/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10621648

Lolita helped me lose weight, improve my appearance overall etc, but most of all the "lolita lifestyle" I adopted has had a huge impact on my life.

A big part of my beginnings in Lolita was discovering The Princess Portal many years ago. I know a lot of people have various opinions of it, and that's completely fine. Looking back, a lot of the stuff is maybe silly compared to how we view the fashion now, but it inspired me hugely. I started to feel like it was worth being good to myself, treating myself special, like a "princess", whatever that may mean to anyone.
I don't live surrounded by fresh flowers and porcelain dolls, but I started to really care about myself. I made time to do nice things. I was a loner so I'd often feel like complete shit because I didn't have friends to do things with, so I started doing things on my own instead of wishing and upsetting myself. I plucked up the courage to go to cool museum exhibits, the cinema, shopping, all alone. It was liberating.
I'd take time once a week to wear something nice, make a pot of tea, have it from a nice teacup, and have a dainty breakfast or lunch. I know it sounds silly, but I'd never done anything like that for myself before. I never thought it was worth the effort. It made me feel really special.
It wasn't all rainbows, I still suffered from anxiety and depression and couldn't always do nice things, but it broke the clouds a little, just enough.

I just started willing myself to do nice things for myself. I'm not saying I'd still be helplessly depressed if I'd never found the fashion, but it definitely helped.

This was all before joining a community, and since I joined a community it's just gotten better and better. I've made so many friends who I never would've met otherwise, casual friends and close, lifelong friends. They are some of the greatest gifts this fashion could ever have given me.

>>9435566

>>9435572
Are you in London? Because I've genuinely never met anyone with a drier or washer-drier in their house or flat, I have one elderly relative who has one for convenience and that's it.

>>9204061