/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10071382
I want to meet someone nice at AX and see where that leads us. Life is way too short to be afraid of talking to people.

The last thread's discussion reminded me of this pic.

I wonder if that girl ever managed to scalp Cat’s Tea Party lol

I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. My studying is going great, and my essay is on the home stretch. I won't fail this term, and I'm so happy. All my anxiety was for nothing, I can do this!

My only sad feel is that this dress won't be delivered in time to wear at the disputation of my essay. It suits my topic so well, and I would have looked great.

>>10071407
:) = uncool and dorky
:( = wicked, nihilistic, mysterious.

Man I just really love cosplay

>>10071427
Which is why it sucks that this board has been taken over by lolita.

That feel when you've finally finished your degree after years and have the time to make cosplay again, but all motivation is gone. I just want to make pretty things but my brain says no.

someone please end me i have yet to start on katsucon cosplays

>>10071450
Post more cosplay stuff to balance it out then.

Went to buy something for 65 Euros. Then I discovered that that's now £60. Oh Britannia... we really are screwed.

I've attracted the attention of many infamous lolitas/lolitas that cgl has had long lasting issues with. I can't name names but whoever you guess is probably right.

I'm friends with a few but I can't tell anybody about it because I don't want to be associated with their dramu. It's really weird and I don't know how I attracted all of these people, I'm pretty nice and normal.

>>10071488
You just said it. You're nice and normal. When crazy people see nice and normal, they can't stand it and want to screw it up.

>>10071488

Are you a doormat? Do you find yourself doing a lot of things for these friends? Do they often call you their best(est) friend and give you superlatives about how much they need you?

If you are run away. Screaming.

>t. had that happen to me, bu thankfully not in lolita
>t. also doormat

>>10071488
Should probably lock down personal information then. Sounds spooky

My mom doesn't want me to be a lolita because they "act n*gger rich with their fancy dresses."

>>10071527
Let what does that even mean, are you black?

>>10071539
Basically all bougie as if they had a shit ton of money when they don’t (not OP just thinking this is what their mom means)

>tfw no 2 Kawaii 4 Comfort finale

My relationship goals for this year is spend over 5 minutes talking to a girl and have her not look at me like shes repulsed.

>>10071587
Ever? Or are you just being impatient?

Sometimes I even wonder if there is a /cgl/ cosplay discord. I hear it mentioned so often, yet every time I ask I'm convinced it doesn't exist.
I just want help on my costumes and ideas

>>10071596
The cgl/fa one is just a ton of circlejerking desu
There aren't really a lot desu that don't have a large amount of betas circling around several people that post content
I too just want a discord for talking about techniques and progress desu

>switching housing every semester in a college ~5 hours away by car
>not that much space in car to bring to college campus
>already sew so machine + fabric + notions is a given
>bought all the stuff I need to make props (several types of foam, heat gun, etc) but realize I have no space in car for what will likely be one prop

props are nice but FFS I can't bring a full workshop worth of tools with me.

Is ERP a viable surrogate for a relationship if one is too ugly to be physically attractive?

>>10071382
There's a cosplay group in my city I'd like to be part of. Unfortunately, albeit everyone is educated/friendly at cons, they don't seem very approachable otherwise.

that's literally my only relationship goal for 2019

>>10071630
Spy on them and figure out that one thing they're all big fans of and just worm your way in and learn about them from there.

>>10071491
>>10071516
Reasonable, thanks!

>>10071514
I wouldn't say I'm a doormat and I don't actually do anything, I'm just kind of... agreeable? Like people can say some weird shit but as long as it's non-threatening it doesn't bother me.

>give you superlatives about how much they need you
This is where it gets spooky, I probably just need to figure out how to make my exit desu

>>10071590
Being impatient.

>>10071664
Don't scare me like, anon.

>>10071613
Is there just a cosplay one, or only /fa/? I havent been able to find any.

>>10071613
Girls and betas are a horrific mix.

Man I wish I wasn't getting too old for cosplay. These laugh lines and circles under my eyes make me scared of photos now.

>>10071817
Embrace it, start cosplaying milfs.

I’m so lonely. I just want to make more cosplay friends, but it feels impossible. Everyone is so cliquey, like they have their friend groups and have no interest in letting anyone else in.

I have good quality cosplays, I’m not ugly or fat, I try to be nice and reach out to people, but it’s never enough in this community. I thought maybe it was a popularity thing, so I worked harder on my cosplays and my social media game and gained more followers, but the new followers were mostly people from other parts of the world, not local people.

Idk what else I can do. Cosplaying made me feel better about myself, but the local community is just bringing back all these self esteem issues and makes me feel like I’ll never be good enough for anyone no matter what I do.

>>10071894
You and me both anon, but in the end all you can do is just work on your cos and try to keep trucking. If you want we can be friends

>>10071894
Just like >>10071900 said, We can be friends! Also it's rough but go and hang out with people, or talk to them. I've had people randomly call me over to talk on Sunday morning in a hallway, just randomly. I'm not a qt or a girl either.

It may sound dumb but just make costumes you like, be friendly, and talk to people. It's not 100% successful, but I ended up meeting more and more people.

Also this is just personal results but, if you want attention in person, do a costume based on a popular series for a more obscure character? Of course, you'd have to a. Like a character that's obscure and b. always deal with that feeling in the back of your head you may have almost done all of this for personal recognition and not because you enjoyed it, but please try to avoid b.

>>10071817
I'm 27 and still look like a teenager. Up your skincare game family.
Downside is my feet are pretty awful. Cute shape, but neglected all my life and I did a lot of sports. toenails are all growing dented and wonky either from injuries or poorly fitting shoes (poorfag family, buy good shoes now but too little too late), pinky toes are those short/shrinking type and have like a hunchback and bunch of excess skin. How do I feetmax? I have a pumice stone but it does nothing for my toes.
>tfw no qt bf to give me pedicures

>>10071941
I would love to go get pedicures with someone desu that shit is cozy

>>10071958
I've never had one. What do they actually do?

>>10071971
Alot of lotions and scrubbing, massages etc, we should get them

>get hit on by guy
>mfw it's actually a tall girl

>>10072008
Find a tall guy?

>>10071852
This. Carry the spirit of the character and you'll be fine.

>>10071994
Sounds like something way intimate to receive from someone other than your SO

>>10072008

>get hit on by a guy
>mfw it's actually a guy and not a tall girl

>>10072048
>>10072008
>don't leave my apartment
>don't get hit on by anyone

>>10072049
>>10072048
>>10072008
Sounds like yall just want love, can I love one of you and only one

>>10072046
God I want to watch this movie with some cutie

I'm too autistic to work a wageslave job. How attractive do I need to be to make a living as an instagram model until rhetorically speaking my mixtape can take off?
My phone is a potato, I suck at selfies, and I don't have a selfie whorestick. I am 8/10 though, could be 9/10 with exercise and makeup.

>>10072046
Go with your SO. Couple pedicures are max comfy and you both get to indulge in the pleasure together rather than one person having a good time and the other person just sitting there and scrubbing a foot.

>>10072115
>one person having a good time and the other person just sitting there and scrubbing a foot.
Loled at this, you’re actually right.

>>10072008
Girls are better than guys in every way, embrace the pucci.

My new year's resolution was basically to make 2019 my year of lolita. Last year I finally took the plunge to start my wardrobe, and by now I'm just free falling deep into the rabbit hole. I love getting lost in this wonderland, pun intended.

Today I was hanging out with some friends who were home from Christmas break. Being with them made me realize how much I've changed already. There were small positive differences, like getting a compliment that my skin was looking great. I got excited and started something over how much I'm enjoying my skincare routine and they just... Seemed perplex and lightly confused. I've always been a hype friend who gets really into things, but I suspect they never thought beauty and lolita could be such fun for me. Nobody knew about my two silent years of lurking and admiring the fashion alone.

My friends are still happy that I'm happy, and we had a good time today. It's just that I'm left with the taste of melancholic nostalgia. Nothing will ever be the way it was, and change is a natural part of life. It just... Hurts a little bit to live, that's all.

>>10072139
Congratulations on taking the plunge! Not that I know much about lolita, but that it's also making you take care of yourself more is a plus!

It's true about the last part, but just look forwards to everything you'll be involved in! Make new wonderful memories you can be melancholic about when you wax nostalgia.

>>10072133
I

>hate wistywish for her stupid horrible shooping
>follow her gf because cute coords
>gf posts long thing about how great their relationship is
>how do I balance feeling disgusted by a shoopy bitch with this feeling of "I'm happy for her"
She can still fuck off though

>>10072133
Never thought i'd see straight up sexism here.

>>10072192

Maybe she'll stop shooping because she's loved by such a cute girl. Can we hope?

Her gf is cute af though, I love her smile. Why couldn't I get a cute lolita gf. I don't even shoop to look better.

>decided to stop being a skinny fat fuck for better cosplay
>cut all the junk food I always ate
>face fat still not leaving
Ahhhhh. I hope I'm doing it right.

Going to be a meido next month to a big convention. I thought I'd dress up as one just to be cute in the uniform but now I'm finding myself going the full mile and looking up accessories and fake desserts to carry around on a serving tray. I think it's less wanting a cute but comfy outfit for con and more like living out a fantasy for a day.

>>10072198
Iz u a retard?

>>10072198
Girls
>Smelll better
>Look nicer
>Dress nicer
>Much more likely to share hobbies
>Understand how to get a woman off
>Cleaner
>Won't accidentally an entire babby inside of you

Boys
>Might be taller

Gee, hard choice.

>tfw no Hit or Miss gf

>>10072238
Cmon silly, anyone can cherry pick.
dont derail the thread either please

>>10072238
lol the absolute state of lesbians

who /isolated/?
>no friends, tfw no bf
>when I'm not working I just stay in my apartment all day sitting on my bed
>usually studying, practicing drawing, reading, browsing 4chan/net, sometimes watch anime
>other than eating and showers do this from sun up to bed time
I live in a boring shithole, not even anywhere nice nearby to go for a walk.

I had a dream that a little secondhand victorian/lolita shop opened up in my city and i went every day in lolita and they accepted trades and my family bought me so many dresses and they even had moitie and everything. But then a fat lady tried to kill me because I wouldn't let her try to sell a normie blouse as an AP blouse and i woke up. And i know that's exactly how having a second hand lolita store in my state would be. Just a bunch of people trying to rip them off or buying all the good pieces to resell on ebay

>>10072228
You might want to visit /fit/. I'm not joking, you're not alone.
>>>/wsr/610269

>>10071540
My grandpa uses that phrase and you are pretty much bang on. It means someone who spends all their money as soon as they have it/ spends money they don't even have on credit

i want to start anonymously camming (no face, or face mask with wig, etc) or selling feet pics/pics for extra income for my hobby and passions, but i feel like a thot and wouldn't be able to admit it to anyone. how do i get over my personal moral conflict and just do what i want to make extra cash without hating myself for it? i just want to cosplay and enjoy myself at cons, making new friends. but i need the money to go first.

student in uni with a part time job, by the way, so i'm not a useless whore.

>>10072267
That feel, my gull.

>>10072277
Just go for it. Find a site that works for you and you'll feel better when you get your first paycheck. I made over $100 my first show just because I was new.

>>10072280
i'm sure asking will ensure this getting deleted (mods have been trigger happy as of late anyways) but do you have any advice or possibly sites to avoid or go to? i'm also scared for my personal identity/safety

>>10072283
Google is your friend because there are a lot of camgirl 101 guides. Or check up on Lolcow what the camgirls there are doing. It's how I got my info. Definitely avoid the one Momokun is on.

>>10072280
What site did you use? Nyart but I'm seriously considering it too

>>10072285
never thought about using lolcow but thank you! i have used google for selling advice but not live/cam advice. hope it continues to go well for you!

>>10072201
I'm hoping so, anon. She needs to love herself more. And same for me, I don't shoop either.
>maybe I should though because I'm not that cute and apparently "look straight"

I didnt make any friends at the last convention and i'm tempted to do something more revealing as a cute boy cosplay to hopefully garner more attention.

>tfw bf gets twerked on by a Nico with no panties and he thot patrols her

>>10072322
is it hot to see your boyfriend make out with someone else?

>>10072322
That was your chance for a threesome.

My wig has been stuck in the middle of China since the beginning of December. The convention is in less than a week. The tracking hasn’t updated in weeks.

I guess it’s my own damn fault for procrastinating on ordering it but this is truly suffering.

>>10072277
Do it, especially the feet pics.
Footfags are worse than furries and deserve to pay for their degeneracy.

But seriously, it's good easy money if you can create a persona and find a niche.
Buttstuff/dragon dildos are always pretty much guaranteed money.
Use manyvids, as a priority, if you can sell 2-3 videos a day that's an easy $40 a day passive income.

I’m lonely lads I need company

>>10072374
What would you like to do if you had company?

>>10072375
Watch a movie or 2 maybe some anime.

My birthday is coming up and all my friends have forgotten again. I'm turning 28 as even my best friends since middle school didn't remember this year. My whole adult life has been watching others being taken out on very personal celebrations to five different locations or collectively funding an expensive present and then they remember mine a week after it happened. I wouldn't care as much if it was people I've only met recently but they aren't, they're my closest friends. Cheers to 10 years of being forgotten.

>>10072378
Why do you need company for that?

>>10072383
Well I’m lonely and I want human interaction

>>10072383
nayrt but it's more fun to watch stuff with friends

most of the stuff i watch is with my best friend and it's great

>>10072384
There's very little interaction involved in watching a movie with someone.

>>10072390
Alright anon since you are humoring me, what would you want to do

>>10072381
Hey, anon. Tell me when your birthday is. I'll remember and be sure to wish you the best possible birthday when it comes.

Please keep watching the feels threads.

I want to watch a movie with a girl and slowly sneakily wrap my arm around her and then slowly bring her in closer as the movie plays until we're practically cuddling together

>>10072418
...and then choke her. Yeah, I know that feeling.

>>10072426
>>10072418
this doesn't sound like cosplay

>>10072429
Choking IN cosplay.

>>10072433
You better be keeping in character the whole time

>>10072435
Can I choke you and fuck you in the ass while you're dressed as Mako from Girls under Panzer?

>>10072447
Seriously this isn't the place for this, take it somewhere else

>>10072448
Where shall we take this, my basement or yours?

>>10071613
what kind of circlejerking?

>Want to make pretty night sky themed coord
>Find taobao dress I like
>Poor quality
>People from here tell me to find brand instead
>Finally find dress that I think can fit the aesthetic I'm going for
>600 Euros
>Maybe the conversion rate won't be so bad
>Translates to $1100 in my currency
My heart hurts gulls, why are all the pieces I set my heart on so expensive? And this is secondhand brand as well. I feel like I'll never be able to find a pretty dress at a reasonable price...

>tfw a girl in our panel refuses to sit down because her ass hurts from "morning anal"

>>10072564
Please inform her of the recent discoveries of foreplay and lube.

>>10072555
What dress are you looking for?

>see sister's friends all laughing at her phone
>take a look
>it's that video of a D.Va cosplayer farting

>>10072583
Good taste.

>>10071616
>...Anonymous
Anon, do you live in a dorm or in a apartment? I can't manage to bring my sewing machine + supplies to my dorm due to little space, much less my prop supplies.

>tfw you find a dress you immediately fall in love with but your waist is almost 10cm too big

>tfw lost two different Moitie auctions today
I wasn't even bidding low

>>10072267
i really wish you could meet people to make a connection, anon, but at least it sounds like you are trying to be productive with and enjoy your spare time.

>>10072564
Maybe she got spanked by her sugar dad for being a brat and wanted to play it off as something cool instead?

Or maybe just attention. I'm gay but I've never been bummed out to the point that I cant sit, never really get these people.

I'm flying to Rome in two weeks and to London in a month, so I should be saving up my money.
But I sooo wanna buy a new dress and accessories and whatnot. Organising my wishlist was a mistake.

>Relationship Goals Edition
My goal is to intensify my relationship with my gf

I am kinda proud of myself, that i accepted my feelings for her. Actually she was just one of my fuckbuddies, but we kept dating over one year and things got serious. I still cant believe this is real - but i think she might be the one.

I wish i could stop being a fcking loner on cosplay cons. I just dont like popular stuff that much and dont want to cosplay it. It's hard to get in touch with people if you cosplay stuff barely any german knows nowadays.

>>10072813
Oooh if you're a Lolita you could totally contact the comms when you're traveling

The thing that sucks about my regular cons being in the early spring is that I have to build stuff in the winter, so it takes forever to dry. For spray paint I have to keep ferrying things indoors to the bathroom with the fan running which is a real hassle.

>>10071382
Why are girls always obsessed with their dumb relationships? There's more to life you know.

I just finished college got job lined up. I was planning on going to a con and actually cosplaying for the first time, but some of my normie friends want to go and I would feel awkward being in a group of 6 people and being the only one dressed up

>>10072845
>taking two vacations, buying new dress and paying extra luggage fees for brand

rip anon's wallet.

>>10072855
Why do guys shoot up schools because they can't get a gf? Who knows.

I've long been the nerdiest in my friend groups, but now that I've started making cosplay friends I often find myself on the normie-er end of the spectrum among them - and I catch myself being judgemental of friends a lot.
Maybe it's that I use too much self-deprecating humor on myself for indulging in my geeky interests. Maybe I've browsed one too many "cringe" or "bad cosplay" threads. I don't know, I just feel like an asshole sometimes.

>>10072802
I study for fun. What kind of person does that? When people ask me my hobbies and I say "studying" they think I'm joking or get confused and think I'm still in college.
Also spent the whole day studying, as well as yesterday.
I just don't enjoy normalfag shit like tv, movies, video games, going "out" somewhere... those make me feel like I'm dying. I'm going to go on a date with a guy and he'll ask me my hobbies and I'll say I like to study, and he's gonna drop me off a railing for being a tryhard pseud. I feel like a depressed delinquent version of Hermione Granger with a laptop instead of a wand.
>>10072855
>>10072901
She has a point, you know.
Men: complain women only think about guys and dating
Also men: took over an entire board just to post 1,000,000 renditions of "tfw no gf" and literally kill themselves because they can't get laid

>>10072703
There'll be an auction that you win and it'll look amazing on you anon.

Fuck those auctions, just wasn't meant to be

>>10072930
>having hobbies or enjoying recreational activities for fun makes you a normalfag

>>10072936
>Having normalfag hobbies makes you a normalfag
yeah?

>>10072940
>some incel tells you he plays nothing but anime visual novels, rape simulators and JRPGs
>is still by your definition a normalfag because they're videogames
I'm sorry for your autism, anon

>>10072945
t. asspained vidya gaem addict who masturbates to katawa shoujo
you know what i meant and you're just being argumentative for the sake of being all salty.

>>10073023
>not masturbating to katawa shoujo

>tfw no short deaf femdom gf

>>10072359
thanks for the genuine tips anon, i'm definitely gonna put some of this to use. and agreed, foot fags do deserve to pay for their degeneracy, but furfags gotta go entirely

i don't think i'll have a problem creating a persona or finding a niche, thanks again!

>>10073025
Is asbergers a disability?

>>10073025
Fastest thing on no legs best girl

>>10072568
Dream Crystal Carnival. They have it up as a set which I'm assuming is why they have it up at that price. I don't really even know what price is supposed to be decent because I'm new to all this.

>>10073026
Word to the wise, don't expect cosplay to carry you through.
Cosplay standards in camming is surprisingly somewhat high, unless you're really raking it in, you'll lose money on cosplay videos.

I just joined Instagram.

It was nowhere near as dramatic as I thought it would be.

I'll see you gulls there, without knowing it I guess.

>tfw no fast and loose lolita gf to love me like a reptile
Shoot me in the back

>tfw no Hex Maniac GF

>>10073095
What were you even expecting? Instagram is one of the least dramatic platforms, it's hella boring 90% of the time.

>be someone's con crush
>she turns 18
>mfw I'm almost 30 and I'm going to have to thot patrol her

>>10073459
Fuck her to teach her a lesson.

> find DD
> buy it
> seller gives me a refund because she changed her mind

>drop out of school 3 years ago due to anxiety
>cosplay life at peak at this time, doing multiple good cosplays a con, winning competitions, traveling to new & far away conventions, part of big social group
>body at peak weight & fitness, hair is nice, skin is clear
>haven't made a cosplay since then
>make plans, buy tickets, book hotels for cons, end up canceling last minute because im too tired to go
>cant even stay awake for more than 6 hrs a day so getting a job to help try and make my life more structured is impossible
>anxiety (+stress) is now causing multiple other health issues to show up
>because im hardly doing anything now, body hurts all the time, self care is abysmal
>go to multiple doctors for help with anxiety and all blow me off or send me to other useless medical "professionals"
>literally been a neet for 3 years but not even a fun one, dont watch anime or play games just sleep & stare at walls i guess cuz time manages to pass somehow
>all friends from previously have stopped talking to me, ignore me the rare time i do make it to a convention
>some dont even recognize me anymore when i say hello

lord i hope 2019 is better for me. i miss being able to exist functionally in general, but i especially miss sewing. i keep planning big projects in my head but im just too tired to do any of them.

I feel like I'll never find a good SS again, I miss Muuh and FJ. Tenshi and Japonica only care about their old customers, I don't trust Mintkismet and the other more unknown SS are either too expensive, not transparent with their fees or too slow.

>>10073492
Come to AX, we'll hang out.

>>10073507
completely different country anon, but i wish i could go to ax lol

>>10073456
Some sort of "You're now part of the cool kids club"... I sort of felt the opposite when I joined Amino?

I’ve ruined my husband and it’s all my fault. I don’t think I’m in love with him anymore, I just feel obligated to stay with him because I’ve created him to be so dependent on me.
I make enough money for the both of us so I do all the work while he smokes weed all day.
Literally first thing he does when he wakes up is smokes, and I don’t think it’s healthy.
I run my own business and he won’t help with the business because he gets too afraid of helping me because it’s a creative field and it’s not something he’s used to, but I tell him all the time any help is better than no help.
He also can legit do nothing by himself because of the way his parents raised him, and he’s super meek and won’t confront anyone in any situation, I think it’s from his anxiety.
He can’t cook, can’t take care of appointments, can’t dress himself, can’t take care of his own hygiene, always has snot hanging out of his nose (and when I call that out he gets like irritated that I don’t just ignore how gross it is).. the only thing he’s got going for himself is that he has perfect genetics and he goes to the gym daily.
When I married him I wanted a husband not a fucking infant but now all I feel like is his caretaker.
Best part is when I have mental health problems (had some severe crippling anxiety a week ago) he doesn’t know how to handle it and just gets angry at me for “thinking this way”.
I’ve told him before that it’s him that’s killing me but I legit don’t think he understand that when I’m saying it.
I’m so unhappy but if I leave he’ll be forced to live life on his own and I physically know he couldn’t handle that.
I’m suffering and I can’t kill myself because that’s the same as leaving him.

To keep it lolita related as I buy more dresses he’s been sneaking in more ‘daddy’ jokes enough to where I think he’s actually into that shit and he’d better not get the wrong idea just because I like lolita.

>>10073575
The fact that you're using him as an excuse to not kill yourself is telling of mental illness. You're projecting all of your own mental illness on him on top of resenting marrying him. He's a shit dude in your head but you hate him because of the reasons you created in your own mind has amplified his flaws. Go to therapy. If that doesn't work leave him.

>>10073575
Its time you leave him.

You're a great person for having dealt with him and supported him, but relationships goes two ways and its quite obvious that he is incapable of supporting you when you need it or making any progress in his own self improvement. He will never better himself, he'd have done it by now if he could, leaving him might make him try but I'd doubt that, but the important thing is that you wont get dragged down in the process, because that will surely happen sooner or later.

>I’m so unhappy but if I leave he’ll be forced to live life on his own and I physically know he couldn’t handle that.
Let his parents deal with him instead, its their fault for creating a dysfunctional adult. Doesn't matter if it was due to "too good will" or incompetence in their parenting, they are ultimately responsible.

And maybe have yourself checked up as well, although what anon says >>10073600 seems a bit far fetched there might be something to look in to. If not for the specified reasons then just to talk out and see how damaging this marriage have been to yourself.

>>10073575
You’re a nice person, but please stop burying yourself alive. Let’s face it hi will never ever becomes better. Are you ready to waste your life on caring about adult kid who makes you feel that unhappy? Please, love yourself first, it’s not about vanity and stuff, but just don’t let him ruin your life.

I feel so awkward around other girls who cosplay or like J-fashion but don't engage in any nerdy stuff. Like if it's girls who engage more in fandom stuff like watching anime, drawing or writing fanfiction, I don't feel that way. But those who aren't into those things feel so bitchy and normie.

>>10073510
Maybe you can one day. Good luck with your endeavors till that time comes, anon.

>>10072228
More water + lift. I’m 23 but look younger and struggled with face fat, drinking more water and lifting helped me lose it

>>10073575
Anon I feel you from the bottom of my heart, even if your situation isn't completely the same I was with a seriously suicidal partner for years, they used to self-harm almost daily and had a plethora of other issues, I was their only friend and was so terribly afraid they'd kill themselves if I left them I just felt obligated to stay and firmly believed their well-being was entirely my responsibility, but it wasn't. You are hurting yourself like this, and you will only keep resenting him more and more as time goes by, which won't help either of you any. Leaving him will be the best thing for you both. In any case, please take care of yourself, I hope things will be better for you

>>10072845
I would but I'm rather shy around new people ;-; I bet I'd babble and behave like a dork.

>>10073095
NEVERMIND, UPDATE, I found the drama!

My little sister has had Instagram for a good while longer than me, both for cosplay and for art. The cosplay stuff wasn't new to me, and most of the drawings I had seen live. But going through her inktober she had written little things I never knew in the captions. One drawing featured a character from a shirt comic I helped her storyboard. Apparently she loves that character dearly, and says that comic really mattered in her artistic development. That character also made her feel better because... She's been feeling... bad? Worse than I knew?

I'm crying. We said we'd collaborate on more comics but never did. More like I never did. I've been such a distant sister, never sharing my own thoughts with her too much. I hid hobbies from her when I was a teenager because I didn't want her to mimick me, because I was a selfish cunt. Since we're really similar she picked them up either way, so it was all for nothing.

I'm so proud of my sister, and her art. It's all super beautiful, way more beautiful than I could ever do. She's stayed with cosplay when I abandoned it for lolita, and she's creating so many great costumes. She's having so much fun. All of this pride I've felt while watching these positive parts has blinded me from the fact that she's a teenager growing up, and feeling even worse than I did before.

I love her so much and I want her to be okay. I'm going to talk to her, heart to heart, as soon as I get home.

>>10073691
Cuddle your baby sister, anon. She seems to need it (and you).

>>10073691
Be the good sister your heart is crying out for you to be. You'll both feel more love from that.

>>10072277
Just don't, I did it once over 5 years ago and it fucked me up so bad I still think about it. I regret it so badly. Literally no amount of money is worth your dignity.

>>10072277
>get a warning for calling someone autistic in thread last night and have post deleted
>this post is still up and getting replies

>>10072277
Ask lc about this instead, that place seems to be 50% ex cams.

>>10073751
what did you do that fucked u up so badly ..? are you talking about fucking up your pride ?

>>10071407
Clip art hell

My motherlode of GLBs arrived, all but one have their pattern intact and all have their free gifts. I'm putting up the poster of Mana as I speak. I feel content flicking through all the beautiful pages.

>>10073618
agreed, i feel like for the nerdy ones anime & such were a gateway to jfashion but for those who aren’t they really are just normies with a quirky style.

I fell in love with one of my best friends, at least i think i did. I’ve only ever “been in love” with one other person, and that was almost 5 years go and i’ve never dated anyone so i’m just super confused and don’t know what to do.

>>10073575
It'll hurt but you can't stay in this relationship. You're only going to end up even more miserable, and yes, that's possible.
Nostalgia is a lying bitch, anon. Dump the man.

>>10073494
muuh still does stuff right? I'm meant to be getting my CTP and CD from her...

>>10073477
negative feedback stat

>>10073751
how could you only do it one time and act like you were in Vietnam? give context and elaborate cause this sounds dumb

>>10073864
nayrt and yeah shes just expensive

>used to have a group to go to cons and cosplay
>life goes on but now it's just me and a friend left still going
>gf doesn't like me going with my friend
>gf hates cons and complained the whole time with use last time she went
>now she's demanding I can't go with my friend anymore
I don't get it. She knew that I was in to this stuff since the beginning. I really don't want to lose my last old con friend. She's one of the coolest people and is really good cosplaying.

>>10073903
You don't get why your gf doesn't like you spending time alone with another girl?

>>10073914
Poor sap is probably under the illusion that his gf isn't a rabidly jealous cow

>>10071464
I should hopefully have mine assembled in time.
It is all stuff bought from random retailers to make a cosplay since it'd be my first time cosplaying, but I am excited to wear it at katsucon.

It isn't quite 100% perfect but it'll at least be good enough if I can't find the perfect jacket for it.

>>10073903
just say your friend is a lesbo

>>10072049
Relatable.

>>10073903
Dump her ass

>went to con past weekend, roomed with friend and his crew
>want to ask one of the girls that was a part of that crew out
>she said multiple times during the weekend we should hang out since I live fairly close
>slept in the same bed over the weekend but didn't really talk flirty or anything, just had a fun time
>she did take my hand and put it on her tit and let me peek down her shirt after I said "those aren't Ds", she was braless.
Help

>>10073930
Ask her out sooner rather than later. You're losing steam every moment that passes.

My life is shit. I'm pretty sure I will never enjoy wearing lolita in my life again. I just want to get rid of everything. But my wardrobe is huge and I don't have the energy/motivation to sell shit online. I wish I could just give my stuff away to my fellow seagulls so I can have my peace.

>>10073935
Did.. Something happen?? Spill

>>10073940
I lost my job and my father died last month. I'm also pretty sure my bf is seeing another girl, he didn't want any sex with me for 6 months, which is not normal for him. I'm also socially isolated as my only friends are my siblings. There is not much left to enjoy in my life and I don't know how to ever recover. I'm happy if I find more than 2 hrs sleep at night. Lolita just makes me feel sick. Why should I bother with it. idk but It feels like the end to me.

sorry for blog post btw

>>10073459
I wish I was someone's con crush. I think i'm too young looking for most girls though.

>>10073903
Date your cosplay friend
both problems solved

Last year I was supposed to go to a con with my boyfriend for my birthday, and we ended up not being able to because of him (long story).

This year I really want to go to make up for it. I wanted to do a couples cosplay, so I ask my boyfriend in advance so we could get everything we needed. I also asked if it could be just us since he has roommates and we don't get to do a lot of things together, and he said it sounded great. Then we hang out with his friend, and he mentions it to him, and his friend asks if he can tag along.

Without even hesitating my boyfriend says sure. Now after we left his friends, I reminded him that I thought it was going to be just us, and he apologized and said he forgot. I didn't want to be rude and uninvite his friend (he's been going through a really rough time and doesn't get out much), so I said I was ok with him coming as long as we could still do a couples cosplay, and he agrees.

Next time we hang out with his friend , his friend talks about wanting to cosplay, and before I even get a chance to speak up, they're talking about cosplays they want to do and how they should do one together and then they start making plans on doing one together. I keep trying to say me and him were going to do a couples cosplay but I couldn't really with how they were talking. Buy the end the friend had already ordered the costume he was going to wear online.

We leave his friends place again, and I'm very upset. I tell my boyfriend that I really didn't like the fact that he basically ignored that we were supposed to be cosplaying together, and didn't even ask when he knows I really wanted to, and he keeps saying that he's sorry and he forgot, even though I've been constantly reminding him since what happened before .

Now I don't know what to do, they've already agreed on who they're going to be, and at this point I don't even want to go. I feel stupid and upset and I don't know what to do.

>>10073971
>I feel stupid and upset and I don't know what to do.
Get a new boyfriend, i.e. me

>>10073931
I was actually planning on seeing if shes up to chill next saturday on this upcoming saturday.

Also don't really want to make things awkward since I still want to be around my initial friend, and he's around his group a lo so I'm kind of conflicted on if I even want to pursue romantically.

>>10073971
Tell him you're not going with him unless he communicates to his friend that he already made plans with you. Make him realize he's being a fucking idiot. If this "I forgot" excuse is a regular thing, he needs to work on it. I've seen couple break up over that shit.

I've grown out my hair to almost waist length and cut it appropriately for lolita but I feel like no matter what I do, I'll never look as good as the girls who wear wigs. Part of it is that my hair is thick, poofy and hard to wrangle into a pretty shape, but also even if I do manage to style it well every coord is limited by its colour and texture. I could just wear wigs like the rest of my comm but I think I'm doing something wrong when I wear them. They always look ugly and unreal on me, and they're so uncomfortable and impractical.

>>10073978
Lol, I appreciate the offer, bit I'm ok ^^

>>10073987
I know I need to talk to him, but I just don't know how to do it without coming off unreasonable or like a spoiled brat. Especially after his friend has already ordered his costume and everything. Do you maybe have some advice on what to say? Or does this sound okay

"I know you're friends really excited and want to cosplay with you, but part of this whole thing was about us getting to do something as a couple, and you promised that we would cosplay together. And if your friend is going to come along, I'd at least want to be able to cosplay with you. It'd be very akward for me to be a cosplaying alone or being a third wheel, especially since this was my idea, and it's to make up for what happened last year"

I feel like it wouldn't have been so bad but they picked characters that are hard to do as three people (his friend is gonna be Sasuke while my boyfriend wants to be itachi and even if they switched I hate Sasuke and almost everyone associated with him).

>>10074014
>my boyfriend wants to be itachi
I would have broken up with him on the spot.

>>10074017
That's fair lol

>>10074020
To answer your question the statement is fine except for the "and it's to make up for what happened last year". Knowing guys they would call that unfair to keep bringing up the past as a manipulation tactic. Everything else is about recent events. If he really felt bad about what he did last year you wouldn't need to remind him.

My bf is getting into lolita fashion. I picked up the mail today and saw a package addressed to him from an e-famous lolita I know. I didn't order anything from her and there isn't a dream dress on my list that she recently sold. The dress isn't my type either. So I'm sitting here waiting from my bf to come home from work today to explain this purchase.

>>10073979
Could always talk to your bud and see if that's something he'd be okay with.

It sounds like she's interested in you at least to some degree.

>>10074022
Get fucked.
You don't open other people's mail. He probably wanted to surprise you and just missed the mark. But really, fuck you for tearing into the package like some deranged toddler.

>>10074022

hey boyfriend if you're here, some advice

dump her ass.

>>10074024
Nayrt but my boyfriend and I open each other's packages all the time, except when we explicitly tell each other not to beforehand or during birthday/Christmas time. It's not that deep.

>>10074024
I haven't opened the package. I checked online for the dress that was sold.

>>10074027
That's still not respecting his privacy.

>>10074029
how is a public online purchase private at all? have you ever had an SO?

and why would this even warrant any privacy, do you think wearing lolita is something to be ashamed of?

>>10074026
Mail is property, and there were laws against this.

But you don't sound like the kind of cunt who would care. I'm the kind of dry cunt who gets wet when refreshing my tracking, quivers as I get my hands on a package, straight up ORGASM when I open and reveal my goods inside.

Sure, that was all filthy sexual hyperbole, but I value my personal happiness. It's not that deep, unlike that sweet symbiosis you and your boyfriend are having which will leave you broken after the divorce/breakup because you got into a stupid fight about touching his stuff. Please separate yourselves so that you both can breathe before you drown in the simple mistake "I forgot to tell you I was ordering X which I intended to hide from you either way." Be people, not a couple. The opposite of love is individualism and right now you don't have the right balance.

>>10074021
I get what you mean, I'll probably phrase it differently. I just put it that way cause he does feel bad about what happened last year, and he constantly talks about needing to make it up to me.I had also brought up what happen when I first suggested the convention, I must've not mentioned that part in my post.

>>10074027
Anal-about-mail-anon here.
Understandable, have a nice day.

>>10074033
Yikes anon, who hurt you? Sorry that happened to you but it's not a problem for us. We're different people with different interests, but we don't hide anything from each other because we love and trust each other.
>inb4 you shouldn't trust him he's keeping secrets from you

>>10074036
My parents, who else?

>>10073930
Anon she put your hand on her boob of her own free will. Ask her out right the fuck now or I'm going to drive to your house and punch you

>>10074039
I don't think that means as much as you think it does.

>>10073914
Because they seem to get along really well when I see them interact.
>>10073917
She's not the jealous type. I don't see why she would be either. It's not like we're sleeping in the same bed or room.
>>10073925
>>10073929
>>10073967
Very funny.

tfw the hottest girl in your sister's comm gets a sex change and grows a nicer beard than you

>>10073618
Same, especially in lolita. I usually get along with the nerdy girls and those that got into it through other subcultures like goth or even historical fashion and they're generally cool and understanding of most 'nerdy' or 'alternative' interests.

But then there's the type that aren't even open to liking 'mainstream' things like marvel or pokemon once you're past the age of 13, let alone seriously engaging in stuff like anime or games. They just have this bitchy aura that they're above it or it's childish or something. It's fine to not like those things and just enjoy the pretty dresses, but I always just feel like I have nothing to talk about with lolitas who have absolutely zero nerdy or weeby interests and don't even attempt to understand why others would like it.

Cosplay is kind of different since it's inherently nerdy. Any cosplayer worth their salt would at least be knowledgeable about what they're cosplaying which is usually a decent starting point to connect over.

Everyone I’ve tried dating a gull this holiday season and it really was disappointing.
>All she wanted was sex
>wouldn’t message me unless wanted to get lewd
>always made the excuse that one day we will have time to actually do things
>conversations feel one sided and forced not even having a good time
>literally waiting weeks on end to get one worded replies
>never wanted to talk about cosplay or cons
>literally never mentioned what she was working on after the first day

I don’t think I want to try to date a gull anymore, I don’t even think she was actually into cosplay/Lolita

>>10074124
This sounds like long-distance. If it was, you should have known what you were getting into before it started.
Also you can't generalize every person on this board. I think we all know how large the spectrum is on this board for weird people to normal people.

>>10074124
Girls aren't as good at LTRs as guys are. Speaking as a girl. Dudes put their all into LTRs.

>>10074126
>>10074129
I probably expected too much from this, though most of my experiences with LDRs have been rather tame and nice. I just feel like if you are willing to go out of your way to ask someone to commit to a relationship maybe there should be a little more communication. I’m not saying you should force yourself to go all out and change your life style for it but the little things go a long way. The point I’m trying to get across is that I want to spend more time with the person I like but if they don’t want that then what’s the point of it.

>>10073864
Yeah, but she doesn't take orders under 10000 yen anymore.

>>10074126
Implying that every person on this board isn’t samefagging

>At con with younger friend, it’s his first time in cosplay and he’s enjoying it
>He’s getting pics from people here and there
>He see’s a booth babe cosplaying as tsuyu from my hero
>He wants a pic with her
>As I goes to ask for a pic and gets a pose she says to his “It’s okay to touch my butt!”
>He didn’t but had the most confused look on his face
>We leave and go on to enjoy the con
He still wonders why she was okay with wanting him to do that. And yes he is underage.

>>10074166
I'm confused reading this and I'm far from underage. Why would she think that's appropriate?

>implying a kid wouldn't want to touch butts

Get a load of these gulls.

>tfw really cute shoes that might go well with a lot of my stuff
> liz lisa
> dat “sexually active” girl aesthetic
> but these are so cute
> still weird to add those to my asexual lolita bubble

tl;dr: teal HL struggle vol.2

>>10074205
>dat “sexually active” girl aesthetic

That's bad?

>>10074206
Yes? Obviously?

>>10074205
lolitas don't fuck?

>>10074205
There's nothing inherently sexual about shoes, and Liz Lisa tends to be a lot cuter in general compared to other gyaru brands. I don't see what the problem is, if the shoes fit in with your style then just get them.

>all this sex negativity and trying to be socially acceptable WHILE wearing lolita.

>>10074213
Don’t be gross. It’s just as fetishistic to get hung up about sexual purity as it is to obsess about sexual activity. Lolitas can fuck whoever they want, and their shoes have nothing to do with it.

>>10074205
> teal HL struggle

Just fyi she's getting Misty Sky

>>10074265
>dat “sexually active” girl aesthetic
>aesthetic
Did you not understand what anon was saying here?

Who else here /nevernude/?
>tired of "curious" normies and stupid children lifting my skirts
>tired of con creeps doing the same
>now wearing tights under bloomers daily
>wearing tights even under otks (most dresses hit me below the knee)
>no one has ever caught so much as a sliver of thigh skin on me since

I highly recommend living defensively, for anyone else living in highly populated southern towns

>>10073575
He'll be fine on his own. This "they can't make it on their own" mentality traps a lot of people, but you'll be surprised in how much if a motivator it is to be dropped on your ass and lose support. He'll be forced to adapt or die, and guess what choice js biologically engrained in our genetics as human beings?

He'll be fine. He'll probably have a bumpy start at first, and he'll reach out to you for help out of habit and his reliance on you, but leaving him on his own will be better for both of you.

>that awkward moment when you realize you are the only cosplayer in your area and fandom who literally goes with their dad, and is the only single guy
>All girls I eventually successfully seduce within the cosplay fandom are more crazy and problematic than me
>the others disregard my flirts because a ton more guys do that to them

Reposting because I am now ashamed that I did a thread because of that.
God, and done think I would be a great 501st Garrison Commander.

I really wish my friends would start committing to which cons they want to do this year. Every time I ask, it's just "I need more time to think about it." Yeah, okay, but give me ONE. Tell me one you want to do for sure so I can at least book some time off, book a flight, get a cosplay prepared, ANYTHING.

>>10071527
Why are people on cgl afraid to say nigger

>>10071894
Read "the charisma myth." I met Charls Carrol in Boston three years ago and he recommended that book to me. Needless to say it changed my life.

>>10074314
Reddit and tumblr.

Not really cgl-related except the fact that my friend is a cosplayer and I’m a lolita, but it has nothing to do with I’m going to rant about at all

>November, decides to celebrate my birthday at a friend’s place
>Invites only my closest friends and a couple of others that had been active in my life the last couple of months in one way or other + their partners
>One friend doesn’t really get along with the girl I’m holding the party at so I decided to talk to her in person first so she knows I do take her feelings into consideration
>Explain to her that I fully understand if she feels that she would be put in an uncomfortable situation, and that it is okay if she doesn’t want to go but that she is very welcome if she wants to come and that it would make me very happy (the other girl didn’t mind at all and is very willing to sort things out)
>She swears up and down that she is absolutely going, and was quite adamant about it
>I believe her and get really excited about the possibility of holding parties with all my friends under the same roof without having to bend over backwards to solve the problem of people not getting along
>The day comes
>She doesn’t show up, doesn’t say anything and doesn’t answer my messages
>First I get worried that something happened and then slowly realised that she decided to just skip without saying anything
>Tell her the day after how that I was very hurt by this and it felt that she didn’t show me the same respect I had shown her by doing that (with a few not very well used words I admit, I didn’t cuss at her but since I was still upset I came off as kinda guilt tripping)
>She at first throw a fit, that I kinda deserved because of how I worded myself like an idiot but then admits she realise think my BIRTHDAY was such a big deal for me
>We talk things out, she apologise for hurting me and I apologised for how I reacted and everything seemed fine
>Fast forward to now

>>10074314
Gulls, I have come to say the N-Word.

>>10074331
>Been trying to get in touch with her for two months now
>Complete radio silence
>See that she is active on social media so I know she’s okay (or seems to be anyway)
>I’m starting to suspect that she is ignoring me

Honestly, idk what I would do if she is actually actively ignoring me. She is a close friend, or at least I thought she was. I don’t regret telling her how I feel when I was hurt, but I don’t know if this is going to work if she is going to do this the moment I tell her off. I know this is seems like a stupid and childish thing to get upset about to some, but my birthday is a sensitive topic for private reasons (something I’ve been very open with to my close friend so there is no way she wasn’t aware) and I hate it when people break promises, especially ones they themselves pushed without me asking (like my friend did)

>>10074331
>>10074335
I'm glad she was able to make it out of that friendship intact. Good on her.

Since the theme is relationship goals:

Star Wars cosplay couple. Any pairing. I just wanted to have a relationship where both of us look out for cons to go and build costumes together.

>>10073935
>>10073957
I'm sorry this happened to you, anon. I'll take your wardrobe if you want, can probably pay too. I'm also happy to hold it and wear it until you want it back. If you do decide to get rid of it all though, make sure you're genuinely doing it because it's time or you need a break, don't do it to hurt yourself even more after you've been through so much. I felt like you do when I was very depressed and now three years later I'm happy I kept it in the end. Have you gone to grief counseling or talked to a professional about what you're feeling at all?

>>10074340
What, even Finn and Rose?

>>10074339
...why? Because I was honest about feeling hurt? This is the first and only time I have told her that I felt hurt about a situation and wanted an apology. I even apologized myself for how expressed myself.

>>10074345
You’d have to find a whole black guy for that

>>10074340
do han solo and chewie

>>10074351
That’s cute, I wouldn’t mind doing a bro cosplay of that

>>10074345
Yes.
Rose is cute as fuck.
I'm a skinnyfat Italo-american. As much as I identify with Finn (aka did something all his life,is thrown in a different reality and deals with that awkwardly), that might not work out.

>>10074345
Finn and Poe is better than Finn and Rose, they just have way more chemistry

>>10074345
I would like to try to be someone’s Finn but where to find a brunette white girl to match with me might be a bit difficult. You’d be surprised how many people don’t want to cos that character cuz they think she’s boring. But hey if you need a black guy for any cos I’m your guy

>>10074364
Holy shit I was thinking abut Rey this entire time

>>10074364
Rose is Asian thooo

>>10074366
I know I was just thinking about rey, it would be rather hard for me to find an asian girl willing to cos rose with me but that sounds fun desu

>>10074364
I feel your pain bro. I hope you find someone. I tend to cosplay generic characters - not named ones like Finn.

But I think there is someone out there who will be your Rose for sure!

You have more chances than me. I look autistic and boring as fuck.

>>10074373
Thanks man and don’t be too hard on yourself, the fact we have darker skin gives us a more creative swing on some characters. I believe you can really make something spectacular if you think about it

>>10074375
I already do - I'm one of the tallest Jawa cosplayers in the world, I believe. People around me enjoy my company and what I do, but damn self esteem sabotages it all.

If anything you got the whole "blacked" meme potential, lol.

As for me, well, I guess I'll need to be patient. Is all.

>>10074378
I'm glad, patience is all we can have. Patience and enjoying our time cosplaying.

I can't wait til my next con It's gonna be great

>>10074369
I'm Asian and chubby like her and I'd be so down. Where are you?

>>10074388
I'm on the east coast anon, So unless you want to plan this out for the long con, I wouldn't bother

>>10074272
Obviously I get the weird thing she’s trying to say but that doesn’t make it less weird, especially applied to shoes.
Lolita is modest but it’s not inherently a “sexually inactive” aesthetic, wtf

>>10074385
I complain with my belly full go be honest. I have 4 costumes that people enjoy. Just a matter of time until you get your Rose!
With actual awkwardness because 4chan user.

>>10074409
Yeah but I mean 4chan isn’t so bad, we are just anons complaining about the little things in life, I’m sure my rose will get here in time I just have to wait

>>10074388
Excuse me ma'am, where are you located?

>>10074411
Meanwhile bask in the glory of blacked memes. If the girl is a shitpost Lord she'll fall for it.
I mean. I would. I'm bisexual. Lol.

>>10074396
>>10074416
Aw, I'm in Germany... I'm sorry. But I fully belive anon's Rose will come someday, even if I can't be her!

>>10074416
Don't get me wrong lad, I would love to have a lovely partner to enjoy cosplay and the explicit joys in life but man am I just too tired for it. I'm sure she's not a shitpost but I rather work on my costumes and make more friends.

>>10074418
>>10074416
You both are good people, I would love to be both of your friends! If you are willing

>>10073931
>>10074023
>asked to chill
>"okay! I'll see who else is free"
O-okay
Still will have fun though, the whole & weekend crew was fun as fuck.
Also friend isn't interested in her as he and his gf have been madly in love for quite a while.

>>10074039
This >>10074041
At the time I didn't really think much of it since it was just a casual passing thing during a drunk conversation before playing DDR. Only mentioned it in case that might have been considered something.

>>10074430
This is why you should have asked her out on a date. You've lost already.

>>10074418
>>10074416
Anons would you guys want to hang out? Online I mean

>>10074431
Fuck why is this so hard

>>10074418
You'll have your Finn too someday! We'll all make it, Zyzz said.

>>10074423
Oh I would love to. What is your preferred method of contact?

>>10074420
I understand. Just keep going then. I pursue this because I have wasted too much time not caring about it.

>>10074434
I would! Jawa Anon here.

>>10074437
Im on discord so if you have a throwaway i'll add both of you

>>10074440
Alice, the armor girl#5462

That's my throwaway discord

>>10074445
added

>>10073575
DAMN I WANT A LOLITA DRESSING WIFE

>>10073575
You don't have a partner. You have a child, whether you wanted one or not.

>>10074339
nayrt, but you deserve no friends in your life for being a terrible human.

I wonder where rose anon went