/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Are there any other good resources for lolita other than the obvious lolibrary, live journal, and glb?

>>10677288
depends on what you are looking for, the lolita fashion wiki has quite the link collection and lolita history collects magazine scans

Are there any good western wig brands? I don't want to support glw and dream holic wigs USA is always out of stock of the colors I want

>>10677498
Arda wigs though they're mostly for cosplay they have few wigs that can work

>>10677498
Tbh depending on the style try going to an actual wig store. I bought a hella cute bob for like $250 three years ago that I still use pretty regularly. If you can find a style that works for you daily wear wigs get way better mileage.

>>10677498
Does Dream Holic ever update their stock? They've been sold out of certain cuts and colors for years.

>>10677550
You should go direct to their taobao store there’s more there. Pretty sure the international site never updates

>>10677562
Their TB store has even less wig styles.

>>10677550
Don't even bother. Dreamholic wigs are absolute trash. I bought two and literally threw them both away.

>>10677570
Really? I adore mine. Did you get them direct from their store?

would it be acceptable to add white to a coord of this dress? in headdress and socks

>>10677581
well you can, how it’ll come out is diffirent matter.

if you want to add white try to balance it by adding white belt or something white to the middle (cardigan maybe), and if you want white socks try white socks with black details in them.

Is this fairy kei?

>>10677588
Are you retarded? Even for the stupid questions thread

>>10677588
no

>>10677582
honestly i wanted to add the white so i wouldn't look like an all black blob

>if you want white socks try white socks with black details in them.

i like this idea, thank you

if i ditched the white idea, would being all black come out fine if i added textured/detailed socks?
sorry i'm stupid newlita trying to avoid new(ita)

>>10677591
>>10677595
Well someone in the ita thread said that salopettes were made for fairy kei so I wanted to make sure

>>10677581
The buttons are white, so there's already a white accent. If you want to do things like a black headdress with some white lace, white socks with black details (or vice versa), black bag with white details, etc, that would all be fine.

>>10677600
They said that salopettes aren't lolita and that the particular salopette is fairy kei, retard

>>10677588
Yes

What type/brand of binders are fellow boob-chans on here using for lolita? I'm not exactly sure where to look for good quality ones and which to avoid.


>>10677588
Bad bait

>>10677638
Most people wear minimizer bras rather than actual binders. They have a different shape and still try to give you somewhat of a shape of still having boobs. You can end up with boobloaf, though, so keep that in mind.

I don't have any personal recs, sorry, but knowing the term of what you're looking for might be a good start.

>>10677776
Boobloaf is basically a part of having tits in lolita, you can't really avoid it unless something flattens the area.

Title 9 is good. It's what I've used since before, when I had triple D's into larger. Diet is pretty important for minimizing though, so don't just think a bra is going to solve everything.

Could combining a long hoop skirt with a lolita blouse look good? Definitely not as a lolita coord but more just EGA

>>10677794
A lot of cage skirts look super ugly on their own, do you have pics?

>>10677807
I would never wear it on its own. I would wear it under crinoline and a top skirt that fits it.
The overskirt in question is a rather plain black cotton one similar to this

>>10677600
>>10677604
"AP made salopettes for fairy kei" is just some made up misinformation by the western community that still continues to get parroted as truth.

No brand, AP or otherwise, ever said this. Have never heard any Japanese lolita ever say this, either. No idea where the idea came from.

>>10677821
10 years ago. you wouldn't get it. sorry. maybe go try to find some cgl archives and maybe you will.

What’s antainas email? I heard you can email them directly and they can customize shoes for you.

>>10677861
Last I heard it was YOYO.0510@hotmail.com

>>10677638
I have a couple binders from Underworks that work well, are relatively comfortable, and hold up over time. Check the guidelines to make sure you’re wearing it safely, but it’s pretty obvious shit like “wear the correct size” and “don’t wear it for more than 6-8 hours at a time”.

That said, >>10677776 has a point. I have a handful of both because I like options.

>>10677976
Seconding underworks, though they are designed for trans men, so they definitely give a bit of a boob loaf effect. Personally I use a frog sports bra to reduce. It has less of a boob loaf effect for me. I use underworks for ouji/cosplay.

>>10677960
That email is correct. As a side note: I tried emailing them a couple years ago but the person in charge of that account said they were on maternity leave and didn't say when they'd return. If you don't get a response, you can message them directly through TaoBao.

>>10677638
I know the other two anons said underworks but I'd recommend gc2b. Underworks has more compression but they use this awful scratchy material and if you sweat even the tiniest bit it feels awful. Gc2b is far comfier imo

Anyone know where I can get a blackxblack KC like this at? Everywhere I've looked is either sold out or not open right now.

what is the best place to sell secondhand lolita? not a fan of lm and everyone here says it's shit anyway so where else?

>>10677638
Binders hurt and make it hard to breathe for me. I had the most success by just not wearing a bra at all desu. No boobloaf, the dress squishes my boobs in by itself.

>>10678073
Where did you see people saying Lm is shit? Like honestly you could try depop or Mercari but depending on what you have you'll sell way faster on LM

>>10678077
in the ap main, a few times

>>10678073
LM is the best there is, unless you choose to only sell to your local comm.

>>10678076
>I had the most success by just not wearing a bra at all desu
In a similar vein I prefer to wear bralettes/less supportive bras when I want to minimize my bust. I comfortably can't go without a bra but the more supportive ones lift the breasts up and forward which makes them stick out more, thus harder to fit. There aren't many sports bras in my size and most are encapsulation types rather than compression types, those don't reduce my measurement at all.

>>10678084
Well that's what you want wrong. AP fags are delusional to begin with.

>>10678073
Everyone here is a drama queen. Lm has very lax mods lately so stuff has creeped up but it’s still absolutely the best place to sell Lolita stuff. You pay no fees and it is *still* the biggest western marketplace for Lolita goods by far

>>10678183
I’ll never understand why anyone would try to sell on here. Maybe back in the old days. But gulls are fucking crazy and there’s no way I’m sharing my address with all the scrote trash that’s been invading these boards lately.

>>10678217
Half the time I’m worried about giving out my address on lm too. I sold OTKs to that used sock collector guy before I knew what was up. Still creeps me out that he has my address from the return label.

How much smaller should I be than the measurements of a jsk for it to fit right? I’m eyeing something on lm and according to lolibrary I should just fit but I don’t want to waste time/money.

>>10678311
In my experience, around 2cm will be fine if you're just wearing a blouse. Up to 5-6cm if you're wearing a bra, singlet, and a knit.

How long do you gulls usually wait for payment/conformation when selling items? I've had a newbie leaving me on read for a few days now and she already has one bad feedback for not having her address correct. Kinda wanna leave bad feedback and try to resell but I just want to get paid and sell already.

>>10677283
What is a good shop for fairy kei shoes?

>>10678361
It's good to put something in your profile about requiring confirmation/payment in a certain time period. Some people have loose rules. I had bad feedback 7 years ago that felt like it followed me because some shit in Mexico bought something and never gave me money. Told me she'd pay by a date then never did. I left bad feedback on her profile and she did on mine out of retaliation. Somehow it was still valid when I finally tried to clear it up because she made it sound like it was a 'me' problem even though she told me she'd pay me later and then just never did by the date. I was moving at the time, so I couldn't fuck around with that. I had to move right after that date, so she just was really fucking with me for 15$. Just give the mods a heads up that you want to cancel the sale, because a few days sitting usually is inclination they won't be paying. Especially with no communication. It's good to warn, because some people in that situation are retaliatory for whatever shitty reason.

>>10677638
I use Spectrum UK, it’s a little longer than my gc2b one without being a full tank and a tad more comfortable. Alternatively for minimizing bras I like Chantelle or Wacoal

>>10678076
>>10677976
>>10677776
>>10678025
>>10678469
Thanks for the advice, everyone!

>>10678311
Side note: don’t rely on lolibrary measurements to a t. They are often inaccurate in my experience.

>>10678495
Can confirm. Sometimes it’s actually substantially larger, other times it’s substantially smaller. The big ones I notice are AP skirts. Horror garden and dreamy planetarium both have very inaccurate measurements on lolibrary. That particular cut is a good bit smaller than described.

>>10678390
there's a lot of fairy kei appropriate shoes, could you narrow down exactly what kind you're looking for?

>>10678575
Sneakers, specifically

>>10677827
yeah I was around 10 years ago which is exactly why I have this stance. Sorry I'm not gonna accept your "just trust me bro" as proof.

Just for fun, I went back 10 years into the archive and over the course of 2012 - 2014, there were 2 posts stating "salopettes aren't lolita/salopettes are for fairy kei" - 1 that was very obviously just the poster's opinion, and the second was a misguided attempt at explaining pastel goth, so no, I don't exactly trust 2 people's opinionated posts as rock-solid proof. Especially with hundreds of other posts from that era that treated them as regular lolita pieces and talked about and coordinated them as such.

people like you really see picrel and go "not lolita" and yet never question tea length dresses

>>10678495
Very true. One of my atepie dresses for example has measurements way smaller than mine when I fit the dress just fine and don't even squeeze into it.

>>10678537
>Horror garden
Yeah I took a big L on this one. The waist is actually like 70cm maximum. And that’s pushing it.

Im very new to lolita and was wondering if this is acceptable or cute?

>>10678750
The brand is FELINAE COOKIE LOLITA but i can’t find alot of people talking anout it. It’s really flashy so I wasnt sure if it was good for lolita standards..

>>10678756
>>10678750
Monstrous cosplay ita attire

>>10678761

Thank you so much for replying, i wont get it and find something else. I guess i was blinded by the amount of frill hell

>>10678750
It's tasteless and almost definitely trash quality and poorly constructed>>10678756

>>10678768
You're okay nonnie. Especially with old-schoolers gulls can be into the whole lace monster thing but this one is very cosplay like.
Try to look at some more resources like gothic lolita bible if you want to get a better idea on the quality you want to look for.

>>10678073
fril, jp mercari, xianyu

>>10677638
just get your fucking jsks altered instead of making yourself a loaf

>>10678195
if it's the same mods as a year or two ago, they are total shit. they deleted my negative feedback for someone and allowed that person to leave retaliatory feedback after. so i don't really want to sell on there

>>10678794
thank you for giving actual alternatives

>>10678794
>>10678803
>>10678794
Garbage advice.
You can't sell on xianyu unless you have a mainland china ID.
Pretty sure you can't sell on jp Mercari or fril unless you're shipping from Japan.

>>10678814
oh whoops i didnt even read sell i thought they meant buy lol, you prob cant better than lm for selling in that case. unless you want to pay hella fees on depop or mercari.

>>10678814
>she doesn't know that shopping services will sell for you
kek.

>>10678818
what about fb groups or ebay?

>>10678768
Tbh I think a veteran could pull it off. With the right accessories length and aesthetic it could def count as Lolita, but if you’re just getting started avoid this dress and other like it unless you want to look like chobits or something.

>>10678822
Even if you could sell through a proxy they would take an extra cut on top of the % the original site takes.
I've never seen a proxy that lets you sell through them anywhere and I regularly use proxy services to buy. Googling it doesn't come up with anything either.
Garbage. Advice.

>>10678846
It has nothing to do with literally looking like a cosplay. That dress is going to be shit quality Taobao

What's the quality of brand petticoats like? I was thinking of buying a BTSSB petti because my waist is a little big (I'm tall and in the upper range of the healthy BMI) and most Taobao won't fit me. The website says it goes up to 110cm waist, which is more than big enough. Is the poof decent? And is the sizing listed accurate?

Why people praise AP? It has shit quality and mediocre designs besides the rare gems.

>>10678923
I don't think brand petticoats are worth it desu

>>10678929
Thanks. Saved me the money. I've been hearing good things about melikestea, are their custom pettis good quality for the money?

Megaultrastupid question incoming.
In the AP thread a "NB MTO" was mentioned. I know about CF, TF, and SC. Wtf does NB stand for?

>>10678942
Nakayoshi Bunny. It's coming out in cotton, rather than its original velveteen. Angelic Prophet in the AP thread discussed changes to the coming colourways.

>>10678944
It's hideous. Especially in just cotton. But I guess people will lose their shit over any applique

>>10678944
Thanks for filling me in Anon. I appreciate you.

>>10678945
It is hideous and I love it. You can pry my ugly appliques out of my cold dead hands.

>>10678948
No problem! We were all new once.

Should I get a corset from Abilletage if I'm tall with a long torso ? Measurement wise, their biggest size is fine, but I'm afraid it will be too short and won't sit confortably on my ribcage for instance.

Is it a replica if the lace says angelic pretty, the print says angelic pretty but the seller just can't find the tag to confirm it actually is angelic pretty?

I've never had a case like this where I was so unsure if it's a dress in a mint condition or a replica

>>10678981
If there is no tag its a replica.

>>10678938
I have rose voile with 4 layers. The seams tear quite easily especially with voile as the fabric, and the drawstring got stuck and I had to cut it off. It's also not as good as my Aurora & Ariel petticoat for dresses that need higher poof. But other than that it's comfortable and pretty good quality but I'd honestly just rather get one from Aurora & Ariel.

>>10678913
Same anon who posted that image! I was wondering how to figure which pieces will be bad quality or not? Especially if its still preorder stage or something, if there is a way to figure that out that is- and what brands should I avoid? Especially gothic lolita brands if that helps

>>10678750
This could be cute if it was made with nice materials imo. This definitely isn't made with nice materials so I'd give it a hard pass.

>>10678893
You are so new. I sell with my S.S all the time.

Do Brand oldschool pieces' values/prices "increase" the older they are (kind of similar to vintage clothing in a way?)

>>10679018
no. are you new? prices are directly proportional to popularity, even for old school. no one gives a shit how old your crusty OPs are.

>>10679021

Yes, and this IS the stupid questions thread lol. I saw some btssb old school pieces that weren't necessarily popular to my knowledge, more like basic, go up really high in a japanese auction, so I asked. But then I guess the basic black & white oldschool look is popular no matter what the specific pieces are maybe... shrug. Thanks!

>>10678084
>>10678183
to be fair it probably IS shit if you're trying to buy AP pieces

>>10678981
that's sketchy as fuck anon, i wouldn't buy that

>>10679018
Depends. Applique and screenprinted ones certainly do if they’re in decent condition. They also need to be cute. There’s some fugly old school pieces out there.

>>10679083
This. A piece just being old isn't going to cut it. Before there were prints, they would screen print designs onto the border of the fabric. Those are going to be way more valuable than a generic dress, especially if it features some old wonky cuts.

>>10678990
I bought a shirt directly from AP that didn't have a tag (Cherry Collar Blouse), but it was just a blouse. Definitely weirded me out though.

is there any plan for haenuli to come back someday?

>>10679423
i hope not!

Will the bow here work with this dress? If not then Where could I get a headpiece that will match for the jsk, besides hoping that the original will pop up secondhand?

>>10679368
Did you check the side seam, AP tags and the care tag are on the side

>>10679431
why?

>>10679495
Eh. Maybe it's just the stock photo, but that bow has a bit of a 'soft' look IMO for that JSK, a little more on the mature sweet side. I would find something crisper, like a maybe a generic cotton lace BTSSB black x black headbow. That's just my opinion, though.

>>10679495
It's good enough. Some other ideas - pink headbow to match the check bows, or a striped headbow like the one in the print

>>10679495
You could also add pink details to it diy to make it work better.

>>10679008
Doesn't change the fact that it would cut into the amount you make drastically.
Anyone can claim they do this though. Proof or it didn't happen.

>>10679515
I mean you answered it anon. You can do that, and there are many services to handle your account in China, but why? The market price there is substantially lower for basically every item.

>>10679515
>Proof or it didn't happen.
It’s pretty well known anon. I’ve even used my forwarder to do trades in China.

>>10679620
just name a service if it's so well know then

is it possible to wear something over a princess sleeve (I'm talking old school cotton) or am I meant to just be cold

>>10678923
Just get one from Melikestea

>>10679639
You can wear another longer blouse under it so it looks like a detachable sleeve blouse. They also do have princess sleeve jackets (i have one by meta) so keep an eye out for those

>>10679639
>>10679674
Sheglit currently has a princess sleeve coat for sale called Beatrix

At what point is an item of clothing too big? I’m 84/66, would an OP that’s 94/86 be too big?

What are the best Taobao shops to buy winter coats? I don't live somewhere cold so I'm not looking to spend too much, just getting it for a trip. Not looking to buy secondhand, the idea grosses me out.

>>10679500
haenuli dresses are fucking hideous anon

>>10679805
I'm sorry for your shit taste anon

>>10679799
It's outerwear. It's entirely capable of being cleaned and is probably not worn that often. Especially not in extreme weather. Faux fur discoloration is easy enough to fix with peroxide and that is just what happens over time. Even with taobao brands.

>>10679799
I heard nice things about Wheathouse! I'd avoid Miss Umbrella or whatever because they lie about fabric

I missed out on the reservation period for Nekokumya's Meow Meow Gift series.

Is it available in stores now but just not online? Or is it not available on either and you just have to wait for an announcement that it'll drop on a certain time/day.

>>10679809
they died for a reason.

>>10678938
Unless you can sew, I don’t recommend getting the viole one because it rips at the seams from regular wear.

>>10679855
because the owner got married?

>>10679891
Sounds like you just got one that's too small for you, I have three voile pettis from them and have never had this problem

Do yall think AP's Honey Cake will lower in price? I can't tell if I like the dress or if I'm just liking the hype of the dress.

>>10679961
Anon it’s been a long time since the first MTO and it has been rereleased several times since. I doubt it’s going to lower much more.

Anyone else think it'd be a good idea to add a post in the sticky thread recommending for "I need help with this one thing" newfags to search the catalog for the cosplay help general or stupid question thread? It's not the biggest problem but every time someone posts a one-off question they just get ignored or told to find the help thread anyway

>>10679971
Agreed. It's going to always be pricey. It's one of the plus size dresses.

>>10679799
>Too good for secondhand
>Not good enough for actual quality

How retarded would I look if I wore a detachable dress bow on my head

>>10680082
I do that all the time. I think it's fine as long as it's properly attached and the right scale. I did it with fruits parlor because I didn't have the headbow and the apron accents the waist. But the detachable bow on the Wonder Queen skirt or Fantasy theater? Way too large.

>>10679799
not gonna make it if secondhand COATS gross you out

>>10679980
No. Anyone stupid enough to make their own thread for a single question isn't going to read the sticky.

I just got an old school AP blouse with princess sleeves and I'm devastated to find that my arms are just a bit too thick for the sleeves. It technically fits but I don't want to stretch and wear down the seams.
I'm going to try exercising more but unless I turn ana my arms will always be thick. Has anyone tried wearing one of those arm compression sleeves before? I only need a bit of leeway and I really don't want to sell this blouse.

>>10679855
literally only because the owner got married. also didn't "die" just went on hold.

>>10680093
just get it altered

>>10680188
It's significantly more difficult to add to clothing than take in and most of the time it's just not worth it

What's the taobao reseller for bodyline?

>>10680093
Sorry anon, I'm normal weight but have thick arms too, I know how you feel. Hope you can figure something out.

>>10680093
Lose weight

>>10680268
what is reading comprehension
she literally said she was going to try to lose weight but it won't do much anyway

>>10680274
Lose weight

>>10680280
Get help for your ED, showing off your bones isn't kawaii

>>10680281
Lose weight

>>10680280
>>10680284
oh you're just retarded okay got it
i won't respond anymore so you won't hurt your brain trying to type all that out again

>>10678225
drop his username please, so I don't accidentally sell to him

>>10678923
Aurora and Ariel do custom sizes. Brand petticoats aren't worth it, unless you're looking for minimal old school tier poof and can find one that's cheap secondhand

>>10679639
Baby's little princess coat works great for me, although it's only warm enough for early fall/spring where I live. They come up for sale very often, and most of the time people don't charge much for them

Bought something using EMS preferential line, haven’t gotten a shipping update in 4 weeks, should I worry?

>>10680288
Lose weight

I have this shirt that’s a little too snug in the back, as you can see it’s pulling the fabric up. It fits fine everywhere else. would it be worth getting altered? Could it even be done or is this like a lose weight situation lol

>>10680416
Neither. You'd be better off just getting something that actually fits you. It's not really about your weight here but your measurements. Even if you were skelly it would likely still hang like that. It doesn't look that bad desu but it seems your torso is rather long for this blouse. Unless you had another one of these, altering it wouldn't really do anything since you'd need more of this exact fabric to put into it.

>>10680416
I mean, why the hell are you trying to wear a crop top with lolita?

>>10680418
Makes sense, yeah usually i fit into F sizes but it arrived and i tried it on and I guess you can’t win it all

>>10680421
Ahaha nonny it’s a bolero but i guess my torso’s too long

>>10680313
Shipping everywhere has just been a trainwreck recently, I thought a package was lost for a month until it showed up in my mailbox unannounced. If you have a tracking number you should be able to see where it is through https://www.parcelmonitor.com/track-global/ or the UPS site if you're in the states. If not, don't lose hope and keep diligent to prevent package thieves, or if you get sent a message about insufficient address, find out what happened. Basically be patient yet proactive.

>>10679792
10cm bigger in the bust probably won't be too bad but 20cm bigger in the waist would personally be a deal breaker for me.

Can hanging a blouse under a JSK long term cause any damage? I'm probably overthinking this but want to be sure it's safe. I have mainly white blouses so I'm wondering if color transfer from the main piece should be a concern, although it's never happened between dresses hanging in my wardrobe. I'm also wondering about any stretching from hanging the blouse, but I don't think that would be an issue as most of my blouses are sturdy cotton.

>>10680424
Well, boleros are usually about that height but it puckering in the back is more due to the design I'd think. They usually are just like that.

>>10680421
Newfag

>>10680564
did you mean to reference the person I was referencing? cuz no one has xray vision to see shit on the side broseph. it looks like a crop top from the side.

>>10680658
Newfag

Is it rude to manually change somebody’s attendance status on a Facebook event?

>>10680820
It depends. What's the situation?

I'm looking for a wig with proper ringlet curls and straight bangs for lolita but I'm not finding anything. Natural colored and short to medium length preferably. Help?

>>10680892
Basically every old-schooler uses a ringlet wig from Maple, comes In blonde and black

>>10680892
Last time i checked prisila wigs had the type you’re describing on their sale section

Does anyone know when Antique Beast will open their store again?

>>10680907
No. They're announce it when they are, but as of right now I can tell she's still backed up on orders. It took me paying extra to get mine even shipped out, while others probably ordered after me and got it. (I literally ordered on the second it opened up)

So it's unlikely it'll be anytime soon.

best app for removing acne and scars/scabs?

my face is breaking out really badly right now and makeup alone won't fix it

>>10680923
Picsart

>>10680901
I might be retarded but I can't find the blonde one on their website rn

>>10680892
Maple

>>10680923
i struggle with picking at my skin and when it was bad and i had lots of scabs, i’d use the app snapseed. there’s a “heal” tool that covers up blemishes on any surface without making it look blurred, though it can be a bit finicky sometimes.

>>10680934
thank you, that's exactly what I do and my face is fucked up from it. can't really put makeup on open sores/scabs.

>>10680925
https://www.maple-wig.com/wig/shopping/goods_detail.php?gid=1365

>>10680935
it’s so frustrating, isn’t it? i also try not to wear too much foundation even on non-broken skin because it makes me get zits/clogged pores, which i then pick at and make worse T-T
i’ve found that crocheting helps keep my hands busy and gives me some time to zone out and let my thoughts wander in the same way they do when i pick my skin. it’s sort of killing two birds with one stone because it makes me pick less and also i can put time into the far more worthy cause of lolita/jfashion crocheted accessories.

>>10680558
It's possible if you live in a very humid area and the dress is prone to bleeding when washed, but if you've washed it before and noticed no color transfer then you should be good

>>10680923
Meitu has an "acne" tool that removes blemishes pretty well, I use it a lot to polish up photos with slight imperfections

How long has EMS been taking from Japan to the US for you gulls? It's been so long since I've gotten it I'm not sure what to expect.

>>10681133
To west coast my last EMS package took around 4-5 days? Even shit I've been getting off ebay that's not EMS from Japan has been getting here in about a week and change.

>>10681141
Ty nonnie

I have this skirt. is this a good coord, before i start buying stuff? If its a shit coord what kind of blouse should i look for

>>10681144
Socks look a little cheap, also the socks and headdress look white not ivory if you're trying to match them to your blouse.

>>10681145
Thank you i will get meta socks then. If the headdress is white will it be noticeable with the rest? Or maybe i can get the blouse in white, have a white headdress and balance it like that?

If two people bid the exact same amount how does lm decide who wins?

Where can I find a decent old school style ringlet wig? I know Dreamholic has one but I honestly don’t really like Dreamholic very much, so any alternatives would be great

>>10681168
Read >>10680892

>>10681167
It doesn't work like that, it's automated. If two people bid on the same thing, the exact same amount, at the same time, whoever clicked the submit button first becomes the new highest bid.
The other person will have to bid higher than the new highest bid to win.
If the item current bid is $30, you can also 'bid' $100. That will bump the current bid to $31 with you being the highest bidder, and lm will ghost bid for you up to $100. Hopefully that helps

>>10681167
Unless they both bid the same amount by the same millisecond, whoever bids later will have to bid higher.

>>10681149
If I were you I'd get white over ivory any day. It's much versatile, and this particular blouse looks like a challenge to coord with that extremely saturated lace

>>10681170
Thank you anon, somehow I completely missed that

Buyer is upset with me because they didn't read the description of what I was selling, and their free brand fixer upper gift arrived broken. What should I do? They won't leave a review either, but I suppose that's better than negative feedback, so I shouldn't be complaining. I don't know if it's just my luck, but half of my LM transactions end up becoming horror stories.

it it possible to delete your lm account?

>>10681133
Japan EMS is the only reliable nail service I've gotten on the west coast for a while. Closet child and a SS orders took 3-4 days tops within the last few weeks.

>>10681179
Pack your shit better and highlight the flaws and damage in your auction better. If that's happening with half of your orders, wyd? Everyone including myself is too pussy to leave negative feedback unless they are petty or you were a nightmare to deal with or there is tons of undisclosed damage.

>>10681176
>>10681144
Meta makes antique white socks that would match, they are a pretty dark cream like that. I always try to match the lace color

How hard are these rocking horse-type (?) shoes to walk in? The ones I'm thinking of getting have foam soles.

>>10681310
Not any harder than walking in heels.hard you have some kind of preexisting balance issues or are retarded you’ll be fine

hi nonnies, i have a shoe question especially for the classic lolitas here! my current style is very mori/natural kei but i’ve been wanting to start wearing classic lolita for a while and my only concern is the shoes. i walk around a ton so if i wear uncomfortable or badly made shoes i end up destroying them and my feet pretty quickly. i’m also a student without a ton of money so most of my clothing is handmade or second-hand and most of my shoes are from consignment shops or thrift stores. my current go-to shoes are a pair of regular (non-platform) doc marten Mary Janes, some heeled loafers, another pair of Mary Jane flats that i don’t know the brand of, and ugly sneakers that i run in lol. would it be ugly or ita if i just stuck with Mary Jane-style comfortable shoes, assuming they’re properly color-coordinated and don’t look cheap, and i wear nice socks with them and everything? or are there other shoes you would recommend that work well for classic lolita but are still fairly comfortable and sturdy? i could also theoretically embellish some more boring shoes with bows and whatnot, i’ve been sewing for a while so i know how to make things look polished and neat. i’ve loved the look of classic lolita for a long time but i just haven’t known how to get around this. back when i just wore impractical shoes everywhere and powered through, my feet hurt all the time and it was harder to get exercise throughout the day because i dreaded going on long walks.

>>10681316
please break up your paragraphs next time, i got a headache trying to read that.
anyway you'll need to add a picture of what you think are 'mary jane style comfortable shoes' because i'm not sure what you're talking about.

>>10681317
sorry about the paragraphs, that’s my bad.
the photo is an extremely loose idea of what i mean, i’m just referring to Mary Jane style shoes with one or two straps. flats or a small heel is fine for me but i don’t like the “tiktok alt” look of big chunky platforms at all.
in terms of colors i’m talking about muted pastels, natural tones, or black— no bright colors.

>>10681341
& in terms of comfortable shoes i just mean shoes that won’t tear up my feet too badly when i walk in them.

>>10681341
no worries, all good.
These shoes will work for a casual coord. it would make your outfit more sweet because they don't look more mature and structured like a victorian style boot or classic style oxfords would.
but these can go with classic things. especially if you're able to add a bow on the front.
the chunky platforms are more for gothic coords so you don't need to worry about those.
I don't have budget recommendations, but you could likely find something for a good price if you thrift.

>>10681343
thank you, this is all very helpful!
yes, i was actually planning to go to the thrift store today to fill in my wardrobe a bit more and i wanted to get some advice beforehand on the shoe thing!
i’m on the lookout for a good pair of oxfords actually, haven’t found ones that i’ve liked yet but i’m sure it’ll just take time.

Would it be bad/replica wearing level of me to make a colorway of a dress that never existed but the same design? AP's Dreamland release never came in pink x brown, only mint x brown and pink x white and dark pink x white. I am thinking of making a pink one and edited the mint one to pink just to see.

If I make picrel would people find it tacky or bad? I buy from AP regularly, they just never released this dress and if they ever do probably won't have new colorways and it'd be poly.

>>10681359
i don't think it's tacky at all, since it's never existed in this color. even if it did come in pink x brown i couldn't fault you for making it yourself since i haven't seen this come up for sale. And it's not like you're trying to sell it to people.
I think you should go for it! It would be so cool to make it yourself too.. if you told me that, i'd probably fangirl over you for your sewing skills. Also it might be even cuter if you replaced the brown pocket covers with brown bows to match the bigger center bow.

>>10681361
I was thinking of doing a hybrid between the JSK and OP since they're so similar and I like elements from each. I wanted to do the jsk but instead of the big waistbow I love the contrast of the brown belt/waist area on the OP. Maybe I could even make the JSK as normal and make a separate detachable brown belt.

Why Misako left BABY?
Was she fired?
Or she just quit?
And why?

>>10681416
Did she ever work exclusively for them? She's a nurse outside of lolita modeling. Was she ever some sort of full or part time employee?

>>10681416
I don't think anything "happened", anon. She's a model with no exclusivity contract; just seems like other brands have picked her up which has either made her too busy for Baby or other brands are paying better, or her style is shifting to that more classic pink house style so she wants to do more of that kind of modeling

I'm sure she will be back modeling for Baby once there's an event or tea party or something

>>10681185
Did you just not bother to read the rest of what I said? The buyer didn't read the description, I described every single bit of damage in the listing. It was not only packed as well as humanly possible, but I made it look cute too. I'm saying the buyer didn't read the description and told me "hey this arrived damaged" after I asked if they received the items and is now not leaving feedback.
Most of the horror transactions involve me buying and not selling items, by the way. I rarely sell.

>>10681445
To add onto this, they had no complaints about the main item - it's the free gift with purchase that needed TLC (which was very clearly stated in the listing) that they're upset about

Anyone have any recommendations for winter boots for lolita? I was looking for something with a smaller heel - a lot of brand and taobao boots have higher heels that don't seem all that great for walking on snow and ice.

Is this the antaina store? https://shop35767391.taobao.com/

I emailed that email address on the page (Jinghua5418@yahoo.co.jp) a few days ago and haven't gotten a response back, is this normal or should i email them again?

>>10681493
Yes that's antaina. Use a shopping service to order from them. Emailing them won't work.

>>10681485
Honestly, my best advice would be to get good quality classic leather boots (think Jane Marple style) from a normie shoe store and buy some bow clips in a matching color. Pleather cracks and doesn't keep you warm if you live somewhere cold enough for it to snow.

>>10681445
You didn't make it clear at all that your horror stories were from buying and not selling. I read your post. If you have significant damage, my suggestion was to put that in the listing title because half of pm users won't read listings. If it's not a consistent problem for you as a seller then it doesn't pay to you and maybe chill.

>>10681518
Thanks Anon, the bow clip idea sounds great!

>>10681359
nobody cares about design replicas, generally

Does BTSSB ever do MTOs for the kumya dresses?

>>10681521
I really don't see why I would put "beware - the absolutely free brand gift you will be receiving along with your perfectly fine main item is damaged!" in the title. It's the buyer's responsibility to inspect the listing before they commit to buy something imo, and it's really on them if they decide to be mad about a free gift being in need of repair. Am I in the wrong here?

Is shipping from Japan effected by the typhoon right now?

>>10681538
Not totally sure but my EMS item that was shipped out Thursday is already in the US

>>10681535
Youre not wrong. If you put all the damage info in the listing, the buyer doesn’t really have a right to be upset with you. It’s their own fault they couldn’t take the 2 minutes to read before buying

How do you gulls store your lolita things? I'm thinking of Ikea Kallax boxes. I want a dustproof solution. I store my pettis bunched up in one of my purses and use shoe boxes for socks, clips, hair accessories and bows, and bigger items such as aprons and rosettes. Looking into better solutions as my shoe boxes of socks can't close anymore...

>>10681547
I just hang everything including my socks and headdresses. I put my soft bonnets in a little bag and hang those up too. JSKs with elastic straps go on hangers with clips so the elastic doesn't wear out.

What western/not-japanese music genres/artists do you associate with lolita? People say music box stuff but that feels a little juvenile imo

>>10681550
Classical music like Tchaikovsky, Chopin, Liszt, Elgar, Wieniawski, etc.

>>10681550
melanie martinez. not trolling, that's just the only western artist i know of that had any association with lolita clothing

Did VM ever get the funding to re release those coffin beds?

>>10681550
Classical music composers are the obvious relation.

>>10681560
wtf why

>>10681572
NTA but because she literally wore AP.

She made some songs (often about a girl getting creeped on/gaslit/abused and her feelings on it) which would have been bad if merged with lolita so when she was asked what she wore while in AP she claimed it was an adult baby brand.

Because you know, lolita being associated with:
>Driving next to me real slow, he said
>Let me take you for a joyride
>I've got some candy for you inside
would be a fucking nightmare for actual lolitas.

Her clothing was styled in a age player way, so you couldn't confuse it but western lolitas found it offensive that she didn't call AP a lolita brand. She didn't pass the sticker test, and if she did she wasn't wearing a headpiece or wristcuffs.

>>10681561
It wasn’t a bed, the fundraiser wasn’t for them, but only one person bought a coffin.

>>10681572

>>10681535
Again, you are not being clear. If literally only the free gift was damaged then oh well too bad for the buyer? I know this is the stupid questions thread but what even is the issue? It sounds like you wanted to whinge about how generous you were but the freebie was broken, probably because of poor packaging.

how white should the blk x owh be, bc mine is fairly beige & i wanna know if it's worth it to give it an oxy bath

>>10681647
bodyline headdresses are a dime a dozen. do what you want with that crap.

>>10681587
Nta but can you not read? They literally stated several times that the item was messed up before shipping which they noted in their listing.

>>10681560
Lady gaga, Katy Perry and one judge from a singing show all wore angelic pretty.

>>10681179
Tbh getting reviews on LM is like pulling teeth. If you're not getting negative feedback, dunno why it matters.

But the free gift shouldn't matter either.

>>10681658
Didn’t Nicki Minaj also wear AP? Or was that another female rap artist?

>>10681647
Buy another one you cheap motherfucker

>>10681663
Lil mama did iirc

>>10681663
>>10681704
They both wore AP

>>10681576
she's not a lolita and she sexually assaulted her friend. and all of her music is nlog shit.

>>10681730
Much of her music tends to be about disliking being sexualized or relationship struggles, her child abuse, etc. Some of it is cringe though. As a teen I thought it was relatable as I had a rough childhood and went through a phase where I enjoyed her stuff but knowing about the rape situation made me never want to listen to her again.

Anyone openly admitting to being a current fan of her at this point creeps me out considering everything.

>>10681730
It was proven that the girl who accused her was lying that she was forced. There’s plenty of shit to hate her for like the adult baby pandering and the muh weeds shit but stop lying about the rape. It was made up by a jealous BPDwhore who was trying to get attention for her album drop.

>>10681730
>>10681731
Timothy Heller literally admitted she lied with her accusation.

>>10681736
>>10681733

I haven't looked it up since the initial Timothy making the claim and Melanie saying it was consensual and I tend to want to give the victim the benefit of the doubt. If it's true it was a lie that's a relief but Melanie's music still aside from the more serious topics has some cringe moments woven in there like the nlog stuff another anon mentioned.

Plus her calling lolita adult baby clothes really rubs me the wrong way. At least Katy, Nicki, and the like seemed to just like the clothes and not try to pretend it's something else whether they wore lolita appropriate coords or not. Nicki even called herself a Harajuku Barbie back in the day which was a reference as a kid I actually never understood until I learned about and began wearing jfashion.

>>10681739
> Plus her calling lolita adult baby clothes really rubs me the wrong way. At least Katy, Nicki, and the like seemed to just like the clothes and not try to pretend it's something else whether they wore lolita appropriate coords or not. Nicki even called herself a Harajuku Barbie back in the day which was a reference as a kid I actually never understood until I learned about and began wearing jfashion.


All of this is valid but please stop just assuming any accusation you see and go around years later still accusing someone of rape. You enable BPDfags this way.

Oh great more Melanie Martinez discussions. Thought I was finally free from having to hear about her dumbass especially in a lolita space but alas.

>>10681547
whatever those things are called

why do jp girls smile like this? i follow lots of girls into larme and they all do this smile

>>10681730
mental illness is NLOG af
You're literally outside the norm so you cannot be like Other (healthy) Girls.

It's not a source of pride lmao, if some artist made songs about being wheelchair bound it wouldn't be relatable to you either.

The whole "crazies I like better" is literally not for you and its weird for you to get offended at her for making music for the mentally ill that centers around their experiences.

Do you think Beyonce is nlog too because she said "Becky with the good hair"

>>10681917
Makes them look cute and vulnerable, it's trendy to look like a literal child

>>10681550
cocteau twins gives me oldschool vibes

>>10681550
I always thought emilie autumn existed in the same victorian/gothic sphere. None of her outfits are really egl but sometimes they have little elements of it. her classical violin covers sound pretty gothic lolita and she uses the harpsichord frequently as well.

>>10681446
Yeah you just gifted them work. Why would they want something that requires TLC?

On a similar note I dislike when Etsy shops or other second hand sellers include undisclosed gifts with purchase. I only want the item I paid for. Why are you giving me extra stuff? I don't want your cheap candy, hair accessories, or stickers.

>>10682009
She did have that song called "gothic lolita" about a girl who was molested though

>>10682012
Considering that it was literally disclosed in the listing, I don’t see the problem. I agree with you about the weird gifts of undisclosed candy and stickers, but if it was already mentioned in the listing, then the buyer could have just asked her not to include it

>>10682013
Shit i forgot about that song. her vocal stuff is just super cringe. I tried listening to that song just now and i wanna die lol.. I’ll stand by her solo violin harpsichord album (laced/unlaced) until i die though

>>10682012
I always give a bag of tea or coffee but I hate getting gifts from most people myself.

>>10682009
>harpsichord
fuck off

>>10682019
Can you humor me nonny i’m not sure what’s wrong with harpsichords??

>>10682025
shitty goff music isn't suddenly good just because it uses a shitty harpsichord poorly in a song.

>>10682029
Um...nonny? i was talking about her classical covers with the violin and harpsichord and not her shitty vocal stuff that has harpsichord.
If you're gonna tell me that Bach and Leclair is shitty, then you might need to get your head checked. She doesn't use the best top world quality harpsichord in her classical covers but it's far from shitty

Tips on shrinking knits? I got a Baby piece that seems to be stretched out. I put it through my dryer on low heat, but I'm a bit scared to let it run through on a higher heat. For reference it seems to be all wool, including the lace.

Any recs for a cupcake petti with extreme poof?

Has anyone gotten any shiny light pink shoes from cotton candy feet? I’ve gotten their matte light pink shoes before, but they were too peachy in tone to match my pink coords. The shiny version seems like a different color pink, so I was just wondering if it was cooler

>>10682128
Aurora and Ariel, they have various options/customization and I have a secondhand one that's so poofy I've considered removing layers.

>>10682130
Cotton candy feet is garbage. Why waste your money on that crap

i tried to add an item on lolibrary, it's in pending status. is that correct? how long does it take before it's approved generally?

How do ap replicas work? I saw one on lm, the seller had got scammed and was trying to sell the replica. However the dress looks really good from the pics. It looks exactly like ap except without the tag. Does the chinese factory that makes it, just make extras as replicas? Or are there dedicated scammers who take the effort to make really convincing dresses?

>>10682179

Dedicated scammers, there have been convincing AP replicas for years now.

Some dresses like Dream Marine have such good replicas that it's best not to buy them second hand unless the proof pictures clearly show the tags. And even then I think there have been issues with replica tags before.

>>10682192
I see, is it because tags are hard to replicate? If they can make the dress look so good, i don't understand why they wouldn't be able to make the tag look the same.
I don't like scammers, i'm just confused about the whole thing.
I'll keep this in mind if I buy secondhand AP though, good to know.

Does anyone know how I can watch that episode on Kiko Mizuhara's show where she interviews Mana-sama?

Does anyone know what jsk this is? I thought it would be btssb but I can't find it on lolibrary

>>10682244
Could it be Cornet judging from the length/bodice detail?

>>10682058
Answer my question

>>10682296
no

>>10682297
I hope someone outbids you last minute on your dream dress

>>10682300
nta but this sounds like some major projecting. Sorry that happened to you, but oldfags don't make that mistake.

Why is it a thing for people to dress as cows now....??? On fatties it literally looks like a fat joke. Is this some bizarre megamilk offshoot trend?

>>10682369
Cow print was/is trendy in normie fashion, so of course shitty clolita brands made cow print lolita dresses. Personally I find it tacky desu. I think the trend started with Doja Cat's Moo music video but I could be wrong

>>10679805
the prints are nice but the fabric quality puts me off

although with most of the major brands using polyester I feel like lolitas generally don't give a shit about fabric quality as a whole

>>10682058
do not try and felt it, that's going to be a disaster.
depending on which parts are too big you should sew darts or seam rip and move the seam in a bit.

>>10682244
It's likely cornet judging by the ruffle trim, length and lace.

>>10682356
It was a lighthearted gag you autist nobody cares about muh oldfag

>>10682399
Is cornet good quality? I can't find much about them beyond "they were Shot Gun Wedding".

>>10682677
It's sturdy as fuck quality. It's not fancy luxurious quality and they never had any gorgeous beautiful pieces like AP or Btssb had. but it'll survive anything and none of the other brands imo could compete in sturdiness. all my cornet pieces did not fade or rip after 20 years.they still look good.

>>10681550
Strawberry Switchblade

Are there any jsk/skirts with ducks on them, besides meta’s march of duck and the emily temple duck skirt?
Lolibrary doesn’t have a duck tag sadly

>>10682958
Not this shit again

>>10683002
meta's happy ballon has duck balloons, dreamy egg, melody toys

>>10682691
That’s awesome to know. Just got an OP by them and I’m in love.

How are you supposed to wear these kinds of clips? They just slip off my head (i have straight hair) and my hair gets caught in the metal pieces and i end up ripping my hair out to escape. I cannot figure it out.

>>10683002
Glittertale has a cute duck print.

>>10683042
Usually under a significantly chunky amount of hair that will keep it in place. They just slip right out if you only use a little bit

>>10683042
use bobby pins

>>10683042
use a little clear hairtie to tie a tail, and then place the barette above it. the hairtie will stop the barette from slipping down.

How many cm larger before a garment looks baggy? I'm looking at a piece and I'm worried it might be too big on me. My b/w is 85 cm and 70 cm, but the dress is 99 and 83 cm respectively.

>>10683227
is that the max or min measurements? and are you wearing blouses or a bra with padding beneath?

>>10683231
It's an unshirred OP, no blouse underneath. I wear a sports bra or a minimizer.

>>10682163
Unless you're a lolibrarian, it will remain in your drafts until someone posts it. A few of my submissions got posted pretty fast, but now I have one that's been sitting in my drafts for months

>>10682163
It really depends because it's all volunteers. I'd recommend joining the discord so they can tell you what you missed so they can be approved faster.

>>10683013
What's wrong with Strawberry Switchblade?

>>10683002
i've seen some duck/rubber ducky prints come out from taobao shops before, usually in the spring

How long does baby sf usually take to ship things out? I have a receipt but I'm paranoid I didn't actually get the item I wanted.

Is there a way to temporarily turn a waist tie into some kind of head bow ?
I want to wear a dress to a meet but i don't have any matching headbands yet. I do have the waist ties however.

>>10683329
No, that'd look kind of ridiculous. Just go without a headpiece and make sure your hair looks nice otherwise

I'm quite skinny and on the tall side (171cm) but my arms are proportionally larger (28cm). I find that blouses tend to be tight in the cuff and ride up in my armpit due to my height and arms. Does anyone have any recommendations for someone with my proportions?

>>10683331
Ok you're right it would look silly! will do, i'll also make sure i have good makeup too. I should be able to find a headpiece soonish since my dress just got another release

>>10683332
Le caroussel does custom sizing like that without extra cost, they'll be able to make the cuffs larger and they're pretty cheap and decent quality.
Or you could rip out the elastic and put in looser elastic on a blouse

Are Lor and Tyler still friends after that one video Tyler made? I doubt it considering I haven’t seen them in each other’s videos/ talk about each other in their videos like they use to.

What kind of style is swankiss? Fancy Larme?
Are there other similar brands?
(I don’t like axes femme/rouge that much, its never as cute as swankiss and the quality is worse)

I never really posted my coords on social media until recently, but what's up with Aliceholic? Was it ever very popular? Tried signing up but it just keeps giving me error messages.

>>10683601
I believe it was more popular maybe 6 or 7 years ago and then everyone migrated to facebook COF or ig for posting frills. I don’t think alice holic is cared about or updated by their devs

>>10679799
hi I ordered my coat so I can answer this now:
Fanplusfriend. Winter never stood a chance, they don't lie about materials and I have one coat that lasted me3-4 winters without a hitch.
10/10 plus the one I bought had this cotton flannel lining or whatever which was warm af

>>10683721
Which coat?

Are there any brands or shops selling petticoats for tea-length dresses?

Are VM shoes real leather? I know a lot of their bags are PU so I’m not sure if their shoes are also inclined to be.

Ok I think my question is really stupid but I’m just kinda lost on bust measurements. So I see 40 something centimeters a lot, so for example 45 centimeters/17.7 inches. Is a 17 inch bust real or something? I measure at the widest part of my bust and all around and get 31 inches/78.7 centimeters. Am I just too big there and need to get a slimming/minimizing kind of bra? When I measure halfways and not all around 17 inches is fine, so is it possible that clothes are measured like that and not all the way around?

>>10684248
Clothes are often measured "flat" and not full width. Just double the measurements if they seem too small to make sense.

>>10683996
Depends on the shoe. The Oxford Lady Pumps for example, are real leather. You should really just look at the product description if possible. Or ask if it's secondhand.

It's been a week since I ordered from baby and they still haven't shipped. Is this normal?

does anyone know which headdress this is? it's by baby but I can't find it on lolibrary but maybe I'm looking right over it every time

>>10684829
Yes, I waited 2 or 3 weeks for my order from Baby SF to ship out before. If there's any issues they'll usually email you within the first week.