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[Anonymous No.18986111]

every week i do the same stupid shit. i get high, i play video games, i'll occasionally do push-ups and crunches, while I find a match so I don't feel like a super piece of shit. but i'm actually fed up with it. i haven't done shit in years, just gone through the motions-- work on the weekends, stress over flippant customers and my short-fused boss then unwind on my days off. i can't do it anymore. i've lost myself. i'm getting older and older and all my ideas- both current and past are starting to absolutely torment me beyond belief. and this week, come monday... i really want to snap this fucking routine and start growing into who I feel destined to become. but how in the ever living fuck do i do it? even as I write this my mind thinks this is a step and i should reward myself with a toke........ FUCK THAT. I need to start now. I literally can't do my job for much longer. another issue is where I am at now and where I want to be seems like a millennia-wide gap, do I just take a leap of faith? do I trust i'll land on my feet, while throwing it all to wind? my parents are so supportive and encouraging but they just don't get it... i don't want to let them down but I also don't think they realize what kind of world I've been growing up in-- a world where the 9-5 soul-crushing career is just one of many paths. and since I can remember, i took their "you can be anything you want" to the penultimate extreme. I want to create a life for myself that I can look back on and not only be proud of but also successful enough that I can pivot to newer ideas down the road. because right now I can't even afford to devote 100% focus to something, with work clawing at my mind every 4 days. Please for the love of fucking god help before I let another 10 years pass me by and I shoot myself. I feel like I'm trying to move a boulder, while wedged in a ditch, flooding with water

[Anonymous No.18986140]

become a farmer and quit dope

[Anonymous No.18986161]

>>18986111
There's no easy way around it, or advice that can "set you on your path", anon. You just gotta do it. No matter how shitty it feels, find what you want, how to get there, and build step by step. Motivation won't get you anywhere, discipline will. Stop arguing why yes or why no. Just do it.

[Anonymous No.18986216]

>>18986111
Imagine being this self-absorbed

[Anonymous No.18986236]

>>18986111

Before worrying about achieving, you first have to cut out all the crap. You need a few days of detox. Go for a bike ride, sit outside and enjoy the sun, meditate, whatever. The most important thing is that you cut out the drugs/sugar/porn/social media/etc. You can never get ahead while your brain is hooked on a medley of addictions. Just spend some time getting normal again and then the pathways to more success will start to reveal themselves.

[Anonymous No.18986467]

>>18986111
Put the bong down. Take long walks. Listen to podcasts or audiobooks for passive knowledge absorption

[Anonymous No.18986512]

>>18986111
You probably already know the answer OP and you're just afraid of what you'll have to sacrifice to make real changes.
Stop smoking weed
Stop coming everyday
Stop playing video games
Those three things I just listed are just worthless dopamine releases with absolutely zero underlying value.
Once you eliminate those meaningless activities, you'll be forced to find some other activities which will hopefully be aligned with your goals and provide value
Dont blame anyone but yourself for the situation you're in. You are in control of your life, but only if you want to be

[Anonymous No.18986565]

>>18986140
lmao this is what i'm doing , came here to make the same post

[Anonymous No.18986818]

>>18986140
become a farmer and grow dope

[Anonymous No.18986997]

Clean your room, bucko.

[Anonymous No.18987013]

>>18986161
>Just do it.
Definitely not looking for the easy way around it. I truly don't mind working as long as I'm working towards something I find meaningful. And working for my bosses dream of a local branded restaurant, isn't cutting it anymore. They took the risk and it made them very successful and wealthy. And having witnessed that experience from the ground up, I feel like it provided me a lot of valuable insight. But where I get hung up is... how to get there. My best bet right now is wedging my goals between my work schedule, which feels like a fucking disservice to my aspirations. Maybe I don't know what I really want. I bounce around between opening my own restaurant(as where my most experience lies), coding a video game(something I am actually passionate about), or writing a screenplay(something that I seem to have a god-given talent for). And if I were to commit towards on those... sure I can start on Step A but what in the fuck is B, C, D, E, F....Z? Either way, it's almost like I understand what you're saying, while simultaneously feeling its completely foreign to me

>>18986236
Definitely trying to do this. Just fixed my bike a few weeks ago, have gone on a few rides since. I don't smoke on the weekends any longer, friday-saturday-sunday(and now most of monday's up till 10-11p) are smoke free. And I hope the pathways to success open up from here but as of right now all I can notice is my memory is sharper by the 3rd day and my dreams are straight up fucking acid trips, which kind of spurs my creativity at the moment

>>18986512
>you're just afraid of what you'll have to sacrifice to make real changes.
yup, pretty much. I've grown very comfortable with the life I have. Job pays really well for minimal work. But it isn't fulfilling. It's legit killing me on one hand, but provides me with enough time to pursue things but also is so stressful that I fret about it during my time off. it's like a catch-22-22-22.

[Anonymous No.18987041]

>>18986111
okay but how big is your link stack

[Anonymous No.18987054]

>>18986111
Dude chill and learn to enjoy little things like food, peace and freedom. Not everyone is destined to something. Literally relax. You arent diying anytime soon. And if so, what? you will be dead you wont care anyway.

[Anonymous No.18987068]

>>18986111
this is the nature of life anon, we all do this, we're all fucked

[Anonymous No.18987082]

>>18987013
I managed restaurants for years because I had no other choice because reasons. I eventually got out of it but the long term stress of running a restaurant can't be healthy for you imo, only do it if you truly love it, otherwise the hit your nervous will take over the long term isn't worth the money.

[Anonymous No.18987104]

>>18986236
This. Start here.

[Anonymous No.18987681]

>>18986111
First of all nice trips. Second I suggest you make a list of sorts that prioritize things most important to you. Once you're solid on your priorities you need goals. Don't get too lofty with them because it's really easy to backslide into shit routines because of overreach and burnout. Make small incremental changes toward your goals and celebrate the small victories because that is what will keep you going. There's no one size fits all life plan so avoid comparing yourself to your peers. You don't know their situations anymore than they know yours. Finally I suggest you segment your vices. Trying to quit outright can be a big obstacle that ultimately leads to failing altogether. Have time to learn, time to exercise, time to work, then reward yourself with your vice. Eventually the dopamine hit from reaching your goals will outshine your substance abuse. If you're agonizing over ethis much it means you're ready to make changes. Start small and grow op, you can absolutely do it

[Anonymous No.18987743]

>>18987082
I started a restaurant a few months ago. How do I keep this shit clean?

[Anonymous No.18987888]

>>18986111
Start a biz fag. I did. You’re just too lazy.

[Anonymous No.18987909]

>>18986111
Stop playing video games and go out instead. If you can't do that, you will just grow old playing video games and achieving nothing.

[Anonymous No.18987968]

>>18986512
Only the coming really needs to stop since that has a direct hormonal effect. The weed and vidya you can save for the weekends/after youve finished all your important shit

[Anonymous No.18987985]

>>18986818
Grow weed but dont smoke jt. The “high” from satisfaction kf growing good shit is just as good as smoking it

[Anonymous No.18988014]

>>18987968

I'd argue weed is the worst of the bunch. Even once a week is going to leave you stupid and slow. You're blasting your dopamine for a few hours of fun in exchange for days of reduced wellbeing and productivity.

[Anonymous No.18988033]

>>18987888
>Just start a biz because I did
Lol. You need money to startup a biz. Not everyone has rich parents.

[Anonymous No.18988056]

>>18988014
>Even once a week is going to leave you stupid and slow.
Imagine being this retarded

[Anonymous No.18988113]

>>18986111
It all starts with a physical routine, second comes eating well. Third, if you want to take the next step, give up weed for 2 months.

If you consistently workout, stretch and roll on a ball, and eat the highest quality foods - you will detox your body and brain and it will push you to do the things you truly want to do.

Running, lifting and mobility will heal your tissues, wake your brain up and enhance your metabolism and natural processes. Your body will clear itself of the bullshit and you will be able to not get stuck in the high and gaming routine. Get some sleep, drink some Kratom instead of weed and then stretch after. Myofascial release on a lacrosse ball, lay yourself over the ball and let it sink in for 2 minutes into the tight disfunctional areas and reconnect you to your body - your brain will also reawaken from doing this.

Go the fuck outside every day, get some sun. Make 2-3 of your workouts 10-20 min high intensity workouts that take you to a dark place and breathing hard - do them in the morning. It will change your day.

Take a cold ass shower instead of coffee. Once your body wakes up out of the video game, weed funk it will be clear again. Doesn’t mean you have to give it up, but you need to reset.

Eat organic, eat bison instead of cow if you can, eat local and wild food from farmers market that has amazing compounds that will invigorate you again.

It doesn’t matter what you want to do, if you take care of your physical nature through working out, eating, and exposure to the elements - you will feel life again flow through you and it will change the way your brain works in the best way.

[Anonymous No.18988350]

>>18986111
I genuinely wish I had an answer for you, bro. For what it's worth, I feel like I'm going through something similar. I'd love to pack up my life and start again somewhere new, but it seems like such an impossible, gargantuan task that I don't even know where to begin.

Let me know if you find out how to take that step.

[Anonymous No.18988528]

>>18988113
Man you took a lot of time to write something out that actually doesn't work. Exercise and eating right will make you "feel" better but it's not going to change anything about how you live your life. You just do the same things except now you're in shape.

[Anonymous No.18988718]

>>18987968
Yeah it's certainly extremist to cut out all 3 simultaneously, but I'd argue that's what is necessary for severe cases such as this one. Because, to someone who is unable to engage in stringent self discipline, one of those 3 listed vices will simply lead to another. It's not because I believe OP doesnt have the willpower. Its simply about rewiring your neural pathways to favor constructive behaviors instead of destructive behaviors. And then once you've learned that these destructive behaviors are exactly that, destructive, you can start to engage in them occasionally with the awareness that they aren't conducive to productivity. Unless, of course, OP is trying to pursue something in the arts, then I'd say go ahead and smoke it up, play video games and coom on your own face because you're going to have to be a sensitive person to channel that artistry. But I'm assuming OP wants to start a business or begin a finance career, in which case you need to learn discipline like the back of your hand.

[Anonymous No.18988728]

>>18986236
This, but you won’t have clarity till a year off weed. I smoked every day for 14 years and finally quit, went through severe psychosis/suicidal depression and only now about a year after do I feel ok with myself. You have to be patient, a therapist told me not to make any serious decisions until a year if sobriety and it’s fucking true. One step at a time. Stop cooming too. I’ve coomed once in four months and feel great. Good luck man.

[Anonymous No.18989060]

>>18988728
Not cooming often enough can cause cancer

[Anonymous No.18989077]

>>18986111
God is the answer. Get dumbbells and go to mass daily. Online counts too.

[Anonymous No.18990397]

>>18986111
ok but how big is your PNK stack?

[Anonymous No.18990598]

>>18988014
Never understand why weed is just presumed to make you stupid. It actually makes me interested in shit and encourages me to study, though without it I do just fine. Why generalize the stereotypical portrayal of weed onto everyone? Furthermore weed = dopamine is a gross generalization too, I think if used in a responsible manner, it is actually productive and promotes well being

[Anonymous No.18990619]

>>18988113
Why does everyone prioritize exercising and eating and shit like that over sleeping? A 8 hour + sleep is vital for productivity for the following day, and it burns a good amount of fat as a bonus

[Anonymous No.18990698]

>>18986111
Checked. Learn to control yourself better. For instance, you could buy Suterusu before it moons and hold any red (minor, imo) ... Be a samurai, senpai.

[Anonymous No.18990724]

>>18986111
saying this unironically and from the bottom of my heart, go to /fit/ and /adv/ but not here. /fit/ knows a lot more than people here and /adv/ will give you better overall advice (and financial advice that isn't shit)

[Anonymous No.18990733]

>>18990619
it's easier to sleep when you're physically tired, and your body heals better during sleep if you have proper nutrition. good sleep is a consequence of good habits elsewhere

[Anonymous No.18990758]

Ha ha ha. You can be anything you want. HA HA HA. Dude. That aspirational shit they feed to kids is responsible for delusions of grandeur and misery from constant unmet expectations and general malaise for the majority of us. I'm not saying it is impossible, but the mental energy and commitment required to be so ruthless with yourself to actually be ANYTHING? The first point is do you have free will? If you are merely a product of your upbringing and environment then maybe you are a series of reactive logic statements and free will is an illusion and thus being anything is impossible?

Maybe you have choice in the moment as long as you have awareness? So if you are now aware of your sense of unhappiness congratulations, you have awareness of your ability to change it and you thus have free will. With this comes responsibilities to yourself the main one of which is acting in ways which are consistent and aligned with achieving your goals. You'll get it wrong, you should learn from this. The only mistake is to not learn from your mistakes.

You should initially reflect upon your goals and assess if they align with your core belief and if they are chosen freely at this moment based on positive motivators.

As in what is success to you? Where does that come from? How do you measure it? Where does that come from?

You are unlikely to be satisfied trying to please an imaginary parent figure from childhood.

[Anonymous No.18990850]

Also OP you talk about your ideas, being what you want to be, growing into what you were destined to become ... what the fuck are you talking about? Art? What objectively is the goal here?

As it stands without further information you sound bored and burnt out by your 9-5. It happens to us especially when we work something for which is alienating to us. If your job seems pointless, if you have no control over it, your direction, no personal investment, no passion, no autonomy then yeah ... it'll fuck your head up.

Also be aware a lot of it is testosterone. Young adults needs to go out into the world and act like they can fuck it to death because that is testosterone. As we age is starts to diminish and we start to feel like this is it, we've peaked, our window is closing, our time is ending, our purpose no longer seems so clear our passions no longer so bright. It is naturally part of the ageing process and the consequence of losing the useful firebrand of youth.

It isn't the end of everything though, it merely represents a developing opportunity for perspective and wisdom. It is no longer enough to do what you were doing, so what are you going to do? Before motivation was a given, now you have to search for it, where is it coming from?

[Anonymous No.18990887]

>>18986111
But everyone told me dude weed lmao was good for me wtf

[yourdad No.18991034]

I was like you man in the room, smoking weed whatever..chased money and fell into depression hell. Eventually, I just wanted to go out and chill..

So I saw decided to become a park ranger.

> I get free housing from the national park service
> I get paid to hike and be outside
> I only work 6 hours a day (they say 8)
> Free car from the government.
> I get 6k for classes personal develop every year
> after taxes and all my other expensive am getting 40k a year and buying houses in salt lake city
> i got 4 houses that provide 4k cash flow every month...

[Anonymous No.18991098]

>>18991034
I heard becoming a park ranger was pretty hard. Do you have any advice for someone trying to get hired?

[Anonymous No.18991331]

Holy shit this thread fucking sucks
Someone shill me the next penny stock that’s going to moon