are out of line. Yes, sir/ma'am, I am wearing a frilly dress and a bow in my hair for no apparent reason but I'm just trying to do my shopping, why are you bothering me?
It might take a while to get used to but it's perfectly doable, and remember that it's okay to feel uncomfortable if someone's harassing you. You're not meant to be an emotionless brick wall or else lolita isn't for you, just don't let these things get to you.

>>9127354
I am working towards trying to better myself. I do feel more confident and trying to care less of what people think of me to achieve my happiness even though I really should get therapy to work towards my anxieties. Thank you for your encouragement, anon. I really appreciate it

>>9126680
Hope you've got a bottle of aloe anon.

>>9127149
Same. I hate that my face is too masculine looking. It makes me wish my folks were Korean so they can ship me over for affordable surgery. It's not fun being pretty hairy either. Sometimes I wonder if I ought to speak with a doctor about hormone therapy.

I'm conflicted over my body though. I like working out and I think it's cool that I have a muscular, athletic build, but damn it looks off in lolita.

>Blouses are occasionally tight
>puff sleeves make me look like a damn linebacker
>Quarter length sleeves oddly accentuates my biceps
>Length of lolita skirts emphasize my big calves

I like being strong, but I wanna be more feminine and doll like

>>9127381
Good, then don't. And anyway, that kind of fetish should stay in the bedroom.

>>9127463
You work it anon. I am sure you look fine. Have you gone to a doctor to see if you might have PCOS? That might explain the hair, I have the same problem but most people don't notice. I am sure you look great.

>>9127447
Don't worry. I'm doing the same right now, running away from my own depression and trying to be a better person day after day. Luck favors the brave, so let's wish the best for us. (And for this entire thread)

>>9127367
Yeah, I did, but I don't think he understood why I was upset at all. We just ended up arguing for a few hours.

>was planning a joke cosplay for a couple months now.
>took a good look at my cosplay budget for the year.
>decided it wasn't worth it since I'll probably only wear it once and then never again.
Returning the supplies rn and I'm kinda sad.

>>9127567

what was the joke?

>>9125399
Block their number.

I have a really difficult time opening up to people. Recently, I had a falling out with a good lolita friend because tl;dr I didn't like the idea of them trying to force me to open up. It made me realize that I alienate myself, and it sucks because I don't want to compromise on it. I like my privacy, I enjoy alone time. But that doesn't mean I don't want to have friends. I'd love to have a bff, but it takes time to build that relationship for me. And I guess my ex-friend didn't want to wait much longer to be part of my inner circle, which is just my SO and my friend from primary school who barely counts because she lives halfway around the world.
They say once you pass your mid twenties, your friend circle shrinks dramatically. Well I'm almost 30, and I can list my friends but can't count on them.
I just wish it were easier to find friends who aren't trying to get under your skin and wear you like a brand new Edgar suit. Is that so much to ask?

>>9127747
I'll be your friend anon

>>9127341
That sounds pretty similar to what I go through. I'd say I'm an insecure extrovert. I love being around people and crave social interaction, love crowds and events, but when I get home, all I can think of is every little comment I might have made or thing I did that may have even the slightest chance of annoying someone. I think of every less than deliriously happy moment and tell myself that all of my friends must hate me and regret inviting me out or that going to lolita meetups to meet people, even if they were very friendly with me, I can't help but feel they probably wish I hadn't been there.

I can recognize that maybe I've just been overwhelmed and need to mentally separate myself from things until I've calmed down a little, and a lot of the time that works. I just came back from a really good weekend, though, only to do the exact same thing, and I was wondering if there's a real reason for it. I'll look into seeing someone. Thank you, anon.

>>9127747
Sorry but you are going to have to compromise. You can be an extremely private person and still have friends. You just have to pick and choose what to reveal. It just sounds like she got tired of what seems like a one-sided friendship.

>>9127500
I've actually looked into PCOS a couple of days ago. I don't have the other more obvious symptoms like irregular periods, but it's something I could bring up when I see my doctor - it'll probably be a while until I see her though.

I do wonder how they test it though. I don't want to waste my co-payment or whatever if I'm going to be told that nothing is wrong.

>>9127747
i know this feel. in my experience, people who demand a lot of vulnerability from you will devour anything they find in you that is interesting, get high off of the power of knowing your secrets, and then move on to hunt and feed off someone else. they think they're seeking intimacy but what they really want is the rush of something fresh and new.

unfortunately, after high school or college it is hard to build friendships the regular way, and sometimes the only people who seem to want to be your friend are vampires... because someone with a deep need for fresh new blood is way more likely to devote their resources to building a new relationship.

my best suggestion is to volunteer for something you care about, even if it is a convention. a shared struggle in a shared environment helps people feel close to each other, without any artificial need to amp up emotions to simulate "going through a lot together".

that is my .02

>>9127787
iirc when I was being checked for pcos a few years ago I just had blood drawn and my ovaries/uterus looked at through ultrasound. They didn't find anything and just gave me birth control at the discretion of my mom (I was a minor at the time).

>>9126622
If you look twelve you are better off wearing something more mature if you don't want people thinking you are a pedo/ageplayer.

>>9127747
I don't think you can be mad at someone for wanting you to open up, and being upset that you have no friends you can count on. Its fine to put limits of friendships, but its a two way street. If you keep people at arm's length they won't be inclined to help you out when things get tough.

>>9127357
>>9127367
sorry but isn't sex kind of a trivial thing to worry about in a relationship? something about caring about the person themselves more etc

>>9127825
It is. And breaking up with someone because they won't sleep with you whenever you want is even worse

>>9127787
They do what >>9127808 said as I just had it done today. You can usually also get a birth control of your choice as well. I have the irregular period problem too. There is no cure for PCOS but the birth control may help out.

>>9127825
>isn't sex kind of a trivial thing to worry about in a relationship?
idk, maybe if you're the kind of frigid bitch who gets turned on by shit-talking lolitas on cgl instead of getting some dick. Which is probably the problem with most of you. Sex is a valid thing to care about in a relationship, no it shouldn't be the be all and end all, but to most people with a healthy sex drive and desire for intimacy, it is pretty damn important.

>>9127825
>sorry but isn't sex kind of a trivial thing to worry about in a relationship?

If things aren't right in the bedroom, chances are they're not going to be right in other places either. Sex absolutely isn't something that's trivial, but I'm sure there's plenty of hamplanets browsing this thread right now who'll tell you anyone with a healthy sex drive expecting it at least 3 times a week is a thirsty horndog.

>>9127825
relationships don't work without a certain degree of compatibility, being sexually compatible is kind of a big deal. if >>9127093's bf doesn't care for her needs, then that's a valid grievance.

>>9127832
Clear the sand from your vagina and maybe he'll want to fuck it.

>>9127825
(I'm >>9127367)

It's not just trivial. In fact, it's a very important thing in a relationship, because it reflects the inner feelings of the human mind. If you love your partner, then your body will automaticaly want to have sex with him/her. I'm not saying every day of your life, of course, but once every week at least? Sure.

The sexual attraction is always needed in a relationship, and that doesn't mean being a 10/10 man with a 10/10 woman. Every person has his own standarts and one can get horny with an ugly GF or BF, but if there is no sexual attraction at all, regardless of physic or psychic, then we have a problem. Maybe the love they are feeling is not so deep as they say to each other.

Then again, it's possible to have a relationship without sex, yes, but the majority of you are in your 20-30 years old, and probably your body has different needs than a 50 year old man/woman who can experiment the absence of sexual intercourse. (And you would probably thing that a relationship without sex is just kinda boring, isn't it?)

>>9127825
>isn't sex kind of trivial

have you never been in a relationship ever?

>>9127832
wow no need to be so mad, sorry I should've mentioned before that I'm kind of sheltered
>>9127841
makes sense

>>9126479
Hey assburger here too, was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. My life was fucked up but now i'm turning 20 and things are starting to get all better, my depression is almost absent and only comes back at certain times but not for long.
Still an anxious piece of shit that needs lots of rest. But i'm taking baby steps.
Everything will be daijobu.

>>9127851
Whhhheeeewww buddy, all of this is bullshit
Oh and >inb4 'you probably don't even have a bf'

Y'know >>9127381
sometimes people can be absolute assholes but not always. Really, my awful day was a special case, i usually never have to deal with so much shit. At first you will be scared so maybe try to do it with a friend or just wear headphones/earphones like i always do, but slowly it'll feel more natural to you and you will just be used to it.
And what >>9127417 said is perfect.

>tfw all the qt cosplay boys are dating fatty-chans and normies

>>9127934
Some dudes like fatties. Get over it ana-chan

>>9127851
this is 100% bullshit and full of typos. take your meds and go to sleep, anon.

>>9127841
this is truth.

this is also applicable to the anon who has trouble finding friends that don't try to get super intimate super quickly. you can tweak it to express any kind of relationship:

>friendships don't work without a certain degree of compatibility; being emotionally compatible is kind of a big deal. if >>9127747's friend doesn't care for her need for space, then that's a valid grievance.

sometimes things don't work out and if your needs are different from most people's needs, you will have a harder time forming relationships.

>>9127940
Doesn't explain the normies.

I'd never date a girl who wasn't an obnoxious weeaboo. No lie.

>>9127958
I see a lot of lolitas dating normie guys simply because they are clean and not creepy retards. Goes both ways.

>show my gf's son Luluco
>he wants to cosplay as her

Should I help him dress up as a little girl?

>>9125163
I agree with >>9125251 You need to focus on yourself and your dad. Don't let some asshole distract you from being with your family right now, you'll regret it in the future. And yes, DUMP HIM. You deserve someone who doesn't hurt you and wants to make you happy. Good luck, anon. I believe in you.

>>9125564
Shit like this makes me so scared to get into another relationship

>>9127785
I can't control how much she wants to share about her own life, just the same as she can't control me. But she gave it one hell of a try, I'll give her that. Telling me how to dress, how to act, who to hang out with, etc. At first I thought she was just playing concerned den mother type friend. Then I realized she was actually alienating me from people on purpose so that I would only hang out with her. There were many incidents during our friendship that helped me realize the kind of person she was, was not the kind of person I needed in my life. It's not like I didn't let her in, I shared lots of inner secrets and bits of my personality most of my friends don't see. But she wanted more than I could ever feel comfortable giving.

>>9127806
You totally hit it right on the nail. She moved from bff to bff a lot. I'm sure she'll move on to someone else, which I'm grateful for because towards the end she had become obsessive and mean. And the fact that I DID let her in a bit and she used it to make me feel like shit about myself didn't help.

>>9127810
I don't ask anyone for help though because I don't ever want to bother them. I have a few friends who will check up on me when they notice something is whack, which I'm thankful for. But I try not to dump my problems on my friends, that's not who I am. I trained myself to believe that because everyone has their own problems and lives, no one should have to bother with someone elses. Hence why I'm on an anon board lol. The anonymity helps me to vent my frustrations without feeling too much like a burden since /cgl/ is a great thumb twiddling website


Tbh I'm glad we aren't friends anymore. She made me feel bad about myself using what internal info I gave her to make herself seem superior. I still want friends though, just not like that.

>>9125322
Good, anon. I'm proud of you. From what you told us, it doesn't sounds like you're missing out.

>>9127983
no, and you should probably be on a sex offender list

>>9127829
Er, idk if you misread my post: my periods are regular. Yeah, I read about birth control as a means to control symptoms, and I think I brought it up when I had my pap smear, but my doctor said that there's no need to take them if I'm not sexually active and my ovaries turned out to be ok.

Guess I'll try again. Possible I'll get a different doctor in the same network the next time I get checked up.

>>9127983
>tfw want to cosplay her, but her costume is way too complicated for a dumb bitch like me

>>9127995
>And the fact that I DID let her in a bit and she used it to make me feel like shit about myself didn't help.
this makes my skin crawl. i am sorry we have both had to deal with people like this. i cannot think of a better word than "vampire" for these types lol

>>9128041
Forever referring to people like this as vampires from now on

>>9127983
let him do what he wants, as long as your gf is ok with it

>>9127983
>gf's son

>>9127995
See, thats different. If that's how she has been treating you then you just removed yourself from a toxic relationship and she did it for you.

It sucks that a friendship died but you don't need that in your life

>>9127983
I'm going to say no, anon. If you give him a few years and ask again, I'm sure his opinion on dressing up as her will change. And if it doesn't, then go right on ahead and help him.

>>9127983
Are you going to tell us to never give advice to you or your gf's son ever again?

>few months ago show love live to friends
>"Ew, anon, I didn't know you were into this loli shit!"
>fast forward to now "So anon, what was that cute game you showed me a while back? Love live? I really like rhythm games and it looks fun!"
>little miffed but excited to get back into love live since new update and have friends play it too
>"Hey anon, can we all cosplay love live it would be so fun!"
>tell them yeah but since none of them know how to sew/never cosplayed before we should pick an easy one to start or just buy their uniforms because I dont want to baby them or sew their costumes for them
>"Aw but I really like the new devil set! We should do that! We'd all look so cute and sexy! and Halloween's coming up so I bet we could just buy all the parts!"
>try to tell them that it'll be really more expensive that way and be much harder to look accurate
>suddenly they want to cut corners by not using a wig
>decide that old dresses they have are close enough
>want to go to a con around halloween as a group
>know no one will recognize them even if we were all lined up because it would look so generic
>talks about hot gluing cheap lace
>keep trying to find cheap alternatives that won't look shit but its "too much work! we look cute as is!" or "couldn't you just sew us the gloves really quick? they're so small I bet it's easy!"

I'm so close to just working on my own costumes for this halloween con and letting them have a bad time and never cosplay again.... Maybe if it was just one friend I'd be ok with babying them the whole way but it's four of them and I want to die. I didn't need friends in this hobby anyways...........

>>9127983
If you're gf is okay with it, why not? It's just a costume and he's just a kid, right? Let him have fun.

The only reason I'd be worried is if he get bullied or attacked by someone.

>>9128186
Don't baby them. Make your costume better than theirs.

>>9128186
Let them wear shit and wear something superb.

>>9127983
no, anon. he isn't even your kid.

>>9127983
isn't this supposed to be a feels thread?

>>9127149
I feel the same way anon. Everyone tells me that I'm cute and my boyfriend insists that I'm just not photogenic and I have a very expressive face. I don't buy it. I actually started removing the waist ties from my less expensive dresses and making them into dust masks to wear with my coords to hide my face. I didn't know what else to do.

>>9128244
I'd have a lot of feels if my gf's son were that much of a fairy.

> be working on a cosplay at my grandparent's house
>grandmother makes me some orange juice and leaves it on the table I'm working at
>thank her as she leaves for the day, run downstairs to iron some seams
>come back upstairs and see my grandfather must have put the glass on a napkin
>take a closer look
>oh god the wet glass is on the fabric

>>9128281
honestly, me too.

>>9128285
Holy shit. Did the dress survive?

>>9128295
Luckily the fabric was only cotton so it was fine, but I definitely had a mini heart attack. I'm kicking myself for not putting it on a coaster before running down to iron.

>enter for Blizzcon right away
>all excited to make big costume
>purchased about half of the supplies
>finally get told today they're full
>not sure it's worth the time and cost to finish for nothing

>in line for Taco Bell
>remember that I'm a sexy widdle baby and can't eat this fattening shit
>run across the street to Walmart and buy corn instead

I swear, I will look good in this cosplay.

>finish giant project
>win award for it, feels good man
>completely burnt out now
>have ideas on what to make next
>struggling to get started

I want to make things because I really love sewing and cosplay, but I can't seem to bring myself to sit down at my machine and just get started. Help.

>>9125243
Don't be a statistic and form natural harems, girl. We are better than that.

>>9128343
I made some sleepy time tea instead of eating candy when I got home from work. These little victories are what it's all about.

Relatedly, I look chub as fuck righy now and am determined to start hitting the gym regularly again. I cant decide if I want to continue lifting w a little bit of cardio, or just go back to maximum cardio to see quick results. I'm planning a pretty skimpy cosplay for later this year but the character would probably have some kind of defined muscle, so I feel like mainly cardio isn't the best way to go....

>>9128186
>I want to do the most complicated costume with the cheapest shit while disregarding if it actually looks decent or like shit

Don't do it anon. They'll ruin your fun with their lazy asses. Just tell them, they should buy a couple uniforms and wigs. Less stress, it's fairly cheap and others will atleast recognize them as the actual respective characters and not as some girls wearing mom's old curtains with hotglued lace on it.

>>9127960
>they are clean and not creepy retards

I guess this argument is (sadly) very legit amongst weebs. The amount of people that just don't give a fuck about atleast some basic care is just too damn high.

>tfw mailing a hat and it doesn't shift in its box when shaken and is still super light
>open up to do final check before taping
>remove top layer of packing materials
>feathers still straight and uncrushed, hat still cozy and not moving anywhere

the actual highlight of my day. safe travels, little hat. may your owner receive you in good health

>>9126626
Because this whole kawaii concept doesn't exist in the western world and the only time, where this kind of cuteish stuff that comes close to the kawaii thing is in pre-teen child age. And now combine this foreign thing "kawaii" with the everlasting urge to mock slightly out of the ordinary people and you get these reactions.

But still it sounds like you had an especially bad day. The worst you can usually read here is hearing maybe a snappish comment once in a while.

So cheer up anon and take pride in your frills.

>>9128422
What does the hat look like?

Anons, should I talk to a plastic surgeon?

I'm a notorious nose spray abuser and have trouble breathing. I've been to several doctors and nurses but the HSE always chalk it up to an allergy or infection, either tell me to 'deal with it lol' or just prescribe me more nose spray or some steroids. I've had this for months and often have trouble breathing in my sleep or whilst lying down.
Prior to this I had frequent nosebleeds in my teens, and in pictures my nose looks crooked and distorted. Am I right to believe I've a deviated septum?

For reference, I might look like Mrs Doyle from profile view but I actually don't mind how my nose looks from 3/4 view and up front, so I'm not exaggerating my problems as an excuse to get a nose job or doing it for purely aesthetic purposes.

Which brings me to my next problem: if I do end up having the surgery, will my nose look inherently different? I kinda don't want the stereotypical button nose, I don't think it'd suit my face very well. I'd like to get rid of the hump from profile view if anything, but I wouldn't touch it if it'd completely change how my nose looks now.

I do odottemita and hate having to stop to snort nose spray every single hour, but whoever I talk to they just brush it off and go 'well you can breathe now, can't you? :D'

>Met ex at recent con
>Lots of drama 3 years back, we were awful to and for each other
>Made peace at the con
>Friends now
>Be told yesterday that he's still as immature and egocentric as ever
>Still shittalks everyone who either doesn't drink, or doesn't care about him bragging about how much of a party-bro he is
>Organises /cgl/ meets for the community and has a /cgl/ discord chat running with the wishes of being in the centre of it
>One of his ways to stay relevant is to shittalk people in the community who hasn't been relevant to /cgl/ in ages
>Still shittalks me, which made me feel pretty good about myself as I replaced him months ago with a guy the same age as him who's actually done something with his life

Wonder how he'd feel if he figured out that I haven't thought of him in years, thinks he's the biggest loser I've ever known and also interact with all the people he hates because I don't care about his petty drama.

>>9128437
>tfw no qt dancing /cgl/ Irish gf

>>9128444
I know guys like this, and I'd be surprised if he isn't uncomfortably (if subconsciously) aware that everyone
>thinks he's the biggest loser I've ever known
Guys who try to be the cool party bro at cons are fucking idiots. This isn't a frat and you're not in an Adam Sandler movie, grow up and stop beong obnoxious. Especially if he's trying to pull that shit at cgl meets. There is something very wrong with anyone who wants to be a celebrity in this cesspit.

>>9128444
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>>9128455
I'm just a mix of shocked and amused to be honest. I'm mentally ill and was very upset (to put it extremely mildly) when he left me after I'd been dealing with his emotional abuse for months all those years ago.
The whole experience turned me into a better person and I've really turned my life around since, realised life is way too short for trivial no-reason drama and found love in other and greater things.
Yet, he's still here hating on people he hasn't spoken to in years just because it was the cool thing to do when everyone was still in contact with him. Still trying to be loved and looked up to by seagulls. Still basing his life around the amount of drinking games he knows from his long-gone university days.
Simply amazing. I can't even be bothered to remove him from my life again, that's how little I care about his immature bullshit anymore.

>>9128444
hah, so I'm right to make fun of any guy who goes to a /cgl/ meetup. He sounds so pathetic

>>9128494
Not all of them are bad, the worst one should be easy to identify the moment the open their mouths though.

I just lurked for a bit in /fa/ and oh my god what a cringe fest. It's so weird to me that people would so much time, money, and effort into looking boring.
Tbh as fucked it can get on here I love you gulls.

>>9128494
lol you go gurlfriend! Boys are so icky >_<

>>9128444
Sounds like a prick. The kind of guy to only organize cgl meets to get with cosplay qts.

>>9128506
they all look bad..

>Post few medicore coords on tumblr last weekend
>0 notes as today
>See this ugly as fuck ita coord
>Over 100 notes
>Maybe I should just stop blogging since it eats me inside when no one likes my things

>>9128544
Jesus christ...

>>9128544
is this a photo from an actual /cgl/ meetup? holy shit...

>>9128576
>be lightskinned black girl
>too light to get tumblr asspats
>look too black for non sjws to care about me
>10 notes on my best coord max

don't think too much of it.

>>9128606
>>9128586
>>9128544

and another cgl meetup

>>9128606
>>9128586
>>9128544
and another /cgl/ meetup. you can smell the autism. the "god help me" look from the only girl in the picture really sells it

after these photos were released people in said photos got really salty and started having a typical /r9k/ attitude of "w-we didn't want you fat ugly w-whores to show up anyway"

>>9128544
I expected this

>>9128624
Y so many guys?

>>9128630
thirsty dudes go to meetups expecting to meet cute cosplay or lolita girls. this is the result.

>>9128544
>>9128624
>mfw

>>9128624
My sides. I'm glad the actual lolitas decided not to show up. Now I'm worried about the Otakon meetup.

>>9128647
Same. I honestly think most girls are deterred by photos like this (for good reason obviously). If there were at least a few other girls that didn't look cringy, it wouldn't be as bad

>tfw when you can't drink alcohol and your friend is a borderline alcoholic
>"but we have to drink or it won't be fun!!"

>browsing YJA! for kimono
>see a pretty one, nice colour, minimal damage
>Check the listing - it's my size, 500 yen and ending soon
>Excellent! Bid on it with Buyee.
>Check buyee 10 mins later, listing has disappeared from the site
>Decide to check email in case something went wrong
>Get this:
>"Dear Anon, we are sorry but the seller cancelled your bid. Buyee"
>Find the kimono, on YJA!, it ends up not selling
>mfw I could have purchased that kimono but the seller fucking cancelled the bid

Like I double checked the listing, no mention of the seller not accepting shopping services.

>been stick thin for most of my life
>get made fun of for my weight and last of chest, called anorexic often
>cosplay boys and I make a convincing reverse trap but I want to cosplay sexy curvaceous girls

>college comes around, get put on some new meds that fuck my weight up
>gain 40 pounds within a year, but still a healthy weight on the BMI scale
>happy with my body now, I have tits now, just wish I didn't have a gut
>could lose weight but I'd be unhappy with my lack of tits and ass
>most characters I want to cosplay have their midsections showing

>start eating healthier and working out but only lost 10 pounds
>dreading being thin and unhappy with my lack of curves
>pretty damn sure I want lipo to target only a specific area but don't dare bring this up to my husband or else I'll get laughed at

>>9128437
I think that it's worth it if you're having that much problems and any plastic surgeon worth anything would know that you shouldn't get a one-size-fit-all nose and actually get one to fit your face

>Bid on item on Y!A
>Asks to snipe
>'Seller does not accept snipe bids. can we change to instant bid?'
>Sure I guess
>Checks listing later
>Outbid by snipe bids
>?????

I don't really know where else to put this, and I'm feeling really worried about it, so I'll ask here. I have two questions.

I'm interested in getting a new Amuse Tsuchineko pencil pouch. I'm not really sure where to buy them that confirms that I'll definitely be getting Amuse and not some knockoff or bootleg, other than Otaku Mode. Is that trustworthy? Is there a better website?

Second, how true are the release months? There's an adorable pencil pouch that I'd want from Otaku Mode, and it says it releases this month. I've had issues in the past with release months being lies, though. Any experiences?

Pic related, I want to stuff all my pencils into this adorable little thing.

>going through family illness stress
>first time college student in two weeks stress
>can't find any information on college website stress
>none of my student account things aside from email work stress
>no one has told me shit on how to do anything in this college stress
>decide fuck it, I need a vacation during winter break in a few months
>sign on to room at a convention out of state
>already bookmarked cosplays and everything
>realize later that I won't know anyone but room owner
>con is sort of small and never been to it before
>realize I'm paying to just wander by myself and have costumes I won't wear for another 6+ months
>start to consider just going on a solo trip to a big city like DC or NYC instead
>it actually looks cheaper to do that
>feel bad considering flaking on room owner despite con being 4+ months away
>start thinking I'll be miserable on solo trip anyway
>wonder what kind of loser goes on vaca alone
>already tempted to just sell all cosplay and limited Jfashion in closet
>would get money from it but what's the point if not going to do anything good with the money?
>get depressed and stress more
>maybe I'll just sit at home

Kinda feels post
>be me, proud /fit/izen
>first cosplay
>let's do something shirtless to show off gainz
>decent cosplay overall, probably not by cgl standards (hence why i'm not posting pictures of it)
>just go there to have fun
>actually lots of people ask me for pictures
>lots and lots of girls giggling and touching my abs for photos
>most of them actually pretty hot (obviously i didn't make a move because i'm an
>i wasn't used to all this attention, what the actual fuck
>even met some other guys and we joked about roiding and going as pillarmen next year
>rarely been so happy in my entire life, cringed a bit b/c there were some actual weebs spouting japanese words between english sentences, but it was overall a great experience


How do i deal with the "depression" that follows that high?

>>9128771
Post con depression is the worst. I usually take a few days to wallow, then work on something new.
During the wallowing phase, I look up pictures from the weekend, connect with people I got contact info from, and generally just look back at the con.

Just keep focused on the next con and it'll go away with a little time.
Congrats on your first cosplay, glad you had a good time, anon.

>>9128771
>be me

Stopped reading there. Who the fuck else are you going to be?

>getting ready for work
>bus comes in 10 minutes
>hear loud cha-ching from my phone
>Order from my lolita focused etsy shop
>Items I almost like too much to let go of
>scramble to package everything nicely and take it with me so I can post it on my way home
>have to throw on sunglasses until I get to work so I can finish my makeup in the tiny bathroom
I am both excited and hollow at the same time.

>>9128771
Please be my husbando Kars.

>>9128771
It's hard but try to focus on other things. What helps me is the fact that I've started school again. That gives me something to occupy my time that I actually enjoy (especially during the Fall when con season is over and I have nothing to really do). Sometimes I'll watch con videos on Youtube of people just having fun and goofing around which makes me feel better. I know that doesn't work for some people but try to keep your mind focused on other stuff until the next con.

>>9128785
>>9128822
I was trying to focus more on lifting to make it go away but it's just a temporary fix, will try that
>>9128792
kek
>>9128814
I'm actually determined to go as him once i'll be big and lean enough, as you can clearly see i'm still pretty far from it
I'm still not sure on which version to do, the winged one looks majestic and i can play around with people and chirp at them, but also i'm a noob and the thought of making those wings terrifies me.

>>9128753
I think traveling alone can be pretty fun. As a lolita sometimes its nice to go to NYC and visit laduree, tokyo rebel ect alone rather than going with parents or normie friends who complain the whole time.

>>9128867
can you please not show off your gross thirsty guy pube stubble? really not what I'm looking to see when I'm coming to a blue board.

>>9128875
Sorry, it was the only pic i had here, we usually post this kind of shit all the time on CBTs

>>9128708
i know targeting areas for lifting isnt 100% effective but try to focus on your stomach, butt and chest muscles. They give them the lift they need and hopefully maybe your stomach will get flatter

>>9128877
/fit/ is truly the nohomo-est board

>>9128877
the difference between here and /fit/ is is that everyone on /fit/ actually wants to see other dudes pubes.

>>9128867
maybe I should start lurking /fit/

>>9128875
lol why is that the first thing you noticed?

>>9128887
it's not, the desperation was the first thing I noticed.

>be a male cosplayer
>know that I will never be able to make money of cosplay because no boobs/vagina
>Decently fit, but no where near shirtless cosplay status like >>9128867

Why even try?

>>9128708
Do whatever you want with your body and don't worry about what other people say because at the end of the day your body is the meat suit you have to sleep in not them.

However your change in body type and lack of change in how you perceive yourself says you need to work on loving yourself.

>>9128903
>Decently fit, but no where near shirtless cosplay status like >>9128867
post pics

>>9128915
it got deleted because he posted his pubes.

>>9128708
kind of similar but not exact
>around November, starting to do some basic work-outs and yoga. nothing crazy, just to get into the swing of it/help with my back problems
>starting to get excited because I have some muscle definition now and back pain is gone
>start slacking off as soon as summer hits because I got a new job and schedule got kind of screwed up
>still have some muscle but abs are pretty much gone
>not fat but still feel upset at myself and not happy
>lower back pain started up for the first time in months earlier this week
>can't complain to anybody because people will just think I'm trying to get sympathy 'but you're already so skinny etc!"
>don't wanna lose weight, just wanna not be a twig

>>9128917
I meant >>9128915 's pics, if he's actually decently fit there's a lot of shirtless characters he can pull off

>>9128917
I meant >>9128903 's pics , if he's actually decently fit there's a lot of shirtless characters he can pull off.

>left crazy cult religion when I turned18
>religion had high dress standard for women
>try to keep in contact with family
>finally am able to wear lolita and cosplay like I dreamed of doing when I was a teenager
>thought my mom would be happy with lolita since it's modest
> mom hasn't complimented me or told me I was beautiful in 3 years
>This week I confronted her about it
>Basically told me she never will

I like to think I am not vain but that conversation really messed me up. Especially since I told her I was getting married and wanted her to be there for me. I'm planning on dress shopping (considering a lolita dress) and I am not sure if I want to invite her.

>>9128881
I'll try that. I've been pretty strict with my leg workouts but the rest of me.. needs work
>>9128907
thank you. I am 100% positive that I'm happier with myself at this weight rather than thin so that's something
>>9128929
work out ya damn nerd

>>9128938
don't. you don't owe her anything.

>>9128935
Not gonna lie, I dont have the confidence to self-post on this board. But I appreciate you wanting to give recommendations.

>>9128444
>Still shittalks everyone who either doesn't drink, or doesn't care about him bragging about how much of a party-bro he is
reeee

>>9128952
yeah I know. my only motivation is myself (moved away from friends, no new friends really). I'm just going to have to suck it up and go to the gym by myself and get a trainer

>>9128968
I'm lucky, some playgrounds have free workout equipment and ours is a pokestop, so people are always there to work out and talk nerdy. I'm gonna be sad when this trend is totally dead

>>9128973
>I'm gonna be sad when this trend is totally dead

I won't be. As a game, it's complete garbage and nothing more than a glorified collectathon. One that doesn't even work half the time at that.

>>9124762
>cosplaying sho minamimoto at otakon
>getting pics feelin good
>see a neku,josh,rhyme and beat
>say hi and talk to them
>they have no clue who I am
>overhear them taking about a Kingdom Hearts photoshoot or some shit

I hate sub fandoms. You shitters deserve every game delay and shitty spin off youve gotten and will get. Go down in flames kh famdom.

>>9125327
Not that anon but, what is wrong with it ?

>>9128988
it's less prestigious, that's all.

>>9128675
Got a keyword to look for nice silk kimono? To find lolita I just type "angelic pretty" in English, I have trouble navigating to anything else

>>9128624
Jesus. I would love to go to a meetup but this looks like a scary group. Most guys give me the creeps unless they're pretty feminine or chill

>>9129002
Tumblr dyke detected

>tfw im moving in a few days
>ordered an AP special set through tenso and picked shipping that should make it before I leave
>getting awfully close to deadline
>tfw it finally comes in and its beautiful and it fits and it has pockets!

God im so happy, the original version I bought ended up being too small in the bust, but god gave me another chance with this special set in the right size

>>9127934
Cute skinny nerd girls are too scary to approach. Id feel 1000 times more comfortable approaching a thicker spazzy girl and talking to her. Hot girls intimidate the shit out of me and look like bitches, I actively go out of my way to avoid them. And yes both my male and female friends have given me shit for this.

>>9126622
Wow. So I'm pretty sure it's were you live because I've never had anything like this happen to me. And if you're attractive you're going to get hit on so I'm gonna ignore that stuff. Where do you live?

>>9129030
fucking rude. hot chicks are people too.

>>9128874
I just worry that if I go by myself I'll feel pretty hollow about it. I mean I'm thrilled at the idea of going to like, DC and seeing the zoo and the free museums but then I worry that if I go by myself not having anyone there to be excited with will just suck all the fun out of it.
I guess at the very least I could Instagram my friends or get that Snapchat thing.

I thought about NYC in the winter towards Christmas but the more I think about it, the more I'm hesitant because it's so packed and busy. At least DC seems more touristy in a good way, not a scary alone in the city way like NYC.

>>9128998
There are different types of silk kimono, each with their own formality level. My advice would be to go for komon which is 小紋. I would also suggest instead of searching for a komon, go to ファッション then 女性和服、着物. That's the section for womens kimono and they are all sub-categorised into the different types.

>>9129055
Hot girls we have problems too. We're just like you. Except we're hot.

>>9128666
Just go somewhere that serves alcohol with food. She can drink, you can eat. No big deal.

>>9127927
Thanks anon, do you have any tips or something? I don't know much about ADHD except for the absolute basics.

Bad news. The table collapsed at my lolita meet.

>tfw you find blood in your cosplay shoes

>>9129240
dying here anon. what happened?

>>9129240
how many dresses were ruined?

>>9129262
One of the legs feel off.

>>9129267
None that I know of. There was nothing on the table but some macaroons.

>>9126113
this. so much

>>9126475
CUTE LITTLE DOLLY

>>9129270
well thats uneventful

>>9128437
>Am I right to believe I've a deviated septum?

If your nose pushes in a lot, you might have a deviated septum.

Any good ENT could tell you if you do.

I had the surgery, since my nose had been broken twice, and I kept getting tonsillitis and strep all the time, and it didn't look any different afterwards. If you want to get a nose job, tho, you might as well get it done at the same time.

Also, once it healed, (which took a bit) I was breathing much better, and got sick a lot less.

Getting it was one of the best decisions I ever made.

>>9128544
Max Cringe Reached

>>9129015
Which ones you?

>>9127242
>tfw

>>9128544
>>9128624
>people go to /cgl/ meetups
But why

>>9129717
Because they think that they'll find hot girls at the meetups.

bf of a few years just broke up with me because I thought that him seriously trying to move out of america because of the upcoming president was retarded.

>>9129993
Ouch.

>been wanting to do a matching shiro/kuro lolita outfit with a friend since I first discovered the fashion
>just found a completely white version of a black dress I own on LM
>realize I don't have any lolita friends
>still thinking of buying it "just in case"

>>9125283
You can hide posts by a specific person you know

>>9124762
>have red highlights in hair
>bf dumps me
>see him at con with girl with blue hair
>tfw I'm a fake hedgehog

>>9129799
>girls
>4chan meetups
>implying

>>9130268
buy it and take a pic of yourself in each. cool collage for lonely loser chan

>>9130268
>>9130690
i agree with this. that way, you can still have it on the side "just in case".