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MY GF has indicated that she does not want my last name upon marriage. Is this bad? What do? This came out of nowhere

>> No.15167247

>>15167243
>>>/adv/
Fuck off.

>> No.15167255

>>15167247
cmon, I come here for advice cause biz is the highest IQ board

>> No.15167453

she doesn't respect you as the male authority figure you should be
time to lay the law down or abort the whole thing

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>>15167243
>getting married

>> No.15167481
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>>15167255
>biz
>high iq

>> No.15167498

>>15167453
This. If you concede she will end up cheating on you

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>>15167255
>biz is the highest IQ board
ahahahaha, where did you hear that?

>> No.15167693

>>15167243
Whoever has the last name is the boss. If you do the mixing 2 last names together, no man will ever respect you.

>> No.15167716

Dont marry a woman who wont take your last name..Marriage is all about submission, if she's not ready to do that she's not ready for marriage

>> No.15167743

>>15167243
Do it bit make sure you get a good job and make lots of money. Her and Tyrone will need it to fall back on after the divorce.

>> No.15167746

>>15167255
/pol/ is unironically the highest IQ board they just channel their intellectual abilities into schizophrenia and irrational emotions. /pol/ is the congregation of wasted potential sucking in all talent and spewing out wrecks like a siren song.

>> No.15167748

>>15167243
Next thing she'll tell you is she does not want to take your seed upon getting pregnant.

>> No.15167765

The only duty a woman has is to her husband, and the first of these duties is to take the husband's last name. Doesn't sound like a keeper op.

>> No.15167793

She wants half of your money, with no annoying name changes

>> No.15167835

>>15167243
She won't take your last name but she will take your money, lol.

>> No.15167841

>>15167243
Non-meme answer: she's not wife material and doesn't see you as a partner for life. She probably thinks marriage is a discard-at-will compromise and, therefore, so are you. She wants to make things easier for her when the time comes to file for a divorce by avoiding having to go through all the bureaucracy to go back to her maiden name. Time to move on, mate

>> No.15167976

>>15167841
This. Marrying a woman like that is only for cucks.

>> No.15168149

FUCK I DIDNT KNOW IT WAS THIS BAD

Im in love bros.....

>> No.15168175

Yeah, ya dun goof'd
Dump the bitch

>> No.15168197

>>15167243
get her parents to change their last name to yours, that way she inherits it by default and both of you will have the same name

>> No.15168293

>>15167841
This

>> No.15168319

>>15167453
This

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>>15168149
I was too once. Trust me, not worth it. Next thing you know you will wake up with herpes and realize she has been cheating on you with nigs. Then she will take half of everything and her black bf will stay at your home playing 2k while you are working and living with your mom. Dont fuck up.

>> No.15168379

>>15168149
Yeah you're fucked if you go through with this. However, you can't just make a big stink cuz "muh wymyns" bullshit she'll just paint you as some patriarchal troglodyte to your social group. They're fools so they will fall for that gaslight bullshit and you will be the bad guy. If you make an exit, you gotta come up with something else. Remember that.

>> No.15168406

>>15168335
>>15168379
What if I convince her to take my last name? or is it already too late since she has resisted?

>> No.15168442

>>15168406
Too late. If you have to force respect then it was never there in the first place

>> No.15168444

>>15167475
my gf is hot and richer than me. just don't marry poor hot girls

>> No.15168468

>>15168406
You know her better than we do so it might not be too late but if you make her feel "forced" she'll resent you even if she does acquiesce which guarantees contempt. This is the eventual inexorable deathknell of the relationship.
You have maybe a 15% chance of turning it around and to do that you have to make her *want* to take your name. If you pull that off, the rest will fall into place. That ain't gonna be easy.

>> No.15168471

The incel is sure strong in this thread. Who gives a fuck about the last name :/

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>>15168406
WHY doesn't she want your last name?

If she doesn't love you/respect you enough to want to take your last name, I'd be weary about marrying her. HOWEVER, if there's a GOOD REASON she doesn't want it (example: your last name is Penismeyer and she's a pediatrician or something) then I'd at least consider where she's coming from.

>> No.15168482

>>15168149
Marry her dude. It will most likely work out. You will be happy. If not then you get to have another life experience where you struggle with dealing with that loss and rejection and stress of divorce. You take the next ultimate black pill and really feel your feelings. Do mushrooms and ask yourself who you are. Get in shape and learn a programming language. Your LINK gains will keep growing. Your life is yours dude and you can live it or you can keep waiting. Waiting waiting for everything to be correct and safe to be lived. Fuck that. Marry her and bury your face in her ass and inhale like it’s the only air left to breathe.

>> No.15168506

>>15168471
Tits/benis or gtfo

>> No.15168514

>>15167243
>MY GF has indicated that she does not want my last name upon marriage.
Easier to get a divorce that way, less fees. Do with this info what you will.

>> No.15168524

>>15168406
Don't worry about her taking your last name. Marry her. These people dont even know what it means to say you "be fucked". how? Go live your life. Enjoy this love. Get married. Fuck her, watch movies together, eat together, start a life. If she leaves, if she cheats (both very unlikely btw) fuck it. You are man enough to be able to handle that. Stop being afraid of a possible potential maybe someday a divorce wah. Stop being afraid of LIFE.

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>>15168471
Going to trigger a lot of people, but there's a reason behind it - when you get married, you give up a lot of your personal life to your partner. You're basically signing up for a lifetime with the other person. Giving up your last name is a traditional way of dedicating yourself to your husband, tells the world "I love this guy and he's my husband", it's like putting a ring on your name. The husband gives up his finances etc. to you, he's signing up to be with you forever.

It's just a sign of love and respect, and if a woman doesn't feel comfortable with it, it's a red flag that she 1) isn't completely dedicated to the relationship or 2) her beliefs don't exactly align with her husband's. Of course it's easy to dismiss it as "who cares?", but in reality it's a lot deeper than that

>> No.15168567

>>15168468
>>15168482
Ok so the reality is her main concern is that she is concerned about her professional name, journal publications etc. Wants to keep a separate identity for academic research and career

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>>15168524
agreed on living your life, but OP should also trust his instincts. Never let pressure from her or society make your decision for you. If OP is uncomfortable with his wife not wanting to take his name, and if OP gets an instinctive bad-feeling about her not wanting to take his name, then he needs to seriously consider that and not rush into a half-hearted marriage.

In my past relationships, I've learned ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT FEELING/INSTINCT. It's like a higher power trying to give you warnings.

>> No.15168615

>>15168567
Her priorities are clear. Are yours?

>> No.15168625

>>15167243
>MY GF has indicated that she does not want my last name upon marriage. Is this bad?
no it just means shes banging Tyrone on the side

>> No.15168635

>>15168591
I assume he's uncomfortable because a bunch of incels on forechan said womens are bad and will smoke tyrone's pole and crack and crack open your piggy bank and you can bank on her getting piggy fat.

>> No.15168672

>>15168567
That seems perfectly reasonable to me. It seems like you have a smart gf congrats anon. Dont listen to these failures living in their moms basement. On the flip side: im glad my gf told me our child will have my last name, but i would not break up over such a thing. If she is nice, loving and a keeper then go for it. You can express your concerns and if she is a keeper she will listen to you and you can figure something about. But you are talking about kids here so i damn well hope she is a keeper or else you are playing with fire. Dont listen to these idiots here that only have their right hand loool

>> No.15168691

>>15168567
>Wants to keep a separate identity for academic research and career
She's still putting herself above the relationship. Marriage is about putting your partner above yourself. Simple answer is she doens't take your relationship that seriously, i.e., she's not ready for a serious one. Trust me, OP, when a woman is in love with a guy she'll do anything for her man, agree to everything, compromise on anything. Best advice I can give you is stop talking about marriage with her, call it off if you already have a date set up. Wait to see how things progress and don't get too atached right now.

>> No.15168694

>>15168471
have sex

>> No.15168697

>>15168539
Do you realise that this is the exact same arugement that thots use for for "oh forget about the prenup, you are commited to this relationship right we will never split up right :')"

>> No.15168700

>>15168672
You are a fool. Peace out on this thread. Good luck OP.

>> No.15168703

>>15167243
Its a red flag and you should not marry her

>> No.15168708

>>15168406
Possibly. But highly unlikely. If you dont already spank her ass and choke her in the bedroom, no. I'm serious. If you arent already aggressive and dominant over her, you need to find another to be that way with. Her asking that question really shows how much she respects you. She doesn't. If you convince her to take your name, it goes 2 ways. You will have to convince her to do the right thing the rest of your life, or one day you will stop being able to convince her and she will act out like you've never seen. Then you will understand what everyone is talking about. Dont fuck up, do the right thing. My best friend is probably going to kill himself after 5 years of marriage to a girl he thought saved him and he loved.

>> No.15168712

>>15167243
My teacher never took her last name but that’s only because she had pride in her family’s name. Just try not to be a beta about it.

>> No.15168752

>>15168700
Sure thing bruv, let us know how the tendies are tasting

>> No.15168773

>>15167243
1st: wrong board, unless you're marrying someone who created a cryptocurrency
2nd: you used /biz/ and high IQ in the same sentence. Pick one and only one.
3rd: the fact you asked about this already provided the answer you need. It bothers you, and rightly so. No woman who refuses such a simple, harmless tradition is worth jack-shit-anything. Be thankful she gave you this shit-test up front, instead of after you were tied down and helpless.

>> No.15168774

>>15168691
loser

>> No.15168789

>>15168774
Stop your tothery at once

>> No.15168837

>>15167746
>/pol/ is unironically the highest IQ board
t. supreme commander of the clownkistani (formerly known as kekistani) revolution

>> No.15168995

>>15167243
If you have to ask this you've already lost her respect and i suggest leaving her asap. A man who isn't respected by his woman is doomed.

And now you're considering becoming the ultimate cuck? Why doesn't she want your last name? Becayse she doesn't respect you. Im sorry to tell you this anon but:

1. You wont listen and marry her anyway
2. Within one year the sex wil stop (if it hasn't already)
3. Within 5 years she will have cheated or divorced you.

I hope she doesn't know about your crypto.