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Just be yourself, dude

>>29812565
yeah youre probably fucked if you think like this

>>29812631
When I “be myself”, I’m a stuttering autistic loser and I want to hide in my bedroom.

>>29812565
Imagine what would you do differently if you were 22 years old. Then imagine if you were 30 years old looking back at now.

>>29812670
Then this is what you will always be

I'm 26 and also have no friends and no woman but I have money from crypto. I moved to the wrong city when I was 21 now I'm stuck here. I'm just doing a lot of self reflection, identifying my biggest problems and taking small day-to-day changes to fix them. For example trying to fix my debilitating fatigue by eating paleo and being healthier. You can only eat an elephant one bite at a time.

>>29812565
Seems like you're just trying too hard to fit your life into a neat little normie box friend. Life isn't like movies and it will never turn out perfect. It sounds like you know what to do but you just have to get over your fears of failure. Take the leap and trust the infinite void to guide you to happiness

>>29812847
Should I even try then?

>>29812565
you seem too normie, ngmi

>>29812565
Unironically, go see a therapist. If it doesn't work out, find another. Yagmi, don't look for a quick fix

>>29812908
My whole family is filled with super high achieving normalfags, I feel so ashamed to be a weirdo

>>29812565
>How will I have a wedding if I have nobody to invite?
lol why the fuck would you waste money on a wedding? just have a nice dinner with your family or something, holy shit

>>29812565
You’re falling for the money= happiness meme. It can buy you happy experiences, but if you’re like some of us here you’re going to get very disappointed and depressed when you start to bring in the dough without knowing how to be happy with it.

Take your degree, get a job that can bring some spare cash to dump into crypto. Set a timeline to cash out. Then use the rest of your wage not used for food/rent/medical for a hobby to meet people etc. Don’t take life too seriously. Learn to ignore toxic people. Get a healthy group of friends with goals you can relate and aspire to. Chink cartoon drawings are not everything. Good luck anon

>>29812955
read schopenhauer

https://www.gutenberg.org/files/10741/10741-h/10741-h.htm

>>29812565

You're being way too risk averse. Losing it all, especially with a job is not the end of the world at 25. You can make moving to almost any city work. You can get a better job by just consistently applying / developing skills.

>>29812870
You need to be yourself to change yourself
Or just wear a mask forever that's what I do

>>29813035
>>29812955
https://youtu.be/RH3TgyKhNz8

then move to nietzsche my friend

>>29812660
This is the truth lol

>>29812870
Of course give it your all if you fail you fail but least you gave it everything you had and you will die without regrets knowing this and not asking what if on your deathbead. Do it anon give life your best

Calls himself CADmonkey, pining to get married?!? Are you even dating anyone this scream pajeet larp not like an American.

Just post your wallet Ranjeed it’s what your gonna get around to anyway.

0x531f776E6Ca302093161106e259887510679c73b See it’s not hard.

>>29812955
Buck up faggot. Look at what constitutes "normal" in the modern age. Being a weird cunt is not so bad when its normal to be a mindless tax slave and elect pedophiles into office.

do you have a gf

I'm 31 and basically in the same position as you, OP. I do CAD all day then come home and then go to the gym and then go to bed.
I'm what happens if you don't make a move.

>>29812660
>>29813168
this is true, holy fuck i turn 37 soon i was like OP then and well you can guess how it turned out

>>29812565
What do you know? Do you know like, electricity and shit? I do not

>>29813171
I can’t fail though, my entire family is filled with insanely neurotypical high achieving normalfags, I would bring shame to the entire family if I failed.

I can’t imagine still being an autistic weirdo single male at 35 while they all have wives and high paying jobs and children and houses.

>>29813215
holy fuck i am >>29813230
and yea im what happens if you don't make a move from 31yo you LISTEN UP OP

Having money won't give you friends, a girl friend or confidence. It actually doesn't solve any of your problems.

Work on getting better at things. Working on your social skills is like getting fot or getting wealthy. It doesn't happen overnight, it takes patience, practice, dedication and the ability to continue on despite setbacks.

>>29813255
>I can’t imagine still being an autistic weirdo single male at 35
You will get there.
Also you definitely sound like someone who shouldn't reproduce.

>>29813344
>tfw OP won't even acknowledge our posts which attempt to show solidarity with him

>>29813255
take the vargpill and watch every single one of these videos, your biggest problem is that your mind is controlled by spooks

https://archive.org/details/thuleanperspective2018

>>29813344
lmao at 30 it's already over but I'm pretty bored with the whole thing. Definitely not interested in wageslaving and coping for another 6+ years. I only bother going on for crypto.
I've made it 3 decades without so much as a gf or one night stand, you don't just come back and "make it" from that.

The OP is probably already doomed.

>>29813255
If your afraid to fail you will never learn anon. Take risk benefit from them and learn from them. I feel like you've never taken any risk which is why your are were you are right now. If you want to change then you got to do the opposite of what you normally do. Yes it's hard yes it's uncomfortable but that is what you must overcome and when you finally do you will understand. he cannot remake himself without suffering.

>>29813494
that paintjob is fucking sick i wish he would make a video on how he done it i wanna paint my truck like that

>>29813494
This guy is a desolate welfare loser and a psychopath. He's the kind of person who would justify killing you if your dead is a perceived benefit to him.

>>29813473
i don't even have a degree but learned quite a bit on the job for years; except it makes me even more stuck there. maybe OP got scared and ran off because facing reality is one of my failures i'm a runner, i run from things.

>>29812565
You seem smarter than me and i didn't achieve jack shit while i'm older than yourself , so i believe in your judgement in your daily decisions. Only one thing from me. You will lose while operating on fear. Every possible trap you'll trigger. "Just be yourself" is both a meme and not a meme.
Maybe you lack self-worth. Did you have a father who loved you? Dude, live for yourself. Life is short and who cares if you did not achieve objective success. Revel in the journey itself. See every achievement as a bonus. I have nothing and i feel perfectly ok every morning. And you have objective reasons for that.

>>29812565
What do you define as making something of yourself? You have an engineering degree and a job. Not everyone can be world changing

>>29812865
Unironically good advice anon

>>29812565
Stop taking Adderall/drinking bang

>>29813564
im the near 37 anon, i have had plenty of gfs but other then one long term from 'real life' many years ago the rest have been dating app deals. most of those girls including the one i date now are equivalent to shitcoins. never been married, no kids, have thoughts of kms if like this past 40s but idk we'll see.

prolly ngmi, maybe things will get better frens. i've been around here about two years but only more deep into crypto the last six months 17k portfolio today hope in 5 yrs i can make it

https://archive.org/details/thuleanperspective2014/2014-10-30a+-+Video+Response+to+Thrand.webm
learn to throw lead weighted darts

>>29813663
you probably don't even make your own jam

>>29813676
Same, I work in the public sector in a field where you learn no marketable skills. Crypto and starting my own business are the only ways I could ever conceivably make it.

>>29812565
Hey I think you're me op

Read the new testament. The game gets a lot easier when you learn who's in charge and what the rules are

>>29813255
Fuck them, fren. If they don't love you just because you are their family, then they'll never truly love you anyway. God loves you. Maybe i'm a cuck Christian, but i believe it in my heart of hearts 100%.

>>29814102
a book written by a power hungry emperor? yeah not thanks

>>29812565
Dude, get a grip. You sound like a fucking pussy right now.

You’re not “fucked” if you aren’t the most social person in the world. If you want to make new friends then make an effort to meet people. Go to social events at your work. Join clubs with people of similar interests. But if you’re someone who enjoys your own company, don’t put yourself down for it.

I'm a retard and i don't know how to embed. Listen to MONO - Pure as Snow. That's how much God loves you. Material reality is beneath of immaterial. Ideas and principles are bigger than matter. Ideas are 4d, cars and houses are 3d. Listen to the song, forgive your family for being retards and move on. As long as you give it your best shot, you are the king of your own flesh.

>>29812565
Just be a wagie and invest as much as possible into crypto and hold. You'll thank me in 5 years.

>>29812565
I got out of prison at 30 and didn’t make it till 34 anon, there’s hope just keep buying crypto(dca) and never sell.

>>29812865
based and lifepilled

>>29815033
How many yrs wat u do fren?

im in the same spot. wish there was some way to meet other socially autistic nerds like myself near me. i cant relate to normies at all and have 0 things to talk to them about

>>29815099
18months though I had a lengthy ass court case that dragged out for almost 3 years with me on strict bail conditions, then another 4 years of parole when I got out, felt like I lost a decade and a social pariah even still

>>29815253
what did you do

>>29812565
Shut the fuck up pussy

You are being a melodramatic bitch. You are still young abs have a good job. Boo fucking hoo

Man the fuck up

>>29812565
bitch please

>>29815376
sold drugs mostly meth

>>29813255
how do you have shame at this point? i learned to no care about anything,
well it hasn't been working but i don't get embarrassed anymore

>>29812565
I'm literally going through the same crisis OP, damn. I don't know what where to go from here, I'm 26 in July, still living at home. Working as a codemonkey. I need to pick somewhere to move. I live in Canada in a small town. I want to move to America but I don't know if that's feasible now. My next option is Vancouver since that's where are the tech jobs are based out of (aside from Toronto, but fuck that BC looks way nicer)

I literally just need to buy the plane ticket and go but I'm too scared to do it, scared of making the wrong choice. And I'm out of time to do it. I was using corona as an excuse but this shit is never ending, I gotta keep moving forward

>>29812670
if youre that, and you know it, do it the best you can. dude, theres people making money doing the weirdest shit right now. get a grip and start making changes everyday, nothings easy in life but you learn to enjoy it when you know you worked hard. just do it and be yourself, no one in this world "has it together"

>>29812565
things could be way worse, trust me

>>29812565
I turn 26 in 3 months, op. I'm fucked. Could have had 6 figures. Only have 1 bitcoin instead due to retardation

>>29814102
this is true.

>>29812565
unironically OP, become Orthodox Christian, work out, eat healthy, farm and work on your savings and buy a house. You will eventually find a wife, just keep looking and perhaps change your views.

>>29812565
I have the same exact feeling as you op, I'm 23. The answer is to get a move on, don't look back, my personal deadline is 40. If I hit 40 and haven't made it, it's time to rope. Ideally I'll be married with kids by my early 30s, but I have a long way to go to get there (though I've come a long way as well).

>>29812565
If all else fails, you can join the RV community who live out west. I'm sure you'll find friends there and the cost of living is really low.

>>29813242
>Do you know like, electricity and shit? I do not
Kek

>>29812565
You're acting like everything is an absolute. Move to a city you don't like? Move somewhere else. In a job you don't like? Get another one. Nothing is set in stone, and no matter how much you fuck up, you get to try again. What's the worst that could happen?

Being social and maintaining friendships is a skill like any other. If you don't have any friends, try tagging along to after-work drinks. Or, join a hobby group or a sports team. Just don't go home each day and watch Netflix, that's boring. Being more interesting will give you self confidence. Ask people about themselves and try to find some common ground to talk about.

>>29812565
>If I move to the wrong city and screw up, I could lose years of my life. Then I’ll be 28 or 29, I still won’t have any friends.
How will you make any friends if you won't try new things and take risks? You aren't a woman, you don't have to panic about settling down or being successful before you hit the wall. If you are successful then you will have ample opportunity to get married and start a family at 35 or 40. The way to develop friendships is to actually do things with that person, to not just share an interest but to pursue it together. Just being a reliable and humble person is 50% of the way there. You seem like you are still programmed into the "life plan" meme, but its just a meme. The government wants you to be a person who does a productive career and a raises responsible family that will pay taxes. It wants you to panic about not fitting its vision of success so you resign yourself to it. None of that matters. I don't mean that in a nihilistic way...quite the opposite, I mean that society's expectations of you are irrelevant illusions that exist only in your mind. Live your life without fear faggot.

>>29817495
based and redpilled

>>29812565
Get fit and into hobbies.
Do things that require interacting with other people.
You have a job, search for another one in the meantime.
I have seen plenty of autistic guys come out of their shells, even though they remain sperglords they realise its ok.

>>29813900
wagmi fren

>>29812565

pussy

>>29817495
totally agree with this guy, you're not a chick stop sweating

>>29814102
Are you implying God is in charge or jews are?

>>29812565
I've been in your situation, first and foremost you have to chill. I know it will seem hard because it feels like life is passing you by, but when I look back at what I was compared to what I am now I laugh.

Above all get knowledge, it is the key to freedom. The more you have the more freedom you will have. Once you have financial security you'll realize that money is not the only thing there is too life.

Here is the truth, take it or leave it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xUO5o4YmTbA

>>29812565
Turned 26 in jan so IKTF i think looking at the rise of divorce rates during the lockdown and not wanting kids makes it better plus i've been friendless almost my whole life so im ok with being alone. my brother is married with kids and seems miserable with them. I just want to make it for myself at this point.

>>29812565
only an octopus can survive this, and Apollo Protocol holders

>>29812565

Go join the Navy or Airforce, study your ass off, and go do an enlistment. When you get out if you picked the right job companies will chase you

>>29818965
the jews are in charge until revelation. then theyre fucked

>>29812565
what have you got to lose?

>>29812565
Have sex

>>29820391
literally this.