anyone else born with a "all or nothing" neurosis

[Anonymous No.13104031]

either i got money for a 488 ferrari or i wont even bother getting my driving license

either im 220lbs 8% shredded or i wont even bother with females

either i bulk on 8k calories or i cut with close to starving calories

either i do 2g coke and 20 gin tonics or i dont go out at all

either i try for perfect grades or the second i slip up i dont even bother taking my books to class

since a child i dont know the principle of moderarion. how to change? it helped me in alot of ways in my life but overall its destroying my life quality

[Anonymous No.13104034]

>>13104031
dont remind me

[Anonymous No.13104039]

>>13104031
bump for general Autism thread

[Anonymous No.13104049]

>>13104031
All or nothing mindset is failure cope.

[Anonymous No.13104063]

>>13104031
Plenty of people like you, OP.

[Anonymous No.13104067]

>>13104049
This. You sound pathetic. It's not autism, it's not neurosis. You're just a loser.

[Anonymous No.13104076]

>>13104067
>l-loser
pretty sure im richer than 99,9% of people my age so by definition im not.

and yes it is a neurosis i can remember being like this since kindergarden.

[Anonymous No.13104084]

>>13104063
so just embrace it and try not to die or go talk to some psychology kike?

[Anonymous No.13104092]

>>13104031
Literally me.

[Anonymous No.13104098]

>>13104076
also more /fit/ than +99% of people on this globe.

problem is im not happy so if that makes me a loser then yes i am.

[Anonymous No.13104100]

>>13104031
It’s not just you

[Anonymous No.13104116]

>>13104031
i was the same as you until i developed an autoimmune disease and had to accept limits on what i can do. i've lost my sense of taste and smell. my whole body swells up and i can't think straight if i eat the wrong food or push myself physically. working hard makes it all worse. I'll never set a PR squat again, probably never be able to drink or pull late nights (if i don't want to suffer immensely), never have a high risk high reward job like i used to. i won't belabor the point: it fucking sucks to have limits. you need to protect your mindset and your ability to live up to it at all costs. DO NOT look to change it it because when it happens, you will regret not taking every advantage of the unique combination of will, vitality, motivation and sense of perfection that you currently have. don't bitch out or you will become a middling faggot boomer with no improvement left to live for. DON'T FUCK THIS UP IDIOT

[Anonymous No.13104121]

>>13104116
neat post anon. wish you all the best.

[Anonymous No.13104153]

>>13104098
Do you line up all your weights in neat rows?

[Anonymous No.13104355]

Got chill with poor people unironically for a week or two. Enjoy being blessed when you get back to your normal life.

[Anonymous No.13104378]

You probably have aspergers.

[Anonymous No.13104855]

I have never seen anyone cope harder than OP

[Anonymous No.13104864]

>>13104067
>>13104049
Thanks, I'm the same as OP and I've been waiting my whole life for this confirmation, deep down I've always known but no one was ever nice enough to say it to my face

[Anonymous No.13104867]

>>13104355
Nah

[Anonymous No.13104869]

>>13104031
You're a teenager and wont break 70k, ever.

[Anonymous No.13104889]

post body and stats

[/quality biz/ No.13104970]

It's called brain damage

[Anonymous No.13104991]

>>13104869
>thinking 70k$ is alot of money
get a load of this brainlet lmao.

[Anonymous No.13104992]

>>13104076
>pretty sure im richer than 99,9% of people my age so by definition im not.

imagine thinking money = happiness. pathetic

[Anonymous No.13105022]

>>13104031
youve unironically just described me. and it's ruined my life.
seriously, if this is you, i'm telling you you need to change. there's no glory in the "death or glory" personality. i found that out the hard way.

[Anonymous No.13105029]

>>13104049
>All or nothing mindset is failure cope.
it's not. failure has many many faces, many paths. a lot of all or nothing guys get something out of life. unfortunately i wasnt one of them.

>inb4
cope

[Anonymous No.13105036]

>>13104031
you have low self esteem.

go from there.

[Anonymous No.13105044]

I am exactly like that its fucking hard but I think it made me who I am and I am successful because of my mindset.

[Anonymous No.13105098]

>>13104031

A lot of people will say this is an excuse for failure and it is true you do meet a lot of losers who say they can’t be bothered because they won’t be the best, or something along those lines. However I believe there is a genuine neurotic behaviour that leads to what your post describes because I have it. And to clarify I do try really really hard at everything in life, but I get no enjoyment unless I reach some arbitrarily defined goal. E.g when I started investing my goal was to hit 100k, I was absolutely ecstatic when I hit that, my next goal was 1 million after taxes. I hit 800k before it all started crashing down and unphased I just kept risking it more and more until I had none of it left. The thing is I didn’t enjoy any of the money on the way up, I also don’t know how to drive (24) because I kept telling myself I’d learn when I bought a Porsche etc.

Idk how to fix this, same with drinking or drugs, I can’t do a normal amount. Or even vidya, like if I don’t have a solid 6 hour block to play I won’t play at all. So I almost never play.

[Anonymous No.13105114]

>>13105098
you are me and i am you

[Anonymous No.13105156]

This mindset is fucking retarded and is sounds extremely narcissistic, what a Jew psychologist may call narcissistic personality disorder. Due to low self esteem you are protecting yourself by creating a fake aggrandised identity for yourself in your own mind. Elliot Roger did this also. When you encounter situations that do not align to this identity, it is painful and you reject or avoid then. If this is what this is, it shouldn't be celebrated and it isn't going to make you happy.

[Anonymous No.13106029]

>>13104031
I feel you, but I personally dont do drugs, never drank alcohol or fuck around.
The all or nothing mindset definitely could be a cope mechanism but so are the things I listed above.
As I see it I feel its saved me alot of bs and helped me explore satisfaction through other means such as learning, reading and exploring creativity. But it is true you can get lost in your own ideas and form a false validated self, thats why I like to assume "that I could be wrong" and I go out from time to time.

[Anonymous No.13106170]

>>13104031
Yes. It’s common amongst intjs perfectionist personality types. And it’s reakky screwed my life