/biz/ - Business & Finance

>>29743209
i had fucking 250k DOGE that i held for years and then sold literally 48hrs before Elon made his damn meme tweets that pumped it up to .07 or whatever, i'm a fuckign retard should just kms

>>28329749
check out https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Object_relations_theory

it more or less says that we create images of our parents that we hold within ourselves which determine our behavior, even after we grow up, those inner parents continue to influence us. so part of becoming our own person (or parenting ourselves if you will) is learning to reconcile those inner parents with the reality that our parents were just humans, not some kind of superhumans like they seemed to us when we were little.

"It designates theories or aspects of theories that are concerned with the exploration of relationships between real and external people as well as internal images and the relations found in them.[1] It maintains that the infant's relationship with the mother primarily determines the formation of its personality in adult life.[2] Particularly, the need for attachment is the bedrock of the development of the self or the psychic organization that creates the sense of identity.[2]"

i also find Fairbairn's "six ego positions" useful, kind of a subset of object relations

"The Fairbairnian object relations therapist imagines that all interactions between the client and the therapist are occurring in the client's inner object relations world, in one of the three dyads. If the client thinks the therapist is wise and compassionate the therapist sees this as an interaction between the client's Libidinal Ego and Exciting Object. If the client is angry at the therapist for not meeting the client's needs, the therapist might see it as an interaction between the client's Antilibidinal Ego and the Bad Object. The therapist might ask the client if this particular interaction reminds the client of something from childhood."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Object_relations_theory#Ronald_Fairbairn's_six_ego_positions

good luck anon, this is something that every person has to go through in order to fully realize their potential and become self-actualized