/biz/ - Business & Finance

>>53533026
Realize that everyone just wants to be liked and is dealing with their own trauma and fucked up childhoods/school experiences.
Or micro dose shrooms or LSD, that helped many of the computer nerds of the 70’s and 80’s get along long enough to start billion dollar companies

>>53533026
I'm in the same boat, recruiter in a tech firm.

I can't be arsed and I dislike interacting with a lot of people in my company because most of them are super vanilla, but just try to be upbeat and positive. Ask people how they are when you see them, just reply with 'yeah I'm good thanks, what did you think of xxx (xxx can be whatever, company email, something in the market, literally whatever as long as it relates to your company).

If you have nothing to say, just say something positive - it's all smoke and mirrors really.

I still struggle with being a bit direct sometimes, but it's very corporate and sometimes people take 2 minutes of non stop talking to say a point that they could literally say in a single sentence, sometimes people talk for 5 minutes and I still have no fucking idea what their point is because they beat around the bush and use corporate jargon to try and impress others - when this happens I just repeat back to them what I think the point is.

Also just ask people lots of questions so you don't need to talk as much.

>>53533114
based post

you're probably right. most of these fuckers i probably struggling too, esp because this teams to be much more autistic than usual.

microdosing would be based, might consider.

>>53533135
>If you have nothing to say, just say something positive - it's all smoke and mirrors really.
>Also just ask people lots of questions so you don't need to talk as much.

It's funny you should mention these things, because this is how I used to be and I always felt like mother fuckers see you as soft when you're like this. I think I need to learn to balance being up beat while being aggressive when necessary. The whole "speak softly, but carry a big stick" adage. I think that would help me with things. It also doesn't help that everyone in software has massive egos and love to fucking flex every single moment of the day.

The most likeable people in my experience share their personal life, crack some jokes and don't take the job too seriously. They also make other people feel important. Personally I dont give a fuck and I am mostly autistic because I don't get paid enough to be likeable.

>>53533300
>The most likeable people in my experience share their personal life, crack some jokes and don't take the job too seriously.


literally me in the past. going to try to bring these elements back based on all of the responses everyone in this thread is giving. appreciate this feedback anon.

>>53533224
You can be positive and still put your foot down if someone tries to take advantage.

Just because you are polite and show interest in others you don't need to be a yes man.

If I think someone is going about something the wrong way I will tell them, people respect you more when you tell them why you disagree and provide a coherent point as to why you think that way.

I've worked with maybe 200 hiring managers over my time as a recruiter, the only ones that respect you are the ones you tell them what they are doing wrong.

I think what you are saying is you used to be too agreeable - nobody respects a yes man, the minute you are seen as a yes man and you try to push back they will think 'who the fuck is this guy telling me no'.

>>53533300
Dont judge others
Be willing to be vulnerable but in a manner to maintain dignity aka don't be ugly
Give genuine compliments when opportuned
Have an inviting aura to others to vent and talk to you and be nonjudgmental empath
Told my make coworker I'm going divorce and boom convo opened up like Moses and red sea

>>53533135
>>53533224
>Let's circle back to that item later, it seems out of scope
>I added Brad's team to the weekly meeting, I'm hoping to leverage some synergy between groups if we focus on our core competencies
>We can touch base during tomorrow's stand-up, give you some time to get the lay of the land
>I want to highlight our value add and show that this is a win-win
>I'm feeling out of the loop here, when was the last time Frank ran the numbers?
>Brandon is going to do a deep dive into the data and perform a drill down into our key customer segments
>This initiative is really going to move the needle on our top KPI's
>We can already make this a game changer by taking care of some low hanging fruit
>Let's take that off-line, ping me when you know you'll be available
>We're not trying to boil the ocean here, our north star hasn't changed

tell them how fucking moist you are dawg

>>53533421
Literally me

I'm schizotypal so no matter how well things ever go at work I think that everyone hates me and I'm getting fired the next day. I haven't had steady employment due to this because I just end up ghosting.

Fuck my life. Unironically, how do I stop being like this?

>>53533693
Think the opposite. Guess your problem is now solved.

>>53533330
appreciate this anon. i think you 100% understand exactly what im talking about. going to lighten the fuck up.

>>53533330
>Be willing to be vulnerable but in a manner to maintain dignity aka don't be ugly

This is one I used to struggle with alot becuase I used to wear my heart on my sleeve. I've gotten much better at it though.

>>53533693
This is going to sound cliche anon, but its likely because you don't see your self as worth of love. Practice some self love and start doing things that make you proud to be you.