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33 years old. Have kind of ok desk job. Make $75k. Not a lot of savings.

Had really serious girlfriend who wanted to marry me. She was in med school. She is now a doctor. She’s younger than me. I broke up with her. She is now dating another doctor who comes from wealth. They will be a mega power couple and get married. I will just be the guy with the 401k.

I am lucky cause I’m good looking, even for 33. I get all kinds of women. Many very attractive. My friends are married and I am doing the single bachelor thing at this relatively advanced age. Same thing I did in my 20’s before meeting my ex girlfriend. I also get to travel and do cool stuff. Take hot women around the country. I work remotely.

She used to tell me to not worry about not having a big career like they guys in med school with her. She made them seem like incel dorks who aren’t that happy. I met them at med school parties and they seemed to be just that.

I tell myself I’m winning and not losing. Am I just coping?

>> No.54218232

>>54218139
Why you break up? Do you still miss her? 75 usd/yr is actually really hard to make. You didnt want to put up with commitment to the woman you loved but choose to commit your every waking monent to a desk job ?

>> No.54218269

Don't waste your limited time. You're 33 time to get a grip

>> No.54218284

>>54218139
Men are fine as they age, you're not a roastie so you'll be ok.
Wait, you're not a roastie right?

>> No.54218319

You're coping, go find someone who you can trust

>> No.54218404

At 33 I had three kids. I got divorced and now I'm going to have more.

I'm not sure what you're waiting for but you don't want to be having kids in your mid 40s, get started

>> No.54218465

>>54218139
You could have all your saving in Credit suisse AT-1 bonds!

>> No.54218480

>>54218404
>3 kids at 33
>divorced
>having even MORE kids

Lmao wtf is wrong with you mean, learn to fucking pull out

>> No.54218495
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>>54218139
SOCIETAL COLLAPSE INCOMING!!!

>> No.54218501

>>54218480
The whole point of collecting power and money in life is to maximize your genetic potential, anon. Don't lose sight of the bigger picture.

>> No.54218736

>>54218139
Meh, you’re average, like most people. Just an average life.

>> No.54218832

>>54218139
Supposedly lucked on the genetic lottery, had about the highest tier work ethic/intelligence gf in the normie sphere you could attain, and rejected HER proposal to ride the cunt carousel. All I hear is how shallow women are, but I know WAY more men like you who never grow the fuck up and can't "settle" down. She's with someone who is on par with her now and probably makes 3 times as much.

You're winning as much as you are satisfied with your decision.
You're 33 and redditposting on 4chan.

>> No.54219265

>>54218832
One thing I’m trying to figure out is if it is too late to get another really high quality girlfriend who is wife material.

Since I got lucky with looks, I am still getting tons of dates with women. I recently quit drinking and started working out which is enhancing that ability. But since I’m not drinking, I’ve been using dating apps more lately.

Every now and then there will be a diamond in the rough seeming one. For example, top 30 mba program, has a really good job, and is attractive. But, they are never virgins. And I don’t think I can accept that.

My med school girlfriend was a real virgin before we dated.

So, I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to find one like her again. And now she has a new boyfriend so even if she became single and interested again, she’s ruined. Thoughts?

>> No.54219309

>>54218139
She would have broken up with you sooner or later. Women don't date men who earns less than them, no matter what virtue signalling crap that they spew from their mouth

>> No.54219378

>>54219309
This isn’t a troll. I’m giving you the real info so that you understand for purposes of assessing. Looks wise I am objectively and 8 or maybe even 9 sometimes out of 10. She was about a 6 out of 10. Still attractive, but I had her beat in looks. I think she saw me as a catch in that sense.

We also had a really really really strong connection. I’ve dated a TON of women. And I can’t replicate that connection. It’s not just about the success.

All she wanted was for me to build my life around her and promise to go wherever her residency took her. I kind of look like a model desu. She would always talk about how if we had kids, they would look like models. Other people said the same.

>> No.54219403

>>54219378
This faggot is proof that lookism is the ultimate law. Med school average bitch was willing to be the mother and the income earners so she can date someone that snot ugly like she is

>> No.54219441

>>54218139
ah bro. that 401k is about to go buh bye.
switch over to a gold backed IRA and hit the gym.
you think clown world been cray. well shit hits the fan officially today.

>> No.54219473

>>54219403
For purposes of assessing this properly I want you to understand the true factors here. My ex was NOT ugly. She was a 6 out of 10 in looks. Trust me.

If we’re talking ugly women who are high achievers, that is a super interesting topic. Sometimes they still act like they are super high value in the hierarchy of dating and have really high standards that can’t be easily met. Other times, they are more down to earth and their accomplishments don’t matter because they know they are unattractive.

I’m way above average in looks. I know I’ll get hate for saying that but it’s an objective factor. So, I get dates with all of these women who are high achievers (doctors, mbas) who are at least cute. I just hate that none of them are virgins. My ex was.

>> No.54219614

>>54218501
> making more fentanyl and smartphone addicted retarded tiktok whores is LE MAXIMIZING MY GENETIC POTENTIAL

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54219744

You never actually answered that question: why exactly did you break up with her? What was your thinking and expectations on what would happen after you went single again. I'm actually in the same shoes

>> No.54219988

>>54219744
We had a rough patch but I could have fixed it, I think. I really do think there was a huge window of opportunity for me to repair things. But, I didn’t and I allowed things to slip.

I never cheated on my gf and never would have. Never flirted with other women either. I had situations where hot women were into me but I never gave into temptation during the relationship.

But, there was always a part of me that thought about what it would be like to get all kinds of attractive women and be single. I couldn’t help but notice hot women everywhere (I live in a major city).

So, when things got rough, I let it slip, and eventually, I had a reason to break up with her. But it was extremely difficult for me to do. Career accomplishments aside, she was special to me. She was being selfish and less caring during the rough patch, but I could have saved it.

So, how has it gone? Well, I’m approaching having been in dates with 50 different women. Being single started out not so great. Had a lot of failed attempts to get women. But then, after some months, I wiped off the rust and got the hang of it, and had a lot of fun getting a lot of hot women for a while. I still do actually.

There was 1 year of glory I would say. One of the coolest years of my life. Kind of my “fight club” year. Single, early 30’s, and letting myself live the dream. Got the hot women. Cool perspective on life during that time.

But, now, I find myself looking for someone serious again. And, I realize that it will need to be someone just as good as my ex in all aspects. There are high achieving women who are hotter than my ex. But they aren’t as good as her in my mind.

People like to speak in extremes. But, the truth is that this experience is more mixed in its virtues and losses. If you do what I did you will experience a lot of personal growth. 50 people is a lot to go on dates with. You’ll change as a person. (See continuation below)

>> No.54220014

>>54219988


But, if I had to go one way or the other, I’d say stay with your girlfriend, if you love her. She will be the one you’ll grow old with and who understands you in ways that no one else will. You don’t see it now but it won’t be easy to replicate the connection.

Sure, you can definitely connect with other women and you will appreciate them and grow to like them and maybe care about them. But, it won’t be the same as your girlfriend who you love.

Now don’t think I’m being all mopey guys. Like I said, there is a lot of personal growth you go through when you date that many people. If you put yourself out there and don’t mind being rejected sometimes, then you’ll have a lot of interesting experiences, connections and conversations. Gotta be real independent minded to do it at this age though. A lot of people take the safer route. I now wish I had at times. But then again, being a single bachelor is great when it doesn’t suck

>> No.54220015

I'm looking for work as a discord mod. That's how low I've fallen anon. So you are definitely doing better than I am.

>> No.54220043

>>54218139
Help I'm a 31 year old virgin, send help

>> No.54220081

>>54220015
Just end it.

>> No.54220091

>>54220043
1. Simple 30 minute workout routine (running, push-ups, pull-ups, curls, sit ups) everyday with occasional days off. 2. Eat high protein and lower carbs. Don’t think you have to do it, but bust open the canned tuna, the canned chicken, the steaks and the protein powder. 3. TAKE RISKS and try to ask women for their number or to buy them a drink. If you can master letting yourself be embarrassed and survive it, and keep doing that over and over, you’ll grow. 4. Dating apps. 5. Don’t take women or dates too seriously. 6. Get social with other guys. I don’t care if it’s a god damn church group, chatting with people at the bar, chatting with other guys at the gym, or whatever. Hang out with other guys. It’ll make you realize how much less weird you are than you think. Eventually you’ll be getting laid.

>> No.54220637

>>54220081
I'm too proud to end it anon.

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>>54218139
You are me in an alternate timeline. Been dating a new girl for a year, but I still miss her sometimes. I don't know the answer, been making way more money since if that helps.

>> No.54221651

>>54219988
she would have cheated on you anyways because she out earned you.

>> No.54221686

>>54221651
Too cynical of a view. Not everyone is like that

>> No.54221690

>>54218139
i'm in the same boat. 33 years old, $100k salary. long term gf who is a loser -- i'll probably break up with her. i used to be reasonably good looking then i got fat from stress eating.

funny story, i dropped out of med school because it made it miserable. i could have been one of those "incel dorks who aren't that happy," if i had just stuck it out.

>> No.54222011

>>54218139
>
post pic of yourself. let's see if you are really all that.

>> No.54222043

>>54218139
You're good man. Doctors nowadays are broke losers anyways. You have plenty of time to upgrade.

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>>54218139
Spend more time making money and waste less time with/pursuing women. Lookism only goes so far in your 30s flirting with young 20s. The good looking ones who arent roasties can sense poorfag from 200 yds. Assets attract, you don't have to look much.

>32
>pic rel

>> No.54222611

>>54220014
I haven’t dated anyone since breaking up with my ex
Part of it was I didn’t want to but to be fair I don’t even know how
How to be a womanizer like you
I’m pretty good looking and /fit/ too so I have no problem with getting matches on tinder but I always put the phone down in disgust

>> No.54222817

>gf is very sweet and loving
>doesn't earn much money
>not the best looking I could realistically get
>don't want ugly children but mentally healthy children is more important
What should I do financially speaking?

>> No.54222854

>>54221690
Hey man. I’m really curious about your view. Is anyone in med school really happy? My ex studied all the time but she was extremely goal oriented. Seemed unhappy at times but she always thought it would pay off. Are there guys in med school who actually have a ton of confidence?

I’ve spent my whole life being really social and having all kinds of interesting experiences. So, when I see these med student guys, I felt like on one hand I had them beat in experiences. But then sometimes I wonder if the joke is actually on me.

Here is a thought I’ve been having in single life. Sometimes I wonder if I’m winning the game by being the guy who hooked up with the hot educated women before the doctors/lawyers/successful guys marry them when they’re older.

I really think there’s some truth there. It’s not how life should work out but sometimes it does.

If you spend your whole life having casual relations with women, you become more pessimistic and astute about how women work. It makes you look at the whole thing differently. I think there are some rich guys out there who settle quickly with a high quality woman in their 30’s. What they don’t realize is that she has already been with many men who are lower in the hierarchy.

>> No.54222904

>>54222817
How content do you feel when you are both hanging out on a Wednesday night and just chilling together? If the answer is really content and that you sleep really well and feel a strong connection, maybe work on the relationship.

One you sleep with a lot of hot women it won’t seem as great. Not saying the settle low, but you might not realize what you have. However, being single is quite an adventure; the merits of which I won’t completely denounce!

>> No.54223022

>>54222904
We get along great and I enjoy her company. I'm hesitating to marry her because of my misgivings about looks and money, and the risk that she divorces me. I don't think she would do that but people change.

>> No.54223048

>>54223022
Does she have any future career prospects? Is she motivated to work? Is your financial situation ok?

>> No.54223303

>>54219988
You need to leave the city man. If you’re still bent over this med school girl, your long term options are complete shit. Even if she was a virgin, the only thing she had to offer was debt, stress, and no time to start a family. Move to a cool town, buy a shit house, and start fixing it up.

>> No.54223311

>>54223048
>Does she have any future career prospects?
She's an artist, she makes money but not much. And she's concerned about losing her career to AI.

>Is she motivated to work? Is your financial situation ok?
Yes to both. She's also sensible with money.

>> No.54223412

>>54223303
Problem is that I’ve experimented with going to and living in places where I was isolated. I can’t stand it. I love being around the bustle of the city and other people. Neighbor bumping music at 1 am? All good with me. It’s my personality. It’s where my peace is. I get depressed in isolated areas

>> No.54223420

>>54223311
Hard to say bro. Follow your heart. Hard to find a good woman who will be a good match with you. But don’t get taken advantage of.

>> No.54223453

>>54218139
>makes giant preening cope post i skimmed instead of read
>am i coping

>> No.54223490

>>54223303
shut the fuck up retard

>> No.54223519

>>54219265
I think you're a retard. No, I'm sorry, I'm not being fair. I KNOW you're a retard.

>> No.54223542

>>54223519
Can you elaborate? I’m not following the

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>>54219473
>I just hate that none of them are virgins. My ex was
It will be difficult to get a woman around your age that is virgin. So you need to date a young girl who has 10 years age gap but it will be difficult because of different generation

>> No.54223586

>>54218501
>the purpose of life is to keep the hamster wheel spinning
You're an idiot. Your kids will end up in the same position as you and do nothing with their lives.

>> No.54223627

>>54218139
Pretty much, you have a terrible life.

>> No.54223672

>>54218139
You sound like you’re doing alright. Just keep moving forward.

>> No.54223722

>>54219473
That's almost impossible to find in the 30s range. Even if you did I would have serious reservations because a 30 something yo female virgin should raise multiple red flags. Anon
>>54223585
Is right you need to look for younger. However they won't be paying the bills anytime soon so there's that.

>> No.54223759

>>54218139

Listen to an old man- you better stop dicking around and lock one of these whores down asap. Because I don’t care how good looking you are - you are living on borrowed time. When you get into your 40s the only options you’ll have are used up old hags and sitting alone in silence forever. Don’t waste the short window of opportunity you have left.

>> No.54223858

>>54223303
>leave the city
>have this single mom/town bicycle/fatty instead

>> No.54223875

>>54223420
Heart says marry her, it limits my potential for wealth and handsome children a bit but she'd make a great wife and mother. Thanks for the advice.

>> No.54223950

>>54223586
>Your kids will end up in the same position as you and do nothing with their lives.
If my kids end up like me I would potentially have been 20 to 30 grandchildren to your.. 0-4.
you say I'm doing nothing? I'm replacing social-striving freaks like you

>> No.54223971

>>54223412
You’re just mentally ill then. Best if you don’t bother worrying about the future.

>> No.54224001

>>54223858
archetypal /pol/ poster is a mixed race teenager raised by a single mother in the suburbs. they have no idea what HECKIN BASTE UND RETPILLT™ life is actually life.

>> No.54224053

>>54218404
>>54218501
Why did you get divorced
What are you going to tell your existing children

>> No.54224106

Menbros, I’m turning 31 this year and my gf (28) got into medschool in Chicago. Kind of like OP, I’ve had my share of letting good women go and don’t want to make the same mistake. My gf is pretty, very sweet and loving, but kind of naive and not a great conversationalist. I just don’t feel as “connected” as I would like and it is something I’ve felt with 2 of my exes. I think she would be a great mother and partner but something, maybe it’s intuition, is struggling to feel fully committed. Med school is gonna be an 8+ year journey where I will have to go where she does so it’s a big step. If I choose to do that then I’d assume marriage and kids are in the cards within the next 4 years or so. I don’t really have a desire to be single, I just want to feel secure in the fact that I’m committed to the right girl.

>> No.54224119

>>54219473
Why did you break it off then? You make it sound like you had a pretty good thing going on, why ruin it?

>> No.54224140

>>54224106
She’s not gonna have time for children. Drop her

>> No.54224249

>>54219988

I can tell by the way you type and the fact you're obviously hung up on her that she dumped you

she lost respect and attraction for you while you were dating (various factors but mainly she started noticing your weakness and insecurity), and she started emotionally bonding with the doctor she's currently dating. things didnt "get rough" because you were being cool and aloof -- they "got rough" because she was becoming cold & distant as all women do when they start losing attraction for a man

here's a piece of advice for you. picking up attractive enough girls, even deluding them to sleep with you after a date or two is one thing. getting a genuinely awesome girl (stable, feminine, hot, good career) to actually date you is a completely different skill. you cant bullshit your way into an LTR because women at any level can sense your weakness and insecurity

so stop bitching on here and fix your weakness and insecurity instead of redditposting about your ex that dumped your sorry ass

>> No.54224329

>>54224119
his desire to sow his wild oats is greater than his desire to build something with one person. in this situation, the likelihood of him being able to have his cake and eat it too is very low.

>> No.54224855

>>54224106
>28 and barely got in
Anon she's supposed to be an md working/towards end of residency by this age wtf? Homegirl will be 36 with few productive years by the time she starts earning good money. Not to mention peak fertility years lost in the shuffle as well. Unless you already have the kids I'd say rethink what you want out of marriage here

>> No.54225096

>>54219309
My wife out-earned me like 3-1 for like 10 years.
She’s 5 years older than me and the best thing that ever happened to me in my life.
She was also in some PHD program when I met her and all the dorks there were sniffing around, but the two of us clicked for some reason.
I’m pretty good looking but I bloomed late so I still had that damaged incel mindset but she saw potential in me anyway.
>>54219265
OP, don’t listen to these doomers. Don’t settle.
Find someone better than you who is willing to look past your bull shit and shortcomings due to some ineffable potential they see in you.
I don’t get why you broke up though. It sounds like you had it made.
$75k ain’t shit but with the two of you earning and upgrading your house and improving over time, it adds up.
Our first place was $200k and we could barely afford it. I was making like $12k a year working part time as a student and she was making like $40k.
This was 10 years ago. We now have 4 kids, a house we rent, another we live in that’s worth around $1.7M and last year I finally out-earned her.
Between the both of us we cleared $750k.
The person you marry will make all the difference

>> No.54225172

You seem to be under the illusion that:
A. your happiness will stem from hooking up and being attractive. The truth is in your words, it’s obvious why you’re asking, why you mention your friends and why you mention your ex girlfriend.
B. this is your blog and any of us give a fuck

>> No.54225457

>>54224855
I don’t see the issue, she wants kids too she works with doctors who have had kids in med school or residency. No one is saying it’s easy but it’s not impossible.

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>>54218139
>>54219265
Currently in exactly your position a few years ago. 27 and dating a girl in med school who was a virgin before we met. She’s starting to talk about marriage and I don’t know if I want that. Starting to itch to break up since I think I could do better looks wise, and life at the moment just seems stressful and boring.

Which will I regret more? Breaking up with her or continuing to spend my 20s not living fully and just sort of coasting through an acceptable relationship and an acceptable job?

>> No.54225654

>>54225626
I should add that since I’ve gained some weight I’ve started to get a ton of female attention. Which is also making it tempting to be single.

>> No.54226051

>>54222854
I’ve met people who absolutely love it. Don’t stop talking about it. Spent their free time volunteering in medical situations even after getting into med school.

But most just see it as the most respected and comfortable job you could possibly get, so grind through the boring work to get it.

>> No.54226136

>>54218139
You should have married her. Marry a rich woman, anon. Or you will be miserable.

>> No.54226154

>>54218139
>. She is now dating another doctor who comes from wealth. They will be a mega power couple and get married. I will just be the guy with the 401k.

what you have to do is just stop giving a fuck and wait it out. and keep living your life the same way she kept living hers.

do you care that much about people you knew when you were 10 years and how they're doing in life? do you care if they're dead, doing terrible, doing great, or everything in between. if you haven't seen them in like 20 years? soon you will feel like that about that gf. shes someone you used to know, thats it. good on her for having her life on track. doesn't mean it should distract you or bother you.

go live your life, meet more people. go have more fun. don't post about shit like this on 4chan.

>> No.54226181

>>54218501
Lol at the incel replies to this. You just know it’s by virgin losers who would never reproduce.
I got my first kid on the way, I aim to make as many as possible. I am slowly making her ok with the idea of having a sister wife that I can knock up.

>> No.54226226

>33
You're lucky you're not a woman. You stillhave time but you should really put effort into it. Early thirties men dating early twenties women is still easy enough but it'll get increasingly more difficult as you age further.

>> No.54226270

>>54219309
You don’t know what you’re talking about.

>> No.54226343

>>54226181
>cumming in a pussy is my greatest achievement
it's patently obvious that you were a lifelong virgin until you hit the lottery after three decades of searching by finding a woman who, with great apprehension, allowed you to fuck her hole at lease once. and as a consequence of this unlikely series of events, i have to read your smug faggot ass lightning-in-a-bottle life advice.

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>>54218139
>t. poor 6' 2" chad that gets women
Anon, it could be worse, you could be me who is 34 and worth 5 million and is still a virgin.
At least you have the chance to make it anon, be grateful for what you have.
I have zero chance because if I have money and still can't get laid what's even the point anymore?

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>>54218139
Turning 30 this year. Make a lot of money, no real prospects for a wife right now. I think I'll give it one more year, and then I'll just start looking for good genetic matches (no mental health issues) to start impregnating. Can't wait much longer to start having kids, no matter what.

Libs will of course scream about overpopulation and climate change, but I'm sure most white men will agree with my sentiment.

>> No.54226452

>>54224249
I hear you OP but actually, this situation was different. There was some coldness and distance but I really could have saved it. Not only did she cry and try extensively to save the relationship after I initiated the break up, but for several months after the break up she suggested to me multiple times that maybe we should get back together and really seemed to be trying to convince me of this. But I was the one who chose to continue the broken up status of things.

Also, I don’t want to sound naive. But I’m positive she wasn’t bonding with others during this time. Hence, another reason why she was wife material.

I probably had a good 6 months - year there where I could have mended things during the break up.

>> No.54226598

>>54224249
Please see my response that I just wrote. But I forgot to add… So, I hear what you’re saying about LTR abilities and hooking up abilities being different. But, if you can get the woman who is a high achiever and attractive for hooking up, but you can’t get her for a LTR, but some other sucker can, who cares? I’m not trying to actually say the guy who gets her for LTR is a sucker, but using that term for the sake of the conversation. Isn’t the guy who now has to pay for her, and put up with her, and be subject to her lowered sex drive as she ages the sucker? Because some other guy didn’t have to go through all that and just got the hook up. See what I’m saying?

In my case it was different because ex gf was a virgin. But this is how I’m feeling about all of these non-virgins I’m dating. If I just hook up with them, and they are hot and high achieving, then I’m symbolically winning in my mind. If some other guy did it first then I pay for the woman in a LTR, then I’m losing.

>> No.54226661

There is a banking collapse going on and this faggot wants to have a cope session about being a retard and not being able to evaluate women. OP, I don't know if someone has told you this yet, but kill yourself. Life isn't a video game. You will never find a virgin, high earning, highly attractive woman. You had one more chance at one of those than most people ever get, and you threw it away. You screwed up and took a Unicorn to the glue factory. So shit up this board and distract from the banking collapse, but when you're done seriously consider killing yourself.

>> No.54226677

>>54218139
I'm similar but 36 and making $240k.

I have a gf but thinking of breaking up with her. She makes a similar income to me (both in tech) but we don't have the same interests or lifestyle goals outside of work, and she's also a different race and I don't think I want non-white kids.

I broke up with my last gf who was insane but shared my interests and lifestyle so at least my weekends and holidays I was doing interesting things. Life now is just stale.

>> No.54226786

>>54225172
Actually, as I said before, people can be too extreme in their views. My single life has been a mix of virtues and loss. I am a different person after having gone on dates with nearly 50 women. I have grown so much. When I first got single, I thought I’d just be immediately living the dream. But it took some rejections and time for me to get the hang of single life and figure it out. Eventually, I had one of the coolest years of my life. And my outlook on women and people is so much different now.

But, of course my decisions have come with sadness and regret at times. Its a mixed experience.

>> No.54226962 [DELETED] 

>>54226343
>>54226355
Have you tried lifting weights, running, and socializing with other men? Try it for like a year and I think your chances of getting women will increase significantly.

I know guys who are below average looking with average jobs who are socially connected and have lives. They get pretty attractive women. You can do it.

>> No.54226982

>>54226355
>>54226355
Have you tried lifting weights, running, and socializing with other men? Try it for like a year and I think your chances of getting women will increase significantly.

I know guys who are below average looking with average jobs who are socially connected and have lives. They get pretty attractive women. You can do it.

>> No.54227954

>>54225096
what the hell do the two of you do to make that kind of money anually

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>>54218139
>I tell myself I’m winning and not losing. Am I just coping?
>33 and no offsping
You're coping hard, oldcell. Get a wife. Have kids.

>> No.54229033

>>54227954
Professional larping

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>>54219265
HAHA you ruined the new boyfriend's perfect gf/wife by taking her virginity. That's not a power couple, that's a top tier male cucked by you, a literal faggot!

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master your thoughts and none of this dumb shit matters. you will be free. trust me

hint: this is it here and now. from nothing you can create or be anything. let go of your self-created stories, meaning, and context and watch what happens. always do what you say especially if you dont feel like it and you will have power.

>t. 5' 8 with 5'11 hottie and i cant stand her

>> No.54230698

>>54219265
Holy fuck you actually ruined your life lmao. Watch your pathetic behavior to try and get back with her now. lmao at your life.

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>>54219265
Top 30 MBA program is not a strict enough cutoff. I’ve met people in top 30 MBAs who were drooling retards.

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>>54226982
>Just lift bro
>Just do cardio bro
>Just have a bunch of friends bro
I did all of that, and I am still a single virgin with multiple millions of dollars living on a big property.
Modern sexual dynamics seems to be that if you're a man you either have "it" (ie be over 6 feet tall) or you don't.
Unless they invent the technology to make us all 6 feet tall, this dynamic is not going to change anytime soon.

>> No.54231254

>>54218232
this, OP is like the typical "woman" in life, clinging to looks that are constantly fading. probably fucked up bigtime. maximum 3-4 years before he hits the wall and has nothing

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>>54231220
sounds like you're just a whiney loser m8. i've seen many lads to go SEA and find a wife. as long you're not a broke ass nigger, you'll do well with them

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>>54218284
>Men are fine as they age
hahahahahah COOOOOOOOPPPPEEEE

>> No.54231432

>>54231254
Nah. I’ll still be able to date attractive women in 3-4 years. I’ve known guys in their late 30’s doing fine in the getting women department. My life is by no means ruined. But, I may have a really really really hard time finding a virgin who is attractive, smart and who I can connect with again. Not sure I’ll ever find a replacement for the ex.

>> No.54231507

>>54230117
The new boyfriend is a guy who has had multiple attractive girlfriends in the past. He’s no angel. I actually met him once a long time ago when he had a different girlfriend. I don’t feel like I ruined something for some nice innocent man. He will be ok.

>> No.54231511

>>54225626
Dumping her would ruin her life. Don’t do that, her best years are behind her now. You can’t throw her to the dumpster, that would be selfish. I thought you loved this woman? Take care of her and stop your selfish behaviour. Treat her with the respect that she deserves.

If her looks were a red flag for you you shouldn’t have dated her all these years. That’s destructive behaviour.

>>54225654
You’re getting that attention because you’re not single. Females want what other females have.

>> No.54231621

>>54231511
Females also want what they can’t have. OP here. Trust me as someone who has just gone through it. If you are a single guy and become good at getting women then you’ll be good at getting women. But it could be a difficult road at first. Took me several months of awkward dates and growing a thick skin. Eventually, my instincts got better, and now I get a lot of dates with good looking women. But as I’ve said earlier in this thread, it comes with regret at times. You will have good times and grow too.

>> No.54231741

>>54218232
>75 usd/yr is actually really hard to make
Only if you're a Europoor. Do any full time salary jobs even pay less than $75k in Burgerland?

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>54231621
Can you give some tips anon? 32M here, money, good job, health, house, car, etc I have all that and I'm currently at the awkward dates stage. I have two lined up this week and I massively cringe thinking about it, sometimes I just don't wanna show up but I need the experience, all my life I've been working nonstop and never had time to date, the two GF's I had asked me out themselves so I'm a total date noob. I just want to be better, I look forward to hear some advice from a person that has already walked the path I am at right now.

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>>54231621
>>54233528
Meant to respond to this post.

>> No.54233575

>>54225626
>She’s starting to talk about marriage and I don’t know if I want that. Starting to itch to break up since I think I could do better looks wise, and life at the moment just seems stressful and boring.
If u dont want to, dont. dont listen to >>54231511
Females never settle, neither should Men.

>> No.54233809

Being a man means deciding what you want out of life and then taking it. You sound kind of like a woman in the way you don't even really know what you want and are looking for external validation of your life choices. If you want to be a middle aged bachelor banging a lot of different chicks then keep doing that; if you want a wife and kids then go ahead and choose from one of your several girlfriends you boast of having and make her your wife and get started. What more is there to say

>> No.54234015

>>54233528
Alright, I have your answer because I went about doing it myself after lots of trial and error. Nearly 50 dates. Here are the two components that you need to achieve if you want to get good at getting women: 1. Becoming aloof about women and 2. Developing natural instincts for conversational situations with women.

If you cringe at going on dates because you are so tired of women, then congrats, you’ve already achieved aloofness. If you cringe because you have anxiety, then don’t worry, but you are just getting started and have a long way to go. If it’s because of anxiety and uncertainty about yourself, then the very best thing you can do is force the courage upon yourself, no matter how awkward you feel and go on the dates. 2 dates is an optimistic start but nearly enough. You need like 15-20 different women on first dates to really get the ball rolling and get your mind working out these situations. When I started I was failing a lot. Approaching women and getting rejected or getting their number plus a date and the date going bad. Or sometimes getting a second or third date and it goes bad due to me being awkward. Eventually, after a while you will start having more success because your instincts will change from all those failures. Then you’ll be tired of women and become aloof, and that’s when you’ll get the hottest ones. Don’t try to fake aloofness like some pick up artist incel. Have humility at first and let it come natural over time.

Anyway, even if you’re already aloof, putting yourself out there will help you with conversational skills. It’s not about having a list of things to say necessarily. It’s about your instincts improving.

Once you get a better hang of women and how they work and what you should do, you’ll have the interpersonal instincts and know how to talk to them without trying so hard. Combined with aloofness cause you get too much action and that’s the life of a true successful getter of hot women.

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>>54234015
Thanks anon, much appreciated. I screenshotted your comment and will read it constantly. Some minutes ago I got another date (thanks tinder) I'm eager to finally learn! Let's see how this goes.

>> No.54235134

>>54227954
Staff engineer over at Coinbase
Wife is an Econ professor at a good state university and she does consulting work on the side.

>> No.54235158

>>54235078
Awesome man. If you’re gonna do it then don’t stop until you’ve become a new man and see things differently. With enough effort you can break through and start coming to your own conclusions. Best of luck to you.

>> No.54235166

>>54235134
can I intern for you? I'm a phd student in EE

>> No.54235184

>>54226598

>please read

No, I’m not going to read the ramblings of a loser. I know what you are. The truth of your situation and what really happened came through clear as day in your OP post

You’re single because you got dumped, and every other quality women will do the same the moment they get a whiff of who you really are. Either do the work to not be a shit partner, or you will have a lifetime of looking back on this girl as the best you were able to get (yet still managed to fuck up). You are at a crossroads of either realizing that YOU are the problem and need to work on yourself, or continuing this ridiculous delusional coping behavior until your youth is gone forever

>> No.54235231

>>54235184
Dating dynamics between men and women is a much more complicated reality than you’re making it out to be with this idea of high value women looking for good men. Way more complicated in terms of power dynamics, mate selection, etc… I hate to sound pretentious but if you wake up a bit, you start to become a bit cynical and see things more in terms of how they work. But I appreciate your ideas and will ponder on it.

>> No.54235327

>>54235166
I can only see 2 positions left for our summer internship program and the engineering position is in Singapore.
Where do you live?

>> No.54235899

>>54231220
im a 5'10 alcoholic and ive fucked over 60 women

>> No.54236741

>>54235899
Tell us some pro tips anon.

>> No.54237043

>>54236741
confidence is absolute key. keep momentum up. you gotta remember, women at a bar or wherever arent looking for husband material - they want fun, lots of energy, interesting and got your own plan for the evening. literally just be fun, dont let anything bother you and enjoy it

>> No.54237099

>>54218139
Timing the market is better than staying in the market and giving your gains to your kids. If you sell at 30 you will have enough money for all the chicken tenders you want, did I mention video games with the bros?!??! Matter of fact I just sold

>> No.54237200

>>54218139
Eh sounds like you're doing ok. just ok. question is if it makes you happy. although sounds like doubts creeping up on your back. let's ask a more sensible question - do you actually wanna get married, settle down and potentially have a family? you never seemed to have answered that but expressed doubts in your decision. sounded like the fact that your friends are married and settled unsettles you to a degree? dunno

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>>54225654
I'm 27, stopped talking to a 21 year old who really liked me a few months ago. She was hot and we had really good chemistry. Met working at a restaurant so I knew how she handled herself when shit got stressful. I thought I could do better and waited for her to slip up just once to give me a reason to break it off.

Fast forward a few months and dates later, I regret it so hard. Most women just aren't fun to be around and are an absolute drain. Good luck finding something to relate with eachother on too. I can't stop thinking about how good I had it with her, she's ghosted me since then. I sent her some flowers, but don't expect much from it.

Think long and hard on why you're breaking up with her anon. I just lucked into a good house for starting a family in a smaller town than where we are now. I can't stop thinking about how I should be planning to bring her out there and fuck the shit out of her and starting a family.

>> No.54237336

>>54235231

brother you're a loser, posting here crying about your ex dumping you for a better man. you cannot see the hilarity of someone like yourself trying to give advice on the subject of lasting relationships when you yourself clearly have no real success or experience with

your posts make clear to me you are deeply hurt by being dumped despite your best efforts to misdirect and act like "you could've saved it". it's cope to the extreme. the fact is you are on this forum posting about how you fucked things up and are seeking validation from strangers to feel better about yourself. you want us to pat you on the back as if you're some kind of chad, while someone else is fucking the girl of your dreams because she got sick of your bullshit and found a more stable, mature, and complete guy

you seem to me like a highly insecure person with a fragile ego - coping with your failures and complete inability to hold down a relationship. deep down you know that you are the problem, that women will see through whatever facade you have built if they spend enough time around you. that is your problem. you are not relationship material, and you need to fix your personality flaws and insecurities before you die alone. now fuck off posting this kind of shit in biz

>> No.54237407

>>54237336
No my version of events is true. But I appreciate your ideas. Also, the only LTR advice I’ve given is that there will be regrets if someone in my position makes the choice I’ve made. But as I said, it’s a mixed situation. Had 1 really cool year before it all got shallow. The advice I’ve given has mostly been about getting women and succeeding on dates, as opposed to getting rejected. Due to having gone on dates with nearly 50 women since becoming single, I’ve gained some insight into this topic. People on here are asking about that advice.

I have no reason to lie. I’m not pretending to be king of the world. I’m a guy who makes $75k and is posting on 4chan friend. I didn’t say I had the next big answer about the world economy. I said I dated around quite a bit within a certain demographic, and these were my experiences and wisdom gained. And it’s true!

>> No.54237486

>>54219473
how tall are u op?
im getting arrogant and delusional manlet vibes from you desu.

>> No.54237509

>>54237407

christ you really are insufferable. I can see why she dumped you

any moron can go on dates, as you've found first hand. of all those supposedly hot women you're around, not one has decided you're worthy of dating. wonder why? it's because women's bullshit detectors can smell you from miles away. hell mine is going wild and i've only seen a few posts of yours on a forum

enjoy the single life kiddo. you'll be celebrating hundreds of first dates at this rate by the time you're 40

>> No.54237544

>>54237509
No. Many of them have wanted to be in a relationship and I didn’t want to. At first it was because I wanted to do the single thing but in recent times, as I’ve become open to the idea of a serious relationship again, it has become because I don’t think think they are more compatible than my ex and I still have feelings for her.

>> No.54237621

>>54237544

I’m sure buddy. I can see through the bullshit, so not sure why you’re trying to convince me. Enjoy the single life

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>>54218139
>33 yes old
>75k a year
You're doing better than most anon. At this point it's your own self sabotage that's fucking you over. On the other hand peiople in the medical field tend to be cheaters as they are highly stressed and spend the majority of their day together. You might have dodged a bullet. I know this means nothing but if I reach my 30s and make 75k I'd be proud of myself. Don't be to hard on yourself anon

>> No.54237832

>>54219265
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahhahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahaa

you fucked up big time buddy

>> No.54237847

chat gpt 4 thread don't be fucking gullible replying to chat bots anon

>> No.54237849

>>54218139
>Make $75k
Less than a cop or bartender in a city then? Got it poorfag

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>>54218139
if you are bringing up your ex gf in all of this it's cope otherwise you really wouldn't care enough to mention her in the first place.

I suggest you take therapy to forget and forgive yourself for ruining your perfect chance at a lifelong companion. However, If she didn't fight for you when u tried breaking up with her then you should let it rest and find the one where the idea of breaking up with isn't even on your mind.

I'm 28 and I found this girl who tirelessly fought for me not to lose her when I felt I wasn't " ready" to progress any further than what I had originally planned when going into dating someone, but love happened. Let love happen and forgive yourself and forget about her and what she's doing and focus on yourself.

>> No.54238410

>>54237544
>I don’t think think they are more compatible than my ex and I still have feelings for her.

seek therapy

>> No.54239772

>>54218501
Based

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>>54237043
>just be a court jester bruv

>> No.54239913

>>54221686
>he would have left you anyways he was better looking

>> No.54241522

>>54218139
>They will be a mega power couple

No man outside of a beta bitch aspires to be a part of a "Power Couple". Power couple means power struggle

>> No.54241956

Kek i'm actually just graduating as a doctor and i get a lot of women too. The question i'm wondering is, why are you so hung up on the girl having to be a virgin? Like just why? I get not wanting some chick whose done one night stands as a regular habit for years, but must she have had sex with no men at all before?

>> No.54242078

>>54223412
You’re mentally fucked dude
You must return to monke or you’ll commit suicide before 50

>> No.54242116

>>54218139
I was / am the same as you - 33 years old but still able to pull chicks. When it's easy come easy go like that, you think it will last forever, but our time is limited. I took therapy last year and it really helped.
My last relationship didn't work out because I was choosing the wrong type of women. Now I'm in a fresh relationship and everything is going well, she is 24 and eager for a serious relationship. You need therapy man, you need to break the cycle of comparing to your past, it probably has roots somewhere in your relationship with your mother like it was with me.

>> No.54242375

>>54218139
I'm 25 never had gf, never had friends, never went to highscool spent those 2 years in a mental hospital drugged out of my mind, and 2 more at home to drugged to go to school on anti-psychotics. I've only had two years of college, back in middle school I was a great student and easily got good grades but not learning anything in teenage years fucked me up and now its a struggle to get a bachelors. I will never have a family nd if I ever do get a job in my field I will be far behind everyone else my age. There's nothing I can do now to have a good life the best I can hope for is to not starve on the streets

>> No.54242430

>>54242375
You got schizophrenia, it can fuck you up for life. You are a truly sad case and deserve all the sympathy. Indeed an illness can fuck your life without you having done anything wrong and that is true injustice. All the lazy neets here achieving nothing are disrespectingly spitting on you guys who truly never had a chance.

>> No.54242511

>>54242430
Well they told me it was something like schizoid type 2 or something which I guess is distinct from schizophrenia, but either way I don't really believe in mental illness or if it does exist modern medicine has no good way of identifying it or treating it

>> No.54242583

>>54242511
Well yeah you not being able to notice the symptons of being a shizoid and not believing in it just tells that you are one. I wonder why they treated you with psychosis drugs if you didn't have a psychosis episode.

>> No.54242592

>>54219265
JUSTed

find another virgin gf. They exist but not in bars/dating apps. Just met one myself but she's 10 years younger than me so your time is running out because most americans have an age gap taboo and good luck finding a virgin gf older than 21

your salary sucks

>> No.54242643

>>54242583
They had already been giving me anti-psychotics before they even diagnosed me for about 6 months. Probably would have been embarrassing to say actually you don't need any of this stuff. especially since the medication had pretty bad side efects.

>> No.54243005

>>54242643
>Probably would have been embarrassing to say actually you don't need any of this stuff.

Kek doctors are way too professional to care about stuff like looking "embarrasing." If they don't think the medication is right for an illness, they will stop it.

>> No.54243523

>>54242583
>yes goy, if you don't believe us when we tell you you're a schizo, then that means you're a schizo!

But seriously, schizophrenics know when they are experiencing visual and auditory hallucinations, at least they know part of the time. And a healthy distrust of psychiatry will save your life. I've never met a psychiatrist who wasn't a happy pill pusher with psychopathic delusions of grandeur to boot. They endlessly prescribe pills to otherwise healthy people yet wonder why those people are unwell. Guess it just never occurs to them that it might be the drugs.

>> No.54243605

>>54233809
Underrated

>> No.54243671

>>54243523
>schizophrenics know when they are experiencing visual and auditory hallucinations
Lol you have no idea of the subject. The number one sympton of schizophrenia is that the patients think they are completely fine and believe their delusions. That's just like the most basic symptom.

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>>54218139
I shaved my gooch and it's been itchy for the last month. I think it might be something serious but I do not seem to have any sores, bumps, or even any visible skin irritation.

Any know what might be causing this?

>> No.54243775

>>54222854
i dropped out after like 4 months. i never really talked to my classmates, but i know one of them committed suicide in his 3rd year of med school. i found it very stressful. it's an overwhelming amount of information. you feel like you're drowning 24/7.

if you had fun in life, you probably beat out most med students. my college years were classwork, studying, and working weekends to help pay bills.

>> No.54243855

>>54243005
Some of the weirdest and most offputting people I've ever met were doctors. Med school creates psychopaths

>> No.54244026

>>54242592
Where do you find them? Church? Actually my ex was like 22 almost 23 when I met her but she was actually a virgin, 100% certain. She was a rare case. Spent her whole life studying. Went to some college parties but was mostly a nerd/studier through college.

I think women in their 20’s who are still virgins are often weird. And the older I get, the less I want to deal with someone who lacks life experience. See the dilemma?

So how do you find these non-weird 20-something virgins?

>> No.54244907

>>54223950
Man it's gonna be sooo kino to see your kids producing broken families and ending up spending their time in drug dens because their narcissistic father only cared about how MUCH spawn he created, not HOW they are.

Good for you man. Making antisocial men amd whored out women with your semen. I applaud you sir!!!

>> No.54245343

Better to be poor with kids than rich without. It's something single guys refuse or don't want to believe, but it's true.

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>>54237043
Thanks anon! Blessings.

>> No.54246331

>>54244026
You didn't answer my question, >>54241956
Why the obsession with the girl being a virgin? Your body count must be close to hundred by now, you should know that the girl being a virgin doesn't do anything.

>> No.54248100

>>54246331
My body count is not near 100. It’s is about 25% of that because I do not have sex with about half of the women who have wanted to have sex (meaning they were literally laying there asking me if I have a condom). Not to get too detailed but I’ll make out with them and do other things with them. But, I want to reduce my chances of getting STDs, so I am a little more selective with the risk taking of having sex. However, I still put myself at risk when I do have sex. I recently slept with one who was hot, and my gut instinct told me that she has had a lot of partners. But I did it anyway.

So basically, to answer your question, the idea of another man having ejaculated or placed his penis into/onto my future wife or girlfriend makes me feel bad enough that I wouldn’t want to marry a non-virgin.

I have a personality where I am very inquiring. Of course not on first dates, usually, but after getting to know women I ask them a lot of questions and try to find out who they’ve dated. Some women have talked about dating asshole alpha guys.

Having gone through life being an extremely social, I’ve met tons of people, and along the way tons of assholes, and, not many, but a few enemies.

The idea that a guy who could be my potential future enemy in this world put his penis into my wife is disturbing. It would make me feel like I was losing in life and bullied. It’s a complex for sure.

I don’t think I need to seek therapy for this. I think my outlook is spot on and natural. I don’t want my future wife to have been dominated by another man in bed in the past.

>> No.54248595

>>54248100
I'm not saying you should go to therapy for it, i'm just saying that it's a pretty arbitrary requirement. I personally find many things more important especially in my future wife than if she has had another man's penis inside her, especially considering that i've had sex with multiple other people as well so i know it's not a big deal. Even if she is a virgin, she will have had crushes on men other than you so it's not like she hasn't been psychologically "controlled" by other man in the past. You don't even know what the sex was like and if she truly was "dominated" in bed. The bullying thing is also entirely depends on the point of view, one could see it as you fucking their woman so you're one upping them. To be afraid of "alpha exes" and other men havind dominated the woman + penis in vagoo just seems insecure in general.

>> No.54248626

>>54218480
Lmao thankyou for replying exactly what I was thinking. Jesus this dude is living my fever nightmare.

I'd of an heroed BEFORE the devorce.

>> No.54248659

>>54218139
>33
stopped reading right there. masonic brainwashing thread.

>> No.54248848

>>54248595
It is an insecurity. But it is what it is. It’s the reason that ray jay has a song called “I hit it first”, taunting Kanye about having slept with Kim Kardashian before him.

Males and females are different. In nature, a male can keep spreading his seed, and it’s actually what he’s supposed to do. But females lose value each time they mate with a new partner.

Sex has huge evolutionary components and symbolizes a lot of our competitive instincts.

Women will get dicked down by some badass guy when they are 25. Then, when they’re 40 they will be annoyed with their husband (the man who sacrificed everything for her) for wanting to have sex. I don’t want to be that husband.

>> No.54249304

>>54248848
Man i can't believe you still believe that incel shit after having so much experience of women. As long as the woman doesn't have a baby, in the eyes of evolution she is a virgin. Animals don't actually care if the the female is a virgin, they just kill the female's children from other males. Animals don't know how to body count either, females don't "lose value each time they mate with a new partner lmao. The competition aspect happens as long as there are other males around, not if she has had sex before. She can still cheat on you despite being a virgin. All in all it's a pretty worthless point to get fixated on a woman and if you want for what's best for your future children, you should look how good genes the woman has/how good morals she has

>> No.54249613

>>54249304
Idk man. The idea of some guy having nutted on my wife’s face is just not great. It’s something that I could live with, but I would always know that some other guy did that. His dna, all over my wife.

Quick anecdote: I know a guy who married a really good looking/wealthy woman. She was born wealthy. She’s super feminist. So, she would be open about how she slept with all of these bad ass guys in her youth. You can just tell from talking to her that she was getting banged hard and nutted all over by bad ass guys.

But now, it’s very obvious that she takes monogamy seriously and is committed to her husband. But, she treats him like crap sometimes.

One time in a vegas hotel room where a bunch of people were sleeping, they were falling asleep on a couch, and cuddling. I was sleeping on the floor. I guess he must have felt her up or something (this was his future wife/gf at the time), and she started smacking him really hard and put him in his place. Total mean spirited bitch. Like to the point that it was abusive. This is the man who has given everything for her. But 10 years prior she was getting nutted on by some random guy who doesn’t have to put up with that. Think about it.

I’m not saying all women are abusive feminist bitches like that. But, they definitely get annoyed with their husbands trying to have sex with them later in life at times. Meanwhile that one night 10 years ago they were eager to blow some guy who was a the alpha douche at a house party.

>> No.54249934

>>54249613
>The idea of some guy having nutted on my wife’s face is just not great.

Whatever man, you've fucked other women. Men and women aren't that different in that department, no big deal is she has done the same. She also poops every day, do you think of poop coming out of her asshole every time you fuck her from behind? I get your point but on the other hand it's a really worthless thing to get so fixated on.

On your anecdote, it's completely your own made up bullshit. You don't know if she also treated the other guys she fucked like shit sometimes. You don't know if a woman with big ego would treat her man shit even is she was a virgin before him. Virginity status has nothing to do with the woman having a big ego or treating the guy like shit, that's just a nonsense connection you made up.

>But 10 years prior she was getting nutted on by some random guy who doesn’t have to put up with that. Think about it.

The guy from 10 years ago also isn't getting sex from her anymore or having children with her so i don't see what the point is.

>> No.54250101

>>54249934
I’m not saying that virginity status is connected to how they treat men.

If you date or marry a woman, there is a really good chance that you are going to experience some non-sense from her. I’d be interested to see studies on 40-60 year old men’s experiences with their wives not giving them sex AND being a bitch about it. This excludes other imaginable situations like where she has a medical issue, where she isn’t in the mood but is nice about it, etc.

Then we can go down the rabbit hole with all the other shit that a person will put up with in a relationship as the woman’s value decreases. All the different modes of identity she will go through as she ages.

If I’m gonna put up with some non-sense, and love my wife as she ages and changes over time, then I don’t want some other guy to have been able to have had a one night stand with her 30 years prior when she was horny and in her prime. But hey, that’s just me man. I’m not saying that you can’t have a good life with a healthy and happy relationship. We don’t all think the same.

>> No.54250169

>>54249934
Also, according to her husband, the first time they hooked up was awesome. She was some hot chick he had met at a bar and he was feeling so cool about it. Like damn, I got it!” So, I imagine there are other guys who have had similar experiences.

>> No.54250396

>>54250169
>I imagine there are other guys who have had similar experiences.
Who cares? She dumped them or at least isn't having children with them. You put up with her bad moods because she is supplying a steady flow of sex and children to you, it's just a different situation than receiving sex once from some chick because of a one night stand. But yeah just trying to give my two cents here, and i thought you were needlessly restricting, and even hurting yourself in the search for the best mother for your children by wanting a virgin.

>> No.54250413

>>54218501
this is just a common midwit coping mechanism because of fear of death

>> No.54250424

>>54218139
Kek loser

>> No.54250882
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Just cheat on the side bro and then realize that’s not great either. You got issues you need to resolve just like everyone else. Good luck finding a virgin who also checks other boxes. You’re making yourself miserable and time is running out.

>t. Almost 31 and has had to face a lot of my own bullshit and self created stories

>> No.54251461

>>54219378
I’m also very handsome and my last girlfriend was kind of the same where there was a big attractiveness difference but she treated me very well. The thing I noticed is that having a very handsome man is like checking a box for an ambitious woman. Ultimately, it’s kind of backwards because she’s leading things and it robs of your masculinity and leadership. You’re supposed to be the one leading. I’m sure she was very intelligent and empathetic which made the connection. I don’t know how to tell you how to actually find a good looking woman who you can lead and treats you as well as your last one did, because I haven’t found it yet either, but just sharing my thoughts

>> No.54251567

>>54218139
>She used to tell me to not worry
and you actually believed your women (((friends)))?
Now face your downfall

malay people has a saying
>you can listen to women, but never believe them

>> No.54251663

>>54251461
Just earn more and be smarter than her. That’s how i have a good looking gf that looks up to me. She has dyslexia (doesn’t mean she is stupid, but still) so she dislikes anything book related and has to do shit jobs because of no education, where as i’m a doctor.

>> No.54252437

>>54251663
This chad gets it. Be the prize. Be the dude she wishes she never left/got dumped by because you are better than her ans anything she will ever have.

>> No.54252465

>>54251663
I meant how to meet them

>> No.54252812

>>54252465
Well you can meet women in quite a lot of places.

>> No.54252911

>>54246331
>Why the obsession with the girl being a virgin?
>>54248595
>I personally find many things more important especially in my future wife than if she has had another man's penis inside her
POST TITS YOU FUCKING WHORE

>> No.54253438

>>54252812
My brother in Christ. I’m 6’1, white, sub-model tier looks, and make $280k living in New York City. I’m trying to find a woman that I can marry. This is not helpful advice. WHERE and HOW can I meet a proper woman?

>> No.54254517

>>54218139
You're here forever

>> No.54254551

>>54254517
What does that mean?