/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

DAE experience the massive influx of crybabies when its time to prune inactive members lol

>>10105444
Don't tell them. Just do it and let the people who get kicked out whine away. Most of them don't even notice.

My comm has almost no gothic or classic lolitas and the few that do wear the style are fat enough that they can't fit into the jp brands of those substyles. I don't have anyone to talk to about Moi meme moitie or Mary Magdalene because the others will just shit on them for not being available in bigger size.
The other part of the comm are coslitas. They don't care about fashion outside of lolita and they dress like crap if they're not going to a meet. I'm not looking for uguu daily life style types but it would be nice to have friends who appreciate nice aesthetics outside of meets.

my comm's started planning some picnics for spring but the cons of living in the great frozen north is who knows when it will be warm enough for spring activities. my favorite comm members are college kids though and will be going home for the summer which is sad.

My comm has been pretty quiet lately. We haven't had a popular meet in months. We've only had a handful of smaller meets and a few that got canceled because of little interest.

>>10105927
I know your pain, anon. According to a poll my comm did classic is the second most popular substyle here, almost tied with sweet, yet I can count the number of people who own anything by VM, MM or JetJ (or for that matter, Moitie main pieces) on one hand. There’s some IW but mostly their sweeter prints. Many people in my comm seem to think that Baby and AP’s regular releases in brown, navy or wine are automatically classic. I’ve gotten used to the fact that whenever someone says they’ll be wearing classic to a meet, they’ll show up in an AP print or Baby rufflemonster with either a flower crown or a satellite dish bonnet.

There's an e-famous frilly in my comm and she's hosting a meet next week. I want to go but it's expensive and too short notice.

I am happy she's active and starting to host stuff now, though. Hopefully I can attend one of her meets in the future.

>>10105927
How big must you be to not be able to fit ANY Moitie? Their shirred pieces are so forgiving

>>10106121
If you are a dfw gull we are in the same boat! I hope to make it work, hope you can too!

>>10105444
Unless were in the same comm, yeah. Its silly because the bar to stay is insanely low and you can reapply to be added again, no questions asked.

>>10106225
Yep, same comm! I might go just to have lunch with everyone, but I know I don't have time to swing the other part. Hope you can go, anon!

our comm is pretty quiet since my city isn't super large, so i'm planning on hosting tea parties when i move into my new house in spring to try to breathe some life back into it.
i was so happy when i moved here to find out there was a comm but i'm sad how inactive it is.
not to mention, the fact that its so small and quiet means the mods will virtually accept anyone even if they just have a vague interest or give off sissy vibes.

>>10106237
If it just happened within the last few days, we might be!

Yea I’m really not understanding how so many people are miffed, people are acting like they’re being personally attacked or something? It’s pretty wild

>>10106121
>$20 ticket
>$10 parking
>$20-30 something on food
>expensive

>>10106372
What even is the meet?

>>10106237
>>10106353
i didnt see a lot of crybabies, was a lot of reasonable answers outside of that one chick who was like "go ahead and kick me my experience with the comm was shit"

>>10106384
I assume Tyler's/ LWLN meet in Deep Ellum. It's at a sushi place in a gentrified artsy area so it can get a little more expensive to park and stuff.

>>10105444
>>10106237
>>10106353
Different comm but people in mine reacted the same way. Mods were only wanting to get rid of dead accounts and people who joined years ago and forgot about it, so all they asked was that everyone like a pinned post within a month+ timeframe. They also bumped our introduction thread for people who felt like introducing themselves but made it explicitly clear that this wasn’t mandatory, and nobody would be removed for not introducing themselves.

People in the comments (most of whom I’d never seen before in my 5+ years in this comm) started crying about ‘elitism’, ‘secret clubs’ and ‘muh privacy’ as if the mods had demanded access to their home to personally evaluate their wardrobe or something. But literally all they had to do was like a post...

>>10106636
Funny thing is that those who often cry about secrets clubs and elitism, make private meets for “nice Lolita’s” only as well...

>>10106601
But >>10106372 said $20 ticket plus $20-30 for food. Is she really charging a ticket price to go to a public restaurant?

>>10106638
lol true. A couple of years ago someone in my comm made a new group "for nice lollies ONLY uwu" and invited only her friends and a few clueless newbies. Apparently all they did there was repost topics from the main group and bitch about our mods and most prominent members. It was deleted after like two months. I wonder why?

>>10106653
Maybe she has to pay in advance to reserve?

>>10106653
>>10106668
After sushi, they going to the aquarium, so the admissions fee is $20. She's just giving everyone a heads up of the pricing. After the aquarium, she's heading to a coffee shop. I think she made a multi-tiered meet so people can join in and drop off where they want to.

>>10106601
>>10106653
>>10106668
It's a meet to go eat sushi and then go to an aquarium. $60 total isn't expensive for both.

>>10106676
>sushi and then aquarium
cruel but hilarious

Hey Eurofags and Brekshits how are your comms doing?

Ive recently joined my comm and showed up to two meets. Everyone seems nice but theyre all very established friends. How do i become one of their friends too?

>>10106773
Be nice, host a good meet or two, add them on fb and comment on their instagrams a lot

>>10106697
i'm disappointed the meet wasn't called "See? Food!"

>>10106773
Try to get into one of their chatgroups.

There's this (actually nice,nothing against her) girl in my comm who i discovered (by stalking her a bit too much as i have obsessive tendencies/fixations on random people at times) is into some really kinky shit. Like,degenerate tier kind of shit.
And now I don't know what to do of it. She never brought it up, never posts about it on her main social media either, only this one specific discord server i infiltrated.
It's hard to look the same at her now that i know she's into anthro/furry,futanari (or both at the same time like animal cocks on anthro girls),impreg,mindbreaking,petplay etc... and i wonder if i should out her for being a degenerate?

>>10106825
I mean... no? If she's not an ageplayer and she doesn't connect it with lolita, what does it matter? "Outing" her would make you look pretty bad too.

>>10106825
stop stalking people you walnut as long as she isn't sucking animal dicks for real who cares

>>10106825
If she makes sure to not talk about it publicly and you had to stalk her and and infiltrate a private discord server to get this info, then YOU are the degenerate and she's a decent human being minding her own business.
Tbh you should never enter a public space again. Just don't go near people. Please lock yourself in your bedroom and never come out again you fucking waste of space. Fucking gross

>>10106825
If she keeps it to herself, no, there's no need to out her. The only reason kinks are such a problem in the lolita community is because of people who display their degeneracy for everyone to see and insist on involving the community in it and/or mention it at any given opportunity, which is fucked up and anyone who does it should be shamed for it. This is not the case here so there's no point in outing her, unless you want to be an asshole I guess.

>>10106826
Kek she dislikes DDLG and ageplay and will voice her disgust every time yet she's into being a "pet" for her "master". That's hilarious.

>>10106828
>>10106829
Triggered much? She's disgusting and I feel like people deserve to know she isn't as cute and sweet as they think she is

>>10106834
Well you are disgusting for stalking and fir being on cgl in the first place.
How about you out yourself first then? Aren’t other people allowed to know you are a piece of shit as well?

>>10106825
You're a douche. High-school bully douche.
She isn't being gross in public. She isn't doing anything illegal. She's keeping it where it belongs. Why the fuck are you in that server if you're not looking for similar things?
God fucking forbid someone discuss their interests in a place where that is invited and accepted.
Please, throw your computer away. You are way too immature to be using it.

>>10106825
I'm into some fucked up shit, and it doesn't come up in front of my comm members. Just leave it be. Most people keep those sort of things to themselves, and you'd be surprised how many other people are into weird shit too. You might end up alienating yourself from people you thought you knew who may have similar inclinations.

>>10106742
for where I used to live (I moved to a neighbouring country mid-last year) - alright, but we have almost no active members (something like 4 people showing up to meets if we're lucky). everyone is nice and we get along, but it gets kinda boring with the same few people over and over again.

where I am now, I haven't bothered to join yet because I feel weird being (likely) the only foreigner, but from what I've heard it's pretty alright. I'll probably join whenever I start wearing the fashion again regularly and speak the language slightly better

>>10106834
you literally creeped on someone to dig up dirt on them and now you're expecting us to pat you on the back and call you a good person
good job you're a literal fucking walnut

>>10106587
That girl was BS-ing. She got lost trying to get to a meet and everyone was trying to help her but she just bailed anyway

>>10106825
Maybe you should stop having
>random fixations
On people in your comm. Or just accept that she dresses better than you and quit trying to ruin her life, you weirdo.

>>10106834
Do you not understand how creepy you are? I'd rather not have someone like you in my comm.

>>10106782
Looks like Tyler missed another joke.

>>10106671
>>10106676
In that case it’s no big deal an not what I would call expensive. If you can’t afford it skip either food or the aquarium. You don’t have to do both. God I hate people like that. If you don’t have money don’t go and don’t bitch about it, Jesus.

Are all the LA/OC comms dead? I am trying to join, and noticed most of their Facebook groups had had less than 2 posts in the last month. My friends live in other states and their comms are very active on Facebook, I'm extremely jealous. I just want to join a comm and find more girls into EGL that aren't trying to borrow my clothing.

>>10107030
They aren't really bitching. >>10106255
already said they'll only go to the lunch. You seem more pissy than them, anon.

>>10107035
LA's dead besides their giant ILD meets. OC is more active on their discord server.

>>10107145
How are they dead? They had a Valentine’s meet like two weeks ago.

>>10107035
LA has one of the most active communities in the west coast. It’s just a matter of trying to get to know members through the LA Facebook page or Instagram.

>>10106825
>shit that didn't happen

>>10107148
>>10107150
I've been trying to find some way to get information on meetups and knew that they used to use Facebook a lot more. I knew people had to have migrated to something else. It's hard to try joining a comm where you can't even attempt to get invited to meetups. You're right though, I should just message an admin. Got nervous and don't like the idea of putting people on the spot.

I love the Finnish comm!

My comm is dead but it's for the best. They're itas with unfortunate faces.

>>10106834
everyone here: you're being a fucking creep and its kind of weird that you care so much about what someone is doing in their private life.

you: not guys please its JUSTIFIED. my creepy, stalkerish behavior is totally fine and you guys are just TrIgGeRrrEd.

Is the Atlanta community dead? I applied to join months ago and it's still "pending". I messaged two different mods and neither have seen my message. I thought the Atlanta community seemed at least a little active since there's brands at AWA every now and then?

What do you do when there is a sissy in your comm? I want to host a meet but the last event someone had held a sissy attended. I also noticed they are friends with comm mods so how can I prevent this from happening at my meet?

>>10107563
Maybe you could block him so he can't see the event?

>>10107563
Why would your mods encourage a sissy to attend meets and be a part of the community at all, is a far more pressing question imo. Either that person isn't really a sissy or there's something else you're not telling us because this doesn't make sense to me.

>>10107567
This happened in my comm before I bounced. The mods protected and praised an obvious sissy who had AP OPs altered to fit him, and while I commend him on going for brand, I also know exactly what he does in it. Disgusting. One of the mods had befriended this sissy before he knew of lolita, and then urged him to join the comm when he started wearing it. They think he's safe.
I've seen this disgusting fetishist in action, wanting to wear other girls' dresses and asking about foundation garments. He even goes as far as wearing bras for fun. When I see him in public, he always has ratty hair and his dresses are in horrid condition. When they put him in the fashion show, I had to leave.
Block him so he can't see your event.

>>10107572
Oof, you did the right thing when you left your comm, that's horrid. I hope anon's situation is different but something tells me it probably, unfortunately, isn't.

>>10107567
He's not a sissy, just a middle aged brolita. Anon is being a paranoid sexist bitch and starting drama for no reason.

To the anon with the vendetta, host the meet privately with girls on your friend list if you don't want a man at your meet. Stop trying to get him banned just because you don't like him.

>>10107584
But I don't know him? I'm honestly just trying to not have a pervert ruin a meet of mine. Also has anyone actually met someone who was a middle aged brolita that didnt fall into the sissy category?
Maybe I'm ignorant but I just dont want an older guy in a horrible coord ruining the look and feel of a meet.

>>10107607
I agree with you.
What could a middle aged man, or even a strange young man, contribute to a meet anyways??

>>10107607
You know him enough to post him in the ita thread, stalk him online to figure out that the mods are friends with him, and try to start shit on here. There are girls in the comm who dress a lot worse than him, just admit that you don't want an old man attending. Again, make the meet on your personal page so it's private if you don't want him going. He's not active in the comm enough to cause issues, he literally went to one meet last year.

>>10107612
Are you a paranoid sissy? We may not be talking about the same guy considering I never posted any sissy to the ita thread so calm down.
I only know he's a sissy via the pics on the comms meet and his own fb, and I looked at his friends list to find this out. That's not stalking.

>>10107617
So there's two people posting on here about him then? Seems oddly convenient that he was posted to the ita thread with the caption 'how do you keep a sissy from attending a meet' the day before the meet happens and then >>10107563 is posted the day after. You can stop trying to play dumb now.

>>10107621
I looked in the ita thread and this is in fact the same person I am talking about. I'm not the person who posted them originally though. Sorry to double up or try to bully on someone I just find it a little weird he is friends with at least one of the mods of the comm. Again, what could this guy add to the comm besides everyone feeling uncomfortable.

>>10107621
Nayrt, not even in your comm, but that guy looks horrifying and the fact you enable him is what's wrong with lolita communities these days.

>>10107611
This. Men should stay out of lolita. They make me uncomfortable. Men in drag just creep me out in general even those who manage to look good.
I want to see cute girls around me,no men, I already gotta deal with those idiots on the daily at work.

>>10107612
I was the one who posted about him in the ita thread and I don't know what anyone right now is talking about. my comm is a fairly small com in medford oregon...

>>10107697
Then why did you post it with the caption >any idea how to keep sissies out of meets?
He doesn't live anywhere near you, so you don't have to worry about him showing up. If you want to bitch about sissies then at least post one who lives in the same state as you.

>>10107711
I'm in the same comm he's in and will probably not attend any meets in fear he will be there. I feel really unsafe now. I think the mods should do better.

>>10107711
Because we keep having sissies wanting to come to our meets... wtf, why else?

>>10107711
I think we're talking about two different sissies here.

>>10107728
Calm down, anon. He's not Vic Mignogna.

what do you do if you suspect you have a ddlg in your comm? follow up, do people use "stuffies" to refer to stuffed animals if they are not into ageplay? i've only heard the word in that context so hearing a comm member say it caught me super off guard.

>>10107783
I think they call them stuffies in Europe too?

>>10107783

Gross. Age players sure have a way of making most innocent childhood things into some sick perversion. What fucking kid calls their stuffed animals “stuffed.” I hate them.

>>10107783
Sometimes I call them stuffies or plushies but now this makes me never want to call them that again

>>10107783
I called them stuffies when I was twelve. I definitely grew out of it. Some people just didn't get the memo though.

>>10107786
>>10107787
>>10107793
>>10107796
my comm is far from europe but this gives me hope that maybe she just uses the word since she seems otherwise normal

>>10107783
I know that furries will call them stuffies sometimes. Definitely a red flag either way.

>>10107801
It's not a red flag, it's just a weird thing. If this idiot was bringing their 'stuffies' to meetups or doing other dumb stuff, then I'd be inclined to worry. But... even if they are a little, unless they're hopping up on the table to be changed by daddy, who cares? Just don't befriend them lol

>>10107783
So DDLG and/or age play imo is gross. BUT, if they’re isolating their behavior and not bringing it out, there’s not much you can do but avoid him or her. If they try to talk about it at meets or in the comm, get the mods on it. Otherwise, it’s their personal (albeit perverted) life.

>>10107783
I have only heard of them being called stuffies.
>but canadafag so yvwv

>>10107572
If you're talking about the person I'm thinking of, they're a transwoman in transition. They're clueless on hair and makeup. Not a sissy or a creep, just very socially awkward.

>>10107821
So they're an autogynephile then. They care more about being a twirly prissy princess than about taking care of their clothes so I'm skeptical about letting them stay in the comm. They are one step away from seriously overstepping some boundaries already. I'm creeped out and hate being associated with them.

>>10107205
LMK how it goes anon, I'm in LA too and haven't been able to join the comm.

Old comm members, who were poisonous/elitist themselves, are now playing the victim role and are spreading a negative image of our local comm. This would have been really funny, if it wasn’t for the fact that everyone, who has not been around long enough, actually believes those girls. Will there ever be a moment that our local comm is not known for being poisonous/elitist?

>>10107825
I'm glad I'm not the only one. I've tried adding the facebook groups. I know they must have some sort of discord server or something now, because as others said, they aren't inactive. I don't want to DM a bunch of people I don't know begging to be invited. I'm not stupid, they probably doubled down to protect their members over something weird, but it still feels really sad to have my requests just sitting. I want to be an active member and show up to meetups.

>>10107692
>no men around me!
nayrt, but that really sounds more like a you problem. Have you spoken to a therapist?

>>10107870
The nerve of K to badmouth our comm for being "unwelcome" to her when she never made any effort to speak to any girl outside of her clique despite being a moderator. I met her once and she pretended I didn't exist.

>>10107906
There's nothing wrong with not wanting men in the fashion that's for women.

>>10107870
Maybe stop bringing it up yourself?
And maybe stop being poisonous and elitist. But I don't know, maybe not. The comm is not that special anyways. Stop bawling. Lol

>>10107958
Aren't you kinda doing the same here?

>>10107825
You can join. There is no exclusive waiting list.

>>10108079
This bitch and her friends posted the entire comm to an ita thread. They even posted the girl with special needs. That's how fucking petty she is. No, calling her out for her bullshit is not the same thing.

>>10108127
How do you know it was them?

>>10107870
What comm is this?

>>10108135
I don't think they were even keeping it a secret. They were actively discussing it on Facebook as it was happening. The last time there was a vendetta post against the comm it was them as well and they went as far as posting what they said on Facebook to show each other. The odds of someone posting their own friends and themselves to /cgl/ to blame them is slim as most of them comm doesn't even know who they are. The only reason they cause drama is because they try their hardest to stay relevant by doing shit like this.

>>10108143
This sounds too far fetched for me. Why would they do that if they're old members. Just to be relevant? It makes no sense.

>>10108127
>>10108143
Plus those pictures were specifically the ones that people posted in the introduction thread which was created when the whole ghost members drama was going down.
>thunking_emoji.gif

>>10108147
I think it was just plain old salt. The comm was changing and had been for a while, people wanted the mods and the comm as a whole to be more social and approachable to which they were very resistant, and most of their original clique wasn’t into lolita anymore. I think they were just lashing out. It’s no more far fetched than saying people posted themselves and their friends to the ita thread to make the other side look bad.

>>10108147
Two of them were moderators till last year. One did minor moderating but the other did literally nothing. They got very upset when someone suggested cleaning up the comm page by removing ghost members because they weren't consulted. The issue of ghost members was a common thing discussed at meet ups but they never went. They were incredibly inactive so they were unaware of most comm issues. They threw a fit about it and asked all of their friends to join in on the conversation to defend them. These friends had to have been inactive for at least 7 years. After this they quit and most people didn't care because most of us had never met them anyway. It was clearly a status thing for them. They made the ita thread a few days after quitting.

>>10108147
I don't have anything to do with this but people are totally capable of being monsters for no fucking reason what so ever.

Sometimes, people just want to be assholes.

>>10106773
Be nice and ask about them! I’m always trying to be more friends with people in my comm and some of them talk to me about things outside of Lolita.

>>10106825
What the fuck is wrong with you? It's fine for people (yes even uwu lovely Lolita's) to have some nasty fetishes as long as they're mature enough to keep it separate from their public life. Why on Earth would you consider it your duty to "out" her when she's handling her kinks privately and appropriately and your the one infiltrating private servers to gain info on her? Maybe don't be such a fucking stalker if you're not emotionally mature enough to handle the things you find out, you creep.

>>10108173
If you believe that they made that thread then you really are stupid. Nobody in their right mind would do something like that after such an exit. It was bait and you all chomped right onto it.

>>10108173
But there are even fewer meets than before and also that superelitist swap meet totally backfired because of the prices everyone had to spend :'). Ppl are really bawling about the prev mods while the current community is horrible. Also the theory about the old mods doing the ita posts don't add up as the comm is worse after they left. Sounds like a set up for a final slammer to make them leave. Well played though. You probably have quite a few fans who believe you.

>>10108318
I knew M would be gloating about the swap meet as soon as I saw the announcement.

>>10108320
Dropping initials and being suggestive to het ppl right were you want them. No wonder your comm is so toxic.

>>10108177
Yeh I heard that people got excluded and bullied. Hoping they'll leave on their own initiative. I wonder why lolis want to be part of a community like that.

>>10106825
>>10106834
I hate people who mix their kinks but if she's not mixing it and keeping it private, it's her business.

>>10108341
>>10108331
>>10108320
>>10108318
You're same-posting is pathetic. Why are you so obsessed with us still? It's been months. Get over it.

>>10108395
I like how you are desperatley trying to distract everyone from what is really going on.

>>10108399
Like I am supposed to believe those five posts are from different people especially if they have been posted that close to each other? There isn't anyone in our comm that even likes you enough to defend you. You were shit mod and a shit person.

>>10108404
:'). I support this.

>>10108404
Is that the tactic you used posting the entire Dutch comm in the ita topic?

While everyone else is arguing about who posted who, I'm going to inject some positivity into this thread. I love my comm. I full well believe it's one of the most active comms in the country (maybe the world). We have shit going on every weekend and we help better each other (most of the time). I'm so happy that I'm here and not somewhere where the salt rules.

>>10107783
>do people use "stuffies" to refer to stuffed animals if they are not into ageplay?
Yes. It's a normie term. I'm in a facebook giveaway/free group for parents and literally every soccermom under the sun calls them stuffies.

>>10108649
Cherish and protect that comm anon

>>10107035
I stopped going to OC meets because that annoying girl from SF moved here and she has to argue with everyone she makes eye contact with

>>10106773

If you want lolitas to like you, just look at them and smile a lot and laugh at everything they say, even if it's not funny.

People still dress like this? Whew.

>>10106834
anon, i'm sure almost everyone else who you find "cute and sweet" is also secretly into some weird shit you don't like. as long as she's keeping it private and not hurting anyone, it's none of your fucking business.

>>10108667

Maybe it's a generational thing. I'm a millennial and always called plush toys "stuffed animals". Didn't even learn the term "plushies" until I was, like, in high school. Then as adult, I heard my retirement-age uncle call my baby cousin's toy a "stuffy". I thought it sounded so weird. I like "plushie" better.

>>10108399
nayrt, but i have no idea what is going on. can someone give me cliff notes?

>>10108318
Tbh the reason they wanted a swap meet like that, is because several people were upset with what they got at the previous swap meet and wanted one without claires stuff for once. But in the end the comm is cheap and doesn’t want to spend over €25 on a meeting, so it was a failure.

>>10107486
It's not dead but quiet, who did you message? (Gimme initials) I'll poke them for you.

There's also yoyogi fashion club in Atlanta and a lot of the meets get crossposted.

I'm hosting a meet 10th of March in ATL, its in both groups too :)

>>10108876
The vegan girl?

>>10109061
Dutch com is filled with petty girls who are arguing about who is more toxic on 4chan

>>10109299
"Girls"

>>10109299
I don't get why people are dredging up this old mod drama anyway. It's boring and in the past. Our comm is fine now, there's a decent amount of meets, although I wish the meets not organised by the most well-established comm members would have a higher attendance.

>>10109299
ty, anon

>>10109391
You mean elitists?

>>10109426
No, that's not what I meant at all.

>>10107035
Like the other anon said, OC is mainly on Discord now because FB is a creepy and gross platform that a bunch of us don’t want to use. Just message a mod for an invite to the server, no one will mind.

>>10109149
Oh I'm glad to hear it's not dead! I had messaged MS and CB. Thank you anon!

>>10109958
I gave CB a poke, she said to send her another message, as it looks like Facebook has eaten your first message

>>10109991
I resent my message! It's probably in her "other messages" folder since we're not friends on Facebook. I also changed my profile picture to me in Lolita to make it easier to see why I'm sending her a message!

>>10107611
fuck off stacey my wardrobe is twice the size of yours and i am much more knowledgeable about fashion than your ita ass

>>10110151
You're still ugly Funk.

>>10110151
You hate women yet want to mingle with them. Troons never fail to amuse me.

I have an issue. Two mods in my com have been shit talking about people in the com. I don't know how to go about this because many people do not know how extremely two faced they are and while I do have proof, I don't feel my community will be there to back me up on my "accusations" and it can backfire on me because I've known about this for so long.

>>10110304
I feel like I know what comm you mean... Usually there's only one toxic person in a group but my comm has two and they aren't subtle about it

I am a new Lolita, but I love my com, and cannot wait to learn more. :)

>>10109517
Thank you! I will.

>>10109155
That’s a different person living in LA now but she’s a cunt too

>>10110163
Other men won’t pat his ass and tell him he’s pretty.

What's everyone's opinion on themed meets? Do you prefer them so you have vague outfit plans/ everone is somewhat cohesive or would you rather just wear whatever the fuck you want?

>>10110304
Just out them. Air that shit.

>>10107607
>>10107611

There is a really sweet middle aged brolita in my comm. Never gives any creepy vibes. Has a background in historical fashion and fell in love with egl late in life. Follows new releases, talks about sewing, engages in conversation, talks about tea, and more. They DO exist anon.

>>10110604
Sometimes they work because everyone who has something that fits the theme will want to join. But some people come up with the worst themes. For example a royal theme meet works for every style but a cake themed meet excludes everyone with a gothic wardrobe.

>>10109429
You're either stupid, biased or just another bitch.

>>10110732
So you can say 100% he's not a sissy?

posted on confessions but it's relevant here too and i'm interest in others' experience with this.

i side eye a lot of my comm's ticketed meets. we used to only do ticketed meets for like teahouses to make reservations, or if we needed to reserve a venue, or if the host was bringing a lot of things on their own dime (food, clothing racks, etc). i also understand the need for ticketed meets if a comm is very large, or wants to provide a barrier for entry for sissies, underage folks, etc.

but lately it seems like we've seen a spike in ticketed meets and our comm doesn't have the latter issues, and many of the "ticketed meets" are "teehee let's meet at the park for photos and then wander around downtown to find a restaurant or a museum, tickets are $15" like wtf are people even paying for

>>10110604
I have a love hate relationship with them. Usually I hate when someone else hosts them because I never have anything to wear for their themes. Yet I crave themed meets that match things in my wardrobe. I also hate when people go to themed meets without wearing a themed coord and don't butt out of photos. I know lolita isn't just for photos but if you're there for a cohesive theme you kind of want cute themed pics.

>>10110758
Definitely agree. Sometimes my comm's ILD is even too themed and definitely leans much more classic and gothic while I'm very sweet. Ofc I can still go but I'd prefer to be able to participate in the theme without buying a whole coord that doesn't go with my closet.

>>10111090
Ask because it might be arbitrary to discourage people who rsvp and bail because it’s annoying regardless of comm size OR the people hosting the meet just want their friends to show and said friends know full well the charge is bogus.

>>10110604
I much prefer themed meets. It gives me motivation to think out of the box when I make a coord for a meet. The theme is always optional so idk why anyone would feel bothered by it.

Even there are some themes that I can't do with my wardrobe, like anything pirate or sailor related, I would still go because it'll probably be the only time I ever get to see someone wear pirate lolita irl.

>>10111462
This is happening in more communities. Not only to have only your friends at the meeting, also to outcast unpopulair and unwanted Lolita's, even though they do nothing wrong. It's an elitist club. I've seen it happen in the Dutch comm and the current mods do nothing about it. It's As if they encourage it.

>>10111603
>I've seen it happen in the Dutch comm and the current mods do nothing about it. It's As if they encourage it.
I thought the last time that happened was in 2017 and even then it was because they just posted it to the Zeeland/Zuid-Holland comm page, it wasn't actually secret.

>>10110337
My comm is already under a lot of drama. On top of that, I've been attending different meetups in other comms only to find out we're essentially a joke. We're not very welcoming either.

>>10111608
Well if you are not aware of this you're probably naive or you are just looking the other way. It's happening right under your nose. Maybe not as explicit as the 2017 event. But it's happening.

>>10111603
>Bringing up the Dutch comm despite it having nor relevance to the subject.

It's been several days. Get over yourself. We don't even have ticketed meets unless it is for capacity reasons. Ticketed meets would not cast out unpopular lolitas as they could just buy a ticket.

>>10111626
The comm needs to be outed. You're gastlighting everyone.

>>10107607
Who the hell are you. I know you're in my comm and I'm guessing you went to my meet that he showed up at. Seriously cut that shit out.

>>10111618
If I remember it correctly it was a meet on a weekday somewhere in Zeeland. Beside lolitas from Zeeland few would have wanted to go because even other cities in Zeeland are to far apart.

Also I can't think of any ticketed meet that wasn't ticketed in order to secure a venue. Like swap meets or Behind the Mask. And literally anyone can go to those meets.

>>10111648
That's not true, sorry.

>>10108743
Same with my comm too <3 Such a cool group.

>>10111626
>Ticketed meets would not cast out unpopular lolitas as they could just buy a ticket.
lol this. That one super awkward girl shows up to tons of ticketed meets so you’d think that if the hosts’ intention was to keep her out they would’ve figured out years ago that it’s obviously not working. People who only want to hang out with their friends just make friends-only events among themselves, no need to announce it on the comm page or go so far as to charge for tickets.

>>10111663
Well it worked at one point. But it totally backfired. Because almost no one RSVP'd. :').

And of course. As long as the unpopulair Lolitas van buy themselves into meetings you can still ignore them, hoping they'll never show up again after that.

>>10111644
Ntayrt but oh my fucking god. There's an older guy in my comm who comes off like a sissy and is friends with the mods, but I'm not assuming some girl from my comm is posting about it here.
Quit playing detective on an anonymous image board. You're going to end up falsely accusing someone.

>>10111145
>Sometimes my comm's ILD is even too themed and definitely leans much more classic and gothic while I'm very sweet. Ofc I can still go but I'd prefer to be able to participate in the theme without buying a whole coord that doesn't go with my closet.
Fucking same. I did buy a coord for one and I actually do like the dress but I rarely wear it as much as anything else I own. Its not out of my style but is out of my color range for the most part. And my comm just loves themed meets. They do it way more than just ILD. And I always get the stupid "you can still come" comments even though I was once vaguely called it out for not being on theme. I didn't go to meets for awhile after that.

>>10111603
I don’t even create meets for my comm anymore because it attracts the annoying/bitchy/flakey people and creepers that mods do nothing about (fun fact: one of the mods is that bitchy person.) I’ll make reservations and invite some close friends that don’t cause drama and that won’t flake. Otherwise it’s a gamble with making meets for comms. Sorry that you’re not in a circle that invites you to private meets

>>10111775
What was the comment?

>>10111618
Well if it's a secret meet how the hell are we supposed to know about then. Post pics or it didn't happen.

>>10111618
>>10111633
You're not outing anything, just vague-posting. Probably too afraid to out yourself.

>>10111090
Lol one of the mods in my comm tried to host something like that for winter ild and no one signed up. Why are you paying if you don't think the money is going to the actual event? Just host your own non ticketed meet or have private meets with your friends

>>10110604
Dislike them because themes are too hyper specific and substyle specific most of the time

>>10105444
Edmonton?

>>10111610
LA by any chance?

>>10111926
LA comm is def problematic, but not every cgl comm drama is about us

>>10111791
I don't remember word for word, but she mentioned that she wouldn't want to be off theme. She was closer than I was and I was aware that I stuck out like sore thumb- so why else make a comment like that? She was just being snarky. I've talked to her since then and she's pretty cool.

>>10111610
Chicago?

>>10111937
Why do American comms have so much more petty drama than Euro comms?

>>10111970
ah yes. I have no idea which comm this is but this pic is adorable and sparks so much joy

>>10111970
>mfw the one goth buried in the crowd of sweet
Yes good, a few more girls and she'll be completely invisible. Goths always ruin group pics.

>>10111980

>>10111970
> sees constant shit talking about the dutch coms, traumeri (don't judge my spelling) etc etc

are you sure you want to be chucking that around

>>10111985
>Dutch comms
That's one dramatic comm vs loads of dramatic American ones

>Traumerei
That's not a comm and the drama was mostly about it being a badly run event with organizers who lied about German law and a lot of ridiculous gatekeeping and favoritism with ticket sales. It was a bit petty but there were legitimate concerns

i might be moving soon. i have 3 options

1. Join Comm that closest to me
2. Join Comm that is a bit further ~50 miles further, but better
3. Be lonelita

>>10111980
that's just like your opinion, cunt.

>>10111688
I seriously don’t understand your logic.
>ticketed meets are used as a ploy to exclude unpopular members!
>but unpopular members can and do buy tickets, and have been doing so for years
>nbd the elitists can just ignore them :’)
...Then what’s the point of the tickets again?

I don’t know how your comm handles ticket reservations but if it’s done in a non-publicly visible way e.g. through email like in my comm, sneaky elitist hosts could easily pretend that the unwanted member’s reservation came too late or didn’t come through or whatever. That’s how you can abuse the ticket system to exclude people. If they’re not doing something as simple as that, then I really don’t get where you’re coming from with these accusations.

>>10111794
No I'm not outing anything. Just saying that it needs to be outed. You can't fucking read?

>>10111790
I appreciate your honesty.

>>10111934
I think you took that comment too personally. Nobody cares if you don't wear a themed coord, as long as you don't place yourself in the middle of their pictures

>>10111985
>traumeri
Most of the drama is because of non-euro organisers

>>10111985
One vendetta-chan does not make us a dramatic comm. It's clearly the same person throughout the thread.

>>10112075
We can't out anything about the Dutch comm though. Because nothing happened related to meets since 2017 and even that was only a small issue.

>>10112130
I don't get why that small meet in Zeeland in 2017 on a weekday is a problem again. There is a yearly meet-up in Zeeland nowadays. And why is there drama about private meets again? There always were private meets, that's something going on for years. Not everyone wants to invite the whole community for a birthday meet or some small get to together. Especially when organizing something can be a lot of work, I've heard. There are difficulties with food issues like allergies or vegan options or restaurants/museums/other facilities are not able to receive big groups. Then again, there is a small group in this community who loves to complain about things and not doing anything about it.

Secondly there is always drama when old comm members meet up. For example the drama with the shiny shoes last week.

>>10112139
Because one anon is being shady about secret meets and that's the only one I can think of

>>10111970
Ha ha that's funny. Nice try.

>>10111626
>Ticketed meets would not cast out unpopular lolitas as they could just buy a ticket.

nayrt but providing a barrier for entry does generally exclude some groups of undesirable folks, mostly underage folks who don't have any money and people who RSVP "yes" to everything and don't show. probably also rules out the itas who just stand around complaining about elitists and about how they can't afford brand

>>10112139
Was there anything more to the shiny shoe thing than what was posted on RC? It sounded like something minor that was being blown out of proportion but I wasn’t there, so maybe I missed something.
Honestly I think most ~drama~ that makes it to cgl is due to misunderstandings or social awkwardness that gets blown out of proportion and then propagated by people who weren’t there and don’t know what happened but are thirsty for drama, either out of boredom or personal vendetta. It’s pretty easy to make mountains out of molehills on anonymous platforms like cgl and btb.

What is up with people inviting their non lolita friends to lolita meetups?
I dont get it. Why force lolitas to hang out with someone not even interested in the one basic thing we all have in common?

>>10112202
They're usually newbs who are like "I dunt wanna be alone!!1!!!11" so they drag their friends with them but the problem is that they spend the whole time talking to the normie friend and never actually make Lolita friends, so they have to bring their friend to the next meeting
It's a cringey cycle

It's really hard for me to get to my local comm's meets, especially in the winter weather. They're about an hour away by car, an hour and a half by local transit. I've considered trying to start a smaller comm in my smaller town, as I think there are a few people who might be interested, but I don't want to step on anyone's toes. My biggest worry is that someone from the bigger comm will take issue with it...

>>10112154
>shiny shoe thing than what was posted on RC
Caps? I can't find it

>>10112330
I'm sure just explaining why might help so they know your intentions. Also, if you're up to it, you could always just plan meets in your area?

>>10110604
I don’t think ILD meets should be themed and I think it is ok to ask some ‘theme coords only’ photos at themed meets in addition to the whole group photos. In a smaller comm, I think you need at least 3-4 people committed to the theme to make a themed meet work and to be prepared for quite a few people to pass on the meet if they don’t like the theme.

>>10112010
Join both and then just also be lone when you feel like it?

Join the local one, become meetup hostess, plan meets for weekends when the further comm has no meets, enjoy best of both?

>>10110604
Themed meets can work if a large percent of the comm have coords that work with it. It’s easy if you put a broad theme in instead of a really specific one, eg using colours instead of just sweet/dessert prints (to cater for classic/gothic). People can still be creative and have nice coords and photos and won’t look like a jumbled mess when it’s a whole comm photo. Venue should also suit the theme/occasion.

There was a comm meet that was a ticketed event and yet again a splinter group decides to hold their own event at the same place on the same day. Guess we aren’t perfect enough ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

>>10112093
>I think you took that comment too personally.
I didn't state word for word what she said, so how can you possibly know that? She looked right at me when she mentioned not being on theme. She was directing her comment at me.

>>10112330
If you are an hour away in another town, there’s nothing wrong with starting a comm for your town, as long as you can plan and attend all the meets yourself at first, without exception, That’s what it takes for a good year or more, usually. I’d avoid planning meets on the same weekends as the existing comm for a while as well. But other than that, no reason not to, really. More and more people are attending the closest meets then traveling some to nearby comms as well so if you had a closer group maybe a few of you could carpool or travel together to the larger meets in good weather as well.

>>10112202
Requiring everyone to dress in lolita for lolita fashion meets solves that unless your mods can’t enforce the dress code?
‘Can I invite my friend?’
‘If they wear lolita, ouji, aristo, yes’

>>10112022
Wtf is that caption?

>>10112974
it's one of those dumb tag yourself memes, how is that hard to conclude?

>>10112974
>>10112983
I thought it was a reference to that /fa/ meetup meme?

>>10112022
omg I needed this thnx

>>10112983
I've never seen them with long ass captions and numbers.

>>10112999
Oh of course /fa/ would come up with something this autistic. Thanks for the clarification.

>>10112974
>>10112983
nah, one of the anons here on /cgl made it a while back, i liked it and kept it.

Are there any gulls in Louisville, KY? I can't find a lolita comm even for the entire state. Seems like there'd be at least one. I guess a Louisville comm would be rife with edgy itas with bad tattoos but still, so many great photo opportunities downtown. Feels bad.

>>10113412
There's a comm in Cincinnati if you can't find anything in KY

>>10108876
>
I don't even live in your country and have heard about this girl because friends from that comm are so annoyed by her.

>>10113412
I’m a little less than 2 hours away from you in IN. I’d come down for a meet if it was big enough! I drive like an hour and a half for IN meets anyway.

>>10113412
Try Kentucky EGL or something like that. Comms had to change their name a while back because Facebook is stupid

I’ve been searching for weeks but have come up empty handed- are there ANY comms in italy? Like at all??
I’m basically coming to terms with becoming a lonelita but I know theres at least SOME here... I just can’t find any pages on it

How are the comms in Germany? Full of itas?

>>10112022
>7. Dan. Just Dan.

>>10112999
I hope these retards don’t breed.

>>10106223
I mean there are ham galaxies attempting this fashion while weighing well over 300 lbs....

>>10106825
Lolitas often have the nastiest fetishes so I’m not sure why you’re so shocked

>>10113687
I would just ask Italian lolitas on instagram

>>10106825
You are way weirder than her. Wtf. You are a literal stalker.

I've been really frustrated by underaged comm members showing up to meets. I'm a high school teacher and it really wigs me out when teenagers show up to meets. They never have any money and I look like a rude asshole when I want to order a drink when we eat anywhere. I may sound like an old fart when I say this, but when I was in high school I was way too busy to attend meets (only hanging out with my friends and an occaisional local con) and I was totally weirded out by the prospect of hanging out with random strange adults

>>10114112
Maybe host some 18+ or 21+ meets? You can find a bar, absinthe room, adult event or just make up a reason for the age restriction, because who really cares. The teenagers might get defensive about it, but I'm sure there's plenty of other members that feel the same and will back you up.

>>10114112
The teenagers in my comm are so dumb and I can't even be angry about it because it's not their fault their brains are underdeveloped

>>10112385
Problem is I haven't been to a meet in a long time because of the travel difficulty. I feel like I need to go to a meet and talk about it with them face to face instead of just being a lurker who hasn't been active in the comm in forever.

>>10106834
Bud, pet play is way less degen, lemme tell you that that rabbit hole isn't as deep as you seem to think it is.

>>10114489
AHAHAHAHAHA rabbit hole
Anon, thanks for that

>>10113687
Anon, unfortunately no. We only hold international events now and then, but locally its very lonely

>>10112330
>>10114447
>travel difficulty
>1-1.5 hours
That's... not that long? It takes me at least an hour to get to any meetup for my local comm and know many people who travel upwards of 2 hours each time. And that's with pretty good public transit. It never really occurred to me to start a new comm in my town but then again, I'm pretty sure I'm the only lolita here.

Of course that doesn't mean that you can't start a smaller comm in your own town, if there are enough lolitas living there. I'd start by just organizing a few local meetups first, though. Like >>10112868 said you'll have to lead by example if you want to kickstart a new community and I think it would be good to first gauge interest with other locals.

>>10113687
>>10114636
You should start a comm. I'm 100% sure there used to be one.

It looks like the San Diego Community hasn't used their public FB page in a while, would it be best to message the mods and ask for a link to the private group, or have they stopped using FB to plan meets? Thanks!

>>10106825
Those kinks are pretty tame anyway imo.

>>10113412

>>10113545

If you haven't already, join the Midwestern EGL Community.

>>10115227
They have an active private fb group, definitely message the mods.

Oh I want to scream at the mods of my comm for letting that sissy David to join our comm.(the one that is joining all the comms he can) I hope he never comes to a meet and quickly booted. The worst part it the mods are on here and already know about him. Like come on, there is a reason why he’s banned from a bunch. Morons.

>>10115800
Did he do anything to be banned or it was just found out he was a sissy in his own time?

>>10115800
Maybe they don't know who he is and that he's been banned from a bunch of comms. I'd suggest you message your mods about your concerns, if they're worth their salt they'll prioritize the comm's safety over being "inclusive".

Are there additional Ohio groups aside from Ohio EGL? I am looking specifically for the Columbus area.

>>10115885
Cincinnati has a page somewhere.

>>10115829
Being a sissy in his own time is reason enough to ban him. That's disgusting enough and probably mixes it with Lolita.

Sometimes a new lolita will suggests a meet idea and people will reply all enthusiastically even though they have zero intention of going. I hate this so fucking much. It's always the same people including that one girl who doesn't even have any lolita. Why can't these bitches not get a new girl's hopes up?! Quit pretending you are going to maybe someday come to a meet up. The older members already know they are full of crap and ignore them but a new girl doesn't. Now this girl has created an event page that they put effort into only to have four maybes. The reason other people aren't interested is usually because of the location or because it's and idea that sounds good to a beginner but is bad in practice like alpaca farms, ice skating, or tourist spots. I don't blame the new girls for suggesting these ideas. I am just completely done with flakes ruining their first experiences with organizing.

>>10107824
if only you were judged on presentation when you were a preteen&teen the same way you are judging this person who is in transition and learning how to style their body...
like honestly. these things are learned, they aren't inherent or natural.
Saying that any unpolished person is an automatic sissy is extremely unfair. treat them the same way you treat other itas who you allow in your comm. If you are too chickenshit to give vocal crit to itas in your comm then I don't think you have a right to bar anyone based on their coording or presentation if they are at least attempting the style.

>>10110156
why would funky post as anon?
like, did you find CGL yesterday?

>>10115967
>if only you were judged on presentation when you were a preteen&teen the same way you are judging this person
Because no girl/young women ever gets shit for the way she looks...lol

>>10115971
This, it’s part of the initiation into womanhood. They should feel validated!

>>10115967
I hope this is sarcasm because otherwise you sound like a dolt. Every young woman is picked on and ridiculed when their body is changing.
It isn't the unpolished-ness that makes them a sissy, it's their behaviour and habits.
Childish bedroom, badly cared for wardrobe, tendency to make a fool of themselves in public... I recall them telling people they were as young as a child as well.
They're not a good fit for a lolita comm. I hate being associated with them. I refuse to go to meets where they will be present.

>>10111980
>le black=gothic uninformed opinion
dude, she's literally wearing tea parties. it's quite possible either kuro or sweet.

>>10112999

>>10113412
I'd legit move to Kentucky if I could own that house on the right.

>>10112999
>2
Hey it's whatshisface from Stranger Things

There's a meet planned in my comm coming up and it's a capped event. The event location can only have so many people show up and there's a girl who says she's going to like every event and then rarely ever shows up. I've seen her like 3 times out of all the meets I've gone to over the past 4 years.
I wouldn't be upset if it wasn't for the event location not letting us in if the required amount of people don't show up. I've already gone to one meet where I had to pay for her share of the meet because she didn't show. She's really nice and cute too. I wish she wasn't so damn flaky.

I wish the comm in my area didn't seem to be filled with spergy people, I just want at least one lolita friend but michigan seems to be full of conlitas or hamplanets that can't dress themselves feels bad man

>>10116123
Just make people pay in advance for their spot. Simple as that, there is no reason for you to pay for her sorry ass. This used to happen a lot in my community before we implemented payment upfront.

>>10112022
Does anyone have the original picture? I know I've seen it before but I forgot to save it.

>>10116135
>Just make people pay in advance for their spot.
I didn't plan the meet so I can't do that.

The only meets my comm has where people have to pay up front are ILD.

>>10116134
I live near michagan.

>>10116168
Well if it keeps happening maybe bring it up with the event organizer or a mod so they could give her a warning so you don't have to pay for her out of pocket all the time.

>>10116134
I really love the Michigan comm. There's some girls like that yes, but quite a few who are not. You just need to find the right crowd. Try a swap meet to get a feel for most of the girls as we all usually try to attend those. Or one of C's large meets.

>>10115885
Columbus comm doesn't have a page to themselves but we try to stay active in the columbus area and on the ohio comm page since the mods refuse to do anything outside of cleveland.

>>10116180
It's only happened once where I had to pay for her, and there were a few other people paid for because they flaked as well.
Most meets aren't paid so the real issue is just her saying she will go and then not showing.
She's also friends with the mods and hangs with them on a regular basis.
Its actually been brought up at meets but the discussion was more like "aw I wish she was here" but people are aware that she flakes a lot. They just don't care to do anything about it.
The event organizer would most likely see this as shit stirring.
I just wish she wouldn't snag a spot for a capped event when she's so flakey.

>>10116134
There's a rule in my community that if someone flakes out of a meet that requires payment 3 times they're banned.

>>10116123
>>10116223
whoops

>>10116223
The only meets that you pay in advance for in my comm are ILD.
Honestly we wouldn't have that many comm members if we banned people for that. As sad as that sounds.

>>10106825
>i wonder if i should out her for being a degenerate?

For what? Drama? You're just making an ass out of yourself by doing that. She's keeping it contained to appropriate places and not bothering people that aren't involved or in your com.

>by stalking
>i have obsessive tendencies/fixations on random people
>discord server i infiltrated

You need help.

>>10115971
>>10115974
Right I read that and was like "obviously you didn't know a single preteen/teen girl"

I've planned a good number of meets in the last couple of years and I want to graduate to hosting a bigger teaparty like ILD.

However I don't quite understand how people get a lot of nice and expensive items for raffles without donations. Also how do you budget the raffle? Do you actually collect a decent amount of money after the fact to makeup for the prizes or do you just use it up for either a tip for the venue or save it for the next event?

>>10116468
I haven't seen an ILD raffle where the prizes were donated. It depends on your comm, how big it is and how many people actually participate in the raffle. You can makeup for some of the costs with the raffle, but just know that usually large ILD parties are not "moneymaking," in fact you're guaranteed to end up paying out of pocket. Usually raffles and tickets don't fully cover the price of things like venue and food.

>>10116468
I write a really nicely formatted letter in a business professional tone explaining what the event I am asking for sponsors is, how many people attend annually, and what we will do for the sponsorship before asking for donations. I then just mass email shops that have things relative to the fashion and lifestyle of lolita fashion that I think comm members would enjoy. Sometimes we take money out of the currently existing comm fund for shipping purposes, but I personally have not yet had to pay for raffle or goodie bag items for ILD or other events I have hosted.

>>10116195
I'll try that thanks anon!

>>10116200
Columbus has an absurd number of indie designers yet no Comm. Voodooodolly, Elegy, thefabledfawn, and now idodeclare.

>>10113729
I’ll look around, I’m still new but I’ve actually been finding italian Lolita’s on Facebook so it’s not completely disheartening.

>>10114636
Yeah I’ve noticed that in my research the past few days. At least there’s that and not completely nothing at all!

>>10114761
Not going to lie, I think I will. It wouldn’t be the first time I get a comm together from the ground up (granted it was a different hobby but still)
I’ve been starting to go to cons here (I just moved to the country desu) so maybe I can gather some conlitas to get the word out and then make a public page! I live in one of the major cities so I’m sure there has to be some other Lolita’s around here! Thanks for the incentive I’ll likely start trying to get something together in the summer

>>10116326
Guys pay so little mind to unattractive and unhappy girls that in their worldview, they might as well not exist. Incels and sissies think all women have it better than them because the hot and happy ones are the only ones that register on their radar. Then when they try presenting as female themselves and encounter the same kind of shit we deal with every day, they act like it’s a huge injustice and they’re the only ones to ever suffer so. I like to think it’s karma.

>>10116136
It one egl just search the tags photos and you will find it. I think it is around the 2010 mark

>>10112454
That may do. I found there's a third comm nearby, but wonder if it's even active.

>>10116542
Someone could always step up and form a Columbus comm group. There are plenty of columbus and surrounding lolitas that would join.

>>10116200
Make your own event where you live! If the regular organizers don't know the area its kinda hard to make an event in Dayton.

>>10115885
Cincinnati is the only separate comm but I don't think they're very active?
Most of the Ohio action is in the NE or Columbus so you will be in luck when everyone comes out of hiding after winter weather.

>>10116200
Would you want to host events in a city you're not familiar with?

>>10117267
Columbus isn't really that hard of a city to learn. It's fairly compact honestly. Plus they could always add a mod or two who actually live in columbus.
I've been thinking of several different things to host when the weather stops being a bitch.

>>10115885
Make a Columbus group.
>>10116200
Yeah, they do that. T doesn't even host meets anymore, or active. Why shes still a mod, I dunno. M only became active after she got posted negatively on previous comm threads.
>>10117326
There IS a mod who lives in columbus, T.

>>10117432
T lives in Newark

>>10115909
What's wrong with ice scating?
We have this kind of meets, older girls participating, we have a lot of fun.

>>10117432
T hasn't been active since 2017. It's safe so say that she basically isn't a mod at this point.

>>10116200
It's not only up to the mods to host events. If you live in Columbus, there's a better chance you know of good meetup locations than they do, given that all the active ones live up north and also have lives and jobs.

How about you get together with other Columbus lolitas and plan a meet at a nice location?

>>10116134
The Michigan comm is really great, actually. The issue is that the people who talk the most on the FB page are the people who you're talking about. We have a very good, steady group of well-dressed lolitas that have been in the comm for a few years. As other anon said, C's bigger meets usually have a great turn-out.

>>10116084
>You know, you walk out the door. You see someone that you know, and they ask you how you are, and you just have to say that you're fine, when you're not really fine, but you just can't get into it because they would never understand.

>>10117507
We only have seasonal rinks that are way too fucking busy and you can only do it when it is really cold out. And no one wants to ruin their dress.

>>10115909
This happens in my comm too! Every so often someone will come up with a meet idea that’s definitely not going to work out (trampoline park, hanging out in IKEA (???)) but a bunch of people reply to it super enthusiastically like it’s the greatest idea in the world, and those of us who point out that it’s not practical are shushed as unimaginative debbie downers. Then when the person actually tries to organize something nobody wants to come because nobody actually wants to jump on trampolines or hang out in crowded IKEA on a Sunday in lolita.
Occasionally when this happens some salty-chans try to spin it as our comm being too elitist to attend meetups organized by “nobodies”, but the real problem is that these newbies have no idea what makes a good lolita meetup and a bunch of dumbasses don’t think things through before hyping up the newbie’s impractical idea. I don’t think people are intentionally being two-faced, just dumb and impulsive.

>>10117511
She stepped down and made a post about it last year. Didnt you see?
Columbus anon, just make your meet up, I want to go

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>>10117620
seconding this anon, I'm definitely interested in a Columbus meet up.

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>>10116200
A lot of us in pittsburgh would be happy to come visit again if there's a tea or something!

We had a ton of fun at the Halloween tea a couple years ago

>>10117629
There’s like 4 meet-ups planned in cbus in the next few months
I don’t think splitting ohio comm is a good idea, there’s really no reason to split since we’re such a small statewide comm. If we could have a mod that maybe lived not in cleveland and also gave a shit that would be super.
I’m still salty about that ohayocon tea fiasco

>>10117709
What happened at ohayocon?

>>10117722
mods booked a “”tea party”” the same time as a comm member was planning a meet-up after said comm member specifically asked if anyone was planning a meet-up after the lolita specific programming. This was asked like two weeks in advance, an event made, and then the mods stormed in a week before the con saying “uhhhh this conflicts with our tea party”, didn’t release info for the tea party until like 3 days before the con starts, hostesses is left to change the date of the previously planned meet-up.
It was a pain

>>10117767
Also, since the tea party was planned so obviously last minute the kitchen was unprepared to accommodate any dietary restrictions, one dairy-free girl was left paying 20 dollars for a piece of biscotti, a scone, and two tea sandwiches she didn’t eat because they both had cheese on them. Luckily a few ppl at the table gave her their scones & biscotti that they weren’t going to eat

>>10117568
SF (I think?) comm did a trampoline park meet once that looked like a lot of fun years ago, but everyone wore pretty casual stuff. The photos of all the fluffy floaty petticoats were kind of great, though.

I've got nothing for IKEA, though. As much as I enjoy wandering through their displays, I don't think it would make for an interesting meet.

>>10117777
I remember Voldie talking about doing an IKEA meet. From what I remember they all showed up and took pictures in the fake rooms??
I never saw photos from this meet other than her sipping on an IKEA smoothie.
Something tells me you would get kicked out for not being a real customer.

>>10117798
Voldie's insta story said she was in the states for an mtg meet. Is she welcome at any us comms?

>>10117326
This gets said a lot, but you don't need to be a mod to host an event. Most mods appreciate when other members host them because it gives new ideas and places to go to. Mods don't have to host all the time, we don't have the time or energy.

>>10117767
If I remember correctly, mods did not book the tea party.

Ohayocon booked and arranged the tea party. It was a convention event and for some reason they didn't even advertise it and then wondered why there was no interest. I think they talked to the mods last minute before the con. Sounds like a con fuck-up to me.

>>10117620
Agreed, I want to come down to Columbus for a meet.

>>10117770
I sat next to her at the tea!! We traded biscotti and I gave her something else off my plate too. There was another vegetarian girl sitting next to me who couldn't eat her tea sandwiches either. They literally didnt tell us the menu and the kitchen couldnt answer questions about what was in the food. The tea was the best part but totally not worth my $20. The food was super bland.

>>10112022

Scared me for a moment there. Fortunately my identity is still a secret.

>>10117507
>Scating

Ewww tf

>>10117878
>ain't nothin wrong with a little scat

my comm made a girl admin and now shes making meets that she can make excuses to drag her crusty boyfriend to. greaaat

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>>10117798
I’m not in Voldie’s comm, but the main problem with the IKEA meet was that they wanted to go during the weekend when the store is always insanely crowded and full of families with small children. It’s literally worse than the zoo, and even as a serious customer who only needs a flower pot or two you often get stuck in foot traffic. Maybe on a very quiet day it could be fun to take pictures among the model rooms but during the weekend it’s like an overstuffed theme park without the attractions. Well with one attraction, if you count the group of strangely-dressed girls who seem to be just hanging out and waiting to be photographed and climbed on by hyperactive kids...

>>10117874
Are you Dan?

>>10117767
Actually, I think mod M planned the tea party, I had enquired to her about non dairy options and she told me she'd have to check back with the Hyatt and never did. She posted about the tea party way late saying that she was just too busy. This is common behavior with M. >>10117770

I was afraid this was going to happen because M never got back to me about non dairy options. I'm glad I didn't go.

>>10117938
Haha oh wow. Yeah, even when I bought furniture at IKEA I didn't go during the weekend.
I feel the rooms aren't even that cute.

>>10117945
We are all Dan.

>>10117964
I'm pretty sure the convention center planned it, so they were in charge of what happened with the menu. No one had any say in it. You should have asked the con staff.

>>10117964
What part of "the con planned it" can you not get through your head? Stop playing the gd victim.

>>10118318
I don't care that the con planned it, I just think it's crappy that a mod couldn't be bothered to say 'we didn't hear back from them' and check in. >>10118235
I did ask con staff but they directed me to ask a moderator in the community since she was directly in contact with the restaurant.

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