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>>53071716
Many people come to /biz/ with the hope to escape their problems.
However nothing will change until they face their most difficult past.

True strength come from having an infinite internal source of unconditional love.

>>52804571
>Use the positive side of this emotional osmosis to advantage. If, for example, you are miserly by nature, you will never go beyond a certain limit; only generous souls attain greatness. Associate with the generous, then, and they will infect you, opening up everything that is tight and restricted in you. If you are gloomy, gravitate to the cheerful. If you are prone to isolation, force yourself to befriend the gregarious. Never associate with those who share your defects-they will reinforce everything that holds you back. Only create associations with positive affinities. Make this a rule of life and you will benefit more than from all the therapy in the world.

Another important task to change your beliefs about your parents and your world view and to heal your inner child will be to read the book Toxic Parents by Susan Forward.

You need to become your own parent and to mourn the death of your ideal of having had parents.
Once you are your own parent you can give yourself infinite unconditional love with no conditions and will be happy without outside dependence.
This will make you really free and allow you to become who you were meant to be.

>>52690806
Do you have self esteem issues and had narcissistic parents?
Then Toxic parents by Susan Forward can change your life.

You have anxiety because you care about the opinion of others instead of focusing on your own opinion of yourself coming from your inner child.
This is caused by the belief that love is scarce and conditional, inherited from your parents who only conditionally loved you when you behaved as they wanted.
You need to change your mindset to believe in unconditional love and become your own parent.

Once you do you will stop caring about others because it will not affect the love you will feel for yourself which will stop being conditional on your behavior.

>>52452392
You may be codependent due to a narcissistic parent and/or a codependent parent.
You attract what you are.
You attract negative people because you grew up in a family with those people and think this is normal, which results in you attracting the same type of people later in your life through habit and rejecting healthy people who are abnormal for your mindset.

You need to do a therapy, to revisit your past memories and find better solutions to the past negative events after releasing the negative emotions while reviving the past.

Read Toxic parents by Susan Forward.

>>50963250
You can but you need to fix your mindset and revisit your past traumatic events to imagine a better outcome and release the negative emotions.

>>50963195
Read Toxic parents by Susan Forward
It will solve the problems created by your parents and make you free from their bad influence.

>>50872132
Read Toxic parents by Susan forward and focus on the part about emotionally absent parents.

>>50669149
You grew up in a toxic family full of manipulative narcissists and are unable to recognize manipulators from honest people.
You attract narcissists and manipulators because you subconsciously believe your family and childhood to be normal and attract toxic people.

You need to revisit your past and recognize that your family is toxic and reject them.
Then you will magically recognize honest people and immediately recognize liars.

Read Toxic parents by Susan Forward.

>>49520304
Read toxic parents by Susan Forward.
Shame is not a real emotion but a learned social construct from society and your parents who withdrew their love when you did not behave a they expected.

Your parents didn't love you unconditionally and you internalized this as not being allowed to make mistakes because they only praised you when you were perfect and got good grades.
Revisit your past and change your beliefs to change your future.
Accept the death of the belief that your parents were perfects gods and recognize them as human beings with failures.

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>>30260410
It's funny how easy it is to make it, but then you find out you didn't even need the money after all and what you really wanted feels out of reach.

Your problem is a lack of self esteem caused by your parents not giving you unconditional love.
Because of this you fear not being accepted and receiving love and constantly fear people's judgement of your actions.
The answer is to become your own parent and to give yourself unconditional love.
Once you start doing this you will stop caring about outside judgement and be happier because the only person that matters is you and you always had everything you needed inside.

Read Toxic parents if you want to read more on this topic.
Look up memory re-consolidation if you want to rewrite your past traumatic experiences to make them happier and remove their negative effects from your life.

>>28518363
You need this.

>>28321040
Read this and stop seeing your parents as gods who deserve absolute obedience, but as failed human beings responsible for their suffering.

>>25111174
Are you planning to make it with /biz/?
Why do you come here?
Did you try to read this book?

>>24394739
It may be a problem caused by your subconscious rules and beliefs inherited from your childhood and the treatment you got from your parents.
They did not give you unconditional love and you fear losing stranger's love and acceptation if you are not perfect because of this.
You have to go back to the root of your problem and change your beliefs.
Rewrite your past into the ideal past you wish have had and it will magically change your perception of the world and solve most of your problems.

Did you get a trauma from a past event when something bad happened and you are reminded of it each time you interact with it?
In that case you have to relive that trauma and find a solution of how you could have reacted or slightly change the event to make it a good memory instead using your current knowledge.
Your memory of your past event is used as a reference to decide how you act in your present.
Thus by rewriting your past memories and finding good solutions to past problems you can solve the past issue and its result in your present.

>>23227401
If you want others to respect you, you have to feel that you deserve it and need to have a good opinion of yourself.
Your self esteem is tied to your memories of your past interactions with your parents.
You will have to revisit your past and change your perception of your past if you wish to change your mindset and not be affected negatively by laughing people.

>>22821574
I don't know why you are depressed and suicidal, but your parents may have something to do with it. You should read this book. Your past experiences are the basis of your subconscious thoughts.
If they are a burden to you you have to change your memories to change your present and future.
Memories are only used as a reference for how to act in future similar encounters. If you have traumatic and bad memories they will have a negative effect on you mindset and should be changed with better solutions to those problems in a more positive way.

Usually you get depressed because you ignore your own desires too much and learned to do what society expects of you at the expense of your own happiness in your mind's prison.

>>22796894
I would but I'm worried about cheating and also I'm surprised with how hard they are trying to get the average "woke" retard to vote. EVERYTHING from Spotify to Snapchat is constantly telling you to vote. Obviously this is to get more democrat votes. It kind of worries me since this has never happened like this. They might as well put VOTE FOR BIDEN on every single ad that says "Don't forget to register to vote, please vote, here's all the ways you can vote, click this link to vote right now do it"

>>22683813
Have you bought this book?

>>22645372
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>>22645194
Please read this book first before doing something you can't take back.

>>22418439
You have to revisit your past, imagine the past situation again and refuse the way your parents treated you.
by changing your past memories you will change your deepest decision making rules in your subconscious and change your present life and your future.
If you don't tolerate your parents behavior in your changed memories, you won't tolerate it now.
You deserve unconditional love and your parents are not gods just extremely flawed and toxic humans.
You were powerless as a child however you have the complete power as an adult to change who you are and what behavior you tolerate.

>>22371206
This could help you.
Your self esteem issue is at the root of most of your other problems and may be caused by a dysfunctional family during your childhood with a lack of a strong father figure and a lack of love from your parents.

>>22225955
Procrastination comes from being a perfectionist because your parents wanted you to get good grades in school, and after some time you started to think you only had value if you were the best and perfect.
Give up on being perfect, you are only human and not a god.
You are perfect as you are and don't need to prove that you are good at something to have value as a person.
The only thing which should matter you is:
Does this make me happy?
Is this something I wanted to do because I am interested in it and not because someone expects me to do it?

Never give up on yourself!
You are more than your perceived failures.
Don't compare yourself to your parent's expectations or to others who seem more successful.
All it takes is the will to survive until the next day each day and you are guaranteed to have the last laugh in this life.

>>21976195
Have you heard of this book?
It might be worth a read if you wish for a change.

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>>21486565
There are a few persons who really want to help.
The problem is you either have to go through a lot of therapists until you find a good one, or learn to do your own therapy yourself.
Alternatively you can look for books written by people who want to help.
It's cheaper and they don't want to sell you anything else than a book.
For example most people who come to /biz/ should take a look at Susan Forward's books.
She explains how to do your own therapy.