/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I want a weeb cosplaying bf but it seems like the only way to find other gay/bi cosplayers is by diving into a con/local comm's 'LGBT community', which is either full of really sexually charged people or people who see being LGBT as their hobby and define themselves by it, neither of which is me. Not only that, the groups tend to basically be glorified dating sites which I really don't like either.

It doesn't help that on top of that obstacle I have a bunch of other pre-requisites too, they're not shallow or too picky but I realize I'm chasing unicorns.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation and found success outside of specific LGBT groups? Maybe by looking for particular series or types of cosplayer? I know a lot of Lesbians seem to gravitate around Lolita for example and Homestuck is trans* central if you're FTM, but I don't think there's anything for kawaii boys, BL cosplayers are almost exclusively women.