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21027038 No.21027038 [Reply] [Original]

>Together with my girlfriend for 4 months
>She's pretty great, I see serious potential for a future, unlike last few girlfriends

>I don't want to share financial information with her

I don't want her to know how much debt I have from college (50k), and I don't want to share how much money I am making (like 2/3 times as much as her).

What is the best way to go about this?

Angry woman-hating virgins need not reply.

>> No.21027080

>>21027038
>see serious potential
>not willing to be open and honest
Yeah I fucked her

>> No.21027212

>>21027080

Compared to her I have quite a large debt (she has none), and I take quite a lot of risks financially. So far they pay off though seeing as I make like 6/7k euro a month and she makes 2.5k euro. (2.5k is median where I live).

So yeah I don't want her to get stressed out about how I deal with my money. I think I am smart enough to handle it and I don't want her to try and influence me.

>> No.21027282

>>21027038
look i hate women and i am a virgin but ill apply anyway since i probably still know more about relationships than you due to my extensive eroge experience
youll need to share financial info with her if you see a future with her, theres no choice in this. you are worried about her turning out a gold digger, i know this because your uncertainty seeps throught your post.
you need to employ a shit-test(male version) where you basically test her willingness to share. E.g splitting a bill, being fine with eating cheap and more. to gauge(this is important) her golddigger tendencies
i also see a bunch of

reddit

spacing

in your post and i honestly think you should fuck off back to r/relationshipadvice cause youre probably a cuckold

>> No.21027395

>>21027282

No I just hate walls of text, because I am not an autistic virgin.

I am not afraid that she is a gold digger. If she were I would have known by now. I am worried that she starts nagging me about the financial risks that I am willing to take. As opposed to playing it safe and boring, wagecucking your entire life for a shitty boss and a median salary, like her entire family does..

>> No.21027556

>>21027038
So you have fallen in love after 4 months(17 weeks)& now you're considering marriage, yet you do not want to talk about your personal finances? Am I understanding this correctly?

>> No.21027639

>>21027395
if you feel hate towards text you are autistic, simple as. and shes absolutely right in not wanting to risk your future together. online crypto gamling is for us who have nothing
having a gf and writing ala redditor makes you unfit for crypto and this space
its time to move on

>> No.21027640

>>21027556

Yes.

Honestly if you don't understand this, please clarify whether you are a 21< year old who has barely had any serious relationships.

I am 28, I know I love this girl more than any other I have met. I also know things in life are transient. People are married happily for 20 years and still end up in a nasty divorce.

Being completely in love with a person and not wanting to be naive aren't mutually exclusive.

>> No.21027695

>>21027639

>I get bullied in real life, so I waste my time by acting out over meaningless shit to random online strangers

Thanks for bumping my thread, but also go fuck yourself retard. I'll type however I want to.

>> No.21027697

>>21027038
Is that your house OP?

>> No.21027706

>>21027395
Of course she wants you to be less risky, women hate risk as they have a set path for life so to speak - she has a finite amount of beauty and youth and fertility and doesn’t need risk cus if you fail she’ll just replace you. Of course she wants you - now that you’re doing well - to be less risky without appreciating that you’re doing well because of risks. Women date men for who they want them to be, men date women for who they are. Don’t let her extinguish your drive.

>> No.21027715

Good work coming to biz for this retarded thread no one cares

>> No.21027727
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>>21027038
>Angry woman-hating virgins need not reply.
you sweet summer child
she'll be nice when things are going well
test the waters and don't do what she says
specifically antagonize her and watch her reaction
that's when you'll know what she's like

you liddle boys are so eager to please your girls
try pissing them off and see how well they keep their composure

>> No.21027749

>>21027640

OP are u fucking retarded?How can u seriously consider marrying that kitchen after being together for just 4 months?I am with my dishwasher 2+ years and marriage would never happen anytime soon

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>>21027556
>So you have fallen in love after 4 months(17 weeks)& now you're considering marriage, yet you do not want to talk about your personal finances? Am I understanding this correctly?
lust and sex are a helluva drug

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21027815

>>21027038
eh, if it’s gonna bother you just tell her.
gauge her reaction and if it’s meant to be it’s meant to be. don’t waste your time

>> No.21027855

>>21027038
It's hard to find a woman that doesn't look at your wealth these days, those are very rare

>> No.21027904

>>21027640
I mean if youre in love...and she is too i don't know why you shouldn't have a serious discussion about money.

If shes the one© then it seems like a nobrainer.

>> No.21027909

>>21027749

Never said I wanted to marry her. I only said I see future potential with her.

>>21027727
I don't want to play stupid games.

>>21027715
Thanks for letting me know, I appreciate your feedback.

>>21027706
Thanks bro. You seem to be the only one who understands me somewhat. Though I don't think there is a reason to be bitter. She is just more fearful about taking risks.

>>21027697
It is the citadel we'll all be moving into after this bull run.

>> No.21027935

>>21027640
Hello happily married here.

If she is just your gf I would not worry too much about it. However, if you are planning an engagement then I would definitely loop her in because it won’t be just you at risk anymore. I would avoid the word crypto until you gauge her reaction because of how polarizing it can be.

Money isn’t an issue until it becomes tight. You only have 50k in student debt?

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>>21027909
>I don't want to play stupid games.
picking a wife isn't a game
thinking about marrying her after 4 months is stupid
regardless, I genuinely wish you well in your relationship

>> No.21027993

Can we just all go to a VRA powered e-girl world please I've never had a Girlfriend

>> No.21028017

>>21027038
Don't tell her?
You guys crack me up at being afraid of a women.
You don't have to disclose shit about your finances until you put a kid in her belly.

The only thing she is entitled to right now is that you fuck her well and that you aren't fucking other girls in her back.

>>21027640
Marriage is a burden if you live in the west, marrying someone after 4 months is stupid, it's basically the honeymoon period.

>> No.21028074

>>21027639
>if you feel hate towards text you are autistic
you are the one who called out his "reddit spacing" you retard
also reddit spacing is a fucking myth anyway. look at posts from 2009. there was reddit spacing all over the place

>> No.21028076

>>21027935

Thanks bro, appreciate the advice from someone with experience.

Honestly we have 0 plans to get engaged right now. We have both expressed that it is not an important thing for us to do. Maybe if we ever end up having children that might change. But that won't be for a few years.

>Money isn’t an issue until it becomes tight. You only have 50k in student debt?
Yes, and the country I live in is pretty lenient about paying it back. So I don't foresee any big money issues for the foreseeable future.

>>21027957
I never said anything about planning to marry her. Jezus christ.

>> No.21028126

>>21027282
Based. Shut it down op is fag

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>>21028076
>I never said anything about planning to marry her.
good
like I said, pay close attention to her behavior when things aren't going well
4 months is too short of a time to properly know somebody
to be honest, western women are thoroughly contaminated after 25 years old

>> No.21028151

>>21027909
Yeah no need to be bitter about it - it’s the way humanity is. May as well be bitter at the sky for being blue, or water for being wet, women have always chosen the strong horse and accepted being the spoils of the winner of violent conquest.

>> No.21028188

>>21027038
YOUR HAPPINESS IS PARAMOUNT NOT HERS. She will love you if you exude this mindset btw. Don’t ever think you owe them anything before they’ve given you something more meaningful than sex, that can include just being a great best friend in a true sense. But as a man we can never just love them. We have to always gain something in terms of a rider for our dreams and goals which is what they want anyway. Women don’t wanna win they want a winner. If you don’t want to tell her anything DONT. If you do then do it.

>> No.21028247

>>21027038
Never tell your woman about any financials, idiot. That is stress they should have nor do they need it. The only thing your woman should be responsible for is cooking/grocery shopping, cleaning, and making/taking care of your babies. This isn't woman hating. This is how you make a relationship last with a woman. You are the man so you take care of financials. And coming on here to ask this shit screams beta as fuck. Your relationship will never work because you view her as an equal. She isn't your equal. She is a woman, you are a man.

>> No.21028311

>>21028076
Np. Yeah then I would not worry about it at all desu senpai.

>> No.21028336

>>21027760
knocked my woman up after three months on purpose. Will never marry her using a state contract. Only married her in front of our kindred. Already have first kid and working on second after only two years together. But then again, i'm not a fucking cry baby beta seeking advice on how to treat my woman. I mean, what kind of man puts the stress of financial decisions on their woman? They don't need nor want that. Else they would all be single moms. Hell, I only let my woman drive to the grocery store by herself. She doesn't need the daily stress of driving everywhere. My woman loves me for it.

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>>21028336
>Hell, I only let my woman drive to the grocery store by herself.
based

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>>21028247
>The only thing your woman should be responsible for is cooking/grocery shopping, cleaning, and making/taking care of your babies

>>21028247
>Your relationship will never work because you view her as an equal. She isn't your equal. She is a woman, you are a man.
so true

>> No.21028586

>>21028247

She's probably happy with that arrangement for 95% of the time. But woman can be emotional and inquisitive.

Is she says 'So how much dept do you have?'
I say 'I don't want to talk about that stuff'.
And she is in a bad mood and keeps on asking I want to know what is best to say without unnecessarily stirring up shit.

If you think that is weak. Whatever. I think it is just preference for being prepared. You sound like you don't have much experience with woman anyhow.

>> No.21028606

Just tell her anon, 50k isn’t that much actually. Enjoy life together don’t worry about dumb things. That said you have to be sure she’s a good one and not just a ho

>> No.21028610

>>21027282
Based anon, what are your bags? I want to but whatever you’ve been buying

>> No.21028645

>4 months
who gives a fuck come back in 4 years

>> No.21028745

>>21027038
>I see a future with her
>I'm afraid to share my financial situation cause she may leave me
looks like someone is a highly insecure normalfag
kill yourself

>> No.21029110

>>21028076
Ausfag detected she will take you to the cleaners.

Never get married in the west, especially not Australia aka if California was a country (swapping mexicans for asians) with extra communism.